Be Thirsty, But Not Too Much

Thirsty guys get a bad rap in these parts, and rightly so—their extreme pedastilization increases the self-perceived value of women and makes it harder for other guys to interact with them. At the same time, there is a downside of not having any thirst, where you don’t desire sex enough to motivate you to put in the required effort. What we need instead is some thirst that leads to an optimum sex life.

My thirst has gone down over the years, when I used to tolerate high levels of cunt behavior to squeeze in the notch. In other words, I’ve fucked a lot of girls who didn’t treat me how I wanted to be treated. I was thirsty back then because I highly valued sex and believed accepting short-term abuse was worth a sexual experience of dubious worth.

As my notch count grew and sex became less of a necessity to fill in whatever emptiness I had, I became much less tolerant of disrespectful behavior from women. I would walk away very early from interactions when women weren’t treating me in the exact way that I desired. As you may expect, this led to far fewer notches, which decreased even further as I began to fill my leisure time with other activities. Not only was sex less important in my life, but I was becoming proud. A proud man doesn’t accept even the most minor of slights from others, especially women.

When I came back to DC, the tough environment caused my thirst to increase to a level I hadn’t experienced in some time. I eventually sacrificed my values for a shot at sex with a British feminist. While I felt ashamed after the attempt, I can’t deny the result—sex wouldn’t have been on table had I not been thirsty. We wouldn’t have even made it to the twenty minute mark because of her stupid tests.

I don’t want to be insulted and disrespected, but I want a variable sex life that includes relatively easy intimate encounters with pretty girls, even if we’re not 100% emotionally compatible. Therefore I have had to accept that two spoons of thirst in my cup of game would lead to more sexual fulfillment (at the cost of accepting some rudeness in my life) than putting in no spoons of thirst at all. Because getting laid is such a challenging endeavor, we must add sweetener in order to attain the variety we seek. I would be the first man to sign up for a nationwide anti-thirst campaign, but we must admit there’s value in it if you want to sleep with more than a couple girls a year.

If you convince yourself that you don’t “need” sex, or that getting “meaningless” and “shallow” notches aren’t important, then we can make the prediction that you will have long dry spells. There’s nothing horrible with that, but to lay a respectable quality or quantity of women, you must believe that sex is an essential element to a man’s life and not getting laid at high frequencies is a harmful state (even if it truly isn’t). There must be a hint of urgency in your gait as you walk through a venue that you must find a girl. Otherwise, you just won’t care enough to do what it takes to get laid.

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  • awakened

    I’m anti thirst.

    Wanting to get laid is not thirst.

    Turning yourself into a human dildo and getting sex on a woman’s terms is thirst.

    Screwing any woman that is below your standards is thirst.

    Tolerating a womans bullshit for pussy is thirst.

    Buying meals and drinks (or anything else) in hopes of getting pussy is thirst.

    I’m anti thirst.

  • Myopia

    It reminds me of the discussions about aging single women having their standards go up, not down, as would be expected with their diminishing SMV. I’ve heard men denigrate them as picky, bitter, hope-you’re-happy-with-your-cats, etc. Sounds like the same behaviour at play. This isn’t a criticism, just an observation.

  • http://christopherbear.weebly.com Christopher Bear

    There’s gotta be another word for it instead of “thirst”
    Cause to me “Thirst”= desperate
    What’s the word for desire that isn’t desparate aka what you’re talking about?

  • Monument Man

    It will be interesting to read your posts when you hit 50. You might still be at your peak or not. But my point is that when every man gets enough sex in his life it hits critical mass. I don’t see the point of convincing oneself of wanting something that they don’t want. At some point in a man’s life he thinks of pussy, and he realizes to himself “Been there, done that.”

  • pod

    From pua to mgtow… nothing wrong with that.

  • pod

    Im gonna share some real truth with you guys. It’s not pleasant. The instinct of all women is to destroy their significant other emotionally. She must create an abuser victim control state before her vagina turns into a nonfunctional box of dust, due to the ravages of age. There really is no happily ever after, unless your happy being some bitch’s step and fetch it. You don’t want to be that guy.

  • awakened

    The rising standards of low SMV women is because of thirst.

    Men are thirsty because they equate “being a man” with sexual approval from a woman and with most thirsty men this equates to ANY woman.

    The current level of thirst is astronomical and only increases the SMV of women at any age.

    As long as thirst is this high 40 yr old “career women” will continue to go on “100 dates in a 100 days” and cherry pick men way out of their league.

  • Clark Kent

    I kinda felt that way reading this as well.

    IS thirst absolutely necessary? Who is more at peace? A man who is satisfied with himself and not distracted by need for sex? Or a man constantly on the hunt?

  • Cedric

    Horny?

    If only I had bang and day bang at 18 back in 2000- Imwould have been a destroyer. Even then in then US young men were being taught their sexual desires were wrong, rape happens more than we think, buy her flowers and be yourself- it’ll work out, etc.

    Game was created due to this pinko of anti human environment- never forget that. The US screwed itself- everyone should’ve revolted way before now but these current generation of guys won’t resist the elites in any form of revolution towards freedom as they are more feminine than ever. It’s all bs in the USSA.

  • Phil

    Roosh

    If you were to go to CZ for game would it better to go to Prague or more worthily to to do Brno or Ostrava?

  • JLundone

    I ask myself this on a daily basis. Should I get off my motorcycle and eventually go hit on some girls or should I keep riding along the coast? The sun’s slowly starting to set, the ocean winds have died down and a flock of seagulls just flew past me as the ocean winds strike my leathers. I have no thoughts on my mind. A pure state of clarity. In that moment my mind is tranquil. I loath the fact that my ride will eventually come to an end and how I have to return to society and earn a a living and game bitches because I like to fuck pussy and cum inside pussy. The work will never be done. So with that thought in mind I twist the throttle and feel the engine vibrate my arms and chest…I can’t stop riding…I NEED to continue riding.

    And I ran, I ran so far away

    I just ran, I ran all night and day

    I couldn’t get away…I really couldn’t…

  • Vinnie F

    Author,
    I don’t want to see young guys suffer like I did. High School and College Fr. And So. Need to get it in their heads to do at least 5 approaches/week if they followed you and did 20/week thud easily be at 4000 approaches in 3-4 years assuming just a 1% close rate they would have a vast amount of experience with women by they time they finished undergrad.

    You should do a survey to see how many approaches and what age most of the readers are but if I could make just one young guys life better by waking him up to the frailty of life and the need to maximize opportunities I would be happy. My Dad said it right- a lot of it is location- when he got most of his notches he was in Tampa, FL in his early 20s. If you live in suckassville USA or go to a small lame ass hs or college its way harder to meet and explore new women than if oh are at a big party college or a City built for game like NYC, Miami, New Orleans, Vegas, or LA. The US sucks every one I see the map I see industrial crap holes, desert wastelands, mountain hick backwaters, frumpy half ass cities, and vast frozen tundra in the middle. It’s a land of rednecks, farmers, political tools, wage slaves, goon squads, hood rats, importees, suburban sprawl, sheeple and fake half ass, inauthenic social graces (ie breaking the ice- lame right?).

  • Vinnie F

    Author,
    I don’t want to see young guys suffer like I did. High School and College Fr. And So. Need to get it in their heads to do at least 5 approaches/week if they followed you and did 20/week thud easily be at 4000 approaches in 3-4 years assuming just a 1% close rate they would have a vast amount of experience with women by they time they finished undergrad.

    You should do a survey to see how many approaches and what age most of the readers are but if I could make just one young guys life better by waking him up to the frailty of life and the need to maximize opportunities I would be happy. My Dad said it right- a lot of it is location- when he got most of his notches he was in Tampa, FL in his early 20s. If you live in suckassville USA or go to a small lame ass hs or college its way harder to meet and explore new women than if oh are at a big party college or a City built for game like NYC, Miami, New Orleans, Vegas, or LA. The US sucks every one I see the map I see industrial crap holes, desert wastelands, mountain hick backwaters, frumpy half ass cities, and vast frozen tundra in the middle. It’s a land of rednecks, farmers, political tools, wage slaves, goon squads, hood rats, importees, suburban sprawl, sheeple and fake half ass, inauthenic social graces (ie breaking the ice- lame right?).

  • rpg

    Tastes get more refined with age. You will end up chasing exactly what you want instead of trying out whatever catches your fancy for the moment. If she doesn’t have black hair, chocolate nipples and a round ass I am not moving.

  • rpg

    Tastes get more refined with age. You will end up chasing exactly what you want instead of trying out whatever catches your fancy for the moment. If she doesn’t have black hair, chocolate nipples and a round ass I am not moving.

  • Ian

    Women vs men is like the operations of an intelligence agency vs a commando squad. The intel way thrives on subterfuge, fear mongering,’propaganda, doubt, and historical revisionism while the commando squad does raids, assaults, ambushes, and other direct action. Women always try to mind fuck ou but they respect the guy who can first mind fuck them and then fuck them like they’re a rag doll.

  • Green

    What city are you talking about?

    It must be utopian like Toronto or DC for high 40s desk slave chicks to have packs of thirsty men after them.

  • Conrad Stonebanks

    Wrong. This is true even for Western Europe. There’s always a guy, even if the woman is past 40 and has been packing on the pounds.

  • Conrad Stonebanks

    “Men are thirsty because they equate “being a man” with sexual approval from a woman and with most thirsty men this equates to ANY woman.”

    And we have a bingo!

    If you have taken the red pill, you have no other choice than to feel pity for these “men” who base their entire self worth on the validation of women.

  • pod

    I’d like to believe you’re right. I have yet to see it, and a my game is pretty good right now. Im running pure loser game right now, living with my parents and stuff. LOL. But just last week I had honey take me out to lunch and then pay for a hotel room, for the afternoon. And this was being totally honest about myself. She blew me four times that afternoon, and we did it doggy. Then the next day she flipped out and told me “you just want a fuck buddy” (shaming tactic). She’s been divorced twice, so is probably a mess anyway.
    I admit perhaps she did not come hard enough. Who knows.

  • Reggie

    Like Mike from Danger and Play says if ours going your own way just go man you don’t have to fuckin tell everyone every 5 seconds I’m going my own way man!

    Question-
    Did the mgtows just quit doing cold approaches?

  • Don Cornelius

    Shaming you is subterfuge

    How old are you?

    How many notches in your career?

  • ‘Reality’ Doug

    Dude, try middle-aged loser game. That was fucking great! I say this as a general observation on the entire Manosphere: you are giving women too much credit. She could rationalize that she didn’t come hard enough, but is that the reason? Is she good for anything but a fuck buddy? Lots of pre-programming there, and you got every ounce of value she could offer. Rinse and repeat. You, sir, are an inspiration.

  • 151

    For me that would be white, blonde hair, blue eyes, fair skin, 5’4-5’6, curvy hips, not an anorexic or war pig, and c cups minimum. The rest is half ass trash IMO. I go savage when I see a chick like that from 18-45- that’s just my archetype of poon.

  • ‘Reality’ Doug

    You are reacting to what is on your mind. I don’t think pod is doing what you suggest. And in any event, patriarchy does not happen because we silently struggle in isolation. Information exchange that is tidy does not lead to results. Jungle has more life than desert. I suppose shaming language has a place, but we could stick to ideas and leave mind games for manipulating broads.

  • pod

    Middle aged loser game is exactly right. Im 43 and was married for 15 years. I used to be a computer programmer, but got sick of the invasion of h1-b’s, which necessitates that the entire department must be treated like shit so the indentured servants don’t feel bad.
    A little bit more about me.. I do lift weights and have a good sense of humor, and my game is almost 100% direct and perverted. With this last conquest I told her she HAD to let me feel her tits in a public place or I wasn’t interested. LOL.
    Do I get a lot of rejections? yes. But when it’s on, It’s on like Donkey Kong. Traditional courting and “tell me about you” type stuff is just boring as fuck. I probably got about 20 notches, and that’s including being married for 15 years, when I didn’t cheat or even think of it. The red pill landed on my like Plymouth Rock on black people.

  • pod

    Maybe they did. Mgtows are maybe slightly older than pua’s. I am. PUA, is still highly focused on getting pussy. And it’s not that Im opposed to it, it’s just that Im not willing to put forth a lot of effort. And what I do do, (lift weights) is good for me anyway. And I think it’s probably the most important thing. Plus I have this whole anti-social holden Caulfield thing I do too. Some chicks dig that.

  • pod

    True. I don’t want to talk smack, but I sort of cringe when I see dudes talking about their “outfits”. LOL.

  • Most Interesting Man

    Most Interesting Man in the World says:

    “..I don’t always bang but when I do it’s top shelf pussy….”

    Stay Thirsty my Friends

  • Aleenum

    The hungry ghost ( Chinese Buddhist Mythology) Drinks and drinks, tastes nothing and is always thirsty.

  • rpg

    In a married woman’s economy you will be lucky to get laid 3 times a month. It would be 4 but they want you to suffer along side their period so none on blood week. It will most likely be 3 early morning bangs after she wakes up from dreaming about someone elses dick. Women dream about cock more than they will ever admit.

  • Anthony

    Both of you guys above-
    Do one approach/day or an afternoon or night spam session of 5-10 approaches on an off day.

    I’m not a hater. You shouldn’t have to be incel or rejected man.

    How did society get so sick where men’s companionship is discarded like trash anyway?

    Me thinks its a bunch of communist-zionists crntral bankers pushing their nwo/global enslavement.

  • Phil

    Very cool.

    I’m not nearly as overtly sexual with conversation.

    Give us some example phrases and sayings from your “direct pervert game” (I love that term it will be part of my lexicon now)

    Also I bet you are in Europe, New England, or the West Coast. The South people want to fight because they feel offended aka cro-magnon man rednecks.

  • awakened

    so…no willing to forth a lot of effort to get laid is MGTOW?

    I am older than most PUA at 40. I am at period in my life where I still want sex but I am not willing to lower my standards of female beauty or put up with any bullshit whatsoever to get it. I would rather do without than have sex with a woman below my standards or tolerate even an ounce of flakiness.

    Does this make me MGTOW? I not even sure what MGTOW means.

  • awakened

    I wonder this myself. I see guys my age (40) that are as thirsty as any man I have ever seen. Most of these guys were 25 before they had 5 notches. I had 5 notches before I had a drivers license.

    I guess I have drank from the well of abundance for so long I can live with less nowadays. I guess I am lucky in that regard because laying quality poon in 2014 is harder than it has ever been in my lifetime.

  • awakened

    A decent looking 6 at 40yrs old gets her pick of sex partners any place in murica. FACT!

  • awakened

    I’m very interested in middle age loser game.

  • бай Хуй

    Roosh, you don’t feel positive as frequent casual sex depletes the body and mind. Having orgasms always opens up the aura to harmful outside influences. In fact, a degree of identity exchange takes place in all cases. Some people notice that after having sex they are somewhat confused, unclear about their identity, and off their center or base.

  • Anon

    The manosphere is full of betas.

    Women are like children. I don’t understand why thelse guys get so butthurt when women say stupid things.

  • ATC

    My thirst has gone down over the years, when I used to tolerate high levels of cunt behavior to squeeze in the notch.

    I can’t recall ever getting rewarded with a bang after putting up with rude behavior, how does this work?

  • kai

    I’m shocked to hear you say this

  • Ternarydemon

    Women under 50 will always have some dude to fuck them. What they care about is being fucked by high value alphas, and those men do go away once women hit the Wall.

    A 40 yr old woman may have 100 thirsty betas orbiting her, but for her they are just the usual bnuch since she was 14. But they are not men, not even humans, but free meals and quick entertainment.

    Women’s thirst is when alphas go away (towards young women), hence the feminist term “where have all men gone”.

  • Ternarydemon

    Yes they have packs of thirsty men after them, but most are betas. A spinster in her 40s would need to be one hell of a cougar to have a packs of alphas after her.

  • Ian

    Roosh-
    Imagine if you did a preorder discount promotion for the new book here for your regular readership and there were cool bonuses like how to make extra money online so men can learn how to get to poosy paradise (EE, LA, SEA) for themselves.

  • A Karing Friend

    Imagine this song was a MGTOW anthem and use to give yourself courage :)

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rtFWNWiFWRA

  • Peter Pan

    Roosh, I’m a recent reader of yours, but so far, you have been the most influential, inspiring person in my life. I can confidently say you are the voice of tens of millions of young men in this country. Before reading your blog, i was lost, confused, thirsty, frustrated, had really really low self-esteem, lacking confidence, basically “dead”. The last 3,4 months have been so different, i have come such a long way i cant believe myself. Every post on this blog has been instrumental in my success with girls. I will soon be moving to another state… Mission “Shag America” has started for me… Long Live Roosh!

  • TyKo Steamboat

    For me it’s a lot like when Arnold Schwarzenegger is in the movie ‘Total Recall’ when he’s sitting in the chair in the office & describing his ideal girl. “Brunet, athletic, demure, sleezy” & in my case Mars would actually be Ukraine. Which these days is probably comparable to the Mars version of that movie.

  • anon_anon

    Amazing post. Roosh, you’re awesome. I can relate to all those points, but in a different way.
    The only ‘thirst’ I have with women is related to sexual variety. I’m always ‘thirsty’ for sexual variety.
    Sometimes the need for sex with quality women influences the need for sexual variety, which determines my thirst.
    Like if I’m presently banging a 6 to 6.5, I want to fuck a 7 or a 8. That thirst forces me to drop the 6, however sweet she may be, and start looking for those, even if the 7 or 8 might have a somewhat difficult attitude. And when I succeed in banging a 7 or 8. I then get bored of fucking her after 2-3 bangs. I simply then want another woman, even a 5.5 or 6 could work.

    This affects a harem too, even on the very few occasions I maintained one. I never keep those women in rotation for more than 4-7 bangs. Sexual variety with no attachments is the only ‘thirst’ I have.

    I simply cannot be satisfied with a single woman, even if she was the best woman on this planet, for long. I need sexual variety all the time. As you mentioned in Bang Ukraine, I’d rather have bad to average sex with many girls rather than have ‘good’ sex with a single one. for a longer period. My soul begins to wilt and chafe with the second prospect of a monogamous LTR. The first choice is often so liberating even if the quality of the women may be lower or average. In the end, when it comes to women, for me it’s all a numbers game, and personal freedom. However, most men that I’ve seen, once they find a ‘good’ woman, they usually commit to her and give up on variety. But to each, his own.

    There have been times when I’ve ended passionate ‘relationships’ with quality women, simply because I got bored of fucking them, even though the women were probably not at fault. But I don’t regret for doing that, even though a lot of my buddies have tried to shame and ridicule me for throwing away those ‘relationships’ with those women. But I realize that my need for sexual variety will resurface time again and again, and it would’ve got suffocating to suppress it, even if I kept those women in a long term rotation.

    And it is more unnatural to suppress that need, that ‘thirst’ for sexual variety, whereas it is much easier to control the need for ‘commitment’ to a beautiful, caring, loyal woman who may provide sex on demand.

  • pod

    Men Going their Own Way…
    You’re a man just doing your own thing. You may or may not be obsessed with getting more notches in the belt.

  • pod

    More direct pervert game phrases….
    I want to lick your box…
    I want to stick my finger up your butt…
    I want to play with your titties in public…
    Just let your imagination run wild….
    The worst that can happen is she rejects you, and doesn’t that happen often anyway? This can be a real thrill, for both of you, or just for you. You will always feel good that you made your intentions known.

    Oh, and Im in texas.

  • pod

    Middle aged loser game is almost 100% state control, staying in the right frame of mind. According to society, and perhaps even yourself, time is running out on you. You’ll probably only get uglier from here on in, and money doesn’t grow on trees, the job market is shitty and you haven’t worked in 7 years. For all intents and purposes you should be fucked and afraid, but if you can keep your cool, and be nonchalant and cultivate an abundance mentality, you will mystify those around who believe they would be shitting their pants if they were you, but you’re not. You’re cool as a cucumber. how does he even exist? you’re a mystery, A riddle, topped with enigma sauce.

  • NYCDaygamer

    One approach a day is a false panacea because 0 times anything is still fucking 0. If you do your one approach everyday then you do a shitty approach since you’re coming from work and haven’t built any momentum/are still in a depressed durr state. This isn’t coming from some keyboard jockey either, I been approaching for years (can’t do hard sets though like mixed groups during daytime).

  • SpecialEd

    Lol Roosh. You radiate thirst. The only reason you travel is for pussy. It doesn’t get thirstier than that.

  • awakened

    i like this

  • awakened

    Texas. The only state in the union that doesn’t suck.

  • Peter Pan

    Roosh, I’m a recent reader of yours, but so far, you have been the most influential, inspiring person in my life. I can confidently say you are the voice of tens of millions of young men in this country. Before reading your blog, i was lost, confused, thirsty, frustrated, had really really low self-esteem, lacking confidence, basically “dead”. The last 3,4 months have been so different, i have come such a long way i cant believe myself. Every post on this blog has been instrumental in my success with girls. I will soon be moving to another state… Mission “Shag America” has started for me… Long Live Roosh!

  • Guest

    Roosh won’t make it to 50.

  • Roosh- Give bonuses new book

    They got enough guns down there that’s for sure.

    What cities and neighborhoods in thise cities have that 5’7 36d blonde Texas archetype in them?

    Everyone says Austin and Dallas but Houston is closer to the Gulf and has more metro options than the other cities IMO but ours the Texan not me so I disgres.

    Thanks for the middle age pervert game. Drop us some more techniques that have worked.

    Do those girls get mad in Tx if you’re a stranger on the street and tell emmI wanna lick your box? Lol

  • Mickey

    Congrats Roosh, another post absolutely nothing. Can’t wait to read your new book – not.

  • adog

    Good for you. A word of advice; you are going to have period where you will go back down again. Stay strong be focus. The falls are not going to be as deep and as long as time goes by.

  • The_Emperor

    That’s a very well known fact Roosh. There is incongruency with the way girls dress, represent themselves as sluts in bars and clubs, and how do they behave (dismissive and snobbish to say the least). They are not there to meet men. They are there for free drinks and attention whoring. She already has fuck buddies for each day of the week. Watch http://youtu.be/iOO8Fl-XrDg.
    Since it’s gonna be little time before day game is ruined too. Because the same snobbish slut that was in the bar Saturday night would be way open and friendly when you open her Sunday afternoonCan you follow up for ways to optimize your day game based on your recent stay in DC?

  • BRad

    gtfo phaggot

  • KL

    “worth a sexual experience of dubious worth”