The way to end cockblocking in the United States came to me in a dream. I woke up and immediately grabbed a pen so I wouldn’t forget something that could change the lives of millions of men.
If you get cockblocked by a girl, you need to respond by shaking her core so hard that she hesitates doing it ever again, like a mouse who hits the wrong lever and gets the shit zapped out of him. No jokes and no wit—you gotta get dirty.
This is what you must say to the cockblocker. Say it with a stern tone, like a parent scolding a child.
“Did you really just do that? I’m being friendly and respectful to your friend and you rudely interrupt. Did your parents teach you to be anti-social like that?”
Then shake your head and turn your back on her. Don’t engage her in a conversation or even act like you hear her response. She no longer exists.
This ruins her night, completely. Girls are emotional creatures and it takes them a very long time to get over getting called out like that. To top it off, girls absolutely hate it when you don’t allow them to respond. They are so used to getting in the last word in their arguments with men (they are addicted to closure, remember), that she will be thinking of what happened for a long time to come.
I was talking to a girl and mid-sentence out of nowhere this bitch rolls up between us and starts yapping her mouth. I tap her on the shoulder and she turns around. With a straight face I said, “You see we’re talking here, right?” She gave me a stunned look and immediately stormed off. Her friend gave chase to console her.
Do you think she interrupted another conversation that night? I don’t think so. She probably went home to call her beta hanger-on for support.
If every guy calls out a cockblocker just once a month, I’m confident it will cease to exist in a year or two. I’m dead serious. Girls will continue to cockblock as long as there is no punishment for doing so, and since it’s against the law to slap her upside the face, you have to use words. But it’s important you don’t use profanity or call her names because then she won’t take you seriously. Be mostly respectful so she can’t immediately write you off as an asshole. You’re a good guy who is shocked and appalled by the rudeness you were just victim to. You don’t believe what the world is coming to.
It’s our fault that girls cockblock. We’ve been letting them get away with it for so long that girls know there is absolutely no cost for them to block. We stand there with dumbfounded looks on our face while she gets satisfaction that her friend is going home alone just like her. It’s time to let them earn that cockblock.
Here are the keywords to remember: respectful, rude, interrupt, anti-social. I don’t care if I get kicked out of bars but I’m going to ruin her night, and she’s going to think twice about doing it again. Worthless bitch.Tweet Follow @rooshv
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At least you don’t sound angry about it.
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Dude, excellent idea. I’m doing my part to spread the word. http://seductionadventures.com/2008/12/collabrative-effort-to-end-cock.html
Now, if every guy can do that and “pay it forward”, the whole dynamics of social interaction just might change.
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I couldn’t have said it any better. Thank you Roosh!
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“and since it’s against the law to slap her upside the face,”
wait what?? Um Roosh, what did I tell you about being current with important information like this… fuck
I was talking to a girl and mid-sentence out of nowhere this bitch rolls up between us and starts yapping her mouth. I tap her on the shoulder and she turns around. With a straight face I said, â��You see weâ��re talking here, right?â�� She gave me a stunned look and immediately stormed off. Her friend gave chase to console her.
Did the girl to whom you had been talking return?
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This is good. Cockblocking is the name we give to rude girly behavior (a unapologetic intervention in the name of “saving a friend”). I find though that if you dismiss the nuisance, the girl you’re talking to will say something like “can you give me a minute?” and get back to talking to you. She’s already talking to you, leaning in, and by definition interested. Most of the time, this “I-have-to-talk-to-you” interjection will be forgotten.
““Did you really just do that? I’m being friendly and respectful to your friend and you rudely interrupt. Did your parents teach you to be anti-social like that?””
“To top it off, girls absolutely hate it when you don’t allow them to respond. They are so used to getting in the last word in their arguments with men (they are addicted to closure, remember), that she will be thinking of what happened for a long time to come.”
….that is another terrific insight, it puts words to an unworded notion Ive entertained in my head for years. They HAVE to get the last word in, and they HAVE to try and either entirely absolve themselves of any fault or mitigate their fault. No matter what faux paus a woman makes and how intentional it was, she will attempt to assure the whole damned world that the fault is not hers.
” We stand there with dumbfounded looks on our face while she gets satisfaction that her friend is GOING HOME ALONE JUST LIKE HER. It’s time to let them earn that cockblock.”
………GOING HOME ALONE JUST LIKE HER is what its all about. Thats primarily why they do it. Ive seen my male friends of yesteryear act a little sulky when I was dating chick A or B too exclusively and not going out with my pals, hunting poon. Its natural that people want to hunt in packs and when one member of their pack is breaking off (pairing off), there is a slight sense of loss (to us males its slight, its a huge chasm for estrogenite females). They want their friends to get married alright………………..six months after their own weddings.
Women are so outstandingly self-centered that they dont want their running posse shrinking until they are ready to leave it, hence the cockblock. Then after the male is gone, the cockblocker denigrates the guy’s clothes, style, hair, beard, face, or whatever on the ride home assuring the almost-lucky bachelerotte that she didn’t miss out on meeting a terrific man, but was saved by her “friend” from making a “mistake”.
I was hoping for something with more fireworks, but this works too :)
Some of our best ideas come to us in dreams!
I like how you rely on what a lot of people may think is old timey/old fashion manners but is really one person sounding outrage over a lack of courtesy. I would only interrupt a friend talking to someone else if she gave me signals to do so. (Save me from this jerk)
I believe poor manners is a huge problem in the US.
I changed my mind now about my comment before.
I shouldn’t “save” anyone if they don’t have a guts to speak up for themselves and learn how to free themselves polite style.
haha this was way better than roissy’s stupid post about the church today
Yesterday I started reading your blog and I like it very much…good to see your interest for my Brasil! come back and bring you friends, baby!!!! heheh ;)
I have a question about american girls: how does an american girl do to make the guy she likes notice that she is interested? how do they act? I know that they’re shy and they worry about people thinkin’ they’re easy if they show interest for someone, so I was wondering… how things happen there in USA?
If you find time, please, answer this…
and…of course…come to Bra-sil…
AMEN to that Roosh!
BITCH GET’S WHAT SHE DESERVES! hehe!
A BITCH SLAP of REALITY of HER RUDENESS! hehe! :p
Sorry, I don’t see it working forever, man.
Sure, it’ll work for awhile, then it gets kicked up to the next level of the arms race.
Girls will come by with a smile and ever so politely say “Excuse me, I’ve just got a call/text and I need to ask *soandso* something as a confidante. Do you mind if she goes just for a minute or so? Sorry about the interruption.”
Not that I’m complaining. Anything that raises the level of discourse in the world is okay by my book. Makes it easier for me.
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Reeeeally suprised to hear about all this blocking going on… I would never try to mess up a conversation a friend of mine is having with a guy if she hasn’t given me very clear signals and/or texted me to “save” her. Most of the time I figure if she’s not interested, duh she’ll just walk away!
My real friends are the same… they’ll keep an eye on me and maybe even kinda send body language asking if I’m OK, and will leave me be.
The last time a girl tried to block, she did it more by telling me after she saw this smooth, international playbe G Manifesto like guy working for IMF get my number: “Listen, I’m older than you and know more about guys… I don’t get a good feeling about him.” Yeah, cuz he didn’t ask you out he asked me lol.
Roosh you were right on in other post about women who try to block. Smart girls figure out early to not go out with those types of girls or to tell them off ourselves that we can decide if a guy is “creepy” or not.
By the way my “friend” who tried to block the hott IMF banker also tried to continue the block later on… she would ask me every time I saw her, “Did he call? Did you guys go out? I don’t think you should even talk to him… I just had a bad feeling.” WTF? Was she there?
Anyway, blocking doesn’t just have to be on the spot – really vindictive blockers will try to do it even after the moment.
Hope all you guys save your HBs from blockers with the line Roosh has provided – for the HBs who can’t control their friends themselves and are too easily influenced by them.
“But it’s important you don’t use profanity or call her names because then she won’t take you seriously.”
Cursing hurts your moral credibility. When you curse and lose your calm, you look like a pissed off schmuck. Calm but stern, you’re a strong, respectable father figure.
Penetrating Stare. Added props for grabbing her arm, God status for cupping her chin. Be bold.
” I don’t care if I get kicked out of bars but I’m going to ruin her night, and she’s going to think twice about doing it again. Worthless bitch.”
I look at blocking like anything else in the “ecosystem”. It has its purpose.
The Purpose: Prevents Beta Males from dating and mating.
This is a good thing.
If you can’t get past the “blocker” your problems don’t end there.
Find a group of girls with a hot Alpha female.
Swoop the Alpha.
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This is exactly the kind of info we need. If you want to go nuclear on the set actually call her out on the cockblocking and then tell her that if she loses some weight guys will be interested in her too. The CB’s are almost always overweight in my experience.
#12 Sounds like the Brazillian girl you didn’t finish your dance with :-)
Roosh you know how much I hate this cockblocking shit or bitches being rude without merit. I know women feel empowered in a club/bar knowing that a bouncer will try to look cool and kick the dude out, he will never kick the girl out. If the block is on and you lost the girl you want, then to get any pleasure back out of the encounter I would go straight to embarassing the ugly duckling, no matter how much of a jerk I would seem. Like Som used to…nothing is out of bounds.
Message to women: stop trying to act like you are protecting your friend in these situations, its not cool and you look like a hag. Let people make their own mistakes or enjoy themselves.
….Gets me jumpy just writing this comment :-)
21 was me, just in case…
G Manifesto said:
“I look at blocking like anything else in the â��ecosystemâ��. It has its purpose.
The Purpose: Prevents Beta Males from dating and mating.
This is a good thing.
If you canâ��t get past the â��blockerâ�� your problems donâ��t end there.
Find a group of girls with a hot Alpha female.
Swoop the Alpha.
Good Shit man!
Nothing But a good common sense advice.
Hi Eugenius..haha no…it wasn’t me…I’m in Brazil now..;)
I’m not sure what cockblocking means but for what it sounds I guess brazilian boys act more agressively about it (at least that’s what my brother does): they do a nasty comment about clothes/makeup/whatever they don’t like in the girl trying to interrupt him and that’s enough to ruin her night..hahhahaha..very bad but effective…
Strange…apart from Camila no comments from women. Including the other cock-block post i believe.
C’mon girls lets hear your views.
One thing i’ve learnt about women is they have to have a ‘reasoning in their minds’ to do something. It doesnt matter how depraved or rude – if the reason works and removes her guilt…she’ll do it….no matter how incredibly ridiculous the reasoning is. You could say men do the same but i think it is a female forte.
I’m not a big fan of “game” but I think this idea is excellent.
To all the “betas” saying “but you’ll lose the girl and all you’ve worked for!!” YOU are the reason why cockblocking exists. Be more of a man about it, don’t worry about “losing the girl” which is what a ‘beta’ would do. Rather, be an alpha and do the right thing.
It’s an excellent idea, but if any betas need further encouragement, think of it as a twofold approach. First you are making yourself more aloof, increasing your value or whatever showing you could care less about your target. Second this is an “investment for the future” in that it cuts down on cock blocking and makes your future encounters smoother.
Calling someone out is the best way to end something from happening again.
We all have been there and it’s unacceptable. I used to let it happen until it festered and exploded when I couldn’t take it anymore. There wasn’t any name calling but there might as well have.
Needless to say, the blocker was embarrassed and her friend didn’t really know what to do, so she stayed with me (some friend, right?).
But, this shouldn’t just be for cockblockers – this should be for anything that you find unacceptable. You gotta call them out on everything. They’ll realize that they’ll need to have some respect when around you.
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The wording seems like it could be improved:
“Did you really just do that” – unless said by someone with a true aura of authority will sound juvenile. I think “excuse me” is more appropriate.
“Did your parents teach you to be anti-social like that?”– too vituperative (at least seems that way to me). Maybe “Is this how your parents taught you to behave?”
I was chatting up a girl at a cosmetics counter when I as at the mall. How do you number close in these kinds of situations?
Already have Bang and it doesn’t say
“I was chatting up a girl at a cosmetics counter when I as at the mall. How do you number close in these kinds of situations?”
Hand her your phone and tell her to put her # in it.
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Word for word is not important. Remember the keywords and you’ll be fine.
Of course by saying this you forfeit all attempts to get into the original girl’s pants. But since it was gone anyway with the cockblock, you lose nothing. Instead you improve the world.
I can’t wait until i get cockblocked again.
Roosh – i’m not so sure it will forfeit y our attempts to get into the original girls pants. I think it will take the cockblocker out of the equation and will increase your value to the original target.
If someone interrupts, I usually say “excuse me, but we’re having a conversation. It’s not nice to interrupt” Simple and it works.
Any of those who live in dallas texas or phoenix, the LA area have the pleasure of listening to the ‘Tom Leykis show”.He covers all this stuff everyday on more when it comes to dating and being a ‘Man “and how women either want you for a sperm donor or a human wallet,thats right Roosh! Tell others to speak up! Women need to stop this shit!Cockblocking is not right and should be punished.
#25 mike what are you talking about? Several women including myself have commented here about the phenonmenon – and guess what, we don’t like it either because really, it’s more the other girl’s jealousy/desire to show her power as the “older” woman/weirdness/drama need.
Most of the time I can handle girls in my group who are trying to mess with a potential guy/new love interest… it would be great if the guy could man up and put her in her place though so all the pressure isn’t on me.
because unfortunately, girlfriends can be both like sisters and enemies… they can be there for you when you really need them and cause you hell if the balance of power untips because you’re hotter and getting more attention, etc. some girls are cool though and don’t get like that at all (i seek girlfriends like that but alas they are rare especially in the USA)
“Excuse me, I’ve just got a call/text and I need to ask *soandso* something as a confidante. Do you mind if she goes just for a minute or so? Sorry about the interruption.”
Right, the worst cockblocks are the polite kind. Calling them out like this solves nothing.
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i think what is going to happen is you’ll not only neutralize the Blocker but find yourself in her pants instead.
todd, i like where you are taking this!
Cockblocking usually has very little to do with the guy caught in the middle, and everything to do with females, who are the most jealous and competitive species known to the Earth.
Cockblocking is a compliment, in a way, because it means the cockblocker was jealous, on some level, her friend was getting attention.
Back in college, I dated a girl whose roomate would cockblock — get this — every time I visited. We eventually went elsewhere to hang.
“If every guy calls out a cockblocker just once a month, I’m confident it will cease to exist in a year or two”
The problem with your argument, is it depends on this fact. Which will never happen. This won’t work any more than a bunch of hippies trying to boycott McDonald’s or something.
At the end of the day, it is you, and it is the girl. If the result of this exchange is that you are still cockblocked, then you’ve really accomplished nothing. Maybe you get some minor satisfaction from pissing off an evil bitch, but really, she still won. You aren’t talking to her friend any more are you?
I just realized there is a problem with this if you live in a small town. Last night I got cock blocked pretty good. I saw a girl I hadn’t seen in about 7 months from Argentina, she was my ex girlfriends old roomate. She saw me, and she was pretty drunk, so she was real friendly. She invited me to go to her house for some matte. I was starting to get touchy feely with her, and her friend comes up and goes, “Come on, we’re going now.” What a KUNT!!!! I really wanted to do what you suggested, but the thing is, if I did that, all the Argentine girls know each other and she is going to give me a bad rep. So I figured I might as well let this one go so I can score the others.
So do you think this would work with other guys who cockblock?
This seems to happen a lot..ie from her “friends just looking out for her” aka….guys that want to fuck her and don’t like the new competition.
Calling out the behavior seems like a good idea allround , but im wondering if there’s a specific way that anyone has found to do deal with male CBers?
wow, youre story is so very lame. Not all girls who interupt conversations are trying to cock block. She probaly felt comfortable and wanted to talk to you too with her friend. Are you that pathetic that you need that one conversation by yourslf with her to get into her pants? You couldnt have the skills to talk ot this girl again when the other “cock blocking girl” was doing somehting else?
haha, some women REALLY need to be slapped from time to time
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I don’t know exactly what your situation was with the ex and all, but I know that if I was out with some friends and one of them got really drunk and invited some random man back to her apartment, I would drag her out of there, quick. I expect that my friends would do the same for me.
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Ayo Roosh I like this, sometimes you gotta be ahole, In a weird way it does turn these chicks on. I can’t wait to field test this, my question is what if the girl snapz at you for “correcting” her friend?
*writes it down*
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so you think you can be a dick to her friend and you’ll still get in her pants? you already said yourself she left your conversation chasing after her friend. women are crazy, but they also won’t put up with you disrespecting their friend.
lemme make this clear, if u get cockblocked your chances of getting in her pants are gone. That is why u start being an asshole to the ugly bitch who CB’d u.
And for the polite Cb’s just walk away no words said.
That will work for many of them, but not the true cunts. Nothing works for them. The more ya bite the more they bait.
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I read this post earlier today, and it came to rescue (partial) today itself! Crashed in to a hostel party in Sao Paulo to get my alpha back (was alpha, took a break for four years due to LTR, so testing myself now), and did REALLY GOOD with three Paulistanas (despite the fact that the first two had their boy friends with them!).
With the third one (feisty hottie), I kept on getting cockblocked by an idiot Brazilian guy! I even said “Excuse me, don’t you see we are talking? Let me finish.” The guy promptly apologized but after 15 mins did the same thing and kept on buying her beer and bringing her cigarettes. In the end, I number closed the babe, but the girl despite keeping on saying she did not like BR boys, did go with that idiot.
Wondering if it is a cultural thing (i.e. BR girls ending up kiss-closing with the BR guys just to get rid of them), or should I have been a bit softer (I was very teasing, cocky – almost an asshole at few times!)?
I met a woman in a club and we were getting along just great. She was South American and was heading back to her country the following day. She was game up until the point that her female friend, the woman she was staying with, turned on me in the parking lot as I was walking with her to their car; this woman began yelling, “I don’t want him in my home! You know what kind of man that is? He would eat your pussy! He would have his mouth on your pussy! You can’t go out with a man like that and I don’t want him in my home!” I have met equally crazy women in other clubs, one of whom said, after I had fallen silent for a moment, “You look like you’re confused.” I responded by telling her that I was just thinking of something. She asked me what I was thinking and I told her I wasn’t certain I should tell her. The next words out of her mouth, “HOW BIG IS YOUR COCK!” When I went for her friend, and they were in a large group, the woman turned on me and began shouting on the sidewalk, “ARE YOU STALKING MY FRIEND! ARE YOU STALKING MY FRIEND! ARE YOU STALKING MY FRIEND!” And everybody was looking at her as if she had just gone completely insane, while I figured she was just drunk off her ass and getting back at me for feeling rejected. Another time I met a very attractive Russian girl and her friend walked straight over to us and grabbed her arm and basically told her that she shouldn’t be talking with me, it was a clear put down as far as the Russian girl could see and she felt alarmed and ashamed about the incident; what I could see was that her friend, who was Latina, was using the girl as bait, probably to score some coke for her own self, she definately had some pre-conceived ideas of what kind of guys SHE was looking for and she didn’t want anyone else biting into the lovely bait she had brought along. I knew another woman, again, met her in a club. She was renting from the woman she was with the night we met. The woman told her that if she dated me she would have to move out. I saw this as two things, envious roommate, for one, and on the other hand, her desire to move in with me right from the jump. That didn’t happen and as it turned out her roommate / landlord, was a drunkard who was emotionally abusing her daughter, whom she was jealous of, and fucking men in order to get free house improvements done. Women and men who cockblock are interfering with basic rights: life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. They are creatures without integrity, they are unethical and they are hypocrites.
DO NOT befriend the cock blocker. She will think you like her and chances are she is fat and ugly and gets very little male attention, therefore she will be 10x more jealous when you talk to her friend. In addition to this, she will think you are a player and she can’t wait shut down your game.
Think of it like this, imagine there is a hottie at a party you are talking to and you get the feeling that she’s into you, then you see her chatting it up with another guy, would you be more jealous rather than if she was just some random girl you didn’t know?
your best bet is to make the cock blocking fatty to think of you as a “dick” or a cocky prick in other words. NOT an asshole. You also don’t want to be nice to her and be a pussy. There is a difference between a “dick” and an “ass hole”. assholes and pussies get fucked, dicks do the fucking.
ultimately, there is no way to 100% neutralize a cock blocker. In my experience, the best way is to make her think of you as a dick. How to be a dick? that’s a whole different story. good luck
Just remember, you are a MAN and girls are self-conscious idiots who will believe anything if you say it with CONFIDENCE.
You are way up here, and she is way down there, she is secretively craving your attention. Dangle the string infront of her and dont just throw it at her!
It’s a good idea for the most part. You do you to consider whether she is interrupting for a valid reason of not though. So you would have way for her to say whatever she’s going to say THEN bust her if that is what she’s really doing.
From a concerned woman: There is also nothing that stops me from slapping you upside the head if you get too “hands-on”.
And what gives you the right to say this? What makes you think a woman is just a vehicle for your sexual desires? What in the name of all things makes you think you have the *right* to have sex with a woman, even if she’s made her disinterest apparent?
I proudly reserve the right to cockblock you, should I ever have the horrible misfortune to actually come across you someday.
Sincerely, a proud cockblocker
(One final thought: Most of us aren’t addicted to closure. We’re just sarcastic and allergic to assholes.)
i find myself cockblocked by guys more often