Three years ago a girl told me after sex that the last time she did it was a “really really long” time ago. Because I’m curious to a fault, I asked her how long was it. For me, really really long is six months, the longest I’ve gone without sex since losing my virginity. Her answer: “almost two months.” Since then, I’ve noticed that “long time” is getting shorter. It’s just a matter of time until I get “last week.” Keep in mind that I don’t dig for this information. It usually finds itself thrown out there in the bedroom ether.
Because women start feeling very uncomfortable in just a few weeks of no sex, I’m forced to conclude that men are the sexual camel of the species. We can wait so long because we are used to waiting, unlike a girl who can be banging in 2 minutes from the time she makes the decision to bang. Therefore, men are more patient than women, more likely to control their sexual desires (not necessarily by choice), and less likely to need instant gratification. That goes against the fact that many men have banged monsters, but I’m confident those were isolated incidents, in rare moments of weakness.Tweet Follow @rooshv
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girls really are getting sluttier, especially the self-selected ones who live in cities. they have to in order to rope a guy. withholding sex through marriage entrapment is no longer a viable option. thank you sexual revolution.
i don’t think women get uncomfortable with the lack of sex (at least not in the way that guys do), i think they get uncomfortable with the lack of alpha male attention.
Who are these women getting sex whenever they want? The longest I’ve gone is about 9 months. It was pure torture at first but after a while I just didn’t notice it anymore.
Am I an alien or something?
Then again, when I’ve gone for a “really, really long time” (in my book that’s 6 months +) I am apt to sleep with someone that’s fairly good- looking and can kiss. Luckily I’ve only had to do that twice.
I love reading your blog because it makes me feel like a prude instead of a slut. I’m so much more pure than I give myself credit for. I love it.
Genevieve: more or less any girl who decides she wants to get laid.
On a 9 month stint so far looking at 8 more unless phone sex counts :) Woman seem to be drawn to my utter look of sexual desperation I guess but I have morals I believe that are compelling me to still be able to speak cuddly on the phone. When I eventually go to the airport a free man and look my wife in the eye it will be a nice feeling I believe. Other than the fact that I have no game with the American Woman that walk up to me seeking conversation or the meaning of life. Why my nickname is the anti-pimp. From what I have seen here in Iraq, woman usually do not go more than a few days without a significant other (the last week thing is not far off). Maximum for the ones that come married 2 months. Hopefully not a statistic on my homefront where my wife has the benefit of family all around her. I hope Roissey is right about the Alpha Male attention because I give my wife plenty of that on the phone (hopefully it is anti-Alpha male attention).
When it comes to sex a woman’s sense of time, distance, values all become distorted. Usually it is not in a girl’s interest to come across as a total whore so women will tend to overstate the last time they were with someone and understate the number of partners. I have decoded this woman’s response to you as the following.
“The last time I was with a guy I call my boyfriend was over six months ago. He broke up with me after he found out I sucked his dad’s dick during a BBQ…and I swallowed. Outraged that I never swallowed for him, he killed himself and I, looking for absolution joined a fundamentalist Pentecostal Christian sect but opted to enter porn after several months of being hit on by betas. The truth is that yesterday I fucked two black dudes with 12 inch penises during an audition for Cockzilla 24 – one in the pink, one in the stink, cream pie edition.”
If you ever require my unique powers of insight again, just throw up the bat signal.
very well thought out post roosh, though question — are you assuming that all girls like to have sex? i’m convinced that there are many, many girls out there who simply do not care for sex or any sort of raw, sexual physical interaction (holding hands and cooing don’t count), as opposed to 99% of men who will always be happy to get laid. thankfully i have a nose for this breed of female and avoid them like the plague :hmm
i do think it’s fair to say that for girls who do like to bang (particularly the miserable DC breed of female), after they realize that their uppity, flighty sex-in-the-city bullshit wears thin on any man worth his salt and they wake up one day in their early 30s, single, unmarried/uncommitted, and childless (largely due to their worthless, negative attitudes and negative energy), your analysis proves apt. i’ve found that girls in their 30s are quick to frame the “no sex” time period into a much more confined time constraint. it’s not unusual that i get some cougar to please me for a couple weeks, lose interest, and then run into her at a bar somewhere and she’s on a date with a new dude (haha! sucker…) of course, i applaud the guy, knowing that if he basically keeps his mouth shut, he’ll have her in heels and nothing else in a couple hours. the best part to this, of course, is the inevitable e-mail i’ll get from the girl 2-3 days later (“so it was random to see you at the bar that night, want to get together sometime?”) my answer’s usually “no.” what can i say, i get bored easy… :)
DF – There is definitely some truth in that. Due to the fact that there are more over-sensitive/under-confident betas roaming around, women have decided that they must lie about all things sex related (number of partners, frequency, duration, size, etc.) in order to protect the fragile beta ego.
I find the women’s “radio silence” to be interesting..
confirms something we more or less already know.
So I’ve been reading your site for a while and have never actually posted a comment, but your uncanny ability to say things that give me a deja-vu is finally getting to me.
Short background – I’ve been dating this girl for about 4 months. Around the same time I stumbled across your site. I remember reading an article about how girls not answering phone calls, messages, or giving a “maybe” response to “do you want hang out later?” were bad signs.
Now everything was fine for the first two months, but the last two months have just been shitty. It’s like she’s going crazy. I don’t want to get into the details but she’s showed almost every single negative behavior you’ve listed for American girls.
Where this pertains to the post is that, I’m wondering if not sleeping with her could have caused any of this behavior. That in itself may sound weird, but I’ve spent 20 years in a fantasy world built by my parents and teachers about how I have to treat all women with respect (automatically with no reason) and how being a nerd is a good thing,… etc.
I was friends with her for about 7 years before we started dating and watched her go through bad relationship after bad relationship to the point it got so bad she ended up dropping out of a good college and having to transfer to commmunity college to go back to mason.
Now, the only reason I ask, because the one thing I try to do is keep my conscience clear. I have a feeling no matter what I do this is going to get worse and it’d be nice too no that I am in no way responsible for the insane shit she’s doing.
Oh and I’m 21, just out of college starting at Microsoft in September. I do triathlons, crossfit, and hate long walks on the beach.
It took me a little while to work out 19 years of brainwashing, into the perfect beta male.
Nullpointer – First Date DC, this is not.
ribald – ‘thankfully i have a nose for this breed of female and avoid them like the plague’ – It’s not hard. They smell like cat piss.
Men can ‘wander in the desert’ because their boys take a day and a half to get to full charge and never spoil. If we don’t beat off to relieve the pressure, our bodies do it for us in our sleep. What more could you ask for? Women, on the other hand, are subject to the whims of their pitiless biological clocks. I don’t see why you’re complaining if they’re using you to break the fast.
jewcano you’ve been on a roll lately with the zingers.
lol Nullpointer She is probably just pissed off you didn’t make her pregnant yet so as to guarrantee her share of your microsoft money. I keep saying though woman would act a hell of a lot different without the laws backing them up 200 percent. Just remember Null the most important things in this world to study are the laws regarding the taking away of your freedom as a man to make certain choices regarding woman. A lot of them become life sentences. You may want to include that knowledge in your beta jedi training. I believe the U.S. government is greatly responsible for the way she is acting don’t worry about taking responsability for it.
She’s not exactly poor either. She’s got two trust funds setup in her name, though she doesn’t get the second until she’ 35.
She just bought a 30K SUV with her own money in cash, too so I don’t think money is an issue. At this point I think she’s just nuts and I was just looking for external verification to do what I was already going to do.
Jewcano’s is nothing compared to /.
Nullpointer — you need to read this site badly! read the posts on Alpha men vs. Beta men. Read Roosh’s war stories.
Then listen to some “back issues” of a radio program by a talk show host named Tom Leykis:
Short answer to your problem: Women are attracted to the aggression men show. By not sleeping with her, you caused her to turn off to you because she sees no male aggression. Do you know how grossed out you feel when you see a nice-looking woman act like a total dyke? Well, turn that around and that’s how women view non-aggressive men.
Lose the religious crap you learned, pronto, and learn that life is biologically-based. I suffered from your malaise in my early 20s too and it messed up my life royally. All the stuff we both learned was crap. It’s like learning “creationism.” Learn about evolution and get with the real world, not the would-be romantic world that doesn’t exist. (Well, maybe that world does exist, but not here. You have to go to a place like Kansas!)
Final thought: Never listen to what women say. Watch what they do. Women will tell you they like one kind of guy but their actions show otherwise. Roosh has already said this.
Nullpointer, has she attempted to sleep with you and you’ve rebuffed her advances? Have you flat-out asked her what’s going on? There could be a million and one things at play here and postulating on the ‘maybes’ is a total waste of your time. If you are truly a friend (as you say by your ’7 years’ statement), let her know you’re there for her if she needs you. And then move on.
Roosh, have you considered that your ‘sample’ population of women might be somewhat skewed to favor the more sexually active of the species???
PS – Nerds are hot. Nothing better than a mind seducer.
Roosh — I have to disagree with this statement:
“Therefore, men are more patient than women, more likely to control their sexual desires (not necessarily by choice), and less likely to need instant gratification.”
According to various scientific studies, women who take birth control pills have a lower sex drive than those who don’t. This is because of the biological imperetive to have sex during ovulation.
Taken from another website:
The pill decreases ovarian production of testosterone, along with increasing levels of Sex Hormone Binding Globulin (SHBG) production by the liver up to 10-fold. In turn, the SHBG binds up most remaining testosterone, thereby killing sex drive, muting or nullifying orgasms.
Thanks for the link days.
I lost the religious brainwashing a while ago. The only thing I haven’t lost is how I treat women. I come from an extremely family oriented and matriarchal background. I don’t have problems dealing with guys (I had to go to a military academy for 5 years). It’s mostly subconscious since I can’t really explain my behavior towards women. I remember two things from when I was little. My grandmother ordering her sons to hold her other son down while she beat him with a bed board because he turned her back on her while she was speaking. He was 40 something, she was 60 something. Then I yelled at my mom when I was like 5 and I got back handed pretty hard by my dad. Add to that my mom being one of those involved psycho feminist business women. Doesn’t make for a good combination.
I remember dating being such a pain in the ass in high school that I was like it’s not worth I’ll wait until college, because if I even mentioned a girl I’d get interrogated and questioned about ever little detail (such as what kind of shoes does she wear, and how tall is she? Shorter than 5′ 7″ is unacceptable etc).
So, I have to consciously focus when I’m dealing with women because my natural inclination is to just do whatever they want.
I think she’s going crazy.
Nerds, aren’t that hot. I went to a tech school, not showering for weeks, watching anime, and dressing up in spandex while being extremely overweight is not hot. I used to think I was a geek / nerd until I met the REAL nerds. Nerds are usually really good at one thing and not much else, because they’re so powerless in the rest of their life that they need something to be able to have power over people. The best example of this are tyrannical *nix sysadmins. The most obnoxious species of nerd that exists. No offense, to any of you out there, but people just want their computer to work not a lecture on how stupid they are and why Microsoft sucks.
Sysadmins. LOL. That’s funny. I work with some of the nerdiest of nerds and what’s hot is being good at something. Someone who can recover your hard drive = hot. Einstein = hot. Nerds shall inherit the earth. Oh wait, one already has. His name is Bill Gates. What most “nerds” lack is confidence and even a marginal sense of social acumen. If only more nerds would break away from their computers to focus just a little on their packaging (shower, go to the gym, develop a wardrobe, get a decent haircut), they could attract the ladies. DC women in particular LIKE smart guys. There is no other reason to explain the Tucker Carlson phenomenon.
PS – Maybe your girl IS going crazy. It happens. Close the door on the relationship to let the next one open.
Maybe I’m living in a completely different world, but last time I checked they’re the exception to the rule. I’m in office where all the managers are ex military good old boys. All the crap they feed you in school about study hard and follow the rules is a bunch of BS. The business and management majors at my college did nothing but get laid alot and started with close to 6 figure salaries.
That means they’re probably the bosses of all those nerds after being on top of the social totem pole their entire life.
Maybe DC women do like smart guys, but from some of Roosh’s comments, DC women aren’t exactly stellar (no offense obviously, I don’t know you).
Maybe it’s a fake smile on my friend who’s working for Lehman Bros (switched from computer engineering -> business) in NYC, while he’s banging a model (or at least she looks like one) and make 100K+ benefits a year. Expected salary is like 500K within the next 5-10.
I don’t know but I wish I could get paid to push around money instead of actually having to create a product.
You CAN get paid to push money around. Go get your MBA, move to NY and work for Lehman, or Goldman or Bear. Start out with a nice 6 figure salary, an assistant and a phat office with a view. If that’s what you want, do it. Don’t lament about your friend. And then pick up a nice little coke habit to support your lifestyle and in 20 years, let me know if you’re happy. Maybe you will be. Maybe you won’t. Golden rule in life…if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. I have lots of friends in NYC, and it’s easy to get lost in the lifestyle. I also have tech friends who have developed products (incl for the government) and are millionaires.
Beware of the easy road…
Wow, this thread went from women having no sense of time to a lesson on how to make the big bucks.
Rather than just women have no sense of time, PEOPLE have no sense of time if they’re trying to justify doing something they should have learned the last time not to do. In other words, you did something stupid, swore you would never do it again, and after the pain associated with it starts to fade (a few weeks, a month, 6 months, whatever) you do it again. Getting drunk is the best example of this, since having a hangover is one of the worst voluntarily stupid things to do.
Roissy — you’re right that many women will sleep with a guy faster than they once did. The reason is competition. Yet the competition for men doesn’t really kick in until they’re looking to get engaged/married (or all of their friends are getting engaged/married). Until then, women have the upper hand in the dating game, since there is no pressure. Guys have the constant pressure to get laid until their careers begin to take off, at which point their focus is on climbing the ladder and making cash. The titles and money are needed to fuel their egos, and to attract younger and hotter women than they did in the past. This is why money, power and fame almost always outweigh being poor with a great body (except when your trophy wife sleeps with the pool boy).
I can’t stop thinking about having it. I want it, I want it, I want it. I’ve been waiting. The last time I’ve had any was a couple of days ago.
It’s just been too long since I’ve had a chance to let another man enter my life. Too long since I’ve had a novel. A romance novel.
Maybe I’ll, just this once, read a possibly substandard free e-book and get me a dose of some too cheesy love/sex.
I can’t remember the last time I got laid.
I found myself in a stip club the other night with my hands all over some girls breasts.
I have no idea how things have gotten this cold.
Mo’ better girl game:
Say something like
“Whew, I needed that. It’s been awhile.”
while lying on back speaking to the ceiling,
not directly to the partner,
sometime in the first 10 minutes after the end of sexual activity.
thats the most interesting point in female sexualitu I have heard for along time :
irls really are getting sluttier, especially the self-selected ones who live in cities. they have to in order to rope a guy. withholding sex through marriage entrapment is no longer a viable option.
“You CAN get paid to push money around. Go get your MBA, move to NY and work for Lehman, or Goldman or Bear. Start out with a nice 6 figure salary, an assistant and a phat office with a view.”
It’s pretty funny to read this advice now.
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