Is Porn Messing Up Your Game?

New York Magazine published an article a while ago called He’s Just Not That Into Anyone, about man’s increasingly intimate relationship with online porn and how it’s affecting their relationships with women.

As a result of the blending of reality and fantasy, some women have chosen to willingly play along by a new set of rules in order to keep their men interested: they’re intentionally impersonating porn stars. Sadie, the real-estate agent, says, “A lot of guys have come to expect P.S.E. [the “Porn-Star Experience”] as a common thing—snatches waxed bald, access to every hole—and plenty of women are more than happy to provide. A few might enjoy it, but for most it’s harrowing. I think there’s a fear that if they can’t make it happen, their boyfriend will retreat online.

Finally, something that gives American men a bit of leverage! So of course it’s no surprise that feminists regularly criticize porn as a dehumanizing horror that acts as a gateway to sexual violence. As I’ve written before, anything that reduces female power and gives it to men will be reflexively attacked.

I have mixed feelings about American women imitating porn stars. On one hand they are eager to do nasty things that I would have had to beg for in the past, but on the other hand sex has a disconnected and even circus-like feel to it, as if a bear on a unicycle will roll by as she’s deep-throating my cock with tears welling up in her eyes. I’m not saying I need an emotional connection while I fuck a girl, but porn star sex does reduce the intimacy level of the act and make it more surreal.

25% percent of college-age men said they’d faked orgasms.

If there’s one bit of advice I can give men, it’s never to fake your orgasm. Not being able to orgasm is one of the best ways to make a girl feel anxious and insecure. When I’m unable to come, which often happens with condoms (raw dog for life), I simply stop sex and say, “I’m not going to make it.” I can almost see her hamster spinning…

  • Is he not attracted to me anymore?
  • Is there something wrong with my vagina?
  • Should I give him a blowjob even though I don’t want to?

It also shapes the power structure of the relationship. She knows that a man who doesn’t orgasm is more likely to stray to get that orgasm. As a result, she tests you less and does more things to win your favor. I don’t advocate withholding your orgasms on purpose, but don’t be afraid to stop the sex act if you don’t see your nut on the horizon.

The article also brings up the age-old question about masturbation frequency. I used to think that it mattered little, but I’m now firmly in the camp that too much masturbation will hurt your success rate. It’s a simple matter of needing to be genuinely horny in order to put in the necessary amount of work to lay pipe inside a new vagina.

Personally, I need 2-3 days of no masturbation to get into a horny state. Since most of my bangs happen starting on Thursday, that means I do not jerk off after Monday.

In Poland, there was a good chance I’d get laid on Wednesday because of a club that had ladies night, so the only time I would ever jerk off there was on Sunday nights. Mainstream advice to “let a load off” before going on dates or hitting on girls is great—if you don’t want to get laid.

I have a friend who can jerk off six times in a day yet still be amped enough to hit on girls, but he’s an outlier. For the average guy, placing distance between himself and unlimited free delicious porn will lead to the optimal hormonal state needed to get laid. As accessible as porn is today, you should be actively resisting its siren call. Sexual capital in the form of heavy balls is needed to maximize your game efforts.

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