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I outsourced the job because it would have been too labor intensive for me to make it error-free and smooth. I picked the actor for his deadpan delivery (similar to mine), so his tone shouldn’t confuse you. The total length of the audiobook is 5 hours and 15 minutes.

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Another tool for your text messaging toolbox is the restart text. It’s something you send days after a girl texts a date cancellation, refusal, or some other aloof message that suggests she’s slipping away. For example, say you ask a girl out on a Tuesday night but she responds by saying she can’t and doesn’t make a counteroffer. In that case, chill out, wait a couple days, and then send a restart text containing an innocuous question, such as “How was your weekend?” or “Did you survive Mardi Gras?” or something based on an event or activity she told you she was going to do.

I want to walk you through how this normally goes down. Say you went out on a Saturday night, kissed a girl, and unsuccessfully tried to drag her back to your cave. She gave you her number instead. You texted her three days later on Tuesday, where she agreed to a date for Thursday night. Then Thursday afternoon rolls around and she cancels. Here’s how an actual cancellation looks like, sent to me by a college girl in Denmark:

Hey roosh. Im going to have to cancel tonight. I have an extra shift at the cafe. Sorry.

This is the worst type of cancellation because she doesn’t suggest an alternate time, in effect telling you to fuck off forever. I don’t advise replying to this type of “abrupt cancellation” the same day since there’s absolutely nothing you can do to improve the situation. Your best move is to be non-needy by pulling back and enjoying the silence.

If a girl gives an alternate time (an “open cancellation”), then by all means try to make the new meeting work, but otherwise the interaction is probably over.

But you don’t give up that easily, do you?

With the abrupt cancellation we’re still going to send a restart text after the weekend, preferably on a Monday. Now Monday is the day that a girl’s phone is usually blowing up from all the guys she met over the weekend, so why would I advise you to contribute to that? Well because we’re making a bet that she didn’t meet any guys since you and that she still has positive feelings about you. If both conditions hold, and she gets a “How was your weekend?” text from only you on Monday night, then there is a shot you’ll get her out. If she replies enthusiastically, ask her what her schedule is like during the week then try for another date.

I estimate that you have a 5% chance of getting a girl out who gave you an abrupt cancellation. That’s pretty shitty odds, but if you’re full time in the game that 5% means a handful of additional dates per year. Since it only takes 20 seconds to send the text, it’s worth doing, especially if the girl didn’t disrespect you with a last-minute cancellation or a no-show. A basic cancellation where she at least says “Sorry” warrants a restart text, but if she goes out of her way to be rude then delete her number and keep your dignity.

I hated texting as it started blowing up in the States. It felt like a roundabout and labored way to get dates, but I’ve since come around, developing a text strategy that gets girls out more reliably than phone calls and with much less work. This is why in Bang I advise you to text instead of call, something that I wouldn’t have imagined suggesting five years ago. Yet even though you’re only sending a few characters at a time, there are still an infinite number of ways you can fuck it up. For example, here’s an actual text a guy sent to my sister after she didn’t reply within ten minutes:

Damn enjoyed talking to you last night and you made it seem like you enjoyed talking to me and all. But guess all this ignoring says otherwise! It was nice talking to you anyways you could just let me know instead of ignoring me I respect all wishes!

She was actually in the shower, and needless to say, she did not go out with this needy man. I’m not saying my sister is an angel when it comes to text reply times, but he did not have proper text game.

This situation reminds me of how a few years ago girls would write back to first texts within an hour, sometimes in just a few minutes. Well the other month a Swedish girl took 21 hours to reply to my first text, a personal record. Was she in the hospital? Did her cat die? Did she drop her phone in the toilet? Nope, none of those things happened, but that’s where things are going. Soon it will take a girl longer to send a text message than to mail a letter using the postal service.

Unfortunately, instant technologies like texting and email do nothing to speed up seductions. For those of you that remember pickup before cell phones, the time it takes some girls to reply to a text is now nearly identical to how long it took her to call back from a landline after you left a voicemail on her tape machine. Ironically, the main “progress” that has made it easier for men to get laid over the past 50 years is changing sexual norms due to the rise of feminism, not technology.

My complete texting guide is in the second edition of Bang, which I released last year. Here are a couple reviews of the book:

I thought it was a great book. Really common sense when you think about it. Just had to have someone say it. Just a little about myself. I was not having much trouble getting laid in college. I played college football and that made it easy with all the cleat chasers. After college it got a little harder but then I ran across your book. I now work so I run a slow game on the local girls during the week but on the weekends I game hard in much better venues out of town.

The biggest thing your book help me realize is how important confidence is. Just the ability to walk into a crowded room like you own the place showing no sign of weakness will increase your chances of getting laid immediately. Every girl in that room is scanning for an alpha male. A guy who walks tall with his shoulders back and just doesn’t give a shit. To tell you the truth they approach me half the time. Thank you for writing this book. It brought back the confidence I had in college.

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I would have found “Bang: more helpful had I read it when I was younger. I am 38 years old, and a lot of what I read in “Bang” are things I already learned on my own over the years. I wish there would have been books like this when I was a frustrated college student, surrounded by hotties who were far too socially sophisticated for me. This book would be ideal for a college freshman, so that he can learn all these things quickly and easily.

My last GF is a model who turned down a shoot in [redacted] b/c she would not do nude shots. I never would have been able to get a woman like her before learning the things you cover in “Bang,” but like I said, I learned most of this stuff on my own. The book was still a fun read, b/c I felt validated as I read that you and I had independently come to the same conclusions on so many topics.

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I bought your book like 1 month ago or something, and I just wanna thank you.
Thank you! Before reading your book I hadn’t been laid for a loooong time and was kinda starting to miss having a girl.

I went on a date, that was set up for me by a colleague, with this smoking hot russian model. Obviously I thought I would get killed, especially when I found out she had a boyfriend back in Russia. You know what though? I pulled all the moves from your book, appeared confident at the same time and now I’m the one banging this stunning girl who is a 9.

It’s still too good to be true in my eyes, but man… I’m happy ;) Once again, thank you, thank you so much!

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I bought the first edition paperback after a friend showed me some of his copy. I’d been hesitant to look into it because I thought it was all “fuzzy hats, magic tricks, and black nail polish.” It was nice to a see a book with concepts that were more “real world” feeling that I thought I could apply in my own life.

Have I been more successful? Yes, but I have a long road ahead. To harshly critique my progress, I’ve gone from being sub-beta to greater beta. Basically, I can now talk to a girl now and be normal about it, rather than awkward and scared shitless like I would’ve been before. Just this change has led to a HUGE improvement in my social situation. So the plan now is to read Bang again but much more slowly than before (been through it a few times), following the suggestions you posted in your blog (i.e., very slowly and taking notes).

What I’d really like to see now is something more in-depth about day game. The nighttime club / bar scene here isn’t very well suited to pick up so something more day oriented would be great.

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I’ve just finished reading Bang and it’s helped me get out of a two (almost three) year dry spell (even though it was with internet dating and that’s not something you recommend). I got 2 bangs out of it and I’m confident I could’ve gotten 3 more but those interactions happened before I came across your work and read your book; the girls were not bad looking (ranged from 5′s to 7′s).

Nevertheless, I used all your principles and got way far on first dates than I ever have in the past in months (no joke or exaggeration). In fact, I believe in your work so much that I’ve made little cheat sheet’s, printed them out and put them on my bedroom wall. Anyways, just wanted to say thanks.

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Monday: I shared details of the new edition, especially the text messaging section
Wednesday: I discussed the gloomy future of game
Friday: I gave the most optimal method for studying any game resource

I received a lot of emails from guys who missed Wednesday’s newsletter that included a download link to the text messaging guide. I’m going to send it again one more time this Friday, so fill out the newsletter sign-up page by then (or the form at the bottom of this post) to receive it for free.

With this major project completed, it’s time to edit my life schedule…

July: Complete text messaging guide
September—December: Complete epilogue to A Dead Bat In Paraguay. Start day game book rough draft. Prepare for next trip.
January: New trip

As you can see I’ve simplified my plans from before. I’ve been getting the itch to go to Brazil for the winter and actually started planning for it, but as of right now I think it’s best to suffer through a DC winter to get the day game book off the ground. If I go to Brazil again I may get stuck there forever, yet I still want to visit other parts of the world. This decision is tearing me up inside, so I’ve stopped listening to Brazilian music because of the pain it causes.

On a sad note I’ve started charging for Bang Colombia (same price as A Dead Bat In Paraguay). I don’t have the audience size where a donation model would bring enough money to support projects like it. The donation rate was respectable (2.5% with an average donation of just under $6), so I may experiment with it again in the future.

On a positive note, in July, a month when I didn’t release anything new, I sold just over 300 copies of my books. Considering that in 2008 I sold on average 40 copies a month, this is an exciting development. It has given me the confidence and financial support to focus exclusively on writing. I haven’t worked for the man in three and a half years.

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Text Messaging Game

I started writing Bang in 2006, around the time when text messaging was barely on the radar. I completely missed the boat on this technology, and actually called it a “waste of time.” Things change, and starting in 2009 I noticed that I rarely called girls anymore. The reason was because text messaging got better response rates than calling girls on the phone. For Western girls I now recommend that you set dates by text message instead of calling. We’ve arrived at the point where calling girls is a nostalgic, chivalrous act that will hurt more than help because it shows too much interest. Personally I’m surprised how quickly this shift occurred.

At the end of 2009, I started writing my text messaging guide. It’s not too long, at only 3,000 words, but I include everything you need to know about text up to the bang. It contains:

• My detailed strategy that shows you word-for-word how to get dates in the shortest amount of time possible. All you have to do is plug and chug.
• The one text messaging mistake most guys make that kill the tension and lessen the chance a girl will go out with them.
• A method for regulating your text response times so she won’t perceive you as needy, desperate, or too available.
• Discussion of the “restart text” technique, which get things going again with girls who have been acting distant or busy.
• My flake-defense move that prevents you from getting stood up when you schedule a date a few days in advance.

The second major update to Bang was the addition of a post I made earlier this year: Definitive Guide To Going Out Alone (a.k.a. Flying Solo). Because I receive a lot of emails from guys who have trouble finding wingmen well-versed in game, I felt that including the guide was important for the book.

Timeless Classic?

I was hesitant to crack open the first edition of Bang and begin revising. I was a little nervous that a lot of the information would be obsolete and I’d have to practically write a new book. Of course that wasn’t the case. Besides the phone/text issue and a handful of grammatical changes, the game that my book is based on hasn’t changed. You still need to tease a girl and be cocky, aloof, and interesting. You still need to be a challenge. “The Vibe” that I describe over several pages is still the optimal attitude you want to have when gaming girls. The steps you need to perform in getting a girl to the bedroom and removing her clothes is still the optimized technique in getting a notch. The main concepts in Bang are ones that I use today, and I don’t see them changing anytime soon unless new technology is invented or some sort of revolution occurs. In that case I’ll be on top of it to suggest new adjustments.

I still believe that Bang continues to be the best all-around resource you need to learn game. It touches on everything from internal game to meeting girls to sealing the deal, and even for things I don’t go in-depth on, I give enough information where just a little work and creativity on your part will help find an effective solution. With the addition of my newsletter and blog to supplement the book, I think I provide around 80% of what a Western man needs to know how to get laid successfully in today’s culture. That’s my job and that’s what I’ll continue to do.

Here’s a recent review of the first edition of Bang:

If Mystery writes like he’s trying to teach Rain Man how to pick up chicks, Roosh writes like he’s teaching average men to pick up. Mystery’s structure is still something you should learn, but Roosh’s lessons in Bang will probably stick in your mind better. Everything that Roosh writes can be fit into the Mystery Method, but it flows more naturally in Bang and is more enjoyable to read. I know Roosh’s advice works, because I’ve figured out many of these things on my own through trial and error. I’ve relied on strong inner game and knowledge of Mystery’s structure to keep me going but have developed the practical aspects of game with little reference to the work of others. Bang could have saved me a year and a half of work if I had purchased it sooner.

The entire review breaks down every chapter.

New Reading Formats

Bang is now available in four formats:

• Paperback (via Amazon)
• Amazon Kindle – instant download
• eBook PDF format – instant download
• eBook ePUB format (for e-readers and iPhones/iPad) – instant download

Every eBook order includes both PDF and ePUB formats within the download package.

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Since it takes a handful of numbers to get just one date, you may feel some pressure to perform well on the dates you do go on. But you shouldn’t. Dates are much easier than when you first met her because you already have her attention and don’t need to compete with her friends or other guys. Plus, silences are more welcome. If a girl agreed to a date, that means she already likes you and you just have to eke out a respectable performance to get some action. Don’t make it harder on yourself by scheduling a first date with a group or another couple. Resist if she tries to invite you to a party with her friends and be suspicious if she runs into a friend during the date. You want the first date to be in isolation or you are back to when you first met her, competing for her attention and dealing with cockblockers.

First dates are when you can begin to cash in on your investment. You bought an ounce of gold at a low price and are now driving to the coin shop to collect a stack of money. While there may be some disagreement on the selling price, if you stick to your guns and show him a product in good condition, it’s almost a guarantee you’ll walk out of there a happy man.

I say this because I’ve had classic bad dates, where conversation and rapport was weak, but I still got at least a sloppy makeout out of it. I remember a year and a half ago I was at a bar and an okay-looking girl came up to me on her way out and said, “You’re cute.” She slipped me her number written on a dirty napkin. Since that was a first, I honestly thought she confused me for someone else, maybe James Blunt. We went out on a date at another bar a few days later and it was godawful—we weren’t vibing at all and the pauses began after only ten minutes. But I tried to kiss her anyway at the end of it and she accepted.

Keep your first dates simple: a couple drinks at one or two bars. Don’t do coffee, don’t do dinner, don’t go to the park, don’t do ice cream. Just stick to the formula that works. You can have a horrible date, but after two drinks she’s going to feel more aroused and want a little action. If she’s on a date with you then she’s interested, and if she’s had a couple drinks then it’s pretty much a guarantee you’ll get a makeout out of it.

What I don’t understand is guys who don’t try anything by the end of the first date. If that’s you, I guarantee the girls are thinking that something may be wrong with you, because they have already met tons of guys like myself who go for the gold relatively fast (and are rewarded for it). Whereas in Brazil you’re a chump if you don’t try for the kiss by the one hour mark, in the States it’s by the first date mark. The last thing you want is a girl to start wondering about your flaws instead of hers, and that’s what you do when you move too slow or change the optimal formula by being more romantic or otherwise trying to impress her.

When a girl gives you her number she was interested in you at that moment in time, but when she agrees to see you then she’s 100% down. You can get serious action from that even if she’s on a “practice date,” and even if she has to get up early in the morning. Just stick to drinking at the bar(s) and go for the kiss at the end, no matter what. Is she putting some energy into her kisses? Did she let out a little moan? Did she compliment your kissing technique? Perfect, now weasel your way back to her place or yours and destroy it. Please don’t make it more complicated than this, because it really is that simple.

In Bang I describe my favorite weasel move for getting into her place. Here’s a a few recent reviews I got via email:

let me take this opportunity to thank you for Bang; it’s clear, jargon-free, direct, full of useful practical examples—hey, what more could neophytes like yours truly ask for? Equally helpful are your little motivational speeches, especially those of the shit-or-get-off-the-pot variety, which really drive home the need for hard work and persistence. My kudos—and gratitude.

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I’ve always had success with women but it was typically girls iniating the attraction and I would finish from there, mostly with one night stands. BANG provided a foundation or, better put, a sense of comfort for me when I pursued girls. In the year and a half since I read the book, I have referenced it sparingly before dates and how to handle re-building attraction after receiving a number. Although, as I am sure you have learned, gaming becomes a style of your own and what works for you might not work for others. I now no longer use it, but BANG is good for those who need something to lean on as they develop their own game.

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Loved the book. Best pickup manual I’ve ever read. The way it was written was much more my style (in terms of thinking), as opposed to mystery method, which seemed geared more towards guys who think like engineers.

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I read Bang and just finished A Dead Bat. First of all congrats on pursuing your dreams and making the choice to live a creative and worthwhile life. That is the shit. Secondly, I was skeptical about any kind of ‘game’ theory and began reading Bang with strict scrutiny. I told a couple people about this ‘game’ info and they were also skeptical. All I can say is that last night I got the number of the hottest girl at the bar, a grad student sitting by herself who no one else had the balls or skills to approach. 60 days ago I would never have imagined I could do something like that, and I owe my success almost entirely to you. Thanks dude.

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No matter how smart or interesting of a guy you are, it is impossible to speak for those first thirty minutes without messing up, saying something stupid, or going into a completely lame topic. Luckily, girls will give you a pass on many of the foolish things you will say. They understand that not every sentence that comes out of your mouth has to be a blockbuster, but if you continue to bomb you will be booed off the stage.

When you first start talking to a new girl, you may be so pumped that you talk fast, interrupt her, and disregard things she has said because you had another line or statement in queue. You’ll have the urge to say things already marinated in your head even though the conversation is going somewhere else. Resist that temptation because it leads to choppy, disconnected conversation. Realize that the more she talks, the better, because she will give you ideas and material to continue even further.

Only catch is she won’t talk a whole lot until she finds out you’re an interesting guy worth talking to.

In Bang I advise you to aim for zero silences during the first thirty minutes of conversation. If you’re running indirect game where you need to build attraction (i.e. she’s not already crazy about you), then silence early on will kill the approach because she will do very little to “save” you. She doesn’t know you and doesn’t care much about you yet, so why would she? Therefore you must be able to talk continuously, but interestingly, for half an hour. You must have in your toolbox a couple reliable routines and a basic framework of conversation based on the location you’re at (discussed at length in Bang).

I can go into any club in the world and have default conversations regardless of the girl. An observation about the music… check. “Have you noticed…” check. “Why are the people here doing…” check. “This club reminds me of when I was in…” check. When you have a ready-made structure like this you’ll be less nervous about finding things to say. It becomes almost like a game of Mad Libs where you just change a few things to better target the girl you’re working on.

Of course there are other ways to get laid than what I teach. There are guys who can’t have good conversation yet still pull, but I guarantee you it’s not from cold approaching in a bar. They rely on other gimmicks that minimize their weaknesses or otherwise highlight their best traits. If you want to get laid from approaching, something you can do anywhere, you must get good at conversation.

In short time you’ll realize that a big chunk of game is merely having very good social skills, where you’re able to converse in a fun and interesting manner longer and better than others. For guys who are complete newbies to raw social interactions, you need to master conversations before you can move into game material (in that case I recommend the book Conversationally Speaking). If you can’t maintain a great conversation with another human being then that’s something you need to work on first.

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It took me some time to get comfortable with venue changing to her place or mine. I used to think not enough trust was established and there was no way she’ll let a strange guy she just met a couple hours ago take her somewhere alone, that I probably was going to murder or rape her. But this isn’t the case—if the girl thinks you are a murderer or rapist she won’t spend time talking to you. When a girl declines a venue change, it’s either because of logistics or because she doesn’t want to appear as a slut. The girls who do get turned off by your one night stand attempt are the ones who would take a long time to get into bed anyway. The attempt screens out those girls who aren’t serious about sex. Plus, having a sexual intent by using physical touching and the desire to isolate makes it clear that friendship is not in the cards. She will just walk away from you before settling into a friendship, which you are not interested in. Going for sex early is win-win: if she submits to your moves then you get laid, and if not then you can move onto the next girl without wasting valuable time.

Some of you are thinking that by only going for easy girls I’m screening out “good” girls who are worth more investment. I’d believe you but I already tried that—I tried going slow on girls I thought were more valuable than the rest, but it rarely worked out in my favor. I was either putting way too much work in it for little back, the interaction would end before I got sex, or the girl wasn’t as valuable as I initially thought.

I have much more patience with Colombian and Brazilian women because with them I’m rewarded for waiting a date or two longer. Our connection gets deeper, the intimacy is better, and generally I feel like the relationship is more healthy and not primarily based on sex. For some reason that type of patient mindset doesn’t serve me well with American girls. It’s better I just hit and quit with them, enjoying the quick casual relationship while fantasizing about a “real” relationship with a women who is more suitable for type of thing.

Of course there are exceptions and not every American girl is permanently damaged for all eternity, but it seems a lot harder to find relationship prospects in the States than in South America. The odds are simply not in my favor. Going for a relationship with a girl who has had a few dozen large cocks before me just doesn’t make a lot of sense as I would be paying more for a product that has been at a heavy discount (or free) for so many years before. I could look for many years in America before finding something acceptable, whereby it would take a fraction of the time in a different country.

Bottom line is if she’s a whore then treat her like one so you’ll at least get yours instead of getting played in the process. And then the time will come where you meet a girl who is more needy with less cock experience. Sure she doesn’t talk like a porn star in bed but she’ll genuinely care about you and want to make you happy while overlooking your many flaws. Then you can slow it down and get to know her as a human being. But until you meet that girl, it’s in the best interests of your cock to get sex as fast as possible.

In my book Bang I give advice on how to get the notch quickly, with discussion on venue changing to the bedroom along with specific steps to get past ball-busting resistance. View sample pages here.

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You may want to turn an attractive lady friend into a wingman. The female wingman is supposed to let other females know that you are accepted on this Earth by at least one woman. But we use her differently than a male wingman. While your buddy is by your side to talk to the girlfriends and absorb distractions, the female wingman is there to increase your social standing. When you enter a venue, you want to talk to your lady friend long enough for other girls to see. Make the interaction ambiguous by talking close and encouraging her to touch you from time to time. Then, go approach girls on your own, who will now be much more receptive to your game.

The purpose of the female wingman is just to increase the success rate of your approaches. While you can bring your lady friend along with you in the approach, I find that the girls tend to talk too much amongst themselves, severely limiting my ability to game. Don’t let a girl do the approach for you—approaching a girl you want to sleep with is your job and no one else’s.

I can’t remember the last time I’ve seen a man properly use a female wingman. He thinks that because he has some social proof the girls will start coming up to him, or that the wingwoman will do all the work, but it rarely works out like that. What ends up happening is that he barely talks to other girls.

I will always recommend men use a male wingman before female ones, for two reasons. First, when you have a cute girl on your arm you get lazy and comfortable, probably because your hunger is tamed. Second, there’s a subconscious desire not to get rejected in front of other women (especially ones you know), so you’ll tend to only go for other girls who gave you a good signal like eye contact.

Unless your female wingman knows you play the numbers game to get sex, and that you do get rejected often, you’ll be much more hesitant to approach than if you were hanging out with another guy. While I do value the social proof that comes with hanging out with beautiful women, the female wingman is too overrated for guys who already have game. The benefit is marginal unless you know exactly what you’re doing.

In Bang I do give some additional tips on macking with a male wingman, including what to do in the unfortunate situation where you feel like your wingman is cockblocking you. Check out the Bang homepage to read more excerpts.

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The second reason I’m a fan of rejection is because it maximizes your results. The most uncomfortable rejection I can think of is the head-turn when you go in for a kiss. This usually leads to a very awkward moment, more so than when a girl blows you off during an approach. But now I believe the head-turn isn’t a bad rejection because it means you are not wasting kisses. If you never got rejected trying to kiss a girl, it means there are several girls you could have kissed but didn’t, only because you didn’t try. Rejection tells you that you are pushing to get all that you can. A man who doesn’t get rejected is one that is not reaching his true potential.

In 2002 I was introduced to this hot-as-balls girl from California, a “part-time model” who visited D.C. for only a couple weeks. I remember at the time I had a leather-bound journal which contained random drawings I made, some of them not half bad. I often carried it around with me to bars as a prop to pickup women. It was a good conversational piece for a guy who at the time didn’t have a lot to talk about besides Starcraft and microbiology.

The California girl was digging me and in the club we sat on a couch talking and touching. I was a little giddy that this game business was “working” on her (I was using borrowed routines from “Mystery’s Lounge,” long since closed) and decided to try out a line that some guy there said is gold when it comes to getting the kiss.

At the height of our sexual tension, instead of just going for it like I would today with the help of proximity cues, I said, “I want to whisper something to your lips.” She laughed hard in my face and didn’t stop for at least a full minute. I was bummed to say the least.

She stuck around though and we flirted some more, but I didn’t get the kiss.

Two days later the phone rings, and it’s her! She was going back to the California the next day and invited me to her aunt’s house somewhere in bumfuck Virginia. I sprayed on some Drakkar Noir, put on my going-out jeans, and headed over to her house, getting lost along the way and having to consult some maps in a 7-11.

I made it to her house and got to meet her aunt, who was a nice woman, and the girl and I watched some TV and talked. She had a cold though and didn’t want to grab a drink, but before she left I decided that I was going to try again anyway, since I didn’t have anything to lose. At the door of the house I went for the kiss, and she rejected me again. She gave me a hug though and we kept in touch for a couple months until things faded away.

At the time I didn’t know when a girl was “ready” to be kissed, so I just tried every single time as long as the girl didn’t mind my company. That year every girl who wanted to kiss me got kissed by me because I tried on all of them. I didn’t waste any kisses because I erased all preconceptions about when a girl wanted me to kiss her or not.

But now I’m experienced and what not and know when a girl is ready, so I don’t bother when a girl doesn’t want it, right?

Wrong!

Even when I know from vast personal experience that the girl doesn’t want to kiss me, I try anyway, especially on the first date. I know that by the end of the first date if I don’t get a kiss, I probably won’t bang her, so I go for it all the time. Sometimes I go in thinking, “Oh boy this isn’t going to work,” and sure enough it doesn’t. But I’m fine with that and because every girl who wants to get kissed by me will get kissed.

My kissing potential is at 100%, and who knows how many additional girls I’ve banged because I pushed when I wouldn’t otherwise from reading the “signs.” I’m pretty good at knowing the signs but I ignore them, or else I’d be playing it safe and cautious, something a man with burning desire rarely does. Get rejected as much as you can, in approaches and during closes, to achieve the most of what your current skill level can give you. If I’m not getting rejected, I know there’s girls I could be messing around with but am not. Plus I’m always surprised at girls I got intimate with that I thought wouldn’t be down for anything.

In Bang I talk more about getting over shyness and fear when it comes to doing approaches before sharing openers I recommend you use. Here’s an excerpt from an in-depth review of Bang in The Spearhead (by Ferdinand Bardamu’s ):

As a general rule, 90 to 95 percent of the pickup artist literature available today is garbage. Most of these clowns are snake oil salesmen hocking overpriced e-books and DVD box sets containing info you can just as easily find online for free. There are, however, a select few books on game that are worth buying, and Bang, Roosh’s entry into this expanding field, is one of them. If The Mystery Method is the Bible of seduction literature, Bang is the Paradise Lost, and is a title that anyone interested in improving their success with women should buy, post-haste.

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Merely from the standpoint of diction, Roosh’s book is miles ahead of its competitors. Anyone acquainted with the seduction community knows that it’s a swirling cauldron of nerdiness and weirdness, with its own vocabulary of “HB10s,” “IOIs”, and “neg hits.” Hell, the obnoxiously pretentious term “pickup artist” was invented so these geeks could pretend to set themselves apart from the rest of us grinders. In contrast, Roosh writes like a normal human being instead of a social retard. You won’t have to worry about coming across an undefined three-letter acronym every other page, necessitating a trip to the glossary and taking you out of the moment. He even refers to men who sleep with a lot of girls by the normal term: “player.” Solely in this regard, Bang is a much better read than almost all of the seduction literature on the market.

But if style is queen, then content is king, and Bang more then delivers in this regard. Roosh’s major innovation is the use of unscripted material in his game alongside standard canned material. For example, he introduces the concept of the “environmental opener,” which is a way of opening a girl with a line based on what’s happening in the surrounding environment. Additionally, he also writes on “conversational threads” as a way to hold a conversation with a girl that is both natural and holds her interest. The book is also rich with examples that allow you to contextualize the lessons. Given that scripted lines eventually become played out as dudes use them on chicks over and over, the ability to incorporate unscripted material into your game is a necessity if you want to stay on the circuit. If you’re having trouble in this department, you’d do well to pick up Bang for that reason alone.

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You may have an initial resistance to using scripted material, but chances are you’re using them already. If you’ve ever told a story more than once, you are telling a routine, a conversational piece that you know your audience will positively respond to. If you’ve ever repeated an opinion of yours with the same backing evidence, you’ve told a routine. Openers and routines come together to form a conversation that girls enjoy. You are giving them what they want: fun vibes from an interesting guy.

The only problem with repeating the same thing over and over again is that you tend to go from telling to reciting—you begin to talk faster and limit eye contact while you stare off in space and speak from memory. As long as you keep your speech pace at a normal rate and maintain eye contact at all times, there is a very low probability that she will ever think you are using lines on her. And even if she does, as long as she is enjoying your company, she won’t care.

There’s not much more to be said about using routines as it’s something that men are usually comfortable implementing into their game. The only problem I see is that men tend to use too many routines, making them come across more like a social robot instead of a natural. It’s better to use only two great routines in a pick-up instead of six mediocre ones. Right now I use only one (detailed in Bang), with the rest being off-the-cuff or basic one-liners. In the book I also explain how to construct your own custom routines.

Here’s a new book review that was posted on the forum recently:

This is the only book you need on pickup. And that’s all that really needs to be said. But let me elaborate.

There’s lots of “useful” information on game out there. But I put “useful” in scare quotes, because it’s all moot if you aren’t making material progress toward your goal on a daily basis. Bang is different; it points you in the right direction, gives you a map, and shoves you — hard.

The book is short and to the point, clocking in at under 150 pages. You can breeze through it in an afternoon. Upon completion, you will know, without a doubt, how to approach girls, move them into your bedroom, and fuck them. The section on “The Vibe” alone justifies the eminently reasonable cost of the book.

Do you need anything else? No. And the beauty of the book is that it makes that fact abundantly clear.

I also like the fact that it’s designed as a starting point, and not a destination. By this I mean that every other program I encountered touts mastery of the espoused methodology as the target. Bang is explicitly different. It’s a foundation, upon which you’re encouraged to build your own seductive edifice.

In fact, Bang opens up by describing the concept of “gameless game,” the state where you don’t even realize what you’re doing anymore — you’re just being yourself, and that gets you laid. I can’t think of a better end game; nor can I think of anything that will help you achieve that state faster than Bang. I have no greater praise than this.

Downsides? Only this: I hope there’s a second edition with better proof reading. There’s nothing that obscures meaning, but there are enough unsightly errors of spelling and grammar to merit mention.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I have a lot of approaching to do.

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The opposite of a compliment is an insult, something you should also avoid. If you had a linear scale with a compliment on one end being a 1 and an insult on the other end being a 10, some of the material you’ve read so far reach into the 6 range. Their purpose is to let a girl know that you are not impressed with her, even if below the surface you really are. The more you show her you’re impressed, the more likely she will perceive her value as being too high for you. Sex withholding follows as a result.

While saying “You’re too old for me” may seem like an insult on the surface, it is taken as a joke when you have already established a fun and playful vibe. Context here is important: if you were talking about something boring like politics all night and then all of a sudden you tell her she’s too old for you, she will get offended. But if you were already joking around with her for a while, she’ll know that it’s just a part of your personality.

Regardless, some girls will get insulted by your humor and think, “Who does this guy think he is?” While I don’t apologize to any girl who takes my humor wrong, I definitely don’t continue to push her buttons once she is already upset. To me her annoyance is either a sign of incompatibility or a bad line on my part. Did I accidentally say the wrong thing or did she get offended at a line that girls normally respond well to? I make a judgment call if this interaction can be saved or if there is another girl around that my time could be better spent with. Because trying to convince her that you were joking is a form of beta male supplication, it’s best to move on if your material is poorly received. The goal of material in the middle of our compliment-insult scale is to make her aware of her own faults instead of yours. Once the focus is taken off you, she will be much more susceptible to game.

The last two sentences are very important. Solid game makes the girl look inward to her own faults or lacks. Your backhanded compliments and teasing takes the focus off your uneven chin, odd mannerisms, and balding scalp. If you have a rather large deformity then your game has to be that much more potent to compensate for the flaw.

Unfortunately you can’t just go around insulting girls, which is what a lot of guys do after they read books like The Game, where the “neg” was heavily featured. You can study negs all day and night but you’ll still fuck it up every time with the wrong tone or body language. It’s better to avoid its use until you get to an advanced Matrix-like level of game, but by then you probably won’t even need to use them. Focus on material on the “6 range” like I explain above. I give tons of examples in my book.

Speaking of my book, here’s a recent email I received about it…

How’s it going man? I recently put together enough money to buy Bang and I have to say it was not only worth every penny, but more. I don’t usually say shit like this (especially about things I have to pay for). I bought David DeAngelo’s DoubleYourDating eBook a few years back and I have to say that Bang BLEW IT AWAY. You can use this as a testimonial if you want. Oh, I have also read Swingcatt’s eBook and I not only had more laughs and a better time reading Bang, but I found it more useful and my game is doing so much better. I like your approach to the field, you put things simply in a way that I can understand. However, you use advanced tactics like DeAngelo and Swingcatt, but explain it on a step by step basis with examples to real life events and situations. I can’t thank you enough.

If you haven’t yet bought Bang, check out its homepage, read a couple sample pages, then buy it. Thanks.

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Don’t overdo the kiss. She may interpret your desire to constantly kiss her as neediness. You always want to leave her wanting more by stopping short right before you think she is get-ting satisfied. If on a first date I kiss a girl for say a total of five minutes, I’d rather do it in five one-minute bursts than one five-minute session. After you pull back from the first kiss of the date (it will always be you that pulls back from kisses first), wait a good 10 minutes before you go back in again to show her that kissing is not a big deal, and resume conversation like nothing major happened. Re-entry is best when another natural silence in the conversation takes place. Feel free to throw in a couple fake-outs where you get really close like she thinks you are going to kiss her again but you pull back and continue conversation. Be unpredictable about when you end kisses—sometimes you go in for a minute, sometimes two minutes, and sometimes only twenty seconds. Save the extended make-outs for when you get her in a bedroom. You want to tease her—blue-balling yourself in the short term—to turn her on so much that she doesn’t resist when you escalate in the bedroom.

Here’s all you need to know about kissing girls:

Less is more.

Less is more.

Less is more.

You’re not in college anymore. There is no reason to open your mouth wide enough that a kittens head can fit into it and then go crazy. Unless the girl is drunk (or Brazilian), she will not enjoy it.

If you spy on dates you see two kinds of guys. The guys who don’t give a fuck, where the girl keeps coming into him, and the guys who try to kiss the girl at every instant he gets, like he’s scared she’s going to walk out on him if he doesn’t release his tentacle grasp upon her. Which guy is going to get his dick sucked hard by the end of the night?

For about the first two dates, you will be trying to kiss her more than she kisses you. But by date three, once her attraction for you is hopefully cemented, it should be the other way around. She should be on you like a wet rag, kissing you to claim her territory in front of other girls. But if you’re trying to claim her as territory, then your hold on her is weak and she will soon get tired of you because you are needy and desperate. Also, you’re leaving a trail of drool flowing down on her chin. Might want to get that with a napkin.

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I cannot stress how important it is to kiss her by the end of the first date. Except for one exception, a virgin, every girl I have ever had sex with was kissed by that time. If we are aiming for sex by date three, a very reasonable goal, we need to get the first kiss done quickly. Otherwise it will take much longer to get there and you will enter the very dangerous territory of committing to a girl who is probably getting what she wants (attention, validation) at your expense. Kissing a girl by the first date is such a huge and reliable predictor of upcoming sex that I don’t bother calling girls who resist it. With so many girls out there who are comfortable with intimacy, it’d be a waste of your time to go down the rabbit hole of a relationship with a girl who is going to blue ball you. You need to know how a girl is in bed before you decide to make a real investment in her, and it would be a large waste of your resources to wait until date eight or so to find out that she is a dead fish. Don’t buy the juice before you get a squeeze.

Almost two years after these words were first published, they still hold true: I’ve never had sex with a girl I didn’t kiss by the first date. While most of the sex I get now starts with a one night stand, I find it impossible to imagine how sex could occur promptly if the kiss doesn’t happen quickly. Actually I can try:

First date ($60): Awkward hug.
Second date ($35): Kiss on cheek, maybe peck on the lips.
Third date ($120): Kiss on lips, but no groping.
Fourth date ($8): Kiss on lips plus groping.
Fifth date ($45): Hooking up on bed or couch, but no clothes come off. Brief titty grab.
Sixth date ($20): Girl resists at bra removal stage (you fumbled with the hooks for too long).
Seventh date ($2): Sex.

Assuming you have 1-2 dates a week, this process takes a month and an estimated cost of $290. Yeah sure that’s one way to do it. Here’s another way to do it:

First hour ($0): Talking and then make out.
Second hour ($8): Hand firmly planted on her ass.
Third hour ($0): Transition to second club.
Fourth hour ($8): Sloppy hook up with other girls watching, giving me that sexy eye.
Fifth hour ($0): Drunken animal sex on her uncomfortable futon.

There is nothing like extremely fast, impersonal sex to brighten any night. As for the thrill of the chase, isn’t five hours enough? How many hours did our ancestors spend hunting game on the savanna? One hour maximum. Men are built for short, intense bursts of activity, not prolonged courtship where all energy is drained and the power shifts to the object being chased.

Bang details a game for a fast sex goal, not the idea of courtship you may be familiar with through Shakespeare and Hollywood movies in the romantic comedy genre.

Here’s a new review:

I have read Bang and I thought it was a beneficial read. I had recently ended a multi-year relationship and needed to update and refresh my game.

Your book offers valuable insight into human interaction. Although the title of the book is Bang and the subject is mainly pleasure, I think many of the principles can be applied to business in order to help with networking, negotiating, selling, etc.

My results from the book were great. I think the book provided me a way to get in the right mindset to begin approaching (and succeeding) after many years where it was not necessary to approach.

I live a few blocks from the nightlife so I got to the point where I would go out just to run experiments. I found that I could wait until 90 minutes before the club closes and go out. I was having very successful results. I met a group of Brazilian girls one night, and I have been dating one since. I suppose I did not follow your advice when it came to how to prevent a relationship….

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Hey Roosh,

I just finished Bang. loved it. you are one funny motherfucker. there were certain parts that were absolutely laugh-out-loud; I read them aloud to my roommates. I started calling these “Rooshisms.” some examples:

“if the first girl whose number you get you want to impregnate, I guarantee you will bomb spectacularly.”

“…but you will really try to weasel your way inside once you get to her place.”

“get out of my face or I’m gonna knock you out.” LOL!!

“but after a couple times of this you can start to mold her into the slut you’ve always wanted.”

And my personal favorite: “Personally I wouldn’t have sex with a girl who does IV drugs or gets banged in the butt by bisexual men.” I nearly pissed myself on that one.

You have a great writing style. you don’t try to sound stuffy or pretentious or high-fallutin’. you’re honest and unapologetic about your desires, which is why I think it’s so funny when you talk about your ulterior motive being to weasel your way into the girl’s apartment and stuff like that.

I think the thing that makes Bang the best instructional guide to the aspiring player is that it is the best combination of “big picture theory” and examples of lines that actually work. I read The Game (which, in its defense, isn’t really intended to teach you how to run game) and then another book which scientifically broke down all the stages of pick-up from approach to relationships, and I have to say Bang was by far the best use of time spent reading. IMHO, it will set you off and–successfully–running into the game faster than any other material out there.

Here’s another review:

Hey. I just started reading Bang and just wanted to let you know it’s a great book. I don’t cringe when I read it like I do with other books in the genre. Your approach is matter-of-fact and down to earth. Other books, frankly, often appear to be written by douchebags. With your approach one can have actual relationships that are sincere, even if they are just brief hookups or one night stands. You don’t advocate lying, dressing up like a raver from 1992, and memorizing bullshit.

And one last one:

I’ll be honest the book has bumped my notch count a bit, I’m more aggressive in approaching when I used to wait for the women to come to me. What I’ve learned from quizzing various women is that while they think I’m attractive or hot, I look too “nice”, like I am going to buy a woman flowers and kiss her on the cheek after dropping a c note over a bad dinner and not ram their head into the headboard as I’m doing my best fido impersonation.

Props to you for a great book that is an honest approach as opposed to the other really terrible ”pick up artists” books. To be honest, I consider your book to by a psych text which is a good thing.

My second book is coming along. The manuscript is done and my secret editors are editing.

I’m very ready to leave. I will do everything in my power to get out of here by March/April, which means I may have to put finishing touches on the road, something I want to avoid doing since working while traveling is difficult. Without a book to work on there is very little for me to do.

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New subscribers will get the old newsletters until they eventually get caught up with the new ones. An in-depth guide to street game is coming relatively soon.

Bang is doing well in spite of the economic downturn. Last month was its fourth best month in terms of sales. Word-of-mouth seems to be helping.

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With any task you do, whether it be related to women or sports or any type of game, there are a certain number of times you must fail until you succeed. Each act of failure puts you one step closer to success. During an important presentation at work in front of thirty scientists, I interchanged the words lactose and lactate several times. This is akin to showing up at a meeting in the Oval Office without wearing pants. While I was embarrassed afterwards, it taught me simple but essential rules of how to plan and construct a presentation for educated professionals. With each presentation, I got better and better, until I was the preferred person to present data generated by our group. But without those initial mistakes, I wouldn’t have been able to polish my skills. Not doing anything may prevent you from failure, but because you make no attempt, it prevents you from success as well. This principle is especially important when it comes to women because you need to rack up a boatload of rejections to understand how to be really good with them. I have been rejected more than most guys I know, but I have also been with more women than most guys I know. You try more, you get more—there is no secret to it.

A week ago I got an email from a guy. He said he’s been reading my newsletters and he likes them, and is ready to put them into action with a girl he likes. He wanted specific advice for this situation so that he could succeed on his very first at-bat.

I don’t think he liked the advice I gave him, which focused on the long-term instead of the short-term.

Improving your game is not meant for any one girl, it’s meant for you. It’s meant to give you a skill that you can use until you die. Studying the game or improving for one girl is supplication. You might as well impress her with a fancy car or put on magic pig pheromones.

A lot of guys don’t understand that you have to fail a lot with the girls you want to get the girls you want. I keep tabs on the seduction community and there are a lot of products that promote instant, effortless change which appeal to the guys like the one who wrote me. They want to come across as supreme alpha stud to bang the girl in Psychology class. They want to get better NOW to get that gorgeous girl at work. He wants to fake it with a couple magic lines and live the rest of his days as a happy man with the dream girl that all other guys want. But it doesn’t work like that.

If you’re not ready to put in the work, to get rejected and allow girls to spit on your fragile ego, you will never be good. There is no shortcut.

It’s Friday. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t do at least 10 approaches this weekend. You’ll get rejected in most of them, I can promise you that, but come Monday you’ll feel like a king. You’ll be a bit closer.

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Some productivity experts recommend you attach a deadline to your goal. For example: “I am going to sleep with a mother and daughter team within six months.” I don’t advise doing this because the game is so unpredictable and quirky that time goals can be discouraging during the inevitable cold streak. As you gain skill, there will be periods where you sleep with multiple girls in a short amount of time, followed by nothing for several months.

When I was a full-time student of the game, I went to great lengths to get out of a cold streak. I would pull out a piece of paper, write a short-term goal, and make a bulleted list of all the things I should do and try to get out of it. The goal was usually set a month from when I started to write down this list. The sad part: I never achieved the goal within the deadline, and stopped making lists.

It took myself years later to realize what happened. During the goal month I experimented a lot with a shotgun strategy, trying to hit something that can get me out of the cold streak. I was learning instead of succeeding. Once the month was over and I was disappointed with the results, I put my list away and then unconsciously only did things that worked well. Then I hit.

At least once a month I go out and spit the craziest and weirdest shit I can think of. I remember one time I got out a scrap piece of paper and pretended I was reading simple lines like “Hi. How are you. What is your name?” Then the girl would peek at the paper and see a stick-figure drawing of me and a cat. And she would give me this look like “Who are you?” I don’t do this to get laid but to learn how girls respond to things and where the limits are. Learning and success go hand in hand, but they don’t always happen at the same time.

Girls and monogamy-included men really hate the methodical approach to game where you set goals in the form of vaginas and write down notes or ideas to accomplish them. I’ll admit it is a little weird, and it’s not something I’d tell to people who aren’t doing what I’m doing, but it works.

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You’ll notice I gave a way to start the date without accounting for whether you kissed her or not in your previous encounter. That’s because even if you did kiss her beforehand, you can’t just greet her with your tongue—you have to “start over” again and rebuild the energy from the last time you saw her. It’s like re-priming a pump. When it comes to the first date, the only difference that prior kissing makes is towards the end of the date, when you are most likely to get farther.

How important is it to kiss a girl when you first meet her? There are a couple ways of looking at it. The first: Does kissing a girl increase the likelihood of her returning my first call? From my experience and that of my friends, it seems to make no difference. That’s because kissing is really not a big deal in this culture, where girls will kiss a guy just because she is intoxicated and her friend is already hooked up with another guy. (But in Argentina, for example, the kiss is a big deal and probably would increase chances of a return call).

The fast kiss actually does two things: (1) it keeps you on task and (2) it makes the first date a lot more exciting. When you’re talking to a girl and your goal is something vague like “build attraction,” what happens is you may overdo things like humor for the sake of being interesting and miss an opportunity. Instead of thinking of how ready she is to receive your mouth, you are wondering what your next awesome conversational piece will be. But if your goal is to kiss her, you will do just enough humor or teasing or conversation until you get those subtle signs to progress things by touching and glancing at her lips instead of talking. You should be getting the kiss under the two hour mark, but 45-60 minutes is more ideal. (If your mind is saying “That’s crazy!” then you need to work either on your game or venue selection.)

If you don’t kiss her when you first meet, the most you will probably get on the first date is a makeout. Since it’s difficult to get the makeout out of the way early in the date, you have to wait until the end, and by then she will most likely not be prepared for doing much more. But if you did kiss her when you first meet, she is far more open to going past that. She is going on a date with a guy she already kissed because she wants to do more. I don’t think I had sex with any girl on the first date that I didn’t kiss beforehand.

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A girl has made up her mind on whether she is going to call you back before you even pick up the phone. There is no message in the world that will make the girl call you back when she already decided not to, but there are messages you can leave which can change her mind and stop her from calling you back. In the case of voice messages, boring is better. Our simple voice message avoids the pitfalls of a typical bad message, like the previously mentioned joke or story drop and also self-descriptions that insinuate you are forgettable. Bad message example: “Hey it’s Steve, from Friday night at the bar, with the striped shirt, just calling to say….” If she gave you her number she is already interested to you (or was at the moment she gave it). Until you see her again in person you can only do more to harm than help.

Once you leave a message, put your phone down and go occupy your mind with something else. You’re expecting a call, not waiting for one. Get on with your life and don’t worry about if your phone has a strong enough signal or if your ringer is loud enough for you to hear it. If you are doing things that you wouldn’t do if you were expecting a buddy of yours to return a call, then you need to take a step back by turning off your ringer and hiding your phone until the next morning. You give too much power to the girl if you eagerly await her call.

Phone game is important, but it’s one of the only areas of the game where simply being capable is enough. The phone is just a bridge to continuing the interaction, not intensifying it. If you keep that frame in mind you will talk to girls like you would talk to a friend: relaxed, fun, and brief. There is a band-aid to bad phone game in the form of text messaging (it used to be e-mail), but you’ll have to get her on the phone eventually so you might as well get it straightened out starting now. Bang has several pages on how to work the phone. You can learn more about what’s inside the book here.

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Bang is a dense but informative read, full of advice even the most weathered Casanovas and “pick-up artists” can appreciate. The book wastes no time in breaking things down bit-by-bit from the approach to the date to the bedroom. For those of you who are more familiar with the whole “pick-up community,” Bang strikes a good balance between the structured, sequential “Mystery Method” and the more free-flowing “Charisma Arts.”

If there’s one chapter that stands out more than others, it’s the one titled “Late Game,” which breaks down the step-by-step (or article of clothing-by-article of clothing) journey from the end of the date to the end of the orgasm. The chapter titled “Internal Game” is another highlight, as it discusses the most powerful sexual magnet of all–the human mind. The odds-and-ends Appendix also serves up a great variety of tidbits, from approaching girls in cars to dealing with girls who suck (in a bad way) in the sack. I do wish that more specifics on body language and its importance were presented in the book–a minor complaint, all in all.

You can read the whole thing here.

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