The Wall Street Journal recently published an excellent article called Death Of A Playboy. It argues that cultural and economic factors have put an end to playboy lifestyles of the likes of Peter Beard, Gunter Sachs, and Porfirio Rubirosa. This is no surprise if you consider that a big part of that lifestyle was the pursuit of elite hobbies like car racing and polo that get little interest in today’s internet age. Yesterday’s culture was also more inclined to embrace the mild chauvinism that came with being a playboy. If those playboys lived today, the media would simply highlight how badly they treat their mistresses and publish gotcha shots of their hairy naked asses on private beaches.
What can be achieved today is a form of a playboy-lite lifestyle, where fewer men can become true playboys but more can experience a taste of what real playboys had. You no longer need to be a millionaire with special connections to hit the hot spots of the world. You don’t need to be the most interesting man in the world to sleep with beautiful foreign women. It’s true you won’t have access to supermodels and high-society events, but you will experience things that your dad could have only dreamed of.
Here are the steps into becoming a lite playboy:
1. Set your own work hours. You can’t be a playboy if another man is dictating how you must spend your time. You should be at liberty to hop on a plane to explore a new city whenever you desire. This probably means you need to start an internet business. Come up with an idea this month, put at least one hour a day into it for the next two years, and you’ll be on your way.
2. Stay in centrally located apartments. Hostels are great for backpacking but horrible for the playboy lifestyle, and hotels are expensive and not comfortable for long trips. A recent innovation that makes it easier to stay in affordable apartments is Airbnb, where homeowners rent you their places at prices that are cheaper than hotels. The first apartment I rented through them was nicely decorated and got many compliments from the women I brought over.
3. Play the numbers game. You won’t truly leverage your strengths unless you’re putting yourself in front of a lot of women. Whether via internet, day, or night game, you should be always prospecting for talent and squeezing them through your fuck funnel. There’s no escaping the game grind.
4. Pursue a unique hobby. The playboys of old kill us with their sportsmanship and artistic endeavors, but that shouldn’t stop you from spending at least one hour a day on photography, writing, music, or language. There has to be something in your life that is not just about pussy and money, that gives you meaning when—for whatever reason—you need a break from the two. If there’s nothing more to your existence than ass and cash, you set yourself up for depressing periods of emptiness and frustration.
5. Assemble a good crew. You should be extremely selective about the men you invite into your world. Unless a man is in the same boat as you, or vigorously working to get there, he should be no more than an acquaintance, because there is a high chance he will bring you down and sabotage your efforts. I prefer rolling with a wingman, but if the man isn’t of high character and worth, I’ll go it alone. Thankfully, the internet has a way of bringing together men of like-minded interests. I’ve met many men from the forum who I trust and I’m sure I’ll meet many more.
Living the playboy-lite lifestyle can be done for only $2,000 a month. You can find a nice apartment for under $1,000 a month in most European cities and walk yourself to the best bars, cafes, and clubs to drink to your heart’s content for modest prices. You can’t afford to get bottle service in the hottest club every weekend, but you can put yourself in front of beautiful women and let your game, which you’ve honed in the West, do the rest. Making $2,000 a month via the internet is not easy but very doable. The good news is that many cities in South America and Eastern Europe open up to you starting at $1,500 a month.
I don’t care for the playboy term or even want to say I am one, but as my years living abroad stacks up, it’s getting easier to compete with the local men to get desirable women. I could go into a city and within a week, have my finger around what it takes to enjoy it, both emotionally and sexually. As I continue traveling and the number of girls I maintain correspondence with goes up, I realize there are now many cities I can step foot in and have a good chance of getting laid within 24 hours.
I didn’t accomplish this lifestyle overnight. I pounded the pavement for years, first in my own country and then through visits in more than twenty others over the course of several years. I can tell you that it’s great to hit a club in a foreign city and look around at the men and realize that I’m not a little fish like I was in the past, that all I have to do is put in the work and get what’s coming to me.Tweet Follow @rooshv
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Awesome post, Roosh.
I’m doing something similar to you: I cashed in my chips in Silicon Valley and now I’m doing specialized consulting over the internet in a field where I have a lot of expertise. I can move anywhere I want and pull in about $4K-$5K a month working part-time. It’s way less than I was making when I was back home, but way more than adequate in most parts of the world.
I’m living in Siberia now. It’s fucking cold here in the winter, but the talent out here is incredible. I’m pulling way better and way younger talent with less effort than I did in the states. I speak fluent Russian now which helps a lot.
My game is getting better but it is nowhere on your level. It’s not holding me back: my “intermediate level” game is more than enough to keep me content…
You’re 100% right that you have to reach a point that you write your own rules. As long as you’re some bitch in a cubicle working 9-5 you’ll never get anywhere. You have to leave the matrix.
That WSJ article was not recent. It was published on September 29, 2011.
There is a thread on the forum about a RVF Siberia trip. We could use your input if you haven’t posted in it already. Forum registration is open on the 1st of each month if you’re not already registered.
I analyze in general women in the world, I came to the conclusion that the “Slavic” (Eastern European women) are the most interesting.
Someone has information to get along with the “Slav”?
Being very beautiful and not speaking English? Or being median speaking English?
I was driving to meet me “When Uruguayan.”
yes, being a international playboy has everything to do with being able to move around and live comfortable where ever you are. I’m also working on a 2.5k/month plan with maybe some hobby side income and look forward to succeeding in it. If ever.
Too many people think the playboy lifestyle is all about driving Benz’s and flashing bling bling.
I’d say F cars, really don’t need them when you’re on the move all the time. Unless you buy something really special it’s always a losing investment.
Sometimes a small hobby also leads to income and sometimes a lifestyle business without you even realizing it. No joking here. Especially if you do it a bit sloppy or not caring about what others think about it. Kind of outcome independence with personal standards.
Mine was being a minimalist in using my film cameras. Used to scan prints and writings into a blog with commentary, etc. Have a paid exhibit and might publish them as a coffee table book. This from a few hours a week doing something that makes me smile.
Oh, and the artist thing with the camera gets the girls too.
The key is to be a minimalist at whatever standard of performance turns you on. Mine kept me away from the noise of the photogs yuppies. The secret is in being in your own world when you do your hobby. Very few get all consumed by something. It is a very positive experience and relief from life. Books are written this way.
This is part of being the lite-playboy of the new era. Seeing guys do this now whether with old sport cars or boats. It is a hands-on thing without the entire lifestyle wrapping of the old-style playboy.
Remember, it costs little to nothing to write, paint, digital photos or to be a pundit of sorts. Computers are practically free. Pick a subject that you like and write a book about it just to do it. This endeavor will open up opportunities to you without you even realizing it.
Great post Roosh!
I am working on these things. Right now I scuba dive which is expensive good fun but I still can travel and enjoy foreign women. I have gamed most parts of Asia and Latin America and once I complete the tour, its eastern Europe! Last year I did a pussy and dive tour of the Caribbean which was amazing!
Looks like you’re going to have to lay your goon hand down Roosh (see #9 and #10 above)
“As I continue traveling and the number of girls I maintain correspondence with goes up, I realize there are now many cities I can step foot in and have a good chance of getting laid within 24 hours.”
This right here is the thing. The ultimate. To have a woman or two that you can call when the wheels touch down, no matter where you’re going. Someone that feels THAT WAY about you, and within hours you’re SMASHING.
This resonated with me big time, as I have never really felt like a backpacker, but am no on the level of all hotels or having a fully financed situation (yet). It is is for sure a different type of travel/experience.
I actually hold living abroad and travel in two seperate categories, and the former is much more enticing the older I get while I am starting to loathe the latter.
I recently had a hotel in the Alps comped and the level it brings it so much more baller than being in the grubby backpacker category. Airbnb is good, but I am still searching for something more intermediate, cheaper price point but longer than a week. Either way, there are now more options than grubby hostels if you can manage going out and making shit happen alone.
Cheers on the quest Roosh,
Isn’t it better to stay in the suburbs? Center of cities tend to have a very high male population while females prefer to live in the suburbs?
The closest that most men can get to the international playboy lifestyle is working for a big international consulting company. It’s not easy to get international assignments when you’re further down the hierarchy, but it is possible and managers (some late 20s, most mid 30s) get plenty of opportunities to travel abroad. I was offered an assignment in Colombia during my first year with the company, but took a different project that was more in line with my career aspirations.
The company (the client pays) puts you up in a nice hotel and gets you a rental car if the client site isn’t within range of the hotel shuttle. The car is midsize, unless you’re a manager, but it’s easy to get away with upgrading the car and charging it to the client.
Because you fly every week, you get status on the airlines quick and end up getting a ton of first class upgrades. You also accumulate points so that you can use your extensive vacation time (about 5 weeks/yr at most firms)to travel to exotic places and stay in nice hotels for free. You can also use your points to fly some girl to wherever you are. You can bet that if you even had decent game when you picked her up, flying her to you in some cool place is going to guarantee you get your dick wet.
are way better! Only idiots think that in eastern europe you will find the true love :p stupid monkey-boys… :D
America is also worth exploring if you’re from another country
$2k a month? Its actually not THAT hard if you work on it. I would probably need something part time besides writing books/blogging just as a back up.
Everytime you make some profits make sure you invest it in something interest bearing….
Hmmm … thought I saw another post in between
“Big Ass Book Challenge” & “International Playboy”?
Did you take a post down?
Gee I wonder why …
[Roosh: Maybe you dreamed it in your troll dreams.]
Though previous conceptions of playboys were highly materialistic, those guys still had game. However, the portrayal of materialism dismissed the average Joe from those lofty aspirations since his chance of making it big was as good as the lotto. However, when you illustrate the same benefits of that lifestyle without the pre-requisite of affluence and materialism, it only proves the point further that game is the means AND the end, which can be enabled through a modification in lifestyle. Furthermore, the superficial elements (money/looks) are facilitators, not the dealmakers. Thus after reaching critical mass with money/looks, pause, then pursue the tenets of game. Being raised with the immigrant economic mentality, it is still tough for me to culturally break away from the pot-o-gold chase, but game is slowly disintegrating those cracked foundations, and my focus is shifting from business to pleasure. less pay, more play in the long run.
One thing to remember is that you can be too busy working to make money. When I was pounding the shit out of myself working as hard as possible to prove myself, I missed economic and learning opportunities just from lack of time and ENERGY. You feel like time passed you by.
What does this have to do with game? Everything. When you have free time and fulfill needs with minimal effort (after the requisite practice time and spin up time) you have time to learn, find yourself and do other things.
For years I noticed that the laziest bastards that I know make the most money. They have the freedom of time to explore things. If you are getting on the 7 AM train and getting home at 7:30 PM, are you going to start an internet business or sit in front of the TV until you pass out? You weekends are for the other job or chores. Finding opportunities while working traditionally only happens if you find a job without structure, you can goof off, spend a lot of time in the field and/or feather your nest through the job. I know many like that. But those of us who used to bang out work for most of the time at work and were legitimately tired afterwards, outside opportunity is a non-starter. It also leads you to beta as your time to shag pussy is controlled by beta building opportunities and social restrictions.
When I decided to go galt, the opportunities with much less effort opened up. You can’t believe how much money you can make when you hang out with property owners at the local auto repair shop, hang out with business owners who have employees doing the work. You can make a pretty real estate agent drive you around looking for investment properties. And, you can sit at your computer and build a web business while sitting at a coffee shop with lots of action. The only caution that I offer is to make sure you are not hanging around with losers or has-beens or not disciplining yourself.
Over 3/4 of the betas do not have the time to do something with their lives. You must cut things out to reduce the need to work. Only then can you reduce your income needs.
Oh, and having free time during the day makes gaming cute housewives quite easy.
Greet comment, John Galt (aka s…) But even if you have shit loads of free time (like me) you still have to find the motivation to do stuff and kill the procrastinator in yourself. That’s actually the hardest part.
I wholehearted agree with the post but also stress that you have to build up to it. Trying it in your early 20s without accumulating skills and experience is pretty risky.
@ Neil skywalker
respectfully no aka, never posted in the manosphere under any other handle, may drop this handle for one more unique in the future, thanks for the compliment, am new to this whole society
@john galt. i like what you said about a minimalist approach to hobbies, and slow natural transition of that to something that earns side income.
I think, for a lot of men, Procrastination, fear of failure and laziness stop them from many things.
If a man can find a lazyman method for himself to do something positive, slowly bit by bit he improves, effectively hacking his own psychology to achieve success.
examples of this:
i love running, but i am a lazy motherfucker. So i decide to put my trainers on and step outside. that’s it. if i want to come in again after putting them on i can. but the moment i’m ou that door, it becomes mentally easier to run than to walk back in. This way i get those runs in, rain or shine.
I write a great deal (unpublished at the moment), but sometimes it fucking sucks and i’m lazy. so my deal is to write one line a day. easy as shit right? so what happens is i do it every day.
Did it with keto, coding, gym, you name it. i set the bar so fucking low that makes sure mentally i’ll do it, and then i achieve and surpass it every time.
I guess that’s where the whole idea of ‘approach one a day’ comes from. rain or shine
Ah, my bad. Thought you were some one else.
This post brought a tear to my eye!
Seriously, I have been trying to see this vision for the last few years.
Being an international playboy has always been my dream.
You are a trailblazer!
very useful post roosh! I wish you write more of similar content :)
As an international playboy myself, point #2 of staying in centrally located area is probably the biggest of the points made. At least from my experience.
Not knowing anyone doesn’t seem like such a big deal to me where I need to link with a crew of wingmen (although that would help).
@Turner- Mr international playboy himself lol who’s always around the world. I think it’s only right that you speak on this.
This Post Motivates me to work Less and Play more.
Making alot of Money means Jack if you can’t enjoy it.
So more Play Less Work for me now before it’s to late and I Wonder where my Life Hase gone…….
Greenlander I am DYING to hear how things are out there. I am addicted to Russian women but want to get past Moscow/St. Pete. The extreme-ness of it (and that I have not visited there) also attracts me. I used to sail on Merchant ships and I miss that aspect.
Now I’m so busy with my clients most people in my industry would kill to be me but although I love the work and my clients I daydream about lulls in the action to rest/travel etc. when most people in my profession get anxious about those lulls. I could work from anywhere but I do have a boss so I’ll have to get that ‘approved’ sometime ….
Siberia-all I think about is hot, tall, blond (or brunette) girls who are friendlier than here. Operating in USA after you’ve been abroad a lot is like playing basketball someplace where they’ve reduced the circumference of the rim by 33%. Ok, ok, yes you still play and enjoy it at some level if you’ve got no other gym to play in for the meantime but not quite as satisfying, enjoyable, and fun after you’ve played with a bigger rim for awhile.
What happens when you’re broke and can’t afford your own apartment, let alone centrally located? Logistics do matter a lot.
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