I need a new insecurity that causes me to overcompensate massively…
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Roosh, you will do well in Romania. The girls there have moustaches, never shave their cunts. You could pass as a Gypsy.
Roosh, you should try meditation or Yoga (I’m serious here). I’m planning on doing Kundalini Yoga this summer. I think it will really help to make me grow as a person and find my path.
LET’S WIN THIS WAR AGAINST FEMINISM.
And our planet will be 1 million TIMES BETTER !!!
Romanians hate the GYPSIES the most.
Different nations, different cultures, they have NOTHING in common.
And girls in Romania are TOP CLASS, by the way
Wow, you seem like a decent guy in this video. All the more reason it’s such a shame you’ve devoted so much of your life’s energy to hurting others and to teaching other men to hurt people. Maybe now you could devote yourself to undoing some of that damage? It’s never too late :)
[Roosh: Perfect example of a "compliment" by an American woman lol]
If you will CRUSH feminism, you will be one of the best HEROES, REAL LEGENDS of this world
Gets healed from a psychological complex. Immediately seeks another one.
That wasn’t a compliment. I was just saying, it’s never too late to start undoing the damage you’ve caused to so many :)
Write a fiction novel.
This must be some subtle satire.
Roosh, this “Complex” idea is bull. As someone who has read most of your books I can tell you that you’re seeing the world through new eyes and need to adapt to the new perspective. It is a part of growing up, just like shedding the poisonous viewpoints that may have led you to positive results. There is so much to enjoy in the world, shrouding it with a “Complex” is counterproductive.
Good luck Man. The road ahead is never known.
The smartphone will be obsolete soon, girls will be sluttier than we can even imagine today, and your travel guides and lay manuals will be hopelessly outdated and of interest only to 3 or four cultural historians. The (in)famous Roosh will be soon forgotten. Of all the wonderful creations that have sprung from your fertile mind, what among them will be remembered? For all sperm shot from your loins have any met their purpose? You have achieved remarkable success in your field it is true, but will you be remembered alongside Casanova and Don Juan? Will aspiring bloggers study your techniques through the ages? Have you no desire to create some art, some work, or some offspring that will remember you to those yet unborn? Or are you content to live, fuck, die and return to the bleak anonymity from whence you came, unworthy of any remembrance?
you’re not rich, you’re not actually famous, your books are unknown to the mainstream.
package the last few years of your life traveling the world and writing bang guides into a single narrative memoir that would appeal to a large audience.
in any case i still don’t really understand what your plan is to not die completely destitute. it seems hard to believe that these blogs could sustain you for even 10 more years. how much more can there be to say? that doesn’t make you anxious?
Get in Debt or Hop on that consumerism. Buy a Jet Pack. or a 3D printer.
Or start Investing in stuff.
Man is defined by what he does, you were a casanova.
Now you said you’re over that.
Start Hanging out with Rich People you’ll develop a complex of being poor.
The philosopher/historian Johan Huizinga said that all men must face the Terror of History (ie the fact that terrible things happen in this world and that all of us must one day perish). Generally speaking, men face the Terror of History in one of three ways: 1. religion (immerse oneself in a timeless religious tradition that promises eternal salvation) 2. hedonism (self explanatory) 3. aesthetics (immerse oneself in beauty, usually some sort of artistic creation).
Roosh, I think your complex was a subconscious attempt to cope with the Terror of History via the hedonism strategy. The problem with this mechanism is that it does not last. Eventually, the joy of hedonic acts dissipates, leaving anomie its wake. Your solution? Find relief from the Terror of History in one of the other two stategies.
Turn your energies to where all wise men are turning – ending feminism.
The only reason you could “get flags” is because worldwide feminists have taught women to exchange sex for power. When feminists have sufficient power, they will teach the women to withdraw sex and men will have neither power of access to female sexuality.
Unless men get smart and start working actively to end feminism your sons and grandsons will be slaves.
The most evil social movement in the history of mankind, is feminism.
aren’t we mixing up complexes with CHALLENGES? Just saying.
I can’t help but thinking that you’re sitting on some psychoanalyst’s couch in this video. Somehow it gives more emphasis to the complex subject you’re dealing with.
go to war while there is one
you are a man that had wars going on in his lifetime and didn’t go instead you got poon time to quit being a pussy and go see some shit
then yea take on feminism maybe
maybe part of the reason i haven’t done some things so there is something in the kitty that i still have to do
you know what you haven’t done had a passionate relationship
you ain’t really had oneitis yet have you?
or two sided oneitis?
GOES TO THIS:
T u r n y o u r e n e r g i e s to where all wise men are turning – ending feminism.
T h e m o s t e v i l social movement in the history of mankind, is feminism.
Rooshs new complex could be Argentina. I’m under the impression he didn’t quite figured out the girls there.
Roosh, Intactivism could use you.
Roosh,you claim loud and high that americans are not worldly enough.Being worldly usually involves speaking way more than 1 language(being a polyglot).Sorry, but you also are not worldly by knowing only english.
Point i am trying to make and complex i am trying to give u:You are not fluent in any foreign language!!!(maybe turkish or persian??)
Think of your eyes as having finally rolled forward to see the world, instead of being locked in a grim backward glare at your own psychology.
You see new things because your world is new; you are no longer reducible to your own ultimately trivial psychology, or moods.
You are nothing but a writer. You are completely a writer and you have a precious ability to hate. As some have suggested above, find a thousand ways to *murder* “feminism,” which is truly a great evil.
Begin soon a series of books that show the depair and disrepair of both men and women under the terrible ideology of “feminism.”
These books can move seamlessly between narrative, observation and opinion. When I join the forum I can help you further.–
And don’t waste time reading second rate novels.
It’s time for you to read Charles Willeford.–
You dont care about being rich, wearing nice clothes, being overly swole, etc. And you only care about getting laid a little now.
What this signifies to me is that living for yourself is no longer enough. The feeling you have means there is no way left in which you desire to improve yourself.
So think about improving the lives of others; get a messiah complex. Be hellbent on stopping feminism. You may have hated it before because it threw entitled fatties in the way of your quest to get laid, but the ills of feminism run much deeper than just that. You dont need some master plan to do this: you would be surprised how much simple agitation can change the world.
Some sort of consciousness-oriented practice would do it.
Transcendental Meditation, yoga, tai chi, maybe some form of qigong.(all concurrent with weights & strength training.)
Something to explore and unlock the mysteries of inner space–the mind.
how about you try to find your soulmate… find someone you actually care about enought to spend your life with…
Roosh, I believe I’m your 7 year younger self and I still have a complex. But my recommendation would be to throw yourself into the fire. I believe you are too comfortable, your having a harder time learning new skills by pursuing the same things. Try something off your beaten path. Maybe start a small business (not in teaching game however). Maybe pick up a part time job in a field that you have never thought about. I think what might be holding you back is your blog and loyal followers; we still have a game complex and want to hear your triumphs in traveling and game.
Become a musician
1. The rhetoric thing for public debates
2. Some brain melting math or related
3. Lessons for the hopeless, hard-luck cases like the Zoolander “center for kids who don’t read good” for pick-up
4. Comedy. You’re good enough but if you turned it into a sideline you could make American Pie look like Masterpiece theater.
Maybe one of those would be rewarding.
The biggest question is: what do *you* want to do? Me, personally? I want to work hard and make lots of money, not because I need it to live a better life, but because money is power, and that power can be used to make the world a better place, through suppression of poisonous ideologies such as feminism. I want to have the freedom to lay on a beach reading some worthy book, with some gorgeous local girl beside me, knowing that my efforts have led to some meaningful progress, or at least that I tried.
Most men throughout history have found satisfaction in their campaigns, which most often ultimately involved nothing more than achieving a comfortable standard of living, and being able to provide the same for their heirs. The great among them have risen to prominence and founded cities or controlled empires. That’s not likely for you and I, but it has been said that the pen is mightier than the sword, and yours seems to be working quite well.
Every man is religious. Some worship their jobs, some their women or children, some their preferred pleasures, some God, some their ideals or ideologies. It seems like racking up notches for the sake of racking up notches is no longer the main goal in your life. Did you have hobbies and interests before you discovered Game? After Diocletian resigned as Roman Emperor, having done his bit for the common good and to satisfy his power complex, he retired to grow cabbages.
Instead of searching for another complex, embrace the void. All novelties wear off. Don’t subject yourself to constantly finding new ones.
Encourage beautiful feminine women to get married and have more kids for the future. That way we can breed the feminist liberals out who are destroying civilization.
you dig it?
You’ve already got yours, Roosh. Now think of the future. Build a legacy.
I think there is a dormant part of you that would be brought to life by having kids– particularly a flesh and blood son of your own, who you can mold into a great man.
Maybe at a certain point your complex will be that you don’t have a family, and you can use Game to find the best possible mother for your progeny. We all know how much more mainstream that is, so you don’t have to worry about losing readers… you would probably have 10x more, albeit many more “blue pill” thinkers.
You have a complex about needing a complex. Just relax the answer will come to you in time.
You’ve traveled and observed international cultures more than anyone your age. Use your international experience and knowledge to solve some of the worlds’ problems. For example, apply your understanding of the female and male mindsets (and how they play out in different cultural contexts) to reduce tensions between the west and the middle east.
Raise children without complexes.
I think either of those would prove to be a huge challenge.
That sounds on the money, if you hangout with rich dudes who you admire you’ll develop something that will make you feel inadequate forcing you to be creative fill the void.
Complex? You don’t want a psychological sickness. You want an obsession in which you can apply a strategy to achieve goals.
Well that’s what it seems like you’re asking for, I don’t live in your head.
There’s the first choice: Micro or Macro?
Micro level is balancing yourself which falls into either one or all of these:
1. Body (vitality, size, endurance, ect ect)
2. Brain (intelligence, wisdom, capability, Knoweledge)
3. Hobbies (Art, Skills, Martial Arts, writing, motorcycle maintenance)
4. Productivity (all that provides value to others or training to yourself)
5. Relationships (family, friends, relationships)
Macro: your life and legacy as a whole
This one is super vague, what would you accomplish if you knew you could not fail? The macro goal is normally the obsession and as long as you maintain your micro goals you could kick some serious ass at your macro goals.
From your forum and websites it would appear that your life focus could be:
1. Destroying feminism
2. International Relations / Travel/ Cultural Observer
3. Re-introducing masculine virtue and lifestyle
4. A hobby (such as writing or music)
5. Anything you damn well please.
You’re going to die one day, that’s a fact, what are you going to do with the handful of days you have left?
How about getting buff and getting into bodybuilding? Since you have a tall, skinny physique you could rededicate your life to this and perhaps work-out for a few years and then enter some bodybuilding or cross-fit competitions. I would love to read your blog and see how a tall, skinny guy became superman through hard work. Of course you could continute your travels and would just need to write more about the fitness levels of the male society in the different countries you visit, the best gyms to hit there, sports culture, etc.
Coast for awhile absorbing your accomplishments. Develop and expand your secondary priorities like your unplugged lifestyle and publishing business.
Let the Mission find you.
So you want something that is really hard to do, that has a cool, playboy sort of cache, that will allow you to continue the vagabond lifestyle you currently enjoy…
Become an airline pilot. You will slog and toil and quite likely won’t make it, but even if you don’t, flying is cool. It’s scientific, it requires focus, it’s fun as hell… stewardesses…
With your web history I don’t know that an airline would continue to employ you when they found out what your previous employment consisted of, but if they drop you there’s a potentially enjoyable lawsuit just waiting to be prosecuted.
Ah, Roosh, you already know the answer to this question. You are a Confronter, a Challenger; first to your own obstacles, and now perhaps to external, societally-imposed ones. But a Confronter of what?
I see a man who is intelligent, talented, fearless, and an effective communicator capable of inspiring thousands of young men to responsible action.
Having slain your own personal dragon, you will now focus your gaze on wider horizons. You are not interested in selling out or conforming; that much is clear. And thank God for that. You have no desire, rightfully, to compromise your beliefs to appease the average dunce.
I’ve been reading Diogenes Laertius’s “Lives of the Eminent Philosophers”, and could see you somehow in the mold of the experienced sage who uses his wisdom to enrich others’ lives. Read Diogenes for inspiration and guidance.
I see you as a founder of a new philosophic school, a writer, a teacher, and a guide to others. I expect to see you founding your own business or company that somehow showcases and propagates your pre-existing “goodwill” equity that exists in the public.
Looking for new demons to slay? There are no shortage of candidates out there. But pick your dragon wisely, and do not be consumed by petty battles with unworthy opponents.
You are a writer. a travelor. you can afford to do both.
Be a modern day Hemmingway. Go to wild places. find and document interesting stories (like a one man Vice of you tube). get drunk. fuck lots of girls. get a side kick. (ill go if you pay). and blog and or video the whole fucking thing for us to enjoy. here and on youtube.
Hemmingway was an interesting, great writer but his actual life was what was really fascinating.
Be him and you will fight feminism without even lifting a finger. and get a tan.
Before we start referring to Roosh as a “Casanova”, let’s examine the facts. This was a guy that had to leave the country to start getting pussy. Take that for what it’s worth. But those are Rooshs’ words, not mine. Also, quit using the term “flag” to describe women you’ve slept with from various countries. You sound like a douche. Thirdly, the reason you need a new insecurity is because you got into game to fill a void you thought was the root cause of your unhappiness, when in fact it goes much deeper than that. As it does for me and many of the posters above me on this page. If worse comes to worse you can always take Most Interesting Man in the World (#47) with you all over the globe looking for your next spiritual quick-fix until you hit rock bottom again. I’m sure he’d love to glom off you as much as possible. As long as you pay for him, that is. You’re a spiritually bankrupt individual, Roosh. Coming to terms with that may be the first step in not needing to find anymore insecurities to overcome, and not just continuing to go through the motions day after day.
So in order to give you a complex… should we start hating on you? Maybe you should read the hater comments on your blog and start taking them seriously and letting them get under your skin. Unfortunately for you, game requires you to develop self confidence, which is going to make it a lot harder to develop a complex. Good luck!
Social interest is probably the healthiest sources of motivation, obviously while avoiding to neglect one’s happiness. You should check out therawness’s post on theaters of operation.
Since you’re aware that you can choose what you fear and turn into an insecurity, you’ve realized half of it. The other half is knowing that the “insecurity” you choose doesn’t have to be a socially conventional one. Also, you should avoid one in which you’re comparing yourself to others, and instead choose one where the only parameter is if you’re better than you were before.
So with that said, the sensible thing to do is to focus first on configuring your career to better the lives of others, if at this point you’re having a difficult time deciding what you enjoy. Figure out what your biggest assets to society are, and leverage those to move forward. And then on the way you’ll find out which things you like doing, and you’ll have your answer.
You’re looking for motivation. That’s a hard one, besides ‘You are going to die. So what will you leave once you’ve gone?’
You need to make a legacy and you need to realise you’re on a time limit. The bigger the legacy, the greater the sense of urgency (as long as you don’t go too big to the point of thinking its unachievable).
Some possible goals (some cribbed from others here):
1) Find the perfect mother and raise a child
2) Financial freedom / Perpetual Traveller lifestyle development
3) Broaden your writing into adventure monologues. Think Hunter S Thompson/Hemingway. (I’ve been reading hells angels)
4) Mentor some hopeless (but open-minded) cases in PUA
5) Continue preaching red pill truth in order to get mainstream notoreity.
As a last thought, I’d consider the desire to confront and crush the haters in the mainstream media. It would be so gratifying to school some mainstream media pundits who play the PC game in public debate. It would also be a sign of the turning tide of red pill over blue pill in the public coonsciousness and the death knell for feminism.
be a fighter not a lover….be the tuffest pua by boxing. challengr zolo then ffy perhaps virgile….cant look like a pussy besides ur a turk ur suppose to be tuff
As many have suggested above, find a thousand ways to END “feminism,” which is truly the greatest evil of our modern world.
Also you can become a DJ or an artist, and masses will get your message easier
It’s all meaningless, a chasing after the wind.
fembots are going to psychoanalyse the hell out of this and use it to explain your entire blog. then they’re going to reach out and you’ll bang them. then i’ll laugh
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BJJ/MMA. I’m surprised no one has brought this up.
most men are motivated by the drive for poon and society used to take this drive and mold it into something productive (also by forcing women to hook up or stay with beta guys). i dont think you’ve got more of a complex than any other man….
maybe you’re just experiencing your
well, whats left to draw good emotions from for a young man who has travelled and seen the world and been with every kind of poon he can imagine and desire? what when no new stimulus can be found in this world for you?
finding joy and statisfaction in contributing and sharing, i guess. that seems to be the male path anyway.
socity forcing women to stick with beta guys (or any guy) is a thing of the past of course, i know i know
An far as the ‘empty hole’ comment goes, which is pretty spot on, I’d recommend Roosh take a look at the stoic philosophy. It is fairly badass and its primary purpose is to help men live with virtue (which in a greek/roman context is more akin to truly awesome traits) and by doing this you solve the problems of satisfaction and happiness.
Go on welfare
Bro I’ve read more of your blog, so here’s the thing.
Forget about complexes, you don’t NEED them.
Your analysis of things shows you have above average intellect, so I’ll fucking Lay it out for you.
The answer to your void/question was given to you 5 years ago, by the French guy in Venezuela.
What’s your mission?
you said it was writing books… but it wasn’t. Your mission was getting better with girls. That’s why MOST of your energy was directed towards that, getting buff, stylish, casanova, logistics,even writing books about that, etc.
if your mission would’ve been writing. Most of your energy would’ve been spent to write, study writing, write different types of things, poems, etc.
ex: Gustave Flaubert: Flaubert believed in, and pursued, the principle of finding “le mot juste” (“the right word”), which he considered as the key mean to achieve quality in literary art.
Another french author Gérard de Nerval, wrote Sylvie. The book was an exercise in writing style, the goal to write a book in the simplest way possible.
These guys spent weeks on one page, until every sentence, every innuendo was to their liking.
Logistics for Hemingway, Twain, Thoreau, etc was optimized to write, not pick up girls.
Remember, a girl is only an accessory for you while you accomplish your Goals/Mission in life.
That’s why even if you succeed you’ll still feel empty. I had the same experience a couple of years ago after getting real good at game and fucking a lot of girls (for me it was after 75ish). I would fuck a girl and be like now what?
okay I guess i’ll do it again…but I still had a void…
working on my mission filled that void.
Getting a girlfriend might sound beta to some guys. But these guys still have ways to go. The real deal is this: All the time you spend chasing you’re not focusing on your mission. That’s why arranged marriage worked, thats why marriage is an institution everywhere in the world from the Xingus in Brasil to the the Massai in Kenya. (usually the alpha male of the tribe gets more than 1 girl)
SERIOUSLY, Stop putting girls on pedestals. focusing on getting girls is putting them on a pedestal. They’re accessories while you get your mission on.
Now get that feeling of abundance then it’s time to get a serious girl. (but keep that feeling, keep flirting, keep trying to open girls to keep you sharp)
I’m sure you already tried that but it didn’t work. Guess why?? You don’t have a mission so the girl can’t play her role so it creates friction.
Lead your fucking tribe, or play your beta role.
Anything besides food, water, and shelter is a perversion.
All mental inspriation is a “complex”.
Another word for “complex” = found motivation!
Make a movie based on your life. We need a cult movie about pick up. I volunteer to help you work on the script and maybe star some wingman in it
What are you? only you can answer this.
if you figure it out, please tell me how.
Roosh, focus on making ROK the number one Manosphere blog. Make it go BIG. I think you’re right, this thing could go mainstream in 2013, man. Think about it, if you’re actually able to make a healthy living off of this for the rest of your life, it would be one big middle finger to the establishment that told you you couldn’t. Random idea, you could have a “Warzone:Dispatches from the Front” section on the site where guys update the blog live on their openings as they make them, like reality television (I don’t watch television, but I hear it’s addictive). Readers could root their compatriots on, offering helpful advice, etc, in real time. There’s so many places you could take this, man, you’ve got a platform, dive into it 100%, don’t lose steam now, you’re right on the cusp of a breakthrough man, all your life’s work has led to this moment. It’s time to make your mark, not just in a cobwebbed corner of the “internets,” but on American pop culture. That’s my two cents.
Isn’t it obvious? Your main remaining insecurity is the fear that you will die without having lived what you perceive to be a consequential and meaningful life. The reason why you want a “complex” to motivate you is that you feel your life’s accomplishments to date have been inadequate. Your complex is a fear of not living your life to its fullest potential – clearly getting laid was the most obvious part of what that means to you for a long time, and now that you feel like you’ve got that handled you can’t identify the most important part of your process of self-actualization that you haven’t accomplished yet.
So here’s the question you need to ask yourself: When you’re lying on your deathbed and reflecting on your life, what would it take for you to look back and say “yeah, I got what I wanted out of life”? Make a list of everything you’d need to have done in order to feel that satisfaction, then start checking off items.
As for the specific contents of that list, you need to determine that yourself because it depends exclusively on what’s meaningful to you.
You are not a real Man until you become a full-blooded Patriarch.
Don’t waste your life.
This seems like the most obvious answer to me. Do your research on weightlifting, and start achieving heavier weights and building muscle.
you’re complex and everyman’s complex should be feminism, now get to work…
“Getting a girlfriend might sound beta to some guys.”
Women have become bombarded by unwanted male attention and with likes of facebook and social media in general ~uggh~ is not helping the cause.. I”m still willing to pursue women but only when i feel like it not.
roosh, you have all the smart in the world.
You should be so filthy rich u never have to worry about money again. and enjoy the best life has to offer.
you want a complex?
your stupid and you suck because you put banging on a pedestal and forgot about MONEY, the ever important thing.
My challenge to you..IF you think you are talented and can overcome unsurmountable odds, then try to make a huge amount of money (1M+ ) in less than a year. If that sounds too easy, make it 6 months.
Then take it from there…
Your BETA , WEAK, STUPID, so do something about it you F*cking chode
Same thing happened to me. You need a new high. I got it from meditation. Trust me. You have no new highs left. But this is one that you can rely on – permanently.
You’ve got over your complex with women, now get a complex about men. Gain the esteem of the best men by becoming able to handle yourself in tough situations. Hit the gym, go paleo, bulk up, learn how to fight, build a network of trusted partisans.
How about the sea? That’s a pretty classical move. Try to get on with a cargo ship doing something menial and travel the world as a sailor. Get a tat… get your ear pierced when you cross the equator… repel Somali pirates…
I’m not kidding. If I was a bachelor I’d give this some serious consideration. Think about the stories… “And then I worked a Russian cargo ship for awhile… got into a knife fight in Manilla…” said with a thousand yard stare. “I’ll always remember Juanita.”
Have a family of your own man. You talk much about ways of the past. In the past, family was of highest importance to most men.
My son asks why I lie to his mom because I try to teach him to be honest and have his word be his bond. My response – you’ll understand when you’re older son. Talk about complex…
u should try banging some famous broads if u haven’t already. I’d like to see how far game can take u
Hey roosh u should take the whole game concept on national tv. The purpose of taking the game lets say on dr Phil show or so and so will give much more to overcompensate. You should check Paul janka.
In my humble opinion, this video is a joke, and you don’t really mean any of it. You look happy and can’t contain your smile, which is a good thing, meaning you couldn’t care less about getting a new “commplex”.
But since life is a joke anyway, the only obvious complex you could work for would be getting a girl to like you without having sex with her. While letting her know all about the actual you, not Burt or whoever. And NOT having sex with her!
Oh hey Roosh that was me ;)
Make babies. In most traditional cultures you are not a man until you make babies. Make babies.
I have nine grand children that I know about. There are probably a lot more that I don’t know about.
Start a family. That should fill the void…
How about “I want to leave my trace in the history”? Think about great scientists, artists, etc
we feel empty because women can’t be relied on, they can just be fucked. In the long run, it tames the dick’s urges, but not those of the soul.
He’s merely talking about harnessing one’s crazy for personal benefit, something which I have employed for many years. If you can do it, there’s nothing like it.