I don’t do social circle game in the States. The energy it takes to maintain one outweighs the cost of cold approaching. I’ll go to parties but I won’t keeping hanging out with someone just to cultivate a friendship in the hopes that I’ll get introduced to a reasonable-looking girl. My friends must have constant value, not future potential. Another reason I don’t care for social circle game is that a large percentage of girls in the United States are ugly, so the average circle will not provide me with the quality that I desire.
In other countries though, where getting prospects from cold approaching is more difficult, and girls are more beautiful on average, maintaining a social circle may be worth it. I would say that’s the case for countries like Argentina, Colombia, Spain, and Italy. Brazil… maybe.
Social circles fulfill an important human need for drama and gossiping. Very few secrets are kept. Everyone in the circle gets dissected and, oftentimes, shredded. What one person in the circle sees is what everyone sees. We use this to our advantage.
If your social circle is mixed with guys and girls, as it should be, follow this important rule: cultivate a rock star image. Do that in two ways:
1. Conceal the less desirable girls you are fucking.
2. Share stories that paint you as a cultured man of the world who sleeps with beautiful women, even if that’s not quite the case.
The first point is important. Believe it or not, who I fuck in D.C. makes it’s rounds. It’s also happened where girls I’ve dated have been socially connected to girls I’ve violated in the past. None of this has caused me any harm for one reason: I date cute girls. The more they talk about me and who I’ve been with, the more they remind themselves that I have high standards and the ability to get quality women.
Girls want men who get with pretty girls. The worst thing you can do is be known for dumpster diving. One or two drunken transgressions are okay, but if everyone knows you always go after ugly girls, you’ll be blacklisted from social circle sex. Girls don’t mind fucking guys who’ve been with a million girls, but not if all those girls are far less attractive than she is.
The second point is useful for new friendships abroad. Tell your new friends interesting stories of international girls you’ve dated. Don’t speak negatively of those girls, and be sure to stress their beauty or otherwise special qualities. For example, I like telling the story of the Colombian girl who made me meet her mother on a mountain for our second date, which set up the bang for the date after. The beta males of the group will then broadcast these stories to other girls, thinking it portrays me as a male slut (a quality they believe girls hate), but of course it has the opposite effect. Those girls will be much more receptive when I see them out again.
I would never tell these new friends that I have to approach X number of girls to get laid. Instead, I stress how “lucky” I am that I keep running into girls who like hairy men. It’s eerie, really. There is no magic or romance in highlighting a skill that came from hundreds of hours of hard work. Appear the natural instead. (You’ve probably noticed how this manipulation ventures into the territory of Robert Greene’s 48 Laws Of Power.)
New social circles don’t know your past. They don’t know you used to be a loser who couldn’t get laid, and whose only skill was the ability to conduct marathon raids on World Of Warcraft. While you can’t shape your image with people you already know, you can in these new friendships. Make yourself an all-around interesting guy who gets love from women, while being modest at the same time, and wait until you get introduced to a girl who seems to have a little twinkle in her eye with a smile that is more than you would expect. That’s because she’s heard about you.