Category Archives: Life

5 Things I Learned From My Brothers On How To Raise A Son

Father and son surf lesson in Morro Bay, CA. Father is Ben Monmonier, son is Julian “Boqha” Monmonier.  I like this wholesome family-oriented series of 12 images of a father and his son bonding during a surf lesson. They had a great time, and the little “grom” Julian took the new surf name Boqha to commemorate this step in his life.  Boqha has  great form and is a natural.  Watch for future commercial endorsements for this athlete.  The father gave me permission to photograph their entire surf lesson today 21 Dec 2007 Friday 21dec2007 - Photo by  Mike Baird, Canon 40D with 300mm f/2.8 IS lens handheld – http://surfmorrobay.com http://bairdphotos.com  http://flickr.bairdphotos.com  http://photomorrobay.com  http://morro-bay.com

As I get older, I’ve become more mindful about how to teach my brothers to grow up as strong men. I have been examining the environment they’re in and trying to find ways to replace negative influences in their lives with positive ones. While I barely see them enough to have a huge influence, the […]

Does Life Have Inherent Meaning Without Belief In God?

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How would you feel if you spent most of your life working, having children, and trying to make a difference, only to come to the conclusion in old age that it was all for nothing and that there was no meaning to your life at all? That’s exactly what happened to Leo Tolstoy, who wrote […]

Why It’s Folly To Design Your Own “Lifestyle”

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In my mid 20’s I bought the idea that I could create my own lifestyle from scratch, not based on consultations from wise men or guidance from church and family, but from my own desires. After years of work, I successfully created a lifestyle that satisfied the desires I had in that particular stage of […]

Marcus Aurelius’ Meditations Is The Best Manual We Have On How To Live

UNSPECIFIED - CIRCA 1900:  Roman civilization, 2nd century A.D. Bust of Emperor Marcus Aurelius.  (Photo By DEA / G. NIMATALLAH/De Agostini/Getty Images)

Marcus Aurelius was the only Roman emperor who fits the title of “philosopher king” as described by Plato, ruling with wisdom and prudence gained from his Stoic teachers. Thankfully for us, he maintained a diary called Meditations that relayed his knowledge and what he learned during his life. I became interested in reading it after […]

What Type Of Future Can Young Men Look Forward To?

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On Christmas Day I spent time with four of my male cousins, ranging in age from 15 to 24. While I’m not quite their mentor, they are receptive to lessons I give them. With any man I talk to, I try to identify where he is in life and what his unique situation is to […]

The Novelty Wheel

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Many men are doing things they think are giving meaning and fulfillment when actually they’re merely experiencing entertainment for the short term. If you’ve ever gotten bored of something that used to excite you or make you happy, you have discovered an activity that not only has served little benefit to you, but also taken you […]

Are We Alive To Only Survive And Reproduce?

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Every ideology has a corresponding narrative that attempts to explain the world to its adherents while giving them a basic blueprint of how to live. This task is made more difficult in a world that changes rapidly enough that the best blueprint of the 1990’s may cause you severe harm not 20 years later. Even the manosphere’s […]

City Life Is A Simulation

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Happy People is a four-hour documentary that chronicles a year of living in the Russian Siberian village of Bakhtia (population 300), a settlement with no permanent electricity, telephone, or land access. Its inhabitants principally live off the land from the dint of their near-constant labor. I was deeply affected watching what is essentially a window into the […]

There Will Always Be A Problem In Your Life

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Every stage of your life, no matter how high up the ladder you climb, will have a problem. By solving one problem you will introduce another, and while subsequent problems can be smaller in severity, there will never be a point in your life when you are free of problems or completely satisfied with everything […]

Giving Up vs Failure

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A lot of you have embarked on certain goals in life, didn’t get that goal, and then felt like you failed. I’m here to tell you that you didn’t actually fail—you gave up. Failure is when success would have been impossible no matter what else you did. Giving up occurs well before that. Failure involves […]

My Education Was A Complete Waste Of Time

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Looking back at my thirteen years in the American public school system and four more years at the University Of Maryland, I have come to the realization that it was an utter waste. Nothing I do today which serves me in work, women, life, or leisure can be traced back to what I was taught […]

Are We Living In A Computer Simulation?

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The strangest thing to ever happen to me took place in Tomsk, a Russian Siberian city. A week into my stay there, I bought a neon orange toothbrush to replace an old toothbrush. Some two weeks later I went to the bathroom to brush my teeth but the toothbrush was gone. It completely disappeared. Looking […]

Mountain Is Nothing

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Spain 2006 I flew into Barcelona for my third ever trip abroad. I stayed in a hostel, excited to be surrounded by foreigners, especially young European girls. Through sheer persistence, I was able to out-compete the other males to get a cock rub from a pretty Belgian girl on my first night there. On the […]