For a guy there is a question on if he should jerk off before either hitting on girls or going out on a date. Some argue that jerking off before going out takes off the nervous “edge” (a la There’s Something About Mary) while others say it’s that edge that women are attracted to.

I say both camps are wrong.

What’s most important is having high motivation to getting laid, a very sound predictor of future sex. The more you want to have sex, the more you will approach and the more likely you will get laid. Of course there is a line that if crossed puts you in the desperate category, but being horny and sexual alone won’t hurt your chances. The nights I get the most prospects and lays are the nights I was especially horny. Knowing this, how should you manage the art of pick up with jerking off alone in front of your computer?

The first thing you need to find out is your recharge time. If you were to get a nice stash of porn tonight (in my case that would be some Kacey, Dirty Latina Maids, or amateur BBW) and jerk off two times, how long would it take you until you’d feel like jerking off again? For me that is 48 hours. Back in my younger days when I discovered masturbation it was more like two hours, but adjustments must be made to an aging libido.

You want to hit on girls when you are recharged and not depleted. This is when the act of picking up is congruent with your what both your mind and body want.

So based on a recharge time of two days, I should not jerk off the day before going out. If I know I have a date on Tuesday, I can jerk on Sunday but not Monday. If I’m hitting the bar on Friday night I can’t jerk off on Thursday, no matter how much I want to. This system is simple and prevents me from going out with “golden cock syndrome,” where the lower pleasure of a depleted ball orgasm makes me lazy to chase new pussy. If you jerk off right before you go out then you are wasting your time and money.