1. Stop Leaning In

This is the number one problem I see guys do, especially in the first 30 minutes of talking to a girl. They don’t realize that by bending over they are saying, “God I’m so happy to be talking to you right now.” Or in a bar they talk right next to the girl’s ear when it isn’t even loud. The last thing you want a girl to know is that you are excited to be talking to her because it sends the signal you are inexperienced, don’t have success with girls, and ultimately, have low value. Lean back instead and let her be the one to come into you, and if you create the least bit of interest she will.

2. Stop Asking For Permission

Can we dance? Can I have your number? Can I kiss you? Because guys don’t know what it’s like when someone asks for permission to escalate intimacy, they don’t realize how lame it is for them to do so. Asking for permission introduces an awkward moment where the girl’s brain floods with reasons not to do what you are asking to. Plus you make it seem like you are scared of getting rejected, a quality not attractive to most women. Instead of asking, just do it and see what happens.

3. Memorize One Excellent, Breezy Story

When you first start talking to a girl, she has no idea who you are. If you talked to her because she is cute, chances are she gets talked to by a lot of guys. Separate yourself from the pack early on by telling her a story that hits on many of your positive qualities, such as your confidence, athleticism, sense of adventure, intelligence, humor, wit, story-telling ability, and so on. Because girls read between the lines, the story will not just be a story—it will be a representation of you that does not come across as bragging.

To pull this off, when you are in conversation and it is clear you have her attention, say, “That reminds me of when….” and then begin your story. I like going into stories about travel now, but before that was gym stories, where for instance I would tell girls the very true account of how one particularly gay guy stalked me in the gym and grabbed my hand while I was naked in the shower. If you are not confident of your story-telling abilities, understand that the best way to be good at telling stories is to expose yourself to good stories.

4. Stop Using The Word “Hot” To Describe Women

Have you noticed how easy it seems to attract girls who you are not that attracted to? Since you think of hot girls as so much more valuable than mediocre ones, you are more likely to behave in a way that makes it clear to her that she is indeed too valuable for you, without even realizing what you’re doing. This is the phenomenon where bad, needy game “leaks” out as a result of your thoughts, without conscious effort on your part. If you want to get physical with hot girls, you need to master your thinking of them first. From here on out, no girl is hot, and there are no tens. She’s either “cute” or “alright.” Don’t be that guy who falls captive to every girl he sees. Instead, trick your mind into lowering her value so that your game towards her is tighter.

5. Get Rejected Immediately!

Go up to a cute girl you don’t know in the next day and start a conversation with what you already know as a man. Make up an opener or just ask how she’s doing. Chances are she will end the conversation in a polite manner, typical of the “rejections” you will face. It may sting that this girl made it clear she doesn’t want to have nothing to do with you, but realize that the only way to perfect your game is to interact like this with a couple hundred girls. THERE IS NO OTHER WAY! This means you will have to branch out from your school, work, or social circle comfort zones. Accept that 99% of girls on this Earth do not ever want to have sex with you, get over it, and keep going until you find the ones that do.

6. Take Your Hands Out Of Your Pockets

Take your hands of your pockets. If you are at a bar looking like you are bored, resigning yourself to standing around and staring at the TV, don’t expect to get a positive response if you approach a girl. She notices what you do before you walk up to her, and if you seem like a buzzkill, she will be less likely to talk to you. While you don’t have to jump off the wall and be that annoying guy who talks loud and high-fives everyone, don’t stand around looking like someone just stood you up. Interact with your friends or the bartender. Not only will staying in an active, talkative state help you when you finally do approach, it makes it much more likely that you even will.

7. Stop Giving Direct Answers

Evade her questions with humor or counter-questions instead, withholding for as long as reasonably possible the answers to her questions. Not only does this show you aren’t trying to impress her, but it also makes her think you are hiding something. This shady vibe will keep the conversation going and make her curious about what is hiding behind the box. You immediately stand out because most men try to appease a girl by immediately answering questions in the hopes she will like him. By doing the opposite, she sticks around to figure out who the hell you are (or think you are), but by then it will be too late—your fish hook is in her and you can run deeper material with her full attention.

Some of these things I learned from my own experiences and others from guys who taught me everything they knew about game. During an intense six year period starting in 2001 I was going out four nights a week throwing everything I had at the girls I wanted to sleep with. I did things like ask them why they were so drunk and even approached with stick figure drawings on napkins to make them laugh.

My learning curve was long and hard and not until the second year did a reliable system start to become clear. For the next four years after that I perfected and refined it into something that made my life a lot easier when it came to getting laid. I finally wrote my system down in a book called Bang.

Bang is a 65,000 word textbook that teaches you the skills to consistently get laid. I include step-by-step instructions on how to build attraction and escalate intimacy with the girls you want to have sex with. My goal was to create a guide that was all you need to get laid. The books contain hundreds of tips to help you accomplish that goal.

Because I don’t want you to spend your hard-earned money on something mysterious, I have uploaded several sample pages from my book. I also included my Condom Line, the line I say when I need to get the condom in a smooth way without ruining the moment.

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you have a pretty awesome gift for dissecting social behavior. as i had suggested upon our meeting, i think once you finally get a real girlfriend, you need to write another book for men about how to handle relationships. it may not be as sexy as getting laid by tons of girls, but it’s a skill 100x harder and just as useful for when you meet the person you never want to lose.

Good advice.
The lean-in is the worst. It’s important to respect a woman’s personal space when first trying to holla.
Also, the “Can I kiss you?” question is pathetic. Use it, and the woman will be completely turned off.

This is great advice. I definitely agree with the lean in. Leaning is creepy when I don’t know a person. Re: the story and the pockets, a guy has to talk to me like he’s talking to a friend. Meaning, be confident but not arrogant, and just be relaxed. That has to be the biggest turn on for me.

Also, I’d prefer someone calling me beautiful not cute or hot.

Right on all points, so true. These are very good, but you forgot one that I think is crucial, yet so simple. “Dont forget to smile!!!” It’s such a dramatic difference in results when approaching. No one wants to talk to the scary, grumpy, boring guy. A smile takes care of all that (at least for a first impression).

excellent foundational game tactics. hall of fame post. i’d only quibble with #7. too much evasion (for instance, when she asks what you do for a living) will make her think you’re hiding something for a reason. i like to evade and let the mystery hang in the air for as long as possible unless she asks the same question more than twice.

but it’s a skill 100x harder

most guys would disagree with this.

The “lean in” thing is a great observation. I’ve seen this faux-pas committed countless times in countless bars… you see it much more in DC than here in Vegas, because the power-balance in the DC area is much more skewed in favor of women than here. So the guys in DC have to go the extra mile and think they have to be more “aggressive”. The result is that they only look obnoxious and drunk.

as I read through the list, it was like preaching to the choir……..until I got to #6. Hands in pockets is a habit I’ll need to avoid.

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I too take issue with #7. Waaaayyy too many guys are starting to catch on to this and they seem to think that evading questions = good game. You can’t ask them a damn thing. They want you to guess their fucking name! Tip: Evading questions works best when you’ve already been talking and flirting a while. And don’t fall back on the standard “guess” answer. Be playful with it. If she wants to know your birthday (she’s checking astrological compatability = YOU’RE IN!!) say … October 32nd. Anyway, let me reiterate, not answering questions is a poor, poor excuse of a substitute for good game.

As a guy, how do you remain uninterested and try to ask someone out at the same time?

Land-man… that’s explained in the book! :)

Number 6 is the mark of a BETA like no other. The only guy that should have his hands in his pants pocket is a jeans model. It is a sure sign of weakness and defeat when you see a man with his hands in his pockets.

My 7 son year old already understands this and his teachers brag about how in charge he always appears in school. All of his female teachers also remark about how mature he is, simply because he stands up straight and has learned to look people in the eye when he speaks to them.

Leaning in, Leaning out, doing the hokey pokey and turning all about. You still will have no chance of getting laid in NYC

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I totally agree with number 4. It’s like Bobby Rio and Mike Stoute said on theseductionbible, “Take the pussy off the pedastol.

If only you guys knew how to play the last one properly. It works a f##king treat for me.

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I know this post is aged – but regarding NUMBER 6 (Hands in Pockets) Anything that is “self-comforting” is BETA and will drop your game. Hands in pockets, scratching/rubbing your head/neck, muscle tension, arms/hands (with or without a drink) across your body, touching your mouth.

ALL BAD NEWS –

Thanks for the post Roosh & Roissy

man, this is great stuff. I agree with most of the tips. However, I’ve noticed that when I adopted the attitude where girls are either “cute” or “alright” I become more laid back. I let ‘em know I’m peepin and I walk straight in and infiltrate they little groups. I’m a foreign language major but ebonics best explains the game I run in the background while I put on the good-boy front:
Let that muthafucka know what it gon’ muthafuckin be and if that hoe ain’t wit it, cut her ass off

@TC you must be gay and your son I guess will follow in your footsteps.

Roosh you have helped me so much already. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and advice, like the older brother I never had. Even if you are younger than me.

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dude ur god, its easy shit just im a pussy, i cant be scared of rejection…and i think thats the bggest reason why guys dont get pussy

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Hey, the “condom line” link seems to be broken. I’m very curious about that one.

Just read your book dude, really good. thanks for the info

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Am I the only guy who has asked for permission to kiss a girl and suffered no ill effects? It was a long time ago, and something I would never do again, but I wonder if this one is a little exaggerated.

Perhaps she was a lot more drunk than I realized…

RooshV, you are my hero!

I just wish I had this kind of mentoring online available to me when I was a young man. Maybe its not too late for my teenage son.

Probably the first approach in a club i ever did, i said to the girl “Can i kiss you?” She was the hottest girl there and she said yes and we had a 20min makeout session. Neither of us were drunk either. But then again we we both only 16, it was a college party lol.

naming exceptions to the above rules is useful. (/sarc)

its awkward to not lean in at a club as nobody can hear fuck all but it get what you mean

I have no clue on how i came across this site, im from Puerto Rico I find these tips pretty good & very helpful, once i left high school all i did was work home i kinda forgot how to act & this helped alot. GOOD ADVICE.

Permission?
Seriously?
And wow, if these are common missteps, no wonder women are such low-hanging fruit after midnight. They’ve been hit on by “those” guys.
And if a club is so loud you have to lean in, you’re aiming for a pretty low quality girl. Upgrade.

this jackass is trying to make a science out of something that is common sense.

That lean in thing? The worst part of it is that I have hearing difficulties (it comes and goes so I’m not on a hearing aid yet), so sometimes I have lean forward and turn my ear to someone just to understand what they’re saying. Otherwise no conversation and…

Awww, no hope at all. :(

@CG

If that’s the case you may want to try experimenting physically pulling a girl into your space instead of leaning in. If some girl is yapping at me in a loud club and I can’t hear her, I’ll just pull her close to me (keeping my hand on her lower back) and position her so that she’s talking into my ear. So, don’t lean in and instead give her a couple of “wtf? i can’t hear you” looks…if she keeps yapping then just pull her in. There is always something you can do, man.

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