I talked to a girl who showed me a stack of napkins with notes written in Spanish by Ecuadorian men, mostly waiters. She couldn’t understand them so I translated. They were all along these lines:
It was nice to meet you. You are very pretty. I hope I can see you again.
My napkins have no words of affection, just email addresses, mostly of European men. Girls who travel don’t realize their experience is very different than a guy’s. Unless the girl is busted, which unfortunately happens, she is getting ten times more attention than me. I know some of that is bad attention, but you only see a smile on a gringa’s face when she’s being spun around on the salsa dancefloor. And disappointment on the native’s face when she doesn’t want to make out.
(Side note: girls who don’t get much love back in the States are treated like queens by South American man. It’s very common to see an American 5 walking arm-in-arm with a decent looking guy. Many of these girls end up staying for much longer than they had planned.)
When crossing Ecuador’s border into Peru, I was a little confused on where to get my Peru entry stamp. I walked towards an Ecuadorian border agent to ask him, but before I could open my mouth he shooed me down the road with a hand-sweep motion. When I returned with my stamp an American girl was having the same problem. This time the same guy waited for her to come to him, let her ask her question in bad Spanish, and then very politely talked to her, smiled, and pointed down the road. Multiple this by a dozen interactions a day and I imagine the overall experience would be quite different.
Expectedly, girls here refuse to admit that they are getting different treatment than me. (They remind me of the girls back home who think they will physically peak past 30.) Next time a girl asks me why I don’t think South Americans are “wonderful” and the nicest people in the world, I’m going to point to her vagina.
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can’t wait to see what the girls on here will say.
This phenomenon isn’t limited to South America.
The guys down there would be even more obnoxious if you were more gringo-looking.
I 100% agree, and posted that in a previous comment. American women are for some reason coveted “items” in most countries, particularly hispanic countries. It doesn’t hurt if you’re blonde, pale skinned, and blue eyed either. My experience traveling in hispanic countries, europe and in parts of the islamic world have proven to me that the travel experience is VERY different for men and women.
Just walking down the street I would have offers to be taken to dinner, to be bought drinks, to go to a club, to marry. I had to have men physically removed from bars because they wouldn’t stop “doting” on me. I got millions of napkins, coasters, with notes on them, free drinks from bartenders, free drinks from strangers across the bar that I didn’t even speak to. On a trip to north africa, when my stand-by flight was overbooked, I was upgraded to a first class seat on the plane while others were turned away.
And I’m not busted, but I’m definitely not a 10. Sometimes, it’s good to be female.
as a blond ..blue eyed…fair skinned girl that likes to travel in spanish speaking countries.. i can attest that alll of that does happen..
but ..that shit happens in columbia heights too..
“This phenomenon isn’t limited to South America.”
moreso just life in general for women vs. men
I think the alternative, totally gender neutral travel, would be pretty bland and antiseptic. Go slobbery napkin overtures, keep em coming!
Completely untrue in Brazil… I remember at one time pulling about 12 numbers out of my pocket and realizing i only had a week to try to hang out with all of them.
Wait till you get to Brazil.. Trust me. Rio is the greatest city on earth.. if you need any tips give me a shout.
I disagree with your analysis. From what I’ve seen of central/south America, and Hispanic culture here, they’re just way more sexist. You get treated poorly for being a strange dude and women get treated better for having a snatch, but I don’t think the Gringo aspect has anything to do with it. Watch how they treat their own women.
People who appear exotic always seem hotter. This is rooted in a reasonable biological desire to diversify the gene pool. Thus, American skanks look plenty good to Latin lovers. It’s the same reason the Russian 9′s you see ’round here fail to impress anyone who’s been around babushkas his whole life. It works out the other way because the locals’ game, humdrum and tired to the girls from their own culture, seems different and exciting to dried-up WASPs. Likewise, if you hit the town here with some thoroughly fake accent and alias, girls eat it up like crazy (I swear, try it sometime. Faith and Begorrah!)
Thus, if you want to pull tail, don’t try to blend in and go native, be as much as possible the Aloof American. The girls will fall over themselves to get you.
Also note, Americans will always have a leg up in this because they are perceived as being uber-rich and a short track to a green card. Far as I can tell this works anywhere in the world.
I think the cultural and religious conservatism of much of Latin America has a lot to do with this. For the same reason a lot of native girls will dance with gringo visitors but won’t go home with them, much less on a date, they’re probably doing this to their own men, too. Yet in every population of males, there will be many who don’t have the patience for long courtships, and want to get the action right away. I think the perception in Latin America is that gringas are much “easier”. These guys are just looking for what they perceive as “the shortest route between Point A and Point B.”
Having dated many different hispanic immigrants in my life, I can comfortably say that it isn’t just the “easy” aspect of being an American woman that interests a lot of latino guys. Latina women typically are looking for a guy with money, with a nice truck, who can provide for them and their soon to be three-six children. This doesn’t necessarily apply to women from more urban, developed areas, but in pueblos, word travels fast. If you’re banging the drunk next door who has no job and no future, everyone will know and you’ll be ridiculed. American women don’t really seem to care, have their own money, will go out and drink and have fun, and not worry about their image. Maybe to their own detriment, but some of it is the idea of a woman a guy can have fun with, not just send money home to.