I checked back with Virgle Kent to follow-up on an interview I did with him three years ago. Let’s begin…

1. It’s been a while since we last had a chat about how you run game. What have you learned since then?

I’ve learned to strip away most of the bullshit. To do a lot with much less, to become a minimalist when it comes to game. I thought having a great job and a title would make gaming easier then I lost that. I thought having the best gym body would automatically equal having great game then I went more than four months without touching weights. Through everything I learned that what mattered most was the experience I’ve had with practicing game on women. I eventually got everything back and more but still remember the lessons I learned over the past three years. Time has a way of humbling men.

2. I’m sure you’ll agree with me that the definition of game is changing. In the past it was about wearing loud clothing and negging girls with memorized lines. What do you think game means today? What direction is it going? 

Game has evolved into a whole theology on what it means to be a man and feel like one in today’s society. It’s about being a man during the first approach, during a relationship, and even during a marriage. The secret being it’s not really what you say but how you say it. In the future men will have to work on setting themselves apart from other men with individual aspects of their lives that will make them naturally more interesting than most guys in the bar, lounge, party, or any environment they’re trying to pick up. Self improvement will be key.

3. Some commenters have pointed out that game is nothing more than a response to modern feminism. What relationship does feminism and game have with each other? How will this interaction change in the next couple of years?

Feminism is interesting. I disagree with the thought that game is the response to modern feminism. Feminism has been around far longer than game. I’ll tell you what, game works best on feminists, girls so assured of themselves and filled with fake confidence based on their education and careers that they never see it coming. Most feminists honestly believe that game doesn’t exist or would never work on someone like them. But in the grand scheme of things most young women are feminist in name only, because they’re alone and have nothing else to hold on to or call themselves so they use feminism to feel a part of something. So if they meet a real alpha or guy with game and it’s between him or dying alone with one cat and two eggs holding on to each other for dear life, what do you think they’ll choose? For most women, feminism is an act of convenience more than a lifestyle of faith.

4. A man’s game usually is a result of his personality and the type of girls he goes for. What kind of girls are you banging lately? How have you honed your game to get them?

I’ve been having a lot of affairs with married women. More than I’d care to admit. To get them I’m just a really good listener. To me I’m intrigued by some of these beautiful wives in this town with the worlds biggest ring. I used to think the size of their rings meant they were happy and in love. So I started asking questions and listening. What I found was these are women who realize that ever after is a fucking long time… with the same person. They have the house, the kids, the cars, but I learned a beautiful woman’s greatest fear is becoming invisible. And these ain’t fat housewives that let themselves go either. I’m talking from 27 to 38, yoga-mats-and-pilates women.

It’s not as simple as it looks. Sure some are sluts no questions about that. But others just reach a point. The greatest thing I learned just being a successful alpha isn’t good enough to keep your woman. They all have this minimum level of attention, love, and sex needed from you to keep them. If you drop below that level she’ll find it from someone else. This made me open my eyes to my own relationship and not taking anything for granted or think I got it in the bag. But then again I’ve never been with the same woman for over a year so what the fuck do I know.

5. You’ve recently been involved in a long-term relationship with a foreign woman. How was that like?

Night and fucking day, it was surreal, like owning a PC then switching to Macbook. The simplicity and the intuitive ease. It changed me in giving me hope for guys like us, like when we need to retire from game and relax there are women out there that are feminine, loving, and trusting. It’s tough sometimes living in DC to believe there are women like that out there. I didn’t need to use that much game with her after I got her; her attraction level to me was still high. But I remembered the lessons I learned from affairs with married women and made sure I kept up my end of attention and showed I cared in my own alpha way. Overall I would equate it to that feeling you got from being in Poland, a place where feminine women do exist. Like seeing a unicorn.

6. There seems to be a lot of anger among young guys who have flocked to game denialist forums to mock the use of game. They use similar language in their attacks as the feminists. What do you think is going on here? Do you think young guys are taking to game like we did in our early 20s?

I think young guys are just being young by their nature. What comes with that is anger, and more commonly, impatience. They’re in denial because game didn’t work fast enough for them. They read the books, followed the blogs, did everything “word for word” and in 6 months, 10′s weren’t falling from the sky. It’s like a guy who has never worked out before joining the exact same gym Jay Cutler works out at and buying the same supplements Jay advertises in Muscle Magazine and is shocked—fucking shocked—he too isn’t benching 350 for sets of ten. So he says fuck body building, that it’s for idiots and assholes, and decides to take up a vegan diet and practice bikram yoga because it’s more hardcore and spiritual and less gay… wait what.

Part of it is our fault. Game bloggers that show the end results. We don’t talk much about our mistakes or times we failed at a pick up, or even the many years trying to crack a certain type of situation, which is where the true lessons are learned. It’s always finished product and young guys read it and it looks easy to them like anyone can do it. Like my favorite quote from Nick Wells in The Score goes (and I’m paraphrasing here)…

“Sit down and make a list of everything you want to get in your life, the cars, the house, all the toys. Then spend the next 25 years of your life getting it piece by piece.”

7. You’ve just revealed a new site to the world called Nexxt Level Up. How is it different from your existing blog? What do you hope to accomplish? 

I’ll start with the concept. Right now I feel that typical game blogs are in what I like to call theory or concept mode. Everyone has their own theory on the best way to number close, neg, one night notch, etc. What the reader has to do now is study that and learn what works for them. Soon everyone adopts which style of game works best for them after a few years. Once that’s done, what’s next?

My goal with the game lifestyle magazine was to fill that void. I wanted to touch on other elements of a man’s life that could help improve his game. Fashion, health and fitness, cooking and dining, and travel. These are a lot of areas to cover so I was sure to bring in men who knew more than me in these areas, guys that I look up to on their own blogs.

It’ll be different from other “group blogs” in that everyone brings their own special expertise to the table to build something going in one direction. It’s more focused. Hopefully a different post a day and a one-stop shop to just learn something different or what you might not have thought of before. I’ll still be writing about my game theory and my little sex stories as well, but the purpose is that the site as a whole should help improve your overall game and life, giving you an advantage on guys who are still stuck on theory.

It’s a new concept (in our game world), but hopefully what comes across is the possibilities of where game can go as a whole, that the only thing holding us back is ourselves. I have a feeling that other game blogs will band together as groups and something will push through to the mainstream. This is my attempt at that.

Check out Virgle Kent’s new project at Nexxtlevelup.com. Catch up on his existing work here.

The next interview (and probably the last), is with Jason, a young man I met in Medellin. I had to interview him not only because he is making his own money and traveling the world, but because he’s only 22 years old. The true nature of his hustler status is apparent once you read that he gives career advice to older professionals, without ever having a career of his own. Let’s take a look…

Can you give us a little background on your age and the type of environment you grew up in? What are some things that influenced you earlier in life that put you into the position you are in now?

I am a financially independent 22 years old traveling the world full-time while working 22 hours per week running two successful online businesses. I started with $50 running my own web-based businesses since age 16 but currently run a career services business (Resumes/CVs, interview coaching, etc.) and an online retail store selling physical products. I started traveling independently on my own at least 4 months per year on my own dime since age 19.

I grew up comfortably in an east coast suburb as one of five children. All the basics were easily covered from birth: weekly tennis lessons, SAT class, summer camp, and one of the top rated public schools in the nation. I was a complete suburban stereotype. I never felt comfortable given all of these advantages. And since I wasn’t naturally gifted in any school subjects like most of my peers I didn’t buy into the cycle that if I got good grades everything else would take care of itself. But for a while I didn’t know what else to focus on either.

As a privileged teenager, it’s pretty common to go on an international travel/volunteer program. It wasn’t my first time abroad, but at age 15 I jumped at the opportunity to go on my first cultural exchange program to Costa Rica. The highlight of this trip was living with a Costa Rican family in a rural town for three weeks. I ate rice, beans, and eggs every day, shared a wooden plank bed with the host family brother, and showered each day with a bucket of cold water. The experience was uncomfortable and I could barely communicate with the family, but the feeling of independence from back home in the United States was an invaluable emotion that is probably what has motivated me ever since.

Talk about your ideal girl. What does she look like? Where is she from? What’s her personality like?

I am still figuring this out. One of the many consequences of my lifestyle is that I rarely have enough time for a proper relationship. My experiences are limited to the countries I have traveled, and even then I can’t claim to know most of the cultures on any level deeper than your average tourist. There is just not enough time.

But a benefit of travel is that I know what type of girls I do not want a relationship with. As I travel more I find myself traveling a little more closed-minded because I have more experience in knowing what I don’t want. As a result I often put myself in situations where I am less likely to encounter certain types of women. An easy example is that I especially avoid going out to bars or clubs popular with tourists and expats. In these places I have found that the girls want something from me; sometimes for the Western stereotypes I can offer if they are fascinated by my culture. Other times they just might be more attracted to something different because a lot of the countries I visit are so homogenous. Either way, I think that many girls who go to these places have some kind of agenda, whether those examples I gave, or countless other reasons that have more to do with circumstances rather than us actually having any sort of connection.

Describe your travel experiences and strategy.

My style of travel is constantly changing because of an increasing income, language ability, and travel experience, and work obligations. It also depends on what region of the world I go. What I do, spend, and eat in Tokyo is much different than what I do in La Paz.

I first traveled independently after my freshman year of university to Ecuador and Colombia. In Ecuador I lived out of a dorm room in a party hostel for three months and traveled on the weekends. I volunteered during the weekdays and put in a probably less than ten hours a week in my own businesses. I made very few local friends but at this point my Spanish was also very basic. My travel experiences were also very limited so I was eager to go everywhere, from small towns to remote jungles.

Fast forward year after year and my Spanish continues to improve conversationally. I earn more money but I also work more hours. Sightseeing is becoming repetitive after having been to a lot of jungles, small towns, churches, and temples. I have also done most adventure activities from white water rafting and caving to even more adventurous ones like skydiving and bungee jumping. But I also get to know fewer places for longer, making stronger connections to people in fewer places.

What kind of lodgings do you stay in?

Location is most important to me. No matter where I stay, I always try my best to find a place closest to the action. I have always stayed in places below my means because I don’t like the idea of spending much on the place where I will sleep. But this is changing as I spend more and more time at my accommodation mostly because of an increased workload.

I have stayed in countless hostels, occasional budget hotels and boutique hotels, student residence, friend’s apartments, and with a couple CouchSurfing hosts. These typically cost around $4US-$60US per night. I even slept in a park and one time in the corner of a hallway. Those were free! In less than a week I will rent my first apartment abroad with amenities like a gym, pool, doorman, and maid.

How do you approach integrating yourself into a new culture with regard to food, language, local customs, etc.?

The longer amount of time I stay in one place the easier it is for me to feel a closer connection to the local culture. Language is also a key. I didn’t realize how effortless it was to communicate with locals like I did in South America until visiting places like Ukraine or Bangladesh where my hands had to do most of the talking. In terms of actually meeting new locals it has usually been by going out to bars with other backpackers and meeting new local friends there.

What do you fill your days with?

I’ll usually start my day whenever I wake up around 9AM-1PM. I put in around three hours of work every day and then do whatever I please. Often times I then go for a walk around a new part of the city I am in. If there’s something special that I want to do, like the Machu Picchu for instance, I’ll plan an entire day around it. Recently in Thailand I spent a few weeks learning Muay Thai because I wanted to get in shape and what better place to practice? In South America I typically went out for drinks around 3-5 nights a week.

Do you have a basic strategy for meeting women while you travel?

Nope, I’m pretty typical in that I go out to bars/clubs like everyone else. I used to think that being a foreigner really helped make me unique, but I think people care about this less than I used to think. Maybe I have just become comfortable being different so much that the reactions now seem normal?

How do you make a living? How did you get into it? What are some skills you had to learn?

I have been self-employed since age 16 (more details here). I never received any formal training so a lot of what I have done is just educated research mixed with trial and error. Along the way I have honed my internet research skills and drastically improved my writing ability. These skills together are very useful when it comes to advertising and marketing. They are also skills I take advantage of daily since they directly relate to the services I run.

My career services company specializes in writing resumes, curriculum vitae, cover letters, and coaching clients on interviews to an average of 60 new clients each month, The company has created and revised over 1,000 resumes and curriculum vitae since 2007 for everyone from recent college graduates looking for their first job or professionals with 20 years of experience ready to take the next step in their career.

The second business, an online gift store, provides 15 categories of over 400 products including printed t-shirts, cologne, watches, sunglasses, tactical gear, lighters, and other categories. Since 2005, the store has completed more than 3,000 orders and counting. I am able to manage this business online because I have arranged for manufacturers and wholesale distributors to ship products directly to each of my customers’ only after I make a sale.

There are people twice your age making far less money than you do, and not even close to being independently mobile. What do you attribute your success to?

I have only ever really had 2 passions: travel and business. I was one of the lucky people to find myself in the right circumstances to discover these passions so early in life. These are the kind of interests more suited to older people, but I was too impatient to wait for others to tell me when I could get started on pursuing them. So I started on my own initiative. It was difficult, but I enjoyed the process of building these businesses. While 22 may seem like a young age, it’s only after 7 years that I reached this point where I can live like I am full-time. There is no big secret. I worked really hard and it took a long time.

What’s the most important thing you’ve learned so far in life?

I think my answer changes every few months but a more recent lesson that I am learning is the importance of family and life-long friends. For so long I wanted to travel aimlessly, leaving behind any semblance of a home base. I wanted true independence, traveling from place to place, only visiting old friends and family on occasion. While I have done this many times in the past I never actually gave up my home base of friends until this year.

I can report back that after four months of aimlessly traveling without the comfort of a home base in the back of my mind, this concept just doesn’t work in my reality. The past four months of travel were the same as any other year. The difference is that after all of these amazing experiences I had few people to share them with that I would ever see again.

What are your future goals? How do you see your life playing out in the next 10-20 years?

It’s now been a month since I am back in the U.S. staying with family. This is the first time I have actually chosen to return to the U.S. and I am thoroughly enjoying my time with familiar faces. But most friends now live in other cities and I see there is little for me at home unless I chose to invest the time and effort in getting my own place, making new friends, etc. My passion is travel so I don’t want to just hang out in the U.S. forever either.

What I eventually want is to develop 2-3 of my own bases (friends, apartment, etc.) in foreign cities and split my time in each throughout the year. I’d then take shorter, 1-3 week mini-vacations to new international destinations whenever I please.

In less than one week I will be on a plane leaving the U.S. to another country where I will rent an apartment and get this new goal started.

Jason has a blog called Locationless Living. Read other lifestyle interviews here.

I first met David in Medellin a little over a year ago. He wasn’t yet in the country much longer than I was, but seemed to know the entire expat scene (in the couple times we hung out he was constantly running into groups of gringos that he knew).

His love for Medellin helped make him the go-to guy for advice on the city, which he shares on his popular Medellin blog. I used him a couple times when I needed fresh ideas for where to take girls on dates.

Right now he’s back in Medellin, subsisting on income from his internet properties. He took the time to answer some questions…

1. Can you give us a little background on your age and the type of environment you grew up in? What are some things that influenced you earlier in life that put you into the position you are in now?

I recently turned 34, and by all accounts, grew up in a stable, upper middle class American family. My parents have been married over 35 years. My mom stayed at home with me and my younger brother, while my dad, a businessman, worked hard to provide a comfortable standard of living for us all.

I began listening to punk music very early. By age 10, I can remember owning a Sex Pistols tape. In my early teens, I was listening to bands like The Dead Kennedys and Suicidal Tendencies. By my late teens, I was getting into the California bands like Pennywise and NOFX. Even though I was very introverted and reserved growing up, the lyrics by these bands and others affected my developing attitudes toward how a guy should live his life.

After college graduation, three of my best friends were planning to travel around Europe for the Summer. It seemed like a great opportunity, so despite my parent’s protests, I joined them. It was my first time traveling abroad without my parents, and I quickly learned how easy it was to find a place to stay, meet other travelers, and get around. After about 10 days, my friends all wanted to go home due to lack of funds, or girlfriend withdrawal. I thought they were crazy, and since neither problem was an issue for me, I spent the next 6 weeks traveling on my own. Despite some loneliness, I had an amazing time, and was officially hooked on the freedom that backpacking and solo travel afforded.

2. Talk about your ideal girl. What does she look like? Where is she from? What’s her personality like?

The more time I spend outside the United States, the more I realize my ideal girl is from a European or Latin American country. I love to travel, and discovering new cultures through relations with women is a lot more exciting than talking to taxi drivers and walking around a city with other backpackers.

Right now, it’s safe to say I’m smitten with the women of Colombia, where I’m currently living. Here, my type is the norm: a few inches shorter than me (I’m 5’8″) or equal in heels, with tan skin, long black hair, and a petite body. She doesn’t speak English, which forces me to improve my Spanish. That provides a fun, sometimes frustrating dynamic to the dating experience. She’s dependable and punctual, which seems to be a rarity in Colombian women, and is pursuing her own passions in life. We absolutely must connect on the dance floor, as it’s a big part of the nightlife here, and an activity I can’t get enough of after being a wallflower all my life.

One of the downsides to Colombian women (who don’t have dual citizenship, in say, the USA), is that travel is very difficult and expensive for them. Since traveling and living abroad is extremely important to me and my work, I don’t know if I could ever be in a long term relationship with a Colombian girl. In that respect, Western European women (French, Italian, Spanish) become a more attractive option.

3. What type of game do you run? How does your typical bang go down? How do you change your game when you’re abroad versus in your home country?

I began reading and practicing game in early 2009. I was a member of the Stylelife Academy for about a year, and was able to connect with other guys in the Washington, DC area to go out with. My game is the antithesis of cocky/funny. If there’s such a thing as “sincere” game, that would sum up my approach. Early in conversation, I focus on highlighting my travel experiences and independent lifestyle. Ideally, a first date will be at a salsa club where I can DHV, gauge her attraction via body language, and be in an easy position to go for the first kiss.

In the USA, I find Internet dating to be a waste of time. It requires far too much effort, and offers too little in return. By comparison, in Colombia, I can copy/paste the same message to a hundred attractive women, and get enough results to keep me occupied for months. The interested ones respond back with their phone number or e-mail address, as if to say “let’s cut to the chase.”

As other interviewees have already mentioned, I’ve discovered in Colombia that it pays to line up dates via the Internet before you visit a new city. I think this strategy will change how I travel going forward.

4. Describe your travel experiences and strategy. What kind of lodgings do you stay in? How do you approach integrating yourself into a new culture with regard to food, language, local customs, etc.? What do you fill your days with? Do you have a basic strategy for meeting women while you travel?

In November 2007, I resigned from my management job at an insurance company to take a 15-month trip around the world. I visited over 20 countries on 5 continents, staying in a mix of hostel dorms, beach bungalows, cheap hotels, and private homes via Couchsurfing.

When I got to Medellin in early 2009, and decided to stay for 6 months, I spent the first month living in a party hostel which was terrible from a logistical standpoint. Even with a private room for part of the time, I wasn’t allowed to have overnight guests. Once I made the switch to renting rooms in apartments, I didn’t have to worry about such rules. If I’m traveling to other parts of Colombia, I pay more for private, budget hotel rooms. I do this not only because it makes it easier to bring a girl back if the opportunity arises, but because I’m getting tired of the hostel scene and like to have a quiet, comfortable place to work.

Until I got to Colombia, I put little to no effort into learning other languages because I was always just passing through, and it’s easy to rely on English, or simple body language to communicate. In Colombia, I began to learn Spanish, and am being rewarded with more dates as a result. Couchsurfing has been a great way to see cities and cultures from a local’s perspective. Trying new foods has become an increasingly important part of my experiences, and I’ve been greatly influenced by Anthony Bourdain.

While traveling, my days are filled with typical sightseeing activities. During my RTW trip, I spent more time than I expected updating my blog at Go Backpacking. I was earning a few hundred bucks a month from advertising, but that kept me motivated to publish content 6-7 days a week. While living in Medellin, I spend a lot more time blogging/working in my apartment, and fill my free time with the gym, salsa lessons and dancing, movies, and hanging out with friends. In the countries I visited before Colombia, I was always trying to hook up with other travelers, but that changed when I got to Colombia and my attention was focused squarely on the beautiful locals.

5. How do you make a living? How did you get into it? What are some skills you had to learn?

I currently make a living through travel blogging. My primary blog is Go Backpacking, while I began Medellin Living last year to document the expat lifestyle in Colombia. I also launched a membership website, Travel Blog Success, earlier this year to help other people build high quality travel blogs. Most of my income is from selling advertising on the two blogs, though I am beginning to offer private consulting services as well.

After my first trip to Europe in 1998, I returned home and taught myself basic HTML so I could publish my handwritten journal on the Internet. After people actually started reading the thing, and emailing me for advice, I bought the GoBackpacking.com domain and added more content. I even made a few hundred bucks from a Eurorail affiliation at the time. But creating an HTML site wasn’t fun or easy, so I went on a 5-year hiatus, before getting into blogging in 2007, ahead of my RTW trip. My friend had convinced me there was money to be made, and he was right. In addition to knowing some HTML, learning how to build websites using WordPress, write effectively for an online audience, and optimize content for the search engines has been important. I’ve also learned a lot about negotiating with advertisers, leveraging social media to build a brand, and Internet marketing.

6. What are your future goals? How do you see your life playing out in the next 10-20 years?

I’m currently planning to spend New Year’s in Tokyo, Japan, and then see a little of the country in early January 2011. Afterward, I’d like to address some business-related needs back in the US, and then return to Medellin for another 6 months. Starting in July 2011, I’d like to see the rest of South America. In terms of my online income, my goal for 2011 is to average $5,000 per month which means I’ll need to do more work, and less partying.

In the next 10 years, I’d like to continue splitting my time between traveling and living abroad in a variety of countries, such as Brazil, Italy, and France. I’d also like to be earning six figures from my web business. Along the way, I’d get married, and maybe have a kid or two.

7. Tell us more about Colombia. Why are you drawn to the country? How are the women like? How is it like to live there? Has the country changed your opinion of America, either the culture or the women?

Colombia as a travel destination first entered my mind in May 2005 when I met a Swiss backpacker in Costa Rica who had been there. He said it was safe, and the women were beautiful (specifically, they had big tits). From that point forward, I was determined to get there to see the women for myself, and also to go somewhere everyone else in the world deemed too dangerous.

In January 2009, I couchsurfed with a cute university student my first week in Bogota, and as she took me around the city, I began to realize most Colombians were normal, well-intentioned people. It helped that I wasn’t being shot at or kidnapped either. When I flew the 25 minutes to Medellin, I immediately knew I was in a city I didn’t want to leave. Medellin sits in a valley 1,500 meters above sea level, surrounded by big green mountains. A metro system and cheap taxis make getting around the city easy, and the temperatures are Spring-like year round. For a city of 2-million, it has a small village feel to it.

In the 30+ countries I’ve seen so far, there have always been beautiful women, though some have far more than others (sorry Rwanda and Nepal). For me, the typical Colombian girl is the sexiest. She’s very image conscious and thus takes care in her appearance, whether at the gym or a nightclub. She displays a sense of femininity that seems lost in American women. Chances are she has a good sense of rhythm, and can dance well. Unfortunately, they have strong jealous streaks, and are also very flaky, and far less punctual than American women. And while I’ve come to expect it, I still get annoyed.

8. What’s the most important thing you’ve learned so far in life?

Have the courage to pursue the kind of life you want to live—follow your passions, regardless of what others say, and don’t give up. Chances are it will take a lot of hard work, patience, and persistence, but it’ll be worth it.

David maintains two travel blogs: Go Backpacking and Medellin Living. Read other lifestyle interviews here.

The next lifestyle interview is with Lumiere, a man who has the most flags out of anyone on the forum. While by some measures he may be considered “old,” he shows that age is no obstacle to living a mobile lifestyle full of banging foreign women. On the forum you’ll find his best advice on Asian and South American countries.

On to the interview…

Can you give us a little background on your age and the type of environment you grew up in?

I grew up in a rough working class environment in Liverpool in northern England. I turned 40 recently.

What are some things that influenced you earlier in life that put you into the position you are in now?

Well in my early life I was obsessed with technology and, quite frankly, I was a nerd all through my teen years and was a very late starter when it came to women. However when I moved to London I was able to make a good living in tech which allowed me to save up and travel a lot.

Talk about your ideal girl. What does she look like? Where is she from? What’s her personality like?

There are many things about women that I am attracted to but the principal factors can be broken down like this: I am a sucker for women with beautiful eyes—the windows of the soul. I love women who have natural figures. I hate the blonde/peroxide/false breast look. I love women who have a certain body type where there is a beautiful waist to hip ratio. A beautiful feminine curve. Above all I am most attracted to women who are totally aligned and in touch with their feminine polarity.

Personality? Warm, sweet, intelligent, adventurous, open minded.

In terms of ethnicity, I am a total sucker for the exotic. If a women is Mediterranean or South American or some crazy, sultry mutt mixture like quarter Mexican, quarter Russian and half Lebanese, I am sold.

What type of game do you run?

I run pure form game. I also teach it. It is based purely on vibing emotionally, solid inner game and being totally connected to your masculine polarity.

How do you change your game when you’re abroad versus in your home country? How do foreign girls and American/Western girls differ?

The basic pattern detailed above never changes but in my home country I tend to avoid English girls and go for foreigners and, when I am abroad I tend to go for the local girls of the country I am in.

In Western countries, girls have mostly lost connection to their female polarity and are far less sensual, soft, and feminine. They act like men. Also the concept of a woman knowing how to take care of her man has mostly been lost in Western countries and is seen as subservient whereas with many foreign girls, being able to take care of their man is a point of pride and not being able to take care of him is regarded as a failure.

Describe your travel experiences and strategy.

My travel experiences stretch across several decades. I have been around the world a few times in a single loop. I have taken many one-off trips but, when I have taken those one-off trips I like to spend at least a month in a country and explore every bit of it if i can.

Going on a holiday for a few weeks and lying on a beach has no interest for me at all.

In terms of strategy, I use the internet to build a prospect pipeline of local women before I arrive. I don’t buy a guidebook so I don’t feel the temptation to get trapped in a tourist loop. In short I avoid the three principal mistakes that a lot of people make:

1. Arriving in an unfamiliar country or city with an empty prospect pipeline.
2. Being lead around by the nose by their Lonely Planet guidebook.
3. Hanging out with people from your hostel as a social network instead of meeting locals.

What kind of lodgings do you stay in?

A mixture of hostels, crashing on couches and hotels (if the country has decent affordable hotels). Depends on how I am feeling and how much privacy I think I will require. If I am staying in a dorm or crashing on a couch, I like to scope out the location of a decent short time hotel to avoid losing lays for any logistical reasons.

How do you approach integrating yourself into a new culture with regard to food, language, local customs, etc.?

My approach to travelling is when I arrive in a country I want to know and embrace the culture of the country that I am in. The four principle ways of doing that are:

1. Walk their streets
2. Eat their food
3. Sex the local women
4. Speak the language

Obviously with language, that’s connected to how long you are going to be in a country. If I am in a place long enough to merit learning the language then I do, and, if not then I don’t (apart from learning one or two cute phrases).

What do you fill your days with?

Mostly chilling these days. I have already seen enough temples, churches, etc. in my life so I tend not to do the tours that are laid on for tourists. If it’s something that sounds fun that I have not done before then I will do it even though it’s touristic.

For example, I was in Vang Vieng last month and went tubing on the Mekong which is the number one tourist draw in a very touristic town, but I have never been tubing before and the parties that were happening in the bars that all the tubers stop off all the way along the river were raging. Music was great. I was swinging off rope swings and throwing myself in the Mekong, zip lining, water slides, mud volleyball, etc. I had the most fun I have had in a long time.

So I keep an open mind to fun even if it’s touristic and try not to be a snob and miss out on cool stuff just because it touristy.

Do you have a basic strategy for meeting women while you travel?

1. Fill prospect pipeline before I arrive with local women and hook up with them.

2. Avoid hooking up with backpackers or travelers, making exceptions only for relatively local countries. For example when travelling in Argentina, there’s nothing wrong with hooking up with a Brazilian from your hostel. You are still in South America having a South American experience at least.

3. Adapt to local culture. For example, I know that in many Southeast Asian countries that it is just not part of the culture for local women to go to bars and drink alcohol. In the bars I know that I am going to encounter only tourists and semi pros. Therefore I know I will need to day game and to shore [bang prostitutes without paying for it].

How do you make a living? How did you get into it? What are some skills you had to learn?

A mixture. I play poker, teach game and lifestyle design, and do freelance journalism. My most reliable income however is passive rental income from property I have in London. In terms of skills, there are plenty but I would say that lifestyle arbitrage and learning how to use it has been a very key skill.

I believe you have the most flags out of any guy on the forum. How many do you have?

Well there are there are only 193 widely recognised sovereign states. I lost count a long time ago but I would guess around 75 flags right now.

The whole flag thing is a bit of fun though. I don’t regard either picking up girls or capturing flags as a competition. Also, I am not a womaniser which I would imagine a serious “flag collector” would be.

A womaniser is somebody who uses women for sex, tosses them aside and says “next” whereas, as you can surmise from my philosophy of maintaining the connections that I have with women for a long time, I am only really interested in long term relationships. Not long term relationships in the way that society typically defines them, but long term relationships non the less.

I just love to travel and embrace the culture of the country that I am in. Sexing the local wimmins is just one of the ways of embracing the culture. One cannot truly appreciate or know a culture without sexing the local wimmins.

What are your future goals? How do you see your life playing out in the next 10-20 years?

I have designed my lifestyle in such a way that I have total freedom. Principally that involves removing all obligations from my life and removing location dependency as well. That allows me to live in a totally free manner, removes the need to plan and allows me to improvise and to truly live my life in the moment. So my plan in the next 10-20 years is to do whatever the hell I feel like doing at any particular time.

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The next interview is with a guy who needs to either start a blog or write a book. He has dropped the most amount of travel and game knowledge that is not only accurate but also fun to read, so it’s no coincidence he has the highest reputation count of everyone on the forum (even higher than me). He’s the only guy I haven’t met recently whose material I’ve successfully integrated into my own game.

MiXXmaster’s most recent contribution was a field report on Solvenia (you can see from the replies how eagerly forum members await his reports). You’ll find his best advice in threads about Brazil and Colombia.

On to the interview…

1. Can you give us a little background on your age and the type of environment you grew up in? What are some things that influenced you earlier in life that put you into the position you are in now?

I’m 35. I grew up in very tough streets of Brooklyn, New York to humble and hard-working class parents. I was never the most popular kid in school, and especially my neighborhood since my parents did not allow me to integrate with the riff-raff that plagued my streets. I got into a lot of fist fights as a kid and a teenager, mainly because I was different, and was not part of the lower-class, Puerto Rican/Dominican Hispanic community.

Both my parents worked, and did not live off the welfare system like the rest of the poor Spanish kids in my neighborhood. I got good grades in school; the other kids envied me and called me names all the time. I was probably one of the few kids whose parents were not on welfare, and who had a good family without drama or a brother in jail, or a mother with a new boyfriend every other week.

What influenced me the most to succeed in life was the day I was jumped by eight neighborhood kids. They beat me pretty bad with their steel baseball bats, bicycle chains, and Timberland combat boots. I was 12 at the time, and I remember that beating ’til this very day. They beat me senseless. Sure, I got in a few solid punches of my own, but sadly, it was not enough. I had not done anything to them, but just because I was not part of the street gang and aimless lifestyle they had, or who knows, maybe they were just bored, I was always a target of violence. I guess there is nothing better to keep you humble in life than to get punched in the face and feel real pain.

As the blood fell from my eyes, I knew that this is not the life I wanted, and that the only way out was to educate myself as much as I could so that one day I would never have to return to the ghettos of Brooklyn, NY. I could have done like my cousin, who got fed up with the daily fights, got a gun, and shot 3 kids dead—he is still doing life in prison after 20 years of being locked up. That’s not what I wanted either.

Among all of this mayhem, there was a neighborhood girl……yes, a girl that gave me butterflies all over my stomach. Her name was Johanna (she looked like Pebbles, the late 80′s pop singer). Man she was beautiful, and I never knew just how much she liked me. I probably regret never having the guts to talk to her, and rumor was she liked me very much and always asked about me secretly. One day, many years later, in my early 20s, I found out my then best friend banged her. It broke my heart to hear that my best friend banged my childhood crush, and I never told him.

2. Talk about your ideal girl. What does she look like? Where is she from? What’s her personality like?

Wow—that’s a tough question. I’ve had so many women in my life, I am not sure there is such a girl. I am attracted to intellectual/executive women, but those women come with a hefty price tag—marriage. I don’t believe in marriage. Whenever there is free choice to walk away, it somehow makes being with somebody fun. You are not pressured or legally bound to stay, and that’s what marriage is to me; a legal contract designed to punish a man for not being happy down the road with the woman he chose.

If I want straight ‘no-strings attached’ sex, I go for Latin women. They are hot in bed and thirsty for sex as much as men. However, as a girlfriend and someone I just want to do anything with, and maybe spend Christmas morning opening presents with, I like women that are mentally a challenge to me (otherwise I get bored very quick). A woman with a playful charm, and witty personality is a winner to me.

3. What type of game do you run? How does your typical bang go down? How do you change your game when you’re abroad versus in your home country? How do foreign girls and American girls differ?

My game is usually 75% playful, 20% funny, and 5% cocky. I usually run street game. Street game is just about anywhere women can be found—of course to mix it up, I often to clubs, but only before 1:00am—after that, its a waste of time to be at a club, and not in a cozy, private apartment of a woman you are seducing.

I typically approach women in a very playful manner, kind of like the innocence of a kid inviting her to play outside her grown-up world. I observe carefully how she reacts to this approach, and can usually tell what outcome I will have if she plays along, and how she plays along. I typically bang women on the 3rd date, but wait no more than 5 dates before completely going aloof on her, or dropping her completely and moving on to the next one.

When I am abroad, I typically get as much information about the culture as possible, learn some friendly lines, and look for places to take girls away from their everyday lives. Foreign girls give me the sense that they compete for me, compared to American girls where it constantly feels like I must compete for their attention. The roles reverse in other words, and I enjoy being approached and chased when in a foreign country.

4. Describe your travel experiences and strategy. What kind of lodgings do you stay in? How do you approach integrating yourself into a new culture with regard to food, language, local customs, etc.? What do you fill your days with? Do you have a basic strategy for meeting women while you travel?

I usually travel to private apartments for the convenience of being able to integrate with local people faster than in hotels packed with tourist or traveling businessmen. Most women hate the stigma associated with going to see a foreigner in a hotel. The apartment gives them the same feel they’d have with a local guy. As far as integrating with culture, I usually start querying Facebook contacts, and making new friends and asking about it. Some even turn into lays when I arrive.

5. How do you make a living? How did you get into it? What are some skills you had to learn?

I work in the film industry as a film scorer. I produce music for commercials, TV shows, movies and Latin soap operas worldwide. I started this field working as a foot courier at Unitel Video in New York when I was 14. Mariah Carey came in one day to review her video “Dream Lover,” one of her very first songs produced by Tommy Mottola. I then met a comedian popular in the 90s named Sinbad, and sat down to edit a Showtime special he was doing. I sat through the editing session, and I knew it was something I wanted to do for the rest of my life, especially since I got to work with stars and celebrities. They’re now my clients.

Aside from the creative side, I had to learn many skills, including how to showcase and sell my work (a.k.a marketing guru). I also play musical instruments.

6. What are your future goals? How do you see your life playing out in the next 10-20 years?

As I approach 40, I think about winding down a bit—working less, and doing more with my life. I never married or had kids, but I think my current set-up is perfect to travel the world worry-free. I want to experience cultures and find a place to live where I will enjoy a slower paced lifestyle, while still chasing local women.

Twenty years from now? I will just be happy to be healthy like a race horse. I cannot ask for much—I lost my father to a car accident—so you never know what curve ball life will throw at you. I’ll enjoy what life has been able to give me short-term: physical health and financial health too.

7. What’s the most important thing you’ve learned so far in life?

Never be afraid to walk away from anything, and keep moving. Don’t get pinned down by staying still for a long period of time, and don’t be afraid to move on to next challenge. Things always work out.

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There are a few guys on the forum who are either living the dream or close to it: independently mobile while banging foreign beauties. This week I’ll share interviews with two of those men (in the future I’ll be putting up more).

Today’s interview is with Naughty Nomad (a guy who raw dogged an HIV-infected African girl). Even though he’s in his early 20s, he has collected more flags than most men will get in their lifetimes. Without further ado…

1. Can you give us a little background on your age and the type of environment you grew up in? What are some things that influenced you earlier in life that put you into the position you are in now?

I’m coming on 24 years old and just finished university (in stereotypical Irish fashion the family business is in pubs). I was fortunate enough to have a liberal upbringing as my parents are entrepreneurial hippies who love to travel and smoke weed. Since I was a little kid I always dreamed about exploring the world and simply refuse to accept alternative conventions. Luckily, I have friends and family of a similar mindset. I now work my life around travel.

2. Talk about your ideal girl. What does she look like? Where is she from? What’s her personality like?

I’ve thought a lot about this. She wouldn’t be Irish that’s for sure! You got to diversify the gene pool.

With looks I’m very particular. She would have to be very exotic, the kind of women who enters a room and renders other men dumb; jaws on the floor hot. I prefer sallow skin, jet black hair, very slim, a low upper arm circumference, good hip-to-waist ratio, a strong jaw line and big eyes—I told you I was particular. Certain ethnic groups fit the bill – Arabic, Eastern Slavic (preferably Ukrainian), Amharic (Ethiopian), Indian, Armenian & Latin girls.

With personality I guess the main thing is she can mingle with friends and family effortlessly. That requires a girl who’s relaxed and confident with a good sense of humour. This needs to be balanced with someone who is passionate, sensual and affectionate. Who best fits the bill in this regard? In my experience I would say Filipinas. There’s a reason they’re rumoured to make the best wives.

So to answer your question, my ideal women would have the personality of a Filipina and be mixed race Ukrainian/Ethiopian. That’s why they call them ideals right? Why stop there? I could become a Muslim and get four wives – a Malaysian, a Saudi, an Ethiopian and a Slavic Azerbaijani—now that’s ideal.

In reality, I’ll probably fuck half the planet trying to my “ideal women,” reach 50, give up and marry a Balinese beauty queen in her 20s. Sigh.

3. What type of game do you run? How does your typical bang go down? How do you change your game when you’re abroad versus in your home country? How do foreign girls and Western girls differ?

I peacock quite a bit and it works wonders—sombreros, jaunty summer hats and berets often make up my attire. I get approached quite a fair bit as a result. I’m also quite direct, but without being needy; kind of take it or leave it approach. Consequently, 90% of the women I sleep with is within 7 hours of knowing them. I have the same pick-up line for every girl I meet… “Where are you from?” Generally, I’ll have been to their country or can speak a few words of their language. This really gets the ball rolling. I DHV [demonstrate higher value] with a few travel stories, make a few jokes and try to get them jealous by talking to other girls. Generally, if I manage to kiss, there is a high probability of a fuck. I like to use some NLP stuff to get girls horny as hell soon in the interaction and then I back off, ignoring them for ages—it’s great fun! My mid and end game is solid, provided the logistics are favourable.

My game plan changes massively depending on the region. In Eastern Europe I run a lot of internet game and arrange dates before I go over. I’ve hooked up with quite a few girls this way, even banged a model or two. In Asia, I use day game and give out my number in shopping centers. In Africa, I just show up! Haha. Western girls are different, as direct game isn’t as effective and a lot of BS is required. Outside my country, the Irish card works wonders, especially with Americans. In Ireland, I generally get lazy, save my cash and just find an Asian or African fuckbuddy for a few weeks at a time.

4. Describe your travel experiences and strategy. What kind of lodgings do you stay in? How do you approach integrating yourself into a new culture with regard to food, language, local customs, etc.? What do you fill your days with? Do you have a basic strategy for meeting women while you travel?

I have a serious hard-on for dangerous places. I’ve been to over 50 countries, including Antarctica and a few self proclaimed republics. I try to travel 3 months in the summer and 1 month in the winter, with a few side trips in between. I generally stay in cheap places as I usually travel for long periods of time. I’ve couch surfed a few times—it’s a fantastic way to meet new friends and get into local social circles. I love mingling with natives as much as possible and usually take a language course before I travel. I’d like to think I’m pretty adaptable—I’ll eat, drink and wear pretty much anything.

My strategy for meeting women is documented above but I would add that having a local SIM card is crucial, as well as knowing a good place to take a girl on a date and a potential sex location afterwards. I spend my days doing the usual tourist stuff, but usually stoned. In some places, I just go nuts and can have up to three dates a day, that keeps me pretty busy!

5. How do you make a living? How did you get into it? What are some skills you had to learn?

I own a small printing and web/graphic design company with an office in my hometown. It’s a simple set-up, but it makes money. On weekends, I’m a DJ and a freelance croupier. I’m also in a band and have a small recording studio that sporadically gets business. My income is irregular but is flexible enough to allow me to travel. I’m by no means rich, but when you’re your own boss you can do whatever the fuck you want, when you want.

6. What are your future goals? How do you see your life playing out in the next 10-20 years?

By 35-40, I want to have visited every single country in the world! I’m currently training for my microlight (ultra-light aircraft) license and plan to circumnavigate the globe by the same time frame. I’m also investigating opening a few hostels abroad in the near future; a great way to finance living abroad, meet women and gain fluency in a language. We shall see.. for now the world is my oyster! I would also like to see the blog becoming more popular, it’s very enjoyable sharing one’s experiences and getting into the whole blogger buzz. It’s only a few months up and things are going great.

7. What’s the most important thing you’ve learned so far in life?

There are no absolutes and life is fucking short. Everything is relative, especially with women. As soon as you step outside your own country and start sniffing round, you come to realise the grass is definitely greener; beautiful women are very curious to meet foreign men and are in abundance. Who are we not to indulge?

Naughty Nomad’s blog has numerous travel guides for Asian and European countries, with a main focus on girls and drugs. Read other lifestyle interviews here.