There are some guys out there who are still skeptical if a more indirect, aloof game really works. This is the type of guy that wants to walk up to girl, tell her she’s cute, and be done with it. All he has to do to become a believer is eavesdrop on a group of girls talking about guys, specifically when one talks about guys she likes who is not contacting her or asking her out.

“We’ve been texting and then it just stopped.”

“Should I text him again?”

“We had such a good conversation.”

“I’m not sure what else I could have done.”

“I really like him.”

And so on. It’s pretty fascinating how pathetic girls get when they like guy, but what you will never hear them say is, “I like this guy a lot because he texts me every ten minutes.”

You will never hurt your chances if you lean towards the aloof end of the game by contacting her at a tortoise’s pace, especially after your first date. Assuming she is remotely interested in you, there is little reason to worry about if you waited too long or are taking it too slow. While you will not automatically be punished if you go fast, scarcity equals value for the typical easy girls you will be trying to get into bed.

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Can I just say, it irks the piss out of me when chicks do that crap.

I speak from experience.

Thankfully, I’m older and wiser these days.

*ahem*

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Agreed. #16 of the 48 Laws of Power states:

Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor

Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.

So much truth to this.
It sucks when you like the chick though.
Value through scarcity is the golden rule in all markets – even the sex market.

Ok, I have question. Some very attractive girl added me to her facebook. I went through the motions of asking who she was and we started messaging each other playfully (joking etc.) everyday. This weekend, we exchanging numbers and have not spoken. There is the sheen of mystery to the whole thing that is hot- and I’ve been holding back pulling the trigger because I wanted to maintain that mystery. Should I pull the trigger and ask her to meet up or go at a tortoise pace? ps. she texted me first and I basically only text her as a response to her text (this is usually followed by a thread of messages back and forth).

4: No rule is absolute, and to know what strategy to follow you have to understand the girl.

On the flip side of this you can easily argue that momentum is important and you should forge ahead. So which do you do?

Well, if the girl is excited about hearing from you every time you contact her and doesn’t take long to respond, you can keep up the pace (without smothering her). But if she’s acting cool or careful, then slow it down.

If in doubt, go slow to medium.

“On the flip side of this you can easily argue that momentum is important and you should forge ahead. So which do you do?”

Great point. I am a huge advocate of not being available, which is great because I am usually not. (Gives a lot of validity to the “aloof” Game.)

But if the iron is hot, strike.

I usually base it on my own time. If I really am busy or traveling (which I often am) then I play aloof, with the girl in the “home base”. If I have some time, or I am only in town for a short period of time, I strike.

No point in playing aloof with a fly Girl you just met in Barcelona when your plane flight leaves in two days.

Urgency can be your friend. Especially when you are “sticking and moving” (so to speak) and traveling.

This is the way you “live” the Game, and not just “play” the Game.

- MPM

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Hey sorry, I’m #4, for some reason I couldn’t log in. Yeah, I’m thinking of pulling the trigger. She asked me out on Saturday (last minute) via text to come and meet up with her friends, but I had prior engagements (naw whatta mean?). I want to so badly alpha this – but does that mean initiating or going slow?

Thanks for the advice guys…..

I say just take it nice and smooth, relax a bit, and don’t worry about it. If you start worrying too much about any one girl your objectivity is going to be compromised. Find another two or three while you’re waiting to see how the first plays out.

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“She asked me out on Saturday (last minute) via text to come and meet up with her friends, but I had prior engagements”

Good move. Never meet with her friends.

What do you want to do? Meet her “buddy” from accounting named Timmy? Get caught in a conversation with her girlfriend trying to screen you out all night?

This of course does not apply if she is friend with Sir Richard Branson and you want to pitch him on a biz idea. Or if she is friends with a gang of Model girls.

See, Game is never one thing.

Case by case….and that is what keeps it so interesting.

That, and the act of swooping fly girls.

- MPM

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Every man is at his best when he doesn’t give a shit. Its a sub-consious thing. One of Roosh’s best lines in a post is when he said “I have never met a succesful player who cared.”

Not giving a shit = not calling a lot = equals striking when the iron is hot = rolling her over on thursday night.

-i never get laid though, so who knows.
I also believe that looks matter a lot.

“Find another two or three while you’re waiting to see how the first plays out.”

Excellent advice.

Always work multiple girls at once.

Create a supply and demand deficit.

You are the supply. More girls you have cooking, the more demand you have. Your value rises.

Game Economics.

- MPM

The G Manifesto’s last blog post: Ricky Hatton defeats Paulie Malignaggi in the 11th Round.

Women like to compete for your undivided attention. Spread it around a little and let them see you do it and watch what happens.

Got it.

Not giving a shit will help if you are already sought after by women. If you are not attractive to women anyway, then I don’t not giving a shit is going to make any difference, you are going to have it tough either way.

Mulptiple women,
I learned the hard way that when it comes to women and frequent attention from them or sex for that matter its about “getting the ball rolling”.
You have to get a few gals going 3-4 or more as far as prospects for sex, dates,girls that you can call right now, etc..and you’ll notice the sex/women”door open”so to speak and women will show more interest in you once this being created in your life.(even if they dont know about the other women you are working on)
Notice how a married guy will tell you how allot of women are showing interest in him at work or what ever situation vs the guy who doesnt have or talk to any girls at all.
Try it and you’ll notice it.I observed this when I was married. Women offered themselves to me more for some reason over when i was single and jerkin off.

“Jedi mind trick!”
I used to do this aloof thing when I was younger.
me and my wingman back in the day used to call it “Jedi mind trick”
Girls hated it when they are hot and you are not really paying attention to them at all.It fucks with their whole aura inshit!you of course have to study the room and notice who is hot and not.
Another friend of mine would walk into a bar around 7pm(a decent bar, not a white trash hole,or spook joint)with a suit on like he just got off work.he’d notice that cluster fuck of horny losers gathering around and leaning in to the hot girl with a quick glance and would sit further down at the end of the bar and ordered a drink for himself and wouldnt look at her and would just be relaxed.a few minutes later the “hot” chick would gravitate over to him and start talking to him kinda wondering(hey this guy is different I want to see what makes him differnt.)the whole time he played it cool and had confidence that he didnt give a shit.he used to get really hot girls im remember.

not being attractive to women ,well they might have to work harder at it then the hotter guy but looks aint everything but I had a wing man once who wasnt that good looking and he’d get some really nice looking girls.looking back I had better looks than him and I never got as many girls in general compared to this cock sucker I used to know.
Man If I had the ball this guy had It would of been a whole lot funner purseing the girls.

@ anon in post #4

chance are, unless (1) you’re ridiculously good looking or (2) something external has gone on in that a girlfriend of her’s put in an amazing word and she’s crazy with low self-esteem it is actually just one of your buddies with a fake account joking around.

I try to avoid messaging women at all costs especially in the early stages if you just have picked up their number from the night before and you want to avoid early tests and game playing.

For example, I call and leave a voicemail they inevitably still text back with “hey,sorry I missed your call ya id love to ”

Seems to be a trend in certain parts of europe for women to prefer texting or maybe its just the women I deal with…

crow: in south america texting is extremely popular because texting is considerably cheaper than talking.

in the u.s. texting is MORE expensive than talking but it’s still popular. go figure.

“in south america texting is extremely popular because texting is considerably cheaper than talking.”

And isn’t it so much better getting a text from a fly Colombian girl than a American girl?

Checking flight prices to Colombia now…

- MPM

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in the u.s. texting is MORE expensive than talking but it’s still popular. go figure.

Most phone services offer unlimited texting for $9.99 or even less, depending on whether they are running a special.

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