Some quick thoughts from what I realized last year…
1. More information may not help you make better decisions.
While information is important, it’s not always the case that more information will make a difference in the quality of your lifestyle decision making (in business, more data tends to improve your decisions) There are two reasons for that: (1) more information may actually be irrelevant noise, and (2) more information may equally side between the two outcomes you are deciding on.
A common problem with me is deciding whether or not to stay in a city. Common sense dictates I should explore a city, approach a lot of girls, and then use those experiences to make a decision. The problem is you’ll have both positive and negative experiences in your sample that may not aid the initial impression you had in your first day. If you get laid right away, you’ll think the city is great, only to find out that you got lucky and the environment is actually much harder. If you don’t get laid immediately, you’ll think the city sucks, without knowing that just a bit more work would have unveiled poosy paradise. There’s never a way to be sure. It’s sometimes better to make a snap judgement and do what it takes to succeed regardless instead of using a sample size of experience to help you.
2. What you want is constantly changing.
It’s hard to notice this change because when you make a goal for yourself, you think it will drive you forever, but it’s inevitable that any specific desire will cease to excite you. This is why people become unhappy when they double-down on an initial goal they created, most specifically when it comes to money. A man is not exactly happy when he hits his goal so he decides to make more, thinking that will do the trick, but of course it doesn’t. In life you will have to make several sharp turns away from what you used to want as your growing experience changes the path that is right for you.
I used to greatly desire one-night stands. I couldn’t get them so well in Ukraine and figured that I was less happy because of it. I went back to Poland and had two within my first month that didn’t increase my happiness one bit. In fact, they had a neutral to negative effect. I had to accept that what I wanted in the past no longer held true, so I completely changed my game workflow as a result to accommodate my different needs.
3. You don’t need much income if you’re not a consumer.
If you don’t want a luxury car, a penthouse, the latest electronic gadgets, or a dozen custom suits, you don’t need a lot of money. If you don’t feel the need to make it rain in clubs, and you use day approaches as your main game strategy, you won’t need more than $100 per notch. If you realize that things can’t possibly make you happy, you won’t find yourself buying much besides good liquor and food. The less money you need to spend, the less money you need to make. The less money you need to make, the less work you need to do. Instead of chasing dollars and objects you’ve been programmed to buy, you enjoy your own leisure time, hobbies, or reading.
It doesn’t hurt to be rich, and I won’t bash those men who go for it, but a huge percentage of the world’s pretty women are content with dating a middle class man who is fit, intelligent, stable, and confident. I’ve had great months where my income was much higher than normal because of a new book release, but there was nothing to spend the extra money on that would increase the things I value in life (good people, women, work, health, and books). After a very modest amount, additional money becomes an abstract construct that exists only on a computer screen. Design a life free of superfluous consumer desires and figure out how much money you need a year to live that life. There will be no need to bother with more.
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