From September to November I taught 16 workshops to 19 men. While it was hard work (believe it or not), it was extremely rewarding to see guys sometimes make a sizable improvement in just a few hours. Teaching the workshops gave me a changing-the-world-one-man-at-a-time sort of pleasure.
The flow of knowledge wasn’t only one-way, and from each workshop I learned not only want it takes to be a good teacher but also what works for the average man. I can teach game that works for me all day, but the workshops helped me refine game that works for a broader stroke of man. If something that worked for me didn’t get as much mileage for the majority of students, I made necessary adjustments.
I want to give a little preview of the day game book I’m working on and share three common mistakes that my students made during the day.
1. They didn’t talk enough. During the day you need to be able to basically talk nonstop for the 2-5 minutes it takes for a girl to warm up to the conversation. An early pause is death, and a huge chunk of the book will be about maintaining conversations even when the girl isn’t giving you much to work with. A universal problem is guys running out of chat within 30 seconds then asking personal questions, turning the approach into an uncomfortable interview that pushes the girl away.
2. They stood too close. Guys are standing next to girls like they are in a bar or nightclub. During the day there is no benefit to proximity like there is at night. It has the downside of making her nervous and uncomfortable. If you can raise your arm and touch her, you’re standing too close.
3. They teased. The pickup community has failed guys with regard to teasing. Guys think they are teasing a girl when they’re really insulting, and doing that during the day is a guarantee of killing the approach because she hasn’t consumed alcohol to soften the blow. Many times I’ve been listening in to an approach and predicted the end it after I heard such a “tease” (it comes 20-60 seconds after the mistake was made, but sometimes instantly if it’s harsh enough). I’ve had to take a hard line with my students: “absolutely no teasing.” During the day we build attraction through other means.
The parts of the workshop that got my heart going was when I got to listen in to an approach by a student who I’d put in the high beginner level. He would have approaches where he’s able to move the conversation forward, but he’d be making enough mistakes where it’s very possible she’d walk away. I’d be standing there a few dozen feet away with my hidden earpiece, pacing back and forth while clenching a sweat-soaked napkin and saying to myself: “No no don’t say that… change the topic… go for the close… why why why!” I know I was going through more stress than the student. Other situations where the guy was bombing or doing exceptionally well didn’t get my heart going like those middle-of-the-road approaches. It was like watching the beginning of a classic porn movie. Will the pizza delivery guy have sex with the young girl or will he not notice she’s half naked and blatantly staring at his dick while slowly licking her lips? The suspense is killing me!
I must say that the wireless radio system was a wise investment. I was able to give targeted advice and identify a clear pattern to success and failure. They were such a benefit that I don’t think I could teach a workshop in good conscious without them, because otherwise I simply won’t know the bulk of what the student is doing wrong (or right). My day game book will be stronger as a result.
I wanted to give a last thank you to the guys who took a 2.0 workshop, especially since I know it’s not easy to give a random guy off the internet several hundred dollars. I sincerely hope I put them on the right path.