The next lifestyle interview is with Lumiere, a man who has the most flags out of anyone on the forum. While by some measures he may be considered “old,” he shows that age is no obstacle to living a mobile lifestyle full of banging foreign women. On the forum you’ll find his best advice on Asian and South American countries.
On to the interview…
Can you give us a little background on your age and the type of environment you grew up in?
I grew up in a rough working class environment in Liverpool in northern England. I turned 40 recently.
What are some things that influenced you earlier in life that put you into the position you are in now?
Well in my early life I was obsessed with technology and, quite frankly, I was a nerd all through my teen years and was a very late starter when it came to women. However when I moved to London I was able to make a good living in tech which allowed me to save up and travel a lot.
Talk about your ideal girl. What does she look like? Where is she from? What’s her personality like?
There are many things about women that I am attracted to but the principal factors can be broken down like this: I am a sucker for women with beautiful eyes—the windows of the soul. I love women who have natural figures. I hate the blonde/peroxide/false breast look. I love women who have a certain body type where there is a beautiful waist to hip ratio. A beautiful feminine curve. Above all I am most attracted to women who are totally aligned and in touch with their feminine polarity.
Personality? Warm, sweet, intelligent, adventurous, open minded.
In terms of ethnicity, I am a total sucker for the exotic. If a women is Mediterranean or South American or some crazy, sultry mutt mixture like quarter Mexican, quarter Russian and half Lebanese, I am sold.
What type of game do you run?
I run pure form game. I also teach it. It is based purely on vibing emotionally, solid inner game and being totally connected to your masculine polarity.
How do you change your game when you’re abroad versus in your home country? How do foreign girls and American/Western girls differ?
The basic pattern detailed above never changes but in my home country I tend to avoid English girls and go for foreigners and, when I am abroad I tend to go for the local girls of the country I am in.
In Western countries, girls have mostly lost connection to their female polarity and are far less sensual, soft, and feminine. They act like men. Also the concept of a woman knowing how to take care of her man has mostly been lost in Western countries and is seen as subservient whereas with many foreign girls, being able to take care of their man is a point of pride and not being able to take care of him is regarded as a failure.
Describe your travel experiences and strategy.
My travel experiences stretch across several decades. I have been around the world a few times in a single loop. I have taken many one-off trips but, when I have taken those one-off trips I like to spend at least a month in a country and explore every bit of it if i can.
Going on a holiday for a few weeks and lying on a beach has no interest for me at all.
In terms of strategy, I use the internet to build a prospect pipeline of local women before I arrive. I don’t buy a guidebook so I don’t feel the temptation to get trapped in a tourist loop. In short I avoid the three principal mistakes that a lot of people make:
1. Arriving in an unfamiliar country or city with an empty prospect pipeline.
2. Being lead around by the nose by their Lonely Planet guidebook.
3. Hanging out with people from your hostel as a social network instead of meeting locals.
What kind of lodgings do you stay in?
A mixture of hostels, crashing on couches and hotels (if the country has decent affordable hotels). Depends on how I am feeling and how much privacy I think I will require. If I am staying in a dorm or crashing on a couch, I like to scope out the location of a decent short time hotel to avoid losing lays for any logistical reasons.
How do you approach integrating yourself into a new culture with regard to food, language, local customs, etc.?
My approach to travelling is when I arrive in a country I want to know and embrace the culture of the country that I am in. The four principle ways of doing that are:
1. Walk their streets
2. Eat their food
3. Sex the local women
4. Speak the language
Obviously with language, that’s connected to how long you are going to be in a country. If I am in a place long enough to merit learning the language then I do, and, if not then I don’t (apart from learning one or two cute phrases).
What do you fill your days with?
Mostly chilling these days. I have already seen enough temples, churches, etc. in my life so I tend not to do the tours that are laid on for tourists. If it’s something that sounds fun that I have not done before then I will do it even though it’s touristic.
For example, I was in Vang Vieng last month and went tubing on the Mekong which is the number one tourist draw in a very touristic town, but I have never been tubing before and the parties that were happening in the bars that all the tubers stop off all the way along the river were raging. Music was great. I was swinging off rope swings and throwing myself in the Mekong, zip lining, water slides, mud volleyball, etc. I had the most fun I have had in a long time.
So I keep an open mind to fun even if it’s touristic and try not to be a snob and miss out on cool stuff just because it touristy.
Do you have a basic strategy for meeting women while you travel?
1. Fill prospect pipeline before I arrive with local women and hook up with them.
2. Avoid hooking up with backpackers or travelers, making exceptions only for relatively local countries. For example when travelling in Argentina, there’s nothing wrong with hooking up with a Brazilian from your hostel. You are still in South America having a South American experience at least.
3. Adapt to local culture. For example, I know that in many Southeast Asian countries that it is just not part of the culture for local women to go to bars and drink alcohol. In the bars I know that I am going to encounter only tourists and semi pros. Therefore I know I will need to day game and to shore [bang prostitutes without paying for it].
How do you make a living? How did you get into it? What are some skills you had to learn?
A mixture. I play poker, teach game and lifestyle design, and do freelance journalism. My most reliable income however is passive rental income from property I have in London. In terms of skills, there are plenty but I would say that lifestyle arbitrage and learning how to use it has been a very key skill.
I believe you have the most flags out of any guy on the forum. How many do you have?
Well there are there are only 193 widely recognised sovereign states. I lost count a long time ago but I would guess around 75 flags right now.
The whole flag thing is a bit of fun though. I don’t regard either picking up girls or capturing flags as a competition. Also, I am not a womaniser which I would imagine a serious “flag collector” would be.
A womaniser is somebody who uses women for sex, tosses them aside and says “next” whereas, as you can surmise from my philosophy of maintaining the connections that I have with women for a long time, I am only really interested in long term relationships. Not long term relationships in the way that society typically defines them, but long term relationships non the less.
I just love to travel and embrace the culture of the country that I am in. Sexing the local wimmins is just one of the ways of embracing the culture. One cannot truly appreciate or know a culture without sexing the local wimmins.
What are your future goals? How do you see your life playing out in the next 10-20 years?
I have designed my lifestyle in such a way that I have total freedom. Principally that involves removing all obligations from my life and removing location dependency as well. That allows me to live in a totally free manner, removes the need to plan and allows me to improvise and to truly live my life in the moment. So my plan in the next 10-20 years is to do whatever the hell I feel like doing at any particular time.
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