The conversation is going okay, but ten minutes in she still hasn’t asked for your name. She keeps looking over your shoulder. What message are you sending her? How is she perceiving you? Does she see you as cool or uncool, interesting or boring, sexy or strange? Thumbs up or thumbs down?
Boring. She sees you as boring. Step back and tease her about her thick winter coat, like she’s preparing for a Russian winter. Ask her if she’s hiding a little midget in there.
If I suspect that a girl’s perceptions of me are not helping me get to sex, I make changes to the conversation or my body language to fall more in line with what she wants. Lots of guys call this “calibration,” where you adjust on a case-by-case basis based on the type of girl you’re talking to based on the response you’re getting. This doesn’t mean putting prettier girls on a pedestal but changing your game depending on her personality or background.
Here are a few basic examples of what I change depending on the type of girl I’m talking to:
- Black girls – I use more cockiness and direct game
- Hipster girls – I stress my artistic side and anti-mainstream leanings
- Young girls – I use shorter sentences and smaller words, say “like” and “you know” more often, and qualify her relentlessly
- Late 20s white girls – I use more SAT words while showing more obscure wit and trivia knowledge
- Foreign girls living in America – stories that show I’m an international man of mystery
- Asian girls – I insinuate that I have a massive dong
For example, an anecdote I’d tell to a young black girl who’s a senior at Howard University would not be said to a white girl who’s a medical student at George Washington. You may think this is acting, but it’s more about choosing which parts of you to highlight to your audience in order to build a stronger connection.
The seventeen years I lived in a Maryland ghetto (White Oak), the six years I worked in corporate America, my DJ/bartending experiences, my time abroad, and my writing projects have all allowed me to put on different suits to interact with different girls. By having had varied experiences in my life, I can pick and choose the best way to develop a spark with a girl whose background possibly matches something I’ve done. This helps me fuck an American lawyer cunt, a Colombian college student, an Icelandic engineer working on her masters, a Danish flight attendant, a quirky Polish pixie, and so on all within a short time frame. These girls have nothing in common with each other besides the fact that they have a vagina, yet I was able to connect with them strongly enough to get sex.
If you easily fit a stereotype, then you will only be able to bang a stereotype. If you’re a die-hard prep, you’ll only fuck preppy girls (which isn’t entirely bad if you love preppy girls), but a Brazilian girl would seem foreign and even strange to you. With this idea we’re getting into the big picture, where you’re not just changing a minor aspect of your game to fuck a girl, but adding a part to your being that gets you noticed by someone completely different.
Only by branching out and trying different things, while having friends from different socioeconomic groups and backgrounds, can you truly experience variety. While it’s possible for you to bang an artist even though you’re a corporate worker, it’s much easier if you know something about her artist tribe, or have dabbled in art yourself. To relate to all sorts of women, you’ll not only have to try all sorts of things in life, but achieve minor success, competency, or deep understanding with them. This may mean cutting back on the more wasteful uses of your time.
If you’re not happy with the kind of women you’re fucking, you’ll have to step out of your comfort zone and dive into something new. It’s impossible to form a real connection with someone who shares nothing in common with you, and only by experiencing all that life has to offer can you experience all the types of women that exist.Tweet Follow @rooshv
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elaborate on the asian thing
Main problem: Dont give women too much importance, Dont chase women either. If your are putting too much effort to get a good response from a woman, walk away. Respect yourself at any cost. A more suitable woman will come accross, one that vibrates at your same frecuency, that is easy to notice, if not, simply walk away.
I like this post. Problem is that it won’t work too well for younger guys. Being a good shapeshifter is all about having a lot of life experience. Younger guys are trying to find themselves or too locked into their clicke to game other types of women. How does a young metalhead dude kick it to a fly Latina? He doesn’t cause he can’t relate to her because of his limited life experience. Good post though.
Great post and agreed with above, the more life experience you have the better, It’s kind of sad that by best stories are about chasing tail etc. However having lived in Europe for over 10 years does help with convo, espeically since I’m a negroid
The asian thing?, The same thing, if she likes you she will show it regarless of race. Dont get stressed, be yourself, any red flag, move to the next one.
All girls are Asian to me ;-)
The game?, There is no game or strategy, it is only a matter of liking each other. If your are young, get a girl that vibrates in resonance with you, it doesnt matter latin, asian or black. If she likes the way you are she will show it, no matter how hard you try. Just be yourself and has some dignity, by chasing women your are idolizing them and that is not good. The best game is just lay the trap and somebody will fall.
Don’t be hatin’. I call Troll. LOL
You see “hot” women with certain type of man and you wonder how was that possible. Maybe she is a low quality person with low standards, we have to get passed the flesh here. I dont care kind of relation we will have, respect has to be part of the deal. For me chasing women is lust and that is a deadly sin, it lowers my dignity and my purposes for life, if while I am bussy making money a person comes across I check it, if not it is ok too, eventually somebody able to resonance with me will come.
You gotta make the magic happen brudda. She ain’t gonna do the work for ya!!
That is the problem, there is no magic, you kind of know when you are liked by a woman. Just dress well, get a good job and have some dignity. Be yourself, there is no other way, if she like you she will let you know some how, if she doesnt like you, you will know as well. You have your own personality, you walk and talk in a certain way, you have your own cultural background, How will you know whether she will like you? No way to know that before hand. Dont try to change the good things about you to get a women, that is lack of dignity right there. Of course change whatever is not good like, dressing better, and get a good freaking job or get some education a manners, but again she might like your anyway.
There is always going to be somebody out there for you, just get yourself squared away and you will see. Changing you positive atributes to get any specific woman is inferior. If any specific woman dont like you, somebody else will, as simple as that. Dignity and self respect above all of that.
Why are you here if you don’t believe what The Roosh is preachin’? Move on TROLL!!
Great post. Finally we´re seeing some differentiation in game theory… you underscore the importance of adapting to situations in Gaming…too much focus has gone to unilateral alpha-fiercely-targetting-hot-white-bitch-gaming…would love to see the same variation in TYPES of gamers and gaming.Keep up the good work, roosh!
optional: does a good salesman simply sit back and wait for the customers who appreciate his wares to seek him out and approach him for the sale? Of course not. He has to proactively get out there and chase all kinds of people around in order to find the few that will resonate with what he has to sell. A salesman who simply says “I’ve got this product. Come buy it if you like it.” will soon find himself broke and unemployed. It’s exactly the same with a man trying to find good women.
Add to this the fact that most women don’t have a clue what they want, and are willingly led around by those with a stronger frame than they have. This means that 9 times out of 10, a woman won’t be attracted to you unless you do something to lead the dynamic into attraction. She is just not all that motivated to seek out a good guy and get with him, when she is hit on by random suitors all day every day.
Your perspective is partially right, but it also sounds too much like the rotten advice that women give, to “just be yourself.” It just doesn’t work.
I meant, why does subtly insinuating that you have a huge schlong to asian girls work?
See this is why so many people make references to James Bond , because he is a jack of all trades. Not only that, but he actually excels at all his skills. Great Post man. One question since dealing with the women in Poland and having great success do you think your game would take a step back when you get back to D.C?
The asian thing was a joke. 2B+ women aren’t going to salivate at insinuations you’re huge.
But most of the ones I’ve met either have daddy issues or are paranoid about players (though rarely both), so try those angles fwiw.
i don’t know that it was a joke. that’s why i’m asking
“If your are putting too much effort to get a good response from a woman, walk away. Respect yourself at any cost. A more suitable woman will come accross, one that vibrates at your same frecuency”
Yes, be yourself and the universe will provide.
All kidding aside, fuck that shit. Human beings communicate on many different “frequencies”. If you believe that you only have 1 frequency, you are a one dimensional person.
Example: Bill Clinton. To blacks, he is a down home southern person. To rich people, he’s a Yalie. To interns and fatties, he’ a sex god. Is he faking all of it, or is he just vibrating at all his frequencies and connecting with a broad swath of people?
@ Shallow Hal
“I like this post. Problem is that it won’t work too well for younger guys.”
It’s not so much about age, but about willingness to expand your experiences.
“Your perspective is partially right, but it also sounds too much like the rotten advice that women give, to “just be yourself.” It just doesn’t work.”
I don´t agree. Roosh is saying the opposite: Shapeshifting = Don´t be yourself! What is “yourself” anyway?
Damn, we´re getting philosophical here! :)
Vibrating at your frequency means to want the same without too much trouble. You go to a party and ask a dance to a girl, She says yes and everything goes smooth, get the picture?. That is what I am saying. It is better to have a good frequency that having way too many that you don’t know who you are what you want.
Be yourself means don’t become something your are not in order to get somewhere, this applies in many aspects in life.
I wont become a player from the hood to please some Asian chick, I am who I am take it or leave it, she wont change for you, this is why all this chasing women and stuff is inferior.
Makes sense, it seems like there’s a disconnet in guy’s minds. They think they have to find a girl that likes them for them, but don’t realize 90% of the time from everyday life you’ve learned to be someone no one really wants, so you have to step outside yourself figure out how to become whats wanted, taking the fuckin effort to do it pays off.
I say “be just who you are” and change anything wrong, improving is always good. The universe will provide? sometimes it will, of course you have to do your part. I Just don’t see myself publishing my ego out there for every women to see, like a car dealer, women as well as car buyers like what they like.
did you go to Springbrook?
Do what you want, women like to have gay friends, become one, that is a good way to get close to women. it is easier to identify where the women that like your like go, and then hang out there. I tell you someone will notice. If like to salsa go to a salsa club, improve your salsa skills and a suitable girl will show up.
I think I always fit a stereotype. I occasionally got hipster and artsy girls, but it was rare. I tend to attract the status whore type of girls, especially Asians.
wtf happened to roissy?
All this stuff is what immature boys do to attract women. Any real man in his 30 know the truth:
1) Kept your body in shape, go to the gym at least 3 times a week.
2) Good job(cash).
3) Dress nicely.
4) Good car.
This 4 points are universal, forget about being a clown for women, as somebody said, they don’t know what they want exactly, but 1 thing is for sure, they like somebody that meet my 4 universal points, if you meet them your game is tight and you wont have to chase around too much to get what you want. Remember, always respect yourself and have some freaking dignity.
Date? Don’t date either, find a girl you like and invite her out, or to your place, dating is informal and degrading. That is why in France we don’t do that stuff, we like each other we move together, as simple as that.
So you’re basically telling me to be the conversational equivalent of Mr Chi City’s refrigerator
Great post. As with anything, the target dictates weapon, not the other way around. You cannot expect same results from throwing same game at different girls. In the end, the game is all about getting the result you want.
“How does a young metalhead dude kick it to a fly Latina?”
There’s your stereotype. I’ve rarely seen metalheads with hot chicks, and the few hot ones were metalheads themselves.
But the metalhead can kick it if he’s athletic and presents himself somewhat stylishly. Like a mysterious dark romancer with a badboy/rocker edge. A motorcycle, or playing in a band with local fame may help. Greasy hair and dirty denim jackets with Cannibal Corpse and deathshead patches won’t.
If you want a high quality chick you need to be high quality yourself. And have a certain amount of mainstream appeal.
Nerds, weirdos and subculture sectarians only get their respective counterparts. At best.
“Any real man in his 30 know the truth:
1) Kept your body in shape, go to the gym at least 3 times a week.
2) Good job(cash).
3) Dress nicely.
4) Good car.
This 4 points are universal”
LOL! Beta game for the win!
Good job and good car are relevant only to gold diggers. If those 2 things were universal, no high school or college boy would get laid.
Good job = at least $100,000 = tied to work, no time to meet chicks, being beta to your boss, etc. = married to a gold digger = divorce rape.
On the other hand, cash flow without a real job = more time to meet chicks = more pussy.
p.s. 95% of French dudes I’ve met in America are beta.
p.p.s. Nice apartment in Paris beats a car for getting chicks.
Damn straight optional. I’m tired of these damn kids, always talking about their pee pees and wee wees, when they should be thinking about Jesus!
Metalheads are one of the least seductive people on the planet. They usually look dirty and wear denim jackets – two things that make the labia shrivel. They even get less play than the Rastafarian gypsy guy who lives in a truck with his dog. I regularly hang out at a metal/skinhead bar and I NEVER see them with girls who look fuckable. They all look inexplicably worn out and presumably ravaged by hepatitis.
If I were a metal guy, I would dress clean; a nice collared shirt with a perfectly fitting black jacket and some dress boots with nicely styled hair. When I took a girl home, I’d put on some cannibal corpse and fuck her in her state of confusion.
@Kaywhole – Great reply! LOL
Optional, your camel toe is showing. GTFO
we cant help but think of him reading this blog,Roosh is Nigga Jesus.
I think some of us are interpreting “shapeshifter” a little too literally. To be able to speak to different people in their own “language” isn’t changing yourself just so you can be with a certain girl, or being someone that you aren’t. It’s about being worldly and knowledgable in different areas, and being able to hold your own no matter what room you’re standing in and being able to relate to different people and get a read on them. You’re being “yourself” in that all of those different aspects are already a part of you. If you’re talking to an arty chick, what’s wrong with conversing with her about art if you’re knowledgable about that particular subject? What’s wrong with connecting with her on that level? Obviously, if you DON’T know shit about art, but try to fake it, THAT would be trying to be something you aren’t.
Actually, this is the kind of man women claim to want. A man that can be all things at all times, and magically know exactly when he needs to be whatever is needed. The Bill Clinton analogy someone made earlier was perfect. It’s been said about Clinton that he could be in a room full of people, yet would have every person in that room believing he was there just for them. Was he not being himself, or was he simply a charismatic, affable man? It’s a great gift to have if you’re a politician, but he would be that same man no matter what he did in life, and he’d be getting the same ton of pussy he’s gotten his whole life. Not everyone is willing or able to expand themselves in this way, but don’t knock guys that ARE this way as somehow being pathetic, needy or lacking dignity.
This has been one of the main things that has brought me success in the past. Adjusting on the fly and being a ‘chameleon.’/shapeshifter.
Is there a few trolls in here or what?Roosh this is another good post as usual bro.Props.
i know what your saying,good reply
It’s all about your toolbox, and having as many tools in there as possible. You don’t have to be highly knowledgable in tons of areas. You can have a passing interest, which will be enough to spark or extend a conversation with a woman, and it will give her the opportunity to ramble on and feel she’s dropping knowledge on you (they love that shit).
“Black girls – I use more cockiness and direct game”
This also works incredibly well on Russian girls. . . and I guess most eastern European girls in general
So what kind of shape do you use on Turkish girls?
“A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.”
“He had one of those rare smiles with a quality of eternal reassurance in it . . . It faced, or seemed to face, the whole external world for an instant and then concentrated on you with an irresistible prejudice in your favor.” — The Great Gatsby, F. Scott Fitzgerald
“This may mean cutting back on the more wasteful uses of your time.”
I love this. Too many guys are wasting time doing shit that doesn’t help bring in any power, status, money, or pussy.
You are starting to remind me of the stuff Malcolm Gladwell writes about..
“The tipping point” – I think you have recently reached another “tipping point”. Your Game and writing seem to be at a new level.
“blink” – You seem almost sub-consciously aware of even the smallest social cues which can effect your success.
“Outliers” – Your unique perspective combined with tremendous drive and motivation has made you a rarity among men.
Asian girls seeking big cocks? No compute.
Asian girls are diverse. Not that my sample is that great: 3 Chinese, 2 Viets, 1 Thai. All these girls were 1st or 2nd generation Thai Americans except one Chinese and the Thai which were banged overseas. I’ve fucked one other American Asian but she culturally American so no difference. Successful game was thus:
Chinese Game: I played International businessman that was going places. They care less about the sensual aspects of sex. Sex is a tool to win successful man and raise exceptional child. Will let you do what you want but not exciting.
Viet Game: Similar to Chinese when they are older, but when they are young they are about the party and status like white girls. Game depends on age
Thai Game: Nothing really just didn’t do anything wrong and DTF. Very horny for fem girl.
P.S. source of LTR problems, never had an Asian that could cum from fucking, expect lots of effort to get them off. Too much effort.
I’ve banged double digit Asian girls and every one came. Except maybe a few I wasn’t into and therefore lacked motivation for anything but a quickie. But certainly no coming problems with the LTRs. Maybe your beta energy is too low. They need more comfort.
You forgot Filippino game.
Flip game: serve em some pancit and they will suck your cock.
Shapeshifting is a good concept. Why be one dimensional? For a quick reference listen and watch Bono sing “The Fly”…..excellent example of how to become a different character.
you are an idiotic sexist,i am impresed that women wish to fuck with you.Now i know why feminists in USA are radical to teh point to hate men.
We latinas are not wholes to fuck,no woman is.You are a fucking looser.
just going to throw this out there…I hate women. And Maria de lourdes, your an idiot and obvious a “whole” to fuck hahahaha
Actually, hookers and sluts are HOLES to fuck. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but they do exist solely for men’s pleasure, their 3 holes available for men to ejaculate into. As maria de lourdes touched on, those women that fuck with Roosh make their own decision to do so. No matter how much game gets thrown at a woman, in the end, she decides she wants to fuck. If she weren’t open to the idea, it wouldn’t happen.
The real intention of this post was to act as a hater honeypot.
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“LOL! Beta game for the win!Good job and good car are relevant only to gold diggers. If those 2 things were universal, no high school or college boy would get laid.Good job = at least $100,000 = tied to work, no time to meet chicks, being beta to your boss, etc. = married to a gold digger = divorce rape. On the other hand, cash flow without a real job = more time to meet chicks = more pussy.” – Anon
This is one of the most uninformed things I’ve read in a while rife with every cliche in the book. Your comparison to high school and college kids is dumb because a good job and good car matter much more as a man ages. A single guy with little expenses doesn’t need to make a 100K+. That’s a strawman you invented. On the topic of strawmen who said anything about marrying a gold digger? Cash flow without working? lawl How do you plan to pull that one off slick? Very few people can live like Roosh.
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As to cash flow without “working,” well…at some point you have to put in some work on something that will continue to generate income on its own. Like writing books. Or making music. And Roosh continues to write on the road, so while he isn’t heading into the office every day, he is working on his own, which requires a certain amount of discipline.
Wtf are you guys talking about ?!
Hey Roosh, Did you go to Springbrook High School?