5 Warning Signs To Look For Before The First Date

If you’ve read a couple of my travel guides, you’ll notice that there are a lot of differences when running game on foreign women. Some moves work well in country A but not B, and girls from country C have personalities that seem completely different than country D. It’s relatively easy to establish what is different, but how about the qualities that are the same? I found one such quality, a behavior that is so universal it should engraved into stone.

When a girl gives you resistance before the first date, or displays flakey behavior, you will not have sex with her.

This can occur in the following ways:

If she doesn’t reply to your first text within three hours. Three hours is a reliable cutoff in my experience, assuming you first write to her before 9pm. Unless her phone died, a rare occurrence, there is no reason for her to take more than three hours to reply. If a girl truly likes a guy, she won’t keep him waiting longer than that when the relationship is new.

If she declines your first date suggestion by saying she’s busy, but not offering an alternate date. It’s understandable that girls have extremely important social activities to attend to, but if she doesn’t make a counteroffer, you’re in trouble. Any attempt to offer another day will likely be shot down.

If she replies to your first date suggestion with a variant of “I’m not sure yet, let’s see.” The girl sees you as an inferior option and is hoping a better alternative will come along. In my experience, this is a “no” nearly 100% of the time (in fact it has only happened to me once where a date proceeded with such a reply). If a girl hits you with this, you must preserve your value by replying with, “That’s okay I’ll make other plans. Maybe another time.” Never let a girl leave you hanging as if you’re some puppy dog waiting for its master to return home.

If she attempts to change the venue of the first date. There is absolutely no valid reason for the girl to veto your first date suggestion and try to call the shots by suggesting her own venue. You stain yourself as a compliant beta if you agree to her changes. Either it’s your venue or it’s no date.

If she attempts to change the first date to an earlier time. This is a huge warning sign that means she has lined up another plan after your date. If you agree to her change, I promise that your date will not exceed 90 minutes and not end beyond a kiss on the cheek. When a girl attempts to do this, you must actually consider changing to a later time than what you initially suggested. This makes her definitively choose between either you or her backup plan. She can’t have both. On the other hand, it’s okay if she suggests a time that is later (maybe she ran late with work or errands and needs extra time to look pretty for you).

There are of course exceptions, but they are so few coming that you must stroke the eject lever when encountering these warning signs. It’s especially important never to comply with girls who behave in a masculine manner by trying to make the plans or change important details that suggest you are not important to her.

If you consider that the first date is essentially a job interview, where both parties do their best to display their most positive attributes, a woman who exhibits the above behaviors before it can even take place is simply not serious about getting the job. Save your time, save your energy, and move on to another applicant instead.

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