I Forgot How It’s Like To Get Cockblocked

I went to Cafe Citron with The Rookie on a recent Thursday night. It used to be one of the only Latin spots in the city, always packed with sweaty, aggressive Central American dudes, but so many new salsa spots have opened that it was barely half full this time.

There were three girls dancing in a tight circle near us, definitely the hottest ones there.

“I’m trying to think of my line,” Rookie said.

“Doesn’t matter, it’s a suicide mission right now. One girl won’t just stop dancing with her friends to talk to you.” I thought about it for a second and added, “A dancing approach could work.”

“I’ll just wait until one goes to the bathroom.”

“Or goes to the bar.”

One went to the bar. She was closest to me so I made a move. I tap tapped her on the shoulder. She turned around. “Excuse me but your salsa dancing seems like it’s from Colombia.”

“Why do you think that?”

“Just the movements. That’s how Colombian people dance to salsa.” I was making this up of course.

“No actually I’m from Brazil.”

Living in Brazil for six months has given me an automatic two minute conversation with B girls in the States, because they’re mildly curious about the where and why of my time there. I told this girl a few sentences in Portuguese and she’s smiling and asking me light questions, but I noticed her body was angled towards the bar, as if she wanted to walk away. To gauge her interest I said, “Sorry I didn’t mean to stop you on your way to getting a drink.” She was totally free to leave at that point without being rude. Instead she said, “No that’s fine.” I was getting ready to buckle down when her two friends simultaneously pulled her away from me in a coordinated attack.

I went back to my spot and was trying to understand the emotions I was feeling. It was a mixture of disappointment, annoyance, and confusion. Why would those girls do that? Didn’t they see she was having a nice conversation with a non-creepy guy? It’s not like I was trying to lead her to another part of the bar. I didn’t even start touching her yet.

It’s true I’ve been cockblocked in South America, but usually when doing throwaway approaches on the street or when talking to a girl who had a boyfriend I failed to spot. It has been about 14 months since getting assaulted with a cockblock of this caliber. Standing there with my warm Corona beer, I tried to remember back to when this used to be a common occurrence.

An hour later came closing time and the lights got brighter. I was walking out with the Rookie when he spotted the Brazilian leaving with her group. “I’ll try again,” I said.

I reapproached her in Portuguese. Before I could even finish my sentence, a new female friend wrapped her arm around her and led her away.

“Wow that was rude,” I said to the new cockblocker.

I don’t remember the exact words, but there were a couple tense back and forths where she told me to fuck off while I told her that her that she has no class.

We were out on the sidewalk so I expected a white knight to “save” her and get in my face, but I forgot that Latino men are not as pussified as American betas. One came up to me and said, “Stop talking to that bitch.” He probably got cockblocked by her earlier.

It’s been too long that I’ve gotten into an argument with a cockblocker, so my attack was not as strong as I would’ve liked (she definitely wasn’t about to cry and seemed to get a kick out of our little street battle). And then it hit me—I actually had a scripted counterattack to this problem.

If you get cockblocked by a girl, you need to respond by shaking her core so hard that she hesitates doing it ever again, like a mouse who hits the wrong lever and gets the shit zapped out of him. No jokes and no wit—you gotta get dirty.

This is what you must say to the cockblocker. Say it with a stern tone, like a parent scolding a child.

“Did you really just do that? I’m being friendly and respectful to your friend and you rudely interrupt. Did your parents teach you to be anti-social like that?”

Then shake your head and turn your back on her. Don’t engage her in a conversation or even act like you hear her response. She no longer exists.

It had to have been bad if I started an anti-cockblocking movement, and while from a sociological perspective it’s interesting how cockblocking is a cultural phenomenon, I’m ready to destroy the next ugly bitch that interrupts me while I’m talking to a girl that is obviously considering having this hairiness on top of her in the throes of passion.

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  • Anon

    Oh how quickly they are ruined by Americanization. Must be something in the water.

  • Bob

    second

  • http://thedatingcroniclesoftylerd.blogspot.com/ Tyler

    Ireland had some pretty harsh cockblockers. Those Irish girls moved in packs. Once, 2 girls got ripped away from my friend and I by the group leader. This was when I saw the best response to cock blocking ever. My friend grabbed a pint of Fat Frog, a green drink they make, and without hesitation threw the entire pint directly into her face. I saw it in slow motion.

    Tyler’s last blog post: Double Date.

  • j r

    i guess this is all the more reason for day game.

  • http://therookiedc.wordpress.com/ The Rookie

    The cockblocker went at you with all the fire of a stereotypical Puerto Rican from the Bronx. I don’t think she would have backed down unless you punched her in the face. She was that aggressive.

    The Rookie’s last blog post: The Biggest Reason I’m Getting Blown Out.

  • Carl Sagan

    I’m ready to destroy the next ugly bitch that interrupts me while I’m talking to a girl that is obviously considering having this hairiness on top of her in the throes of passion.

    :lol:

  • Reality Bitch Slap

    Roosh: “This is what you must say to the cockblocker. Say it with a stern tone, like a parent scolding a child.

    “Did you really just do that? I’m being friendly and respectful to your friend and you rudely interrupt. Did your parents teach you to be anti-social like that?”

    That’s not going to do anything. There is no penalty in the current shit USA culture for inappropriate female behavior, the say and do whatever with impunity.

    Let’s also add in that fact that women do not go to clubs to meet men. They go to clubs to hang out with their gaggle of girlfriends and tell guys to fuck off. I am quite certain that Brazilian girl got off every time one of her friends dragged her away from you. Being mean gives females an orgasm. When will you learn?

    I’ll bet you are thinking of getting your ass back to Brazil right about now. You’d be wise to do so.

  • http://greendroppings.com greendroppings

    @7 Although it’s tempting to escape to a country with less cockblocking, I think it’s useful to learn how to better deflect cockblockers in the future, as you’ll encounter them in other situations when you’re not after pussy. There are inconsiderate people everywhere.

    I think that I would try my best to briefly engage the cockblocker(s), even with a wave or a handshake(or cheek kiss), just to further show them that I’m not a ‘creep’ only after one thing.

    The problem is that in many cases it’s true that these girls just go out to ‘have fun with eachother’ and reject men, and sometimes you just have to tell a girl that she’s being antisocial and rude and hope it makes a difference in the future.

    greendroppings’s last blog post: “We go through too much bullshit just to mess with these drunken hot girls”.

  • Justin

    They might of smelled your game from a mile away and decided to save there friend! They did the right thing they saved her from being another one of your statistics! You cant get mad when someone recognizes your game you just gotta move on and pick a better target!

  • http://www.thegmanifesto.com The G Manifesto

    “There were three girls dancing in a tight circle near us”

    Were the other two Brazilian or American?

    - MPM

    The G Manifesto’s last blog post: Bang Colombia by Roosh Review.

  • Tampa

    There is an instant reaction from the lonely females that says “don’t let my friend get laid because i’m not getting laid.” It’s an odd occurrence. Essentially what they are doing is subconsciously stating their inferiority to their lady friend. Because if a person is strong enough in their presence they’d be happy to let their friend ham it out with the suitor themselves. But that’s not how women think. They don’t want to be alone in that bar and perceived as “not wanted”; so much so that they’d rather keep their friends alone.

    It’s sad. But that’s how human beings work.

  • Raliv

    “That’s not going to do anything. There is no penalty in the current shit USA culture for inappropriate female behavior, the say and do whatever with impunity.

    Let’s also add in that fact that women do not go to clubs to meet men. They go to clubs to hang out with their gaggle of girlfriends and tell guys to fuck off.”

    Women are getting bad. I have noticed a downward progression of the behavior of women just in the past year. Girls today say and do things that have no merit.

    Last night I was walking home from having a drink with my friend when I saw some girls walking to a new bar. I politely called over to them. “hey guys, whats up?”

    “Fuck off”

    “Excuse me”

    One of them approached me and got in my face and starting cussing me out about something. I am livid. I tell her how rude she is and that I was making small talk. At this point, her friend is trying to pull her away from me and my friend is trying to stop a fight but I refused to back down from a stupid slutty bitch. I tell her to walk away or hit me so I can give her the backhand slap across the face she deserves.

    Eventually, her friend pulled her away as she screamed and cussed at me simply because I said hi. I smiled at her, trying to keep my cool.

    I was extremely aggravated over this unwarranted attack on me. What is happening to women? I seriously think I need to start doing day game. Why are women downtown when all they want to do is reject men?

  • Justin

    Ugly girls have game because they get to sit on the sideline and examine there hot friends relationships. They observe game in action all the time from an objective perspective (cuz there not getting hit on there friend is). As a result they edit the right from wrong guys out of there friends life. PUA guys cant complain about cockblockers because your trying to run game on someone and then turn around and get mad cuz there friend didnt let you work there magic on them. In reality everytime a pua gets cockblocked the cockblocker actually saved there friend from being a statistic! You cant be mad at that!

  • Anonymous

    Why do you think that anti-cockblocking line is so great? It’s pretty fucking lame. How is that going to put an end to cockblocking?
    Here’s how you end cockblocking: Don’t look like a creepy, hairy, scummy, d-bag.

  • Justin

    It is never anybody else’s fault if you get rejected it is always your fault! Something you are doing isnt right. Your job is to figure out what that is and correct it. Nobody owes you anything nobody has to say hi to you nobody has to be nice to you. Respect is earned not given and if people dont respect you its your own damn fault! Figure out what your doing wrong and fix it!

  • j r

    “I was extremely aggravated over this unwarranted attack on me. What is happening to women? I seriously think I need to start doing day game. Why are women downtown when all they want to do is reject men?”

    it’s because a lot of them just are not happy. from infancy they were sold some feminist/progressive/self-esteem enhancing load of crap; told that they were special unique flowers that would have it all. then they grow up and get into the real world and begin to see that you cannot actually have your cake and eat it too. that makes some of them angry.

  • http://paultheking.wordpress.com paultheking

    Lol Anonymous.. 90% of the time cock blocking has nothing to do with what you look like.

    Roosh good post man, the problem with the U.S is that girls have too much power and protection. It has gotten to the point where they don’t respect their place as walking vaginas that must submit to men. Seems like all American women just enjoy doing whatever it is they want with no consequence and they also lost their feminine touch. This behavior goes unchecked and they get away with more and more.. Sometimes I have dreams of swinging at them and shattering their frail reality. (note.. don’t try this at home-you will get arrested for hitting girls) The balance of power is a pretty big thing- in Europe men beat the shit out of their wives/girlfriends if they tell the man to shut up just once.

    Anyway, great post as usual

    paultheking’s last blog post: Short and Sweet...

  • Anonymous

    “It is never anybody else’s fault if you get rejected it is always your fault! Something you are doing isnt right.”

    That’s not always the case. There are mean people in this world. Try getting out of your mom’s basement for a change and you’ll see what Roosh is talking about.

  • Wolf

    Yeah, cockblocking sucks, but while telling off the cockblocker FEELS good, it doesn’t really do much for you, as the set is still ultimately lost (and worse makes you look bad in front of any other potential sets.)

    The two decent options to prevent cock-blocking are to either go after the women by themselves (no cockblockers) or to first win over the whole group (starting with any men) while ‘ignoring’ your target. Once you’ve got the group won over and are accepted as a cool guy, THEN isolate the girl. If you can’t win over the group first, you’ll get cockblocked frequently because a) women assume they need to protect each other from rapists b) they hate seeing the attractive one in the group always have all the fun.

    >Didn’t they see she was having a nice conversation with a non-creepy guy?

    No, women don’t see that because they haven’t talked with you yet :(

  • Anonymous

    @Paultheking

    You are wrong.
    Cockblocking has 99% to do with what you look like.
    If you aren’t attractive to the entire group of girls, you will be cockblocked by the bitchiest one them. Fact. Roosh is not an attractive man. Looks creepy. Looks like a loser. He gets cockblocked because girls fear for their girlfriends’ safeties. You don’t need to isolate a group of women if you are handsome and funny. Roosh is neither and sees fit to blame it on American culture and female stupidity. Sorry dude. Life gave you lemons and you made fagonade.

  • http://sjones84.blogspot.com/ Solo

    I agree with Wolf. The thing I always do is engage the whole group. If the girl comes to CB me i say something along the lines of

    “who are you?”

    If I approach a group, girls don’t know who I’m hitting on because I give them all the equal amount of attention until I feel it’s the right time to strike.

    >I was extremely aggravated over this unwarranted attack on me. What is happening to women? I seriously think I need to start doing day game. Why are women downtown when all they want to do is reject men?

    @Raliv–A few years ago I walking to a bar with my wing at that time. 3 hot chicks were walking home already. I overheard the ringleader say “any of you get hit on tonight?” then the other said “no” to which the ring leader said “it was lame anyway”

    That’s the moment I realized that to women it’s a sport turning men down.

    Solo’s last blog post: Off Night.

  • Roosh

    20: Yeah because good-looking guys never get cockblocked.

  • speakeasy

    While #20 was obviously trying to be offensive toward Roosh, I think a lot of cockblocking has to do with a girl’s friends judging a guy as “not good enough” for their friend. Now this type of thinking is alien to guys. If I see one of my boys talking to a girl I don’t dig, I couldn’t care less. But when it’s girls, if her friends don’t like the looks of you, or your ethnicity or vibe or whatever, they will pull her away and the dumb bitches will think they “rescued” her like the girl can’t be responsible for her own decisions as to who she should talk to.

    I was at a bar with a group of friends, a mixed set of guys and girls. One of the girls went to the bar to get a drink. Some drunk guy started chatting her up. The girl(our friend) was remaining there talking to him. Then one of the girls in our set said, “should I go over and rescue her??” I strongly objected and told her that she’s an adult and can walk away whenever she wants. Just leave them alone.

    Women seem to think that their friend wants to leave but is scared to walk away and is being held “captive” by the threatening guy so they have to have a friend come to the rescue and yank her away. In order for that to happen, their friends have to view you as either creepy, threatening, not good enough for her, the wrong ethnicity or whatever. And they seem to think their opinion of you is more important than the opinion of the one talking to you. Some sort of sisterhood crap I guess. If Brad Pitt was talking to their friend, they wouldn’t be yanking her away.

  • shane

    yes. It sucks to be rejected. I have been slammed by women all over the place. Completely shot down in Mexico, Brazil, Colombia and of course my native land Canada. Women are women…..

    It is hard to shake off. If women only know how hard it is to take a risk and make an approach. The problem is that most of the time women hold all the cards…….it really is like going to Vegas. The look up and down women give you, then the back turn is the worst rejection….Ouch.

    I have had nights where i was thinking that i would never talk to another woman again after receiving a big rejection. Then, I look around the bar and see a whole bunch of other guys in the same boat. It is kind of comforting.

    so, i go back again……because that one little victory, makes the pain go away.

  • Roosh

    I’ve winged with some very very good looking guys, and I can’t even say they got cockblocked a little less than me. Sure they get rejected less, but cockblocking is more based on what the cockblocker is feeling. It doesn’t have much to do with you as long as you’re not offensive or a creeper.

  • E

    Cockblocking is a fact of life.

    Nothing is going to get rid of it. Roosh’s little suggestion my make you feel better, but really…it won’t change a damn thing.

    Cockblocking, AMOGs, and other annoyances are just part the package when picking up chicks in bars and clubs.

    One way to lessen the possibility of getting cockblocked is to pick up girls through your social circle by attending house parties or other events where you know people. People are much less likely to cockblock you at those venues since you are not a “strange guy.”

    Of course, this assumes that you have a big enough & cool enough social circle to be getting invited to parties where hot chicks are likely to be.

    Anyways, don’t get too bent out of shape by cockblocking. It happens. Just move on.

  • West LA

    Lots of good insightful comments here.
    I most agree with #7, #11, and #19.

    Roosh, I realize game is NOT based on respecting the reasonable “thought processes” or maturity of the hot women we want to bang, but still there can be a point where a woman seems so dim or childish that she suddenly loses much of whatever allure she had (for me).
    Your focus on cockblockers seems to overlook the pathetically passive, submissive response of your target, letting her bitchy “friend” stop her from talking with you, when she is clearly receptive to you. Why is it okay for your target to let some miserable bitch decide she (YT) can’t talk with you?

    As for responding to the CB herself, I suggest something like (calmly amazed) ‘Wow, you’re so miserable about your own life, you don’t want to let your friend enjoy HER life. How SAD for you.’

    Response to any disappointment reveals one’s prior expectations. Sometimes we set ourselves up to get upset by shitty behavior, by having given some stranger too much credit, expecting them to be decent, instead of being aware that this unknown person might be one of those miserable losers who just goes around spewing hostility at anyone, on the slightest pretext.
    Then it’s easier to take it in stride when you encounter this obnoxious behavior — shrugging, dismissing the person as ‘one of those human failures whose response to me is utterly irrelevant’.

  • Big Snot

    “…as you’re not offensive or a creeper.” And God knows roosh would never be mistaken for either.

    We all hate the c block, but this little roosh suggested saying is not the answer. Neither is yelling at girls in the street.

    Girls SHOULD be cblocking. i’m always shocked when they dont, given what i have in mind for their poor friend.

  • West LA

    Another response to a cockblocker is to smile at her (like she has genuinely amused you with her behavior)and say ‘Oh, so your job is to stop your friend from talking to a guy when she’s obviously enjoying it. Good for you. Don’t let her have ANY fun tonight.’ and then turn away, showing no interest in how the CB might respond to your comment. Openly laughing at what a loser the CB is.

    Would you guys agree that, ideally, we want to be truly detached, for the internal value of it, and we want to make our detachment OBVIOUS to the women in the interaction, to deprive bitches of any satisfaction from being a bitch to us … ?

    ‘Hey, I’m just here to amuse MYSELF, and however anyone ELSE responds to my attempts to be amused, well, okay, whatever …’
    Then it is easier to be honestly amused by lousy behavior from other people, and honestly respond by laughing at it. Jerks just don’t matter; they are like characters in some movie on TV and you are just flipping through many channels…
    Does this choice sound viable?

  • Mike

    Here’s what I use. I’m very serious in my tone, and almost empathetically wince when delivering it:

    Wow, your life must really suck.
    What do you mean/WTF do you mean?
    You’re life is so miserable and unhappy that you can’t bear seeing anyone else have fun. That must suck.
    [Banshee screed.]
    No, really, I am so sorry.

    Then I walk away.

    If you practice the right facial expressions, it fucking kills them. Emotionally, it’s making a woman feel like the male equivalent to a loser.

  • Raliv

    I am a great looking guy and all my friends are good looking guys too. And we all get cockblocked on a regular basis. And we are in college, where girls are typically easy.

    I will be the first person to say that looks have nothing to do with getting girls or the rate of cockblocking.

    Girls are just cockblocking because they see other girls do it. They see the hot girls do it and they want in on the hot girl feeling. Monkey see, monkey do.

    Young college girls are mostly intolerable. They are boring, whiny, selfish, have NO idea how to flirt, take care of a man, and can’t think for themselves. However, they do have hot bodies.

  • http://wonkawilly.wordpress.com Willy Wonka

    I actually haven’t had much of a cockblocking problem here lately, but there were nights when I’d get it all the time. It seems that it comes and goes with the seasons somewhat….

    Willy Wonka’s last blog post: He Got Game?.

  • weghsdfddgfd

    ” Didn’t they see she was having a nice conversation with a non-creepy guy?”

    when’s the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror or listened to your nauseating nasal voice? You’re a sex toilet.

  • Anonymous

    What’s a sex toilet?

  • gringoed

    “I started an anti-cockblocking movement”

    Stay modest Roosh.

  • Zictor

    Isn’t that the reason why you try to open the group? To win everybody and then isolate the girl?

  • http://paultheking.wordpress.com paultheking

    I think the best response to cock blocking is indifference and text game. You should just accept the cock block and move on. Grab the girls number if there is anything between you 2 and just work the text game into a LTR/Fclose/Fun. No girl is going to cock block you through text messages and you will get a true feel for how interested she is versus having her stand there talking to you just to be polite. As for saying stuff to the girls, okay you make them feel bad but.. you lower your own status. Can any of you guys see a rockstar or brad pit saying : “WOW you girls must be losers and have no life.. yada yada yada” they dont give a shit at all.

    Lol

    paultheking’s last blog post: Short and Sweet...

  • papillon

    i think you can add “you’ll get c-blocked til’ you die”
    to your list…
    just like, “you’ll get flaked on…”
    it comes with the territory.

  • KS

    This is most common in the Anglosphere: US, Canada, Australia, UK. Doesn’t happen in Eastern Europe.

    Her friends will actually disappear if the girl
    looks into you.

    My advice? Get out of the Ghetto Fabulous States of America.

  • Cliff Arroyo

    This is _not_ about girls being jealous about being approached, it’s about (anglophone) female ideas of politeness.

    Women who are socialized to not be unpleasant to people’s faces find it difficult to bring an unwanted conversation to an end. So women who are friends and go out together usually have an unspoken (or explicit) agreement to rescue each other from guys who are hitting on them. This allows the one who wants to escape to not be rude to the guy’s face (by her standards). The one who’s being rude just ignores the guy (so in her head she’s not being rude either).

    Even if a woman was enjoying talking to a guy most of the time she won’t mind being pulled away so she can compare notes with her friends.

    This means being rude to the cockblocker will be interpreted as justification for the cockblock. There’s no way to win by attacking the cockblocker. The putdown that makes you feel better will make her feel better too.

    On the other hand, there’s some chance that you can reengage. If you’ve made the sale to the original woman that you’re worth spending time with she’ll tell her friends to stay away and/or resist when they engage (but you have to let her handle that).

    The weak link in the cockblocking situation is the woman being pulled away. What you need is a quick, non-confrontational way to let her know she’s let you down and/or not lived up to your standards. (Which can also make her more receptive to the attempt to reengage).

    note: cockblocking is rarer in EE because it’s okay there for a woman who’s not interested to make it clear to the guy that she doesn’t want him around (and he’s supposed to take it – don’t approach EE women if you don’t have thick skin). That is EE women are okay with telling guys they’re not involved with to take a flying leap (or to just freeze them out).

  • http://www.theregister.co.uk/2010/06/14/balinese_incident/ Hahahaha

    This is hilarious.

    All of you tools who listen to Roosh and thinks he can get women, just remember that after years of this billshit, he cant even manage a 2 minute conversation with a non chubby ugly girl. FAIL. And he always calls his failure because of “cockblocking” or “flakiness”

    Also, I found this article about roosh, just click on my website link above to read about him.

  • http://www.theregister.co.uk/2010/06/14/balinese_incident/ Hahahaha

    14

    “Here’s how you end cockblocking: Don’t look like a creepy, hairy, scummy, d-bag.”

    Yeah, but Roosh is going to have to reinvent himself to stop that.

    Step one – workout.

    Step two – move out of parent’s basement at age 31.

  • RandomChick

    I have been a lurker on Roosh’s blog for a while and I enjoy reading his unvarnished commentary on how the male species really thinks. I appreciate his honesty and for keeping it real to help me understand how the opposite sex thinks. I think he’s fairly attractive – I’d give him a 7 or 8. He’s right, its all about attitude with women. We love attention and any fairly attractive guy feeding our ego has a chance with us. Certainly he’s no male model ala Gene Aubrey but he’s in the f*&^%ble category to most women. I wouldn’t kick him out of bed.

  • RandomChick

    LOL – I meant to say Gabriel Aubry not the cowboy actor Gene Autry – man I’m getting old!

  • Nik

    from poster no. 15 “It is never anybody else’s fault if you get rejected it is always your fault! Something you are doing isnt right. ”

    That is typical dumb-ass pua logic. Earth to Jackass: yes sometimes it IS HER fault. I would never, repeat, never go to clubs. Unless you are rich and famous (forget about even being goodlooking). It is a lose – lose situation.

    I agree with poster no.7 and even puas do not hold women accountable. But I say let the puas eat shit and think it is caviar.

    Meanwhile I just booked my flight to a country where the women love men!

  • CG

    @42 RandomChick

    You must be old…you rate roosh as a 7 or 8 when in actual fact he would be lucky to get rated as a 5 on such websites and you also reference gene autry who was only born in 1907.

  • E

    “This is hilarious.

    All of you tools who listen to Roosh and thinks he can get women, just remember that after years of this billshit, he cant even manage a 2 minute conversation with a non chubby ugly girl. FAIL. And he always calls his failure because of “cockblocking” or “flakiness”

    Also, I found this article about roosh, just click on my website link above to read about him.”

    The fact that Roosh gets laid at all is a testament to the power of game.

    The dude is ugly & looks like a bum. If he can get himself laid using game, then what he is doing must work at some level. Hence, I will listen to his tips.

    Conversely, this is also why I don’t generally like getting game advice from very good looking dudes. They are mostly running on looks, so their advice is generally only applicable if you look like male underwear model.

  • Justin

    I understand we have a difference of opinion but lets keep it respectful. Guys are sitting here talkin about girls being disrespectful and then turn around and disrespect the next man. For the record i’m not a pua I am more interested in human nature in general cuz personally I find the subject fascinating. Picking up women is always secondary to what i am primarily doing. Meaning I never go anywhere for the sake of picking up women but always end up meeting someone while i am out and about. An example of that is I have an interest in different cultures. I may see that an art gallery has a mexican art showing or something. I go to the showing with a general interest in the exhibit and lo and behold there will be a decent women there and both of us have an instant rapport cuz we both have similar interests. I said all that to say this the reason I say its always your fault because it is for one and second maybe going to the nighclub to pick up chicks is lame-game and you can do something else to put yourself in a position to win! Personally I think its weak to run to another country for women cuz you cant handle an american women. To me your running from the real issue which is “you” not american women. You guys judge every women based off of girls you meet in a nightclub. Girls who go out to nighclubs heavily are trash in the first place and are not an accurate representation of a real women. There are plenty of cool women in america but you wont find them in nightclubs everynight!

  • Mrs. Valizadeth

    “Say it with a stern tone, like a parent scolding a child…

    Did your parents teach you to be anti-social like that?”

    Well, gamer boy, as your Mother I can certainly tell in a stern tone what YOUR parents taught you!! It was not “live with us until retirement and devote your life to disrespecting women and writing filth”!!

    I know I said I wouldn’t post on here but Roosh, we need to improve communication. You’re always out at the coffee shop, treat our house as a hostel, and don’t even do your chores! We are more than happy to help you out in a tough stage in life but you need to respect the house rules and talk to us about your future plans.

    Some girl came around looking for you and I told her, “Take your dirty Converse shoes somewhere else, young lady!! My son is a sweet boy and is not interested in anything you and your type have to offer him!!!”

  • OGNorCal707

    Haha, if number 49 really is Roosh’s mom, that’s hilarious. Probably isn’t, but still funny.

  • Jay Gatsby

    The folks who wrote that you can’t “win” by engaging the cockblocker are correct. By the time the cockblocker is engaged, your target is already gone and your spell over her has already been broken.

    Likewise, you won’t make the cockblocker feel bad about her behavior (and you most certainly won’t ruin her night). She believes it is her mission to save her friends. On this subject, remember, girls send signals to one another – either to save them or to back off. If no signal is sent, by default a friend or two will “check in” with your target, if not drag her away altogether. If she likes you, she can always find you later, and if she doesn’t, there are plenty of other guys from which she can choose.

    So what do you do about the cockblocker? Absolutely nothing. Once the cockblocker is summoned, it’s game over. Consequently, one thing you can try is to preempt the cockblocker by testing your target. After you’ve laid down some game and have a strong IOI, casually look over at your target’s friends and then look back at your target. Tell her “it looks like one of your friends might want to play lifeguard. We’re having such a great time that it would be a shame to ruin it by not letting them know everything’s cool.” If she’s not into you, she’ll eject. If she is into you, she’ll give the signal to back off (lightly hold her hand to keep her from walking over to her friends – they’ll only want to put doubts in her mind). The former will save you from wasting any more time on her, while the latter will give you confirmation that it’s safe to proceed.

  • Big Snot

    “It doesn’t have much to do with you as long as you’re not offensive or a creeper.”

    still laughing that a guy who has a book called “Bang” writes blog posts about rape and uses phrases like “I’m ready to destroy the next ugly bitch that interrupts me while I’m talking to a girl that is obviously considering having this hairiness on top of her in the throes of passion,” doesnt see the irony in the above sentence.

  • Anonymous

    Quit blaming circumstances or others for your failures.There comes a time in a boy’s life when he has to take responsibility.

  • Brad

    What’s with all the Roosh haters on this post? Did a bunch of his pump ‘n dumps find out he was back in town and decide to attempt some revenge?

    Roosh is right–cock-blocking is a sad phenomenon in America’s big cities. If you women dislike being hit on so much that you need your friends to drag you away every time a guy makes eye contact with you, just wait ten years until age and gravity do the inevitable. You’ll be free of the unwanted attention soon enough, and have plenty of time left to play with your cats and enjoy an agonized wait for death.

  • Peso

    @48 who said “To me your running from the real issue which is “you” not american women. ”

    Ahh…. wrong dude. Pure and simple. This is the treadmill that gamers / puas create for themselves when they simply refuse to see things how they are. They are adjusting themselves to a society that is profoundly sick.

    And I agree with the other poster who said let these people date these females, and I’ll go to another part of the world that is sans the dysfunctional bullshit.

  • Justin

    Good riddance I hope all of you guys leave the country! As a matter of fact i’m gonna start preachin that same bs. America is fucked hurry up and leave ha ha “If you cant take the heat get out of the fuckin kitchen”

  • Manilow

    The balance of power is a pretty big thing- in Europe men beat the shit out of their wives/girlfriends if they tell the man to shut up just once.
    _______________________________

    Really? Because last time I checked, Europe a progressive feminist shit hole too.

  • tomtud

    Roosh, don’t let the haters get to you! For all of you who may be jealous or flat out impolite, don’t put anybody down.

    Now, the cockblocker should be scolded because as Roosh puts, the next man (male brotherhood) will benefit. She will think twice about doing that to the next guy.

    I think that anybody who interrupts your conversation is blatantly rude and impolite. I am going to share this story with you. I was on eharmony before (you can laugh ha ha ha) :) I saw a girl that I usually see at the same bar and I knew that nothing was gonna happen b/c when we see eachother there is no goo goo eyes for one another. Now, she ends up being matched with me (go figure, eharmony)….. I send her a message, nothing romantic, asking how is the online dating treating you (I am sure many of you have messaged girls online whom you have seen in the real world yet never got the chance or bothered to approach). So, she sends a message not interested!… I’m like WTF…didn’t you read my message B***H. So, that kinda got me pissed a bit. So, moving forward a year, she happens to be friends with a girl that me and my buddy both know. So, we are standing by the bar and all 3 of us chilling along comes the eharmony gal, and pulls the woman with us and starts talking with her, I was like WTF, this is messed, turns out she dug my buddy. We all go out after for food, and I didn’t talk to her, and I told my buddy about what happened that night and on eharmony. So, the next week when I went to the same bar, she was talking to my buddy, and I went up to him and put my arm around my buddy while I stepped in front of her and told him lets go to the bar for a drink. It felt good to be honest. She grabs my arm and I was telling my buddy lets go, and then I look down and tell her this is what you and your (name) did to me last week. She vehemently apologizes, then I told her about the eharmony thing, long story and we ended up being good friends… GO FIGURE…

    I apologize, I’m not the best at telling a story. However, Roosh is 100% correct on confronting the cockblocker. Shake your head and give that disgust look/grin and ask if her parents taught her to be that impolite and just walk away.

  • Cliff Arroyo

    “the cockblocker should be scolded because as Roosh puts, the next man (male brotherhood) will benefit. She will think twice about doing that to the next guy.”

    This only works if you’ve got something she wants (which is not the usual circumstance). In your rambling story you had something she wanted and so she pretended to feel sorry for her previous behavior.

    As a female cousin once told me (paraphrasing) ‘It’s a girlfriend’s duty to keep a drunk friend from some guy she woulnd’t be with if she were sober’. For many women that easily becomes “it’s a girlfriend’s duty to keep a friend from some guy she wouldn’t be with”. There’s no defeating female logic and once you’re trying to pick up girls (with or without game) you’re playing by their rules.

    99 times out of a 100 an agry response to a cockblocker will just convince her how right she was to break things up (women don’t care what men they’re not invested in think of them).

  • Pa Bailar

    at no. 57: Mannilow is correct – europe is pretty feminist shit. Germany for example is considered to be one of the most women friendly nations in the world. The difference is, however, that european women do not hate men like American females do. The cockblocking is very minimal if at all in europe.

    at no. 56: dumbfuck, good to hear that a dolt such as yourself will continue to delude yourself and keep dating Americunts while the rest of us split the country before they put travel restrictions and forbid any man to leave the usa.

  • tomtud

    Cliff as you state (paraphrasing) ‘It’s a girlfriend’s duty to keep a drunk friend from some guy she woulnd’t be with if she were sober’.

    This has happened to us all…get cockblocked from the mother hen, who happens to be usually the fattest and ugliest of the bunch. If she had someone that she was interested in, she wouldn’t even look at who her friend is with.

    Understanding how women think from my experience is don’t try to, just rely on what you think and care about. Act like Predator from Roosh’s book. Roosh talks about female logic in his book, and watching videos of PUA’s, they all conclude that women aren’t so logical in the love game. We can disagree here, but back to the cockblocking. Telling a cockblocker that she was out of line whether or not she has the moral behaviour to know this will help us all out. The cockblocker disrespects you so you should disrespect her back. If she gets in your face, DON’T back down. stick to your high ground.

    Cliff you are right,, she did want something that was with me.

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  • Jay Gatsby

    Cliff makes a good point about a cockblocker pretending to be contrite if she suddenly realizes that you have something she or her friend suddenly wants. (Note: this isn’t inconsistent with what I posted above about the net result once the cockblocker is triggered – this is just a rare way of reversing things).

    Let’s assume you’re completely plugged into a bar or club (i.e., you own part of it, are related to the owner, etc…) If the cockblocker disrespects you (especially in front of other people), and you try to politely correct her behavior, feel free to signal one of the bouncers to kick her and her friends out of the bar or club. This immediately trumps her petty behavior and shows you have power. She might think twice in the future about being rude while cockblocking (but won’t stop her from cockblocking altogether).

  • Steve Johnson

    Tell off the cockblocker?

    C’mon, if you’re going to go all out – punch her in the face! She won’t forget that the next time!

  • googly

    women don’t care how badly you insult or “scold” them if they zero emotional investment in you. The best way to help other men from rude women is to apply pain by ridiculing their appearance, weight, sexuality or social status and not explaining things to them. when you explain something to a woman you are showing her respect. do not reason with cockblockers, apply pain and you will help other men.

  • RandomGuy

    ” I wouldn’t kick him out of bed.”

    I sure would.

  • Phil

    Some cultures are definitely worse than others for cockblocking and female rudeness generally. Big cities in the US, the UK, Australia etc are awful to approach or even look at women now in without being thought a creep. But go to the Mediterranean and things are different. Here in Greece, I’ve noticed as a middle aged man you can freely ogle gorgeous young women and nobody cares. Greek men make a pastime of it. If she catches you out, chances are she’ll just give you a sweet smile – because here, it’s a compliment! It means you find her attractive. But in say the UK, you’ll get a filthy patronizing look and even verbal abuse.

  • Anonymous

    As a woman, I might as well inform you that these so-called cockblockers were actually called into the scene by the women you thought you were about to score with. Women have a way of determining a very subtle “help me” signal to her friends as a way to extract themselves from an uncomfortable situation in a way that doesn’t paint them in a bad light. Yes, their friends take on the hateful “cockblocker” label intentionally at the request of their friend. Now, I won’t tell you what this signal is because it’s different from one woman to the next. I can say that it wouldn’t look any different to a man as a normal, casual gesture.

  • Anonymous

    How about you don’t intend to score with either of two women, and they cockblock you anyway out of irrational fear and plain bitchiness. There are a lot of sad pathetic types that do this to piss men off. Hatred of men is alive and well in this shithole we call the usa.

  • http://www.avoiceformen.com KARMA MRA MGTOW

    “Did you really just do that? I’m being friendly and respectful to your friend and you rudely interrupt. Did your parents teach you to be anti-social like that?”

    Then shake your head and turn your back on her. Don’t engage her in a conversation or even act like you hear her response. She no longer exists.

    I agree this works really well!

    Never give them the right of reply!

  • Anonymous

    Dude maybe she read BANG Brazil and recognized you!!

  • Californian

    Things have changed between men and women so much in the USA over the last 25-30 years. 30 years ago women were out trying to get laid approximately as much as the men were.

    The issue is that the federal and state legal systems have given women increasing power over men in that time period. In the workplace (False sexual harassment complaint). In the marriage (Alimony, child support, forfeiture of assets and pensions, false abuse allegations). In the non marital relationship (palimony, false date rape claims, child support). In the bedroom (false date rape charge). Now the barroom (false sexual harassment and false sexual assault charges. And soon in the streets (soon to be “sexual annoyance charge ” for merely gazing at a woman in an appreciative way – this already exists in the work place.

    So all this “game” and pick up stuff is really futile, digging for the leftover scraps. Give it up American guys – you’re not really focused on you ways of relating to women anyways – rather you’re tying to be powerful in relation to your fellow males with women only as a proxy – because the fact is, you no longer have any power.

    When you really feel the need to relate to women on an equal level – you’ll have to travel to an underdeveloped country with an unstable government. Mexico, Central & S. America, etc. Start with the professionals to reacquaint yourself to what it’s like to feel like a man again, and then take it from there. Whatever you do, do’t bring any love interest to America. She will soon figure out that you have no power as a citizen and will treat you only slightly better than native American born women.

    This is wisdom from a 47 y/o American man who has seen a lot.

  • Random Dude

    Rules in a salsa club. You can’t dance – you have 0 game.

  • Eddie Man

    I approve this message. If they were punched in the face, they would think it better next time. They wanted equaliity no?.

  • Eddie Man

    my technique is to speak to the ear of the cockblocker and say something like “back off bitch”, it is funny to see her expression of shock, she looks like a psycho if she starts a scream contest. Then you back away and leave them wondering