Nothing seems to go right. You’ve been out eight times the past month and have only gotten two numbers. Neither girl called you back. You don’t remember the last time you kissed a girl, fucked a girl. It seems like none of them want to have anything to do with you, and you don’t know what you’re doing wrong. You’re lonely and dying for any sort of female companionship. You think maybe it’s not in you to be good with women. You’re not good looking enough, funny enough, rich enough, witty enough. Every other guy is better than you, and you wonder if you’re ever going to get laid again. You can’t even look at couples holding hands in public anymore without feeling depressed. It’s Friday night, and you don’t even have a friend to go out with.

Take a shower, put on your clothes, hit the bar, and just keep going.

Months ago you started a new business, but it’s not doing so well. It’s bleeding cash and you’re living with your parents, barely surviving. The business refuses to pop. You already sold your car and your main mode of transportation is the bike you had in college over ten years ago. In the rare chance you make it out at night you have no choice but to steal the occasional drink or two because you can’t afford your own. You see other guys your age with fancy cars and clothes, and feel ashamed that you have to watch every dollar and cook ramen noodles five times a week. A friend hands you a beaten-up book on sales, one of your biggest business weaknesses.

Crack open the book, take notes, write out a plan, and just keep going.

For a year you planned out this grand voyage around the world, but you’ve been dealt hardship, illness, and stupid problems one after the other. It seems like you’re bedridden half the time and the love you thought you had for experiencing exotic places has been replaced by constant thoughts of returning home. You’re unable to communicate with the natives and are having trouble making friends. Cultural differences are greater then you had imagined and you’re tired of being ripped off by everyone who sees you as nothing more than a wallet. Everyone back at home seems to be having a better time than you, and now you have doubts about your decision. But you know how lucky you are for being able to do what you’re doing, and a fellow traveler told you about a city somewhat nearby that has the things you’re looking for.

Pack your bags, go to the train station, and just keep going.

Until you think you’re putting your life in danger, just keep going. Until you have proved to yourself that you are stronger than everyone else who has attempted what you’re attempting, just keep going. Until your being is completely shattered and you’re on the verge of an emotional breakdown, just keep going. Until you’ve reached your absolute physical, human limit, until you’ve squeezed every drop of value out of the fruit you’re chasing, and until you are certain without a single doubt in the universe that absolutely nothing positive or worthy can come from what you’re doing, just keep going.

Do not stop. Just keep going.

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Probably your best post ever. Game, not just for chicks, but for life. It’s all about conquering fear and not getting discouraged. Ever.

you are on fire this year, Roosh.

I think a lot of people forget this. Most of the time things have a way of working out in the end but people give in too soon, tired of their efforts going unrequited.

Starting to sound like you’re trying to make better men in general and not just in getting women. Great post.

defgent’s last blog post: Expendable.

I guess this would be a bad time to point to my post, “Just Kill yourself”.

awww, nice post :)

401k canceled. Cushy health care benefits, adios. Easy commute and hours, bye bye. Nice paycheck without wanting to commit suicide, see ya. Adventurous world of country to country hops, nights out every night, different girls, different places, different foods, different beds, different everything here I come… right after I finish this TPS report.

thedcam’s last blog post: George Washington Had Some Rules.

I think I’m going to go slay a dragon now.

Fire breathing dragon.

great.

TAllagash’s last blog post: Filthy Tuesday: Mardi Gras Edition.

Simple, best advice, perfect for those very cold DC nights where every girl it seems is out with her man.

The funny thing is, getting good at game seems more difficult then getting a failing business off the ground.

VK: for some, still great advice.

This really captures what brings me back to this site more than anything else. This is a great post.

bcg’s last blog post: The word “Awesome”.

“Until you think you’re putting your life in danger, just keep going.”

I say, Put your life in danger. Especially when you are younger.

It makes you a stronger person.

You can spot the ones who have and who haven’t a mile away.

- MPM

The G Manifesto’s last blog post: Mardi Gras: The G Manifesto Way.

bravo.

Roosh, I don’t know if you’re keeping surveillance on me but some of your recent posts are so spot on and relevant to my life right now that I’m starting to get suspicious…
Finally ordered Bang btw so if you see your bank account go up slightly it’s NOT a clerical error it’s just my contribution to your lifestyle of degeneracy.

Most people try to make it sound easy. Props for reminding us sometimes you just have to dig down for what you got left.

Omega Man’s last blog post: Life Sucks.

Man, we must be on the same wave length considering the post I just wrote on a somewhat similar concept.

I think a lot of people don’t realize how close they are to succeeding at whatever they are doing and if they just kept plugging away eventually they’d push through all the barriers that got in their way.

Kind of reminds me of a quote by Randy Pausch:

“The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out; the brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. The brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They are there to stop the other people!”

Hmmmmm.

Maybe, instead of just keep on going, you should stop and reevaluate what you are doing, why it is you are not happy and what really makes you happy?

I dont know about this just keep going philosophy – it sounds very nice and manly but just like many of the aspects of Game, while they sound *strong* and manly they actually dont work.

So instead of mindlessly continuing what has been making you miserable and hasnt been producing success, stop, take a look around, and see if you need to change.

Maybe things dont need to change and you really do need just to keep going – but maybe not.

If youre following Game – or some individuals interpretation of it – and its been 8 weeks since you got laid, you got to stop and take stop and begin to question if some of the precepts of Game are actually false.

Fantastic Post Roosh, and just what I needed today. My game is going shitty, fighting with my Boss, too broke all the time, etc. Keep Going. No Excuses.

Thanks for that ‘Pick me up’ Roosh. Nobody writes blogposts on game and life with the emotionally exposed honesty you do. Oh, and I bought your books on Amazon today.

cant relate, but good post

Glad I’m not the only one out there who thinks these things at times and just need that little push. Good post. Posts like these remind me why I have been reading this blog since the days of DCB.

Sounds like someone (Roosh) is in the middle of a dry spell. This stuff is so funny. All the commentary on the profundity of this post is comical. The people that like this are the same ones that have “Love, Live, Laugh” as a favorite quote on facebook or better yet enjoyed Avatar for the plot. The posters should have to place pictures next to their posts because im guessing this blog would be akin to a Dungeons and Dragons convention. Although im sure the guys in the D&D convention get laid more.

Kevin seconded.

I’ve never achieved anything worthwhile in any format with the experience that working to get there sucked.

If it outright sucks you’re doing it wrong. Or your going for something you’re not well suited for and should shift goals.

can’t tell if the people who are “hating” on this post are being sarcastic or not

“I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” (m. jordan)

It seems so obvious, but when you’re down an out and in a rut it’s easy to get caught up and not see what’s right in front of you….This post might have had more an effect on me because I was listening to “cant keep it in” by Cat Stevens while reading it.

Awesome post roosh..

Keep up the good work. Do write other posts on how to crush the betaness out of the system. In today’s betaistic society, posts like this one is the only solution to “MMS” – missing manlihood syndrome.

James – Actually if I were to have a quote on a Facebook page it would be “I like alcohol, sports, finance and women…oh and James is a mangina”.

P.S. Take away special effects from Avatar and you have Titanic for Nomadic people.

And Titanic sucked by the way.

Great stuff Roosh!

Great post; thanks.

I reckon that those who are ridiculing it have never risked anything and are trying to justify that.

Its funny that my comments are being screened. To all readers: You read the words of a guy that makes no contribution to society other than making up stories about getting laid. Anyone can buy a plane ticket and travel around on a shoestring budget. Traveling and getting laid doesnt make you a man. A man takes care of his responsibilities, family, and makes a contribution to society.
Coming up with corny ways to get in girls pants (that probably dont even work for you) doesnt count as a contribution.

It makes no sense to keep doing something that makes you unhappy or that doesn`t work.

If you`re miserable traveling why go on? Go home. Be honest with yourself.

If you`re doing everything the Game people tell you is right and it doesn`t work, why continue doing it?

Reality is more important than theory.

Maybe evolutionary psychology says women should like a certain kind of guy, but if they don`t, they don`t.

The ability to note reality and self-adjust is key to success in any area of life – *just pushing ahead* is the philosophy of the stupid man who is out of ideas.

Keep it real, see what works and what doesn`t, see what genuinely makes you happy as opposed to what you think SHOULD make you happy, and construct your life around that.

This is a great post. Adaptive persistence is the key to everything. I say adaptive because if whatever you’re doing (with regards to game, business or whatever) is not working figure out why, adapt your strategy and carry on going. Giving up is not an option.

Kevin, if you find that game is not getting you any results the something is wrong with what you’re doing. Figure it out (adapt) and carry on going. No normal man on Earth would be happy with a sexless loveless existence.

You are my hero, Roosh, you and Roissy.

(Above not intended as gay or sarcastic.)

Because of you and him, I just scored a number off a chick I was sitting next to, ten minutes before writing this comment. The “other guys …with fancy cars and clothes” couldn’t manage that kind of humanitarian achievement if their lives depended on it.

this was a really good post. stirring, even.
@vk: lol.

roissy’s last blog post: What Is A Beta Male?.

V

I agree, and I have. Some aspects of Game work really well, but many – too many – fail miserably, and I don`t think there is sufficient awareness of this out there.

To do the same thing over and over again expecting different results is insanity. You always have to side with reality, not theory. Just because some keyboard jockey is telling you women SHOULD react a certain way to a certain behavior, and you try it again and again, and women don`t react the *correct* way, then you gotta question the technique, not just *keep going*.

I used to believe in the *keep going* philosophy and my life was not particularly successful nor happy – I read the books I thought were SUPPOSED to be good, even though I was numb with boredom, I endured hideous stretches of tortuous travel that I was SUPPOSEd to enjoy but hated – for the longest time I simply *kept going*, ignoring my misery and not realizing that it was within my power to change.

My life got better when I applied a massive dose of REALITY to it – I simply began noticing what actually did make me happy and give me pleasure over what was supposed to do those things for me, and began pursuing things that genuinely mattered to me.

I wasted months stubbornly applying Game techniques that failed again and again to produce any results, until finally I was forced to admit that much of the Game advice on some of the most popular sites is disastrously awful and actually make you weaker rather than stronger – for instance, just as nice guys are always worried about pleasing a girl, Game people swing to the opposite extreme and are always worried about *impressing* the girl. Yet both are equally weak as both are other-dependent, and both care only about the reaction of the other and not about authentic strength.

Before I gained this crucial insight I was stymied – you can spend months reading Roissy`s site and all you will hear is the relentless drumbeat urging you to constantly strategize to *impress* the girl and you will be led into failure after failure, where if you just stopped and thought about instead of blindly forging ahead, you might have saved yourself enormous amounts of anguish and time.

So no, keep on going is just plain silly – stop, take stock, see if what you are doing makes sense or not, and then decide. In other words, use your brain, don`t listen to others or rely on authority or theory, but use your mind.

Kevin- with that attitude, I’d still be stuck on Devil’s island.

Cute, papillon.

the haters on here are the same people who’d tell Vince Carter to just give up after his horrible January play. “face reality vince. who cares if you’ve had incredible success for years. this month it’s not working and you aren’t happy. face reality and just give up.” tards.

James sounds like a wiener-face. Which goes hand-in hand with roissy’s blog about beta males. BRAVO CHAPS!

phillipmarlow’s last blog post: John Stossel Lays It Down.

Nike ‘No Excuses’ Commercial
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obdd31Q9PqA&feature=player_embedded

To accomplish anything worthwhile in life takes a significant amount of time, effort, failure, and determination. Many people just make excuses to protect their ego instead of risking failure.
Stopping the excuse generator is integral to achieving your goals. Winners take action and losers make excuses.

Great post Roosh.

“There are those who have discovered that fear is death in life, and have willingly risked physical death and loss of all that is considered valuable in order to live in freedom.”
- Virginia Burden Tower

“My center is giving way, my right is in retreat: situation excellent. I am attacking.”
- Marshal Ferdinand Foch

Choose carefully when you want to keep going and when you’d better let go…

thank you

Good post. Guys who succeed are rarely “lucky”, they just worked really damn hard and kept going where others quit. I like how Jack Dempsey put it regarding boxing:

“A champion is a guy who gets up when he can’t”

Krauser’s last blog post: Two days in a row.

@Roosh,
your readership is generated by an infinite number of men with desire , not because of game results.

Roosh, you did not read what I wrote carefully enough. I said only SOME aspects of Game makes you weaker. I then went on to give an example. The idea that you have to *impress* women does in fact make you weaker, it makes you come off as weaker and be psychologically dependent on the others reactions. There are other aspects of Game which mean well but are similarly crude psychologically and don`t stand the test of the real world, more than many would think.

Point is, gotta be responsive to reality. Forget about what should work and focus on what does. If travel doesn`t make you happy, why do it? Why spend 7 months being unhappy without realizing this isn`t something you want to do? Because you *always thought* travel *should* give you pleasure? Weak people think like that.

Ew. “Just keep going” when you are failing aint smart and its obvious. If you are failing, better switch, improve, dissect, learn, restart, reboot, refuel, and do things right and succeed. Imitate other people that are doing stuff right, they cannot be doing the same as you, figure out what and why.

Otherwise its: my life sucks, but I keep going. What? FORWARD instead you big mofo.

Kevin, the whole Game concept is teaching a beta guy to imitate alpha men traits… and its flawled, since the real alpha guys will always get all of the girls, including yours, with half of the effort you are putting into game. Then the girls will feel wronged when they discover you faked being a badass jerk and that you are really an insecure beta pussy needing sweet love and reassuration.

So become an effortless alpha guy if you want all of the girls, faking doesnt cut it. Do whatever it takes, even learning Game.

“The idea that you have to *impress* women does in fact make you weaker, it makes you come off as weaker and be psychologically dependent on the others reactions.”

Kevin are you being serious?! Impressing a woman?! Trying to impress a woman is extremely beta. Game actually teaches you this. Alphas do not need to impress anyone. Women are there to impress and please us (the alphas) and not vice versa. No wonder why game isn’t working for you! Your mindset with regards to women is messed up (and probably very beta) which is affecting your results. Read ‘How to become an alpha male’ by John Alexander. This will help you and teach you how to become a genuine alpha and to cultivate the right mindset.

impressing a wot! I felt the same about the mystery method, the guys were trying way too hard

you cant become an alpha male…you are either born an alpha male or you are born a beta that imitates the behaviour as stated by Yohami in comment 50.

Most people that give up were much closer to achieving that breakthrough than they ever imagined. A great book on this whole topic is ‘Mastery’ by George Leonard. Great post Roosh.

David Black’s last blog post: Social Masters Best Of 2009.

It’s always darkest before dawn.

All ya quitters, please dont talk..

Either let the men here go on their journey of becoming alpha. It takes pain, courage and disappointment. The most stupidest comment that i ever heard was, “you cant become an alpha male”! I cant really sense the frustration of all the beta men or should i say members of men’s movement.. Haha.. Pathetic it is..

“you cant become an alpha male” hahaha shut the fuck up!

James should be crowned BOTY 2010 in Roissy’s blog just for that comment.

“One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure its worth watching.”

If you cant relate to Roosh’s post, then you haven’t challenged yourself enough, no matter who you are or what you have done. If you’ve achieved some success, you were doing so under your potential. Or, you have been born into enough privilege to where challenge wasn’t necessary.

You don’t need to challenge yourself to live your life in moderate comfort, but rarely will your life be extraordinary. Whether your goal be money, women, expatriation, long term travel, career, etc..

As a matter of fact, I would venture that most truly worthwhile successes can ONLY come from the lessons of struggle, discomfort, and failure. Human motivation and learning most often works in reaction to these situations, not out of its own accord.

Any man who desires an extraordinary life, by definition, will take more risks and encounter more failure and frustration then the average person. Nothing worthwhile in this life is easy, nor is it given to you.

For every successful millionaire, there are 100 (probably much higher) people that have failed and live in obscurity. However, the one successful millionaire had as much on the line as the 100 failures. Those failures, as well as the millionaire, could all relate to Roosh’s post. The average person likely could not.

I learned my lesson on here about trolls awhile ago, but James is commenting out of his league here. Go back to your cable TV, homie… you literally don’t know what your talking about. Posts 22, 32, and 53 all make me embarrassed for you.

Chris, they might exist, but I dont know any failed millionarie. What I know is a lot of successfully mediocre men.

James, nobody is born alpha, so nobody is beta either. Anyone trapped in a beta schema is so lame, all of my superhero instincts come to surface. I was there too and being told it was forever. Well, not so, and it feels good to destroying the lie while helping some people.

Less competition? what are you talking about. Society is broken. This is balance.

How is getting laid an agenda against women? women get all the benefit from this. They get the sex, men are putting the work – this is actually the part that makes me laugh about Game.

Mystery is just one guy, just like Freud is just one guy, pointing to them is missing the point

Hi Yohami,

Not quite what I meant, as I was referring to the millionaire who would go through the struggle, persevere, and eventually succeed.

But its true that there are a lot of “successfully mediocre men”, who never have to push themselves very much, at least in the way that Roosh speaks of.

I think the problem lies in the fact that the millionaire would not consider a mediocre mans success, a success.

Nor would the many, many men who learned of the fallacy of societies definition of success, through trial and error, or who never bought into it in the first place. So personal perception has something to do with it.

And I use a “millionaire” as an easy one word example of someone whom society would deem very successful. However, any man who challenges himself to achieve great things, by his own definition and standards, could be substituted.

Chris, yeah I agree, I meant all of these guys that I know, who push forward, eventually get somewhere, I couldnt call them failed or something.

What I have seen is people who push for the wrong reasons and they usually get nothing or get the wrong results – predictabily. Like someone who plays tennis for… the girls or something, so he gets some of the extra but never wins the competition. Or someone who learns game to cover insecurities instead of fixing them

Anyway, for every action there is a consequence. If you push forward, you move in that direction, theres nothing like “failure” really. I could only use that word for the vas majory that doesnt even try and get defeated inside of their own minds

Like mr James

So going back to this post. If you are doing actions and there are no results (stagnation) probably doing the same, or keep going, aint gona be enough. Different actions, different results… clichey but true

This is how it’s done, boys:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f526tn-pNMY

Thanks for the post Roosh.

This applies to my life right now to a large extent.
I have a college degree, but I’ve been chasing my dreams of running my own business and have been broke as shit since I graduated 1.5 years ago…. it’s tough seeing people I know actually making enough money to live on, while I’m grinding my ass off to be broke, the difference is, if it works out the way I plan, I’ll wind up making a shit ton some day, whereas they’ll be busting their ass for small raises and promotions year in and year out – it’s just not in me to do that.

As far as game, I’ve been hitting up the bars with force all year trying to get better… probably approached over 50 or 60 girls total so far this year, gotten 4 numbers, 2 never called back, one we had a date set-up and she last minute flaked on me, wtf? The other number did turn into a notch though, and I’ve been banging her with regularity, so at least I got that, but I need more and I haven’t been having much luck.

Anyway, appreciate the post.

Willy Wonka’s last blog post: The Grind.

That was a manly post. I like it. Just keep going. That’s the secret to everything.

That’s what we used to tell the recruits in the military. You may be scared out of your wits but just keep going, do your job. You’ll feel brave later.

I don’t even know what do say about the ironic comments like Smelvin and Billy… so, whatever, do you, why are you even here?

Yohami, I’m not insecure, I just like to fuck chicks.

Willy Wonka’s last blog post: The Grind.

i remember a time at this one club, my crew dropped out one by one, i stayed by myself and got a notch at 6am, after some pretty complex logistics, including a rickshaw ride, hotdogs, and a beach walk. if i had given up like my friends – no notch.

Thomas Edison’s response to a reporter’s question:

“I have not failed 700 times. I have not failed once. I have
succeeded in proving that those 700 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.”

Great post Roosh.

@Roosh
I wouldn’t have the readership I have if game makes you “weaker”.

Yeah, you would. Otherwise, your readers would be too busy getting laid to type in order to get validation from other Internet-oriented lonely people and fake G’s.

And why keep on going with failures instead of keeping on going in the right direction, away from failures.

Let’s not confuse sexual alphas with “leaders of men/industry” alphas. The two do not always overlap.

The skill sets required to succeed at career or in the world of men are not the same as what it takes to obtain women. These are two different disciplines though they both require confidence and perseverance. We have all known six+figure income guys who are at a loss with women, and conversely broke guys living in their parents’ basement who can swoop like mad.

Roosh’s topic here applies to getting what you want in life in general. Game is the necessary ingredient to put you over the top with women. You’re either born with natural game or you have to learn it, else dating is a minefield and relationships/marriage become traps for the man.

Perseverance combined with knowledge is the key to any successful endeavor.

How is your workout progress? Did you keep going?

holy fuck I almost got teary eyed reading this post.

Great stuff.

heh, I dont see the reason for the discussion here. Think its a post about having a winner mentality. Winners are the ones that when faced with enough shit win through, winners are the ones that “when the shit hits the fan” keep their group and ride the storm of. Being a winner is tought to us in our first months of life, we get positive rewards, attention and feelings of succes when we accomplish our goals, so next time we try a little harder and succed again and next time a little harder and longer to reach the goal and succeed.. the opposite hold true for the quiters, that finally dont bother to get up from the couch.

Reminds me of this water tank experiment made on rats (www.pubmed.com) where in the first group A )the rats are set to swim in a tank and after a time there will pop up an island they can get up on… group B) the island never comes and when the are fatigued and about to drown they are fished up…

repeat the experiment group A) rats swim for 20-30 misn longer because they THINK the island will come, group B) quit even faster…

Have your own fantasy island…

Thanks Roosh for reminding me!

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this is so cool bro. i remember the feeling of doing all that, its worth proving to everybody wrong.

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I’m in a bad place right now but remembered this post. salute to you, roosh

raliv’s last blog post: Straight from the Horse’s Mouth.

I always come back to read this whenever I feel like shit, it helps me get up, face things and change them the way I want through hard work.

So much flaking lately, it gets me down sometimes, but I just gotta keep going.

One of my favorite posts, hits right on the heart. Thanks Roosh.

Peace and love.

Thank you, Roosh. This really made a difference for me today. Sincerely,
Anon.

bad place right now. back to this post. Gotta keep going forward. I thought I would have turned the corner by now. Nope.

Man, I needed this like water in the desert. There’s a drought on and this really picked me up. As a friend once told me “There’s women out there that want YOU. You just have to go find them.”

Thanks Roosh!

This post, and “What are you waiting for?” are my go to pick ups. Thanks for the motivation, Roosh.

Great post Roosh. This can sum up your entire site. Never ever give up! The alternative is a slow death.

Here is another great quote I like
http://tylerbohannon.weebly.com/2/post/2011/08/quote-of-the-day.html

This got me through some dark times, man. Thank you.