Here is a grocery store excerpt from Day Bang…
Approach a girl while she’s shopping, timing your movements to intersect either in an aisle or at some point around the perimeter. Just make sure to catch her before the checkout line, and preferably before she reaches the frozen foods section.
[Another] option is to plant yourself in a popular section (wine and cheese, produce, or bakery), hang out there for at least ten minutes, and approach girls who come within your tentacle grasp. As long as you’re slow in your movements and browse on your way to any girl, you won’t raise their guards. Also, don’t worry about what the staff thinks of your activities, in the grocery store or anywhere else. At nearly all establishments, especially corporate chains, staff members are instructed not to bother the customers.
While you should take your time moving through the store, you must act fast when you see a girl you like. Most girls have a shopping list and grab their items with the goal to get out quickly. They won’t wait all day for you to approach. In retail stores, girls are in browse mode, so you can take more time planning your approach angle, but in grocery stores girls know exactly what they want and won’t linger long, unless they happen to be making a complicated recipe. Therefore step up your hustle after you’ve identified a target.
In Europe, the grocery store has replaced the coffee shop as my favorite day game venue. Because the coffee shop culture there encourages social interaction with friends instead of going alone with a book or laptop, the most consistent place I find girls alone is the grocery store. Another bonus is that since they are focused on buying items, she won’t be on the phone or have on headphones.
The game I would run in foreign grocery stores is different than at home. In America, I quickly zero in on something in her basket and ask if it is good or not. The issue with this opener is that you don’t have time to leisurely check out the girl and then examine her basket—you have to be staring mostly at her items and quickly open when your paths intersect. You will approach girls who, upon closer inspection, may not be that good looking, but thankfully with indirect openers you can bow out immediately after she gives an answer by ceasing all ramble. You never have to commit yourself for more than 15 seconds.
Things become much easier when you’re a tourist. I’ve tried a lot of different openers and found one so easy that it feels like cheating. When you walk into a foreign grocery store, get a basket and walk straight to the bread aisle. Grab a wheat loaf. Then with that loaf prominently displayed either in your hand or on the top of your basket, do your shopping as usual. Put a confused look on your face and open with this: “Excuse me, do you know what type of bread this is?” You can use it on girls no matter where they are in the grocery store.
Here’s a common way the conversation turns out:
Girl: “It’s wheat bread.”
You: “I see. It was hard to tell because I don’t speak the Finnish language. Is this a good kind of bread?”
Girl: “I’ve never tried it before.”
You: “There were just so many options that I didn’t know which one to choose. Which bread do you recommend?”
Girl: “Have you tried the dark bread? It’s very common here.” At this point there’s a good chance she’ll walk you over to the bread aisle to show you her favorite bread.
You: “Interesting, I’ve never tried this bread before. What does it taste like?”
Girl: “It tastes like so and so.”
You: “Do you usually eat it with a spread or with lunch meats?”
Girl: “Lunch meats?”
You: “I mean deli meats like ham.” You can explain the etymology of the term ‘lunch meats’ and how people from ‘other places’ eat lunch.
Girl: “I eat it like so and so.”
You: “Cool, because where I come from we don’t have a lot of breads. It’s much easier to pick.”
If she has any interest in you at this point, she will ask you where you’re from and the chat gradually becomes more personal.
The above is classic elderly game that works a little too well when the girl is even mildly curious, especially in Europe. After she bites on your “where I come from” bait, you can move onto nightlife or restaurant recommendations and then hit her with “Where do you usually hang out?” before getting the number. If she doesn’t bite but continues to chat, you will keep dropping “where I come from” bait until she bites. There have been times where I had to drop it four times before the girl bit. (If you’re running game in your home city, you’ll have to mix up the bait drops.)
If the above sounds easy to you, that’s because it is. I’ve gotten used to leveraging my stupid tourist status in foreign countries to make these types of easy openers, to the point where it doesn’t even feel like an approach. On the other hand, American girls are much more conversational during the day, and running coffee shop game there is the easiest out of anywhere in the world. There are some disadvantages to European day game but since the quality is so much higher, I don’t really miss my coffee shop time back in the States.
For those of you who are envious about me running easy day openers abroad like “What type of bread is this?” or “What time does this place close?” then I have a solution for you: become a foreigner. The best day game is foreign day game.
The above grocery store article is 980 words. My day game book, Day Bang, is 75,000 words, with nine pages alone on grocery store approaching with an additional 191 pages that teach you how to approach, ramble, drop big bait, and close. If you want to learn how to effectively pick up women during the day, click here to learn more about my book.