I run aggressive game. I’m a salesman who wants to close the deal before the prospect walks out the door, before her desire to buy gets cold. This is why the game I teach is based on touching, fast kissing, one-night stands, and no-nonsense text game. I make a straight line from approach to sex.
This game works best on women who need to use their sexuality to keep men on the line, meaning 7′s and below. These girls tend to lose the interest of an alpha male if she doesn’t put out, so she’s not adverse to fast hook ups in order to grab his attention. Aggressive game also works on horny girls who want to fuck the next reasonable guy who hits on her. When you’re in a popular club, what you see is mostly aggressive game. Guys are touching and dancing aggressively.
You begin to see limitations of aggressive game when you move up in quality (especially in Europe where the speed to sex is slower than in America). Would aggressive game work on a 9? Would it work on an 8 with a boyfriend? Most likely not. These beautiful women don’t need to hook a man with their sexuality—their raw beauty is enough. They’re also much more aware of their value and understand that their power lies more in delaying sex instead of speeding it along, a completely different reality than for the 6 who needs to give a free sample of the goods to create interest.
The 8′s I’ve been with were due to the following four conditions being met: (1) her being single, (2) me being her rough physical type, (3) not making game mistakes, and (4) her not having gotten laid in a while. If these conditions are not met, aggressive game is ineffective, and the fact that most beautiful girls are in some sort of relationship shows how such attempts will usually be met with a swift rejection. The failure rate with aggressive game increases logarithmically as you approach the 9 rating level.
In addition, aggressive game has one serious flaw: you do almost all of the work. That reason it’s common for one-night stands to flake out before a first date is because walking away has no cost for her—she invested little work in you (spreading legs doesn’t count as investment to an American girl). She didn’t put much energy into the interaction because you were doing all the work—work that got her into bed in the first place by taking advantage of her horny and single state. Even in my book Bang, for example, I urge you to fill in silences instead of letting her do it. This presupposes that your value is lower than hers and that you must work hard to show you are worthy of sex. But what happens when your value actually does become high? In that case, rushing to fill in silences or initiate all text message contact would be the same as Brad Pitt chasing a random cougar. This is the time when you can ease into aloof game.
The man who runs aloof game has less bangs than the man who runs aggressive game, but his quality is higher. You’re no longer a door-to-door salesman—you’re simply sitting at the desk filling backorders of a product that is in high demand. Prospects often come to you. I have much work to do in ironing out the specifics of aloof game, but it boils down to one thing—making her invest more time and energy into you than you do to her. Make her fill in silences more than you. Make her compliment, show affection, and touch more than you. Make her text more and send longer messages than you. Make her ask you out as much as you do.
Will this work if your value as a man is low? No. If any man has had to learn game, it’s because his value was low. Therefore he must start with an aggressive style of game. As his value rises, it will inevitably surpass that of the average woman he lays. He should then transition to aloof game.
There are two signals which suggest it’s time for you to practice aloof game. The first is when you begin to have a negative reaction to watching guys run game on girls that is similar to what you’ve done (close dancing, fast kisses, etc.). When the mirror is held up to your game, and it appears too try-hard or out of tune, that means you’re running a game that no longer fits your temperament. Secondly, when there are girls you eagerly banged in the past who you would no longer touch, that means your quality has gone way up, and if your quality has gone way up, so has your value.
Recently girls have been touching me first, with similar moves I would have to do on them in the past. They are asking for my number and suggesting dates. They are apologizing for minor social slights or bad jokes. They are giving me bigger compliments. They are treating me like beta males treat women. It turns out that both sexes treat those whom they value in the same supplicative way. If this is happening to you, it’s time to put aside aggressive game for something more aloof, and then watch with nostalgia as guys in the club run the game that you no longer have to do.
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