My Philosophy On Life

Easy come…
If you’re experiencing a period of joy or pleasure, either with a situation or a person, cherish it because it will not last. Nothing lasts.

Gray
You’re not only happy or only unhappy but happy about some things and unhappy about others. The worst question in the world is “Are you happy?” Happiness is more like a thermostat, and throughout your life it will be stubbornly constant, moving only if you change how you think about the events that happen to you. If everyone experiences the same things, heartbreak and illness, money problems and aging, the main thing that differs us is how we think.

Decisions
The difference between a good life and “bad luck” are the choices you make. Seemingly intelligent people make poor choices that eventually lead to disaster. Getting in that car after too much to drink, standing down when you should stand up, letting life idle by in front of a television set, abusing your body with poor health choices, not living within your means, having unprotected sex with a stranger. These are the things we do without daily conscious thought but nonetheless increase the risk for future disaster. “Why me?” I can tell you why.

Today
It doesn’t matter what happened yesterday. It’s done, finished, and no amount of reflection or regret will change unless you act. Constant, focused action on the present helps fix the past. It sets your future.

Rare
If you find someone with character, don’t let that person go. The world is full people who will sell out their beliefs, their words, their country, and their fellow man for money or power. You have government agents spying on their neighbor because they want a steady job. You have doctors who put their name on research papers for a drug that’s as bad as the disease. You have the pastor with the extra marital affairs, the environmentalist who owns a car, the family values conservative who flirts with little boys, the lawyer who suppreses free speech for his big money client, the libertarian who takes government assistance, the mayor who helps his friends before his voters. The only way I can sleep at night is if my words and my thoughts match how I live my life. Without character you’re a fraud.

Empty
No one will complete you or make you better or happier than you can make yourself. This is true for many reasons, but the biggest is if someone else was much better or happier than you, they wouldn’t waste their time on you. Everything that is needed to become fulfilled and self-actualized and so on is only found within you. The faster you realize that the sooner you’ll stop waiting for someone else to do a job you can do for yourself.

Stages
There is comfort and then there is growth. You can’t do both at the same time. If you are comfortable in life right now then you are not growing. I think I’ll go for comfort when I run out of ideas. Or when I’m ready to die.

Extra credit
You need a project, something beyond your normal job or habits, that pushes you do and learn things you’ve never done before, something that has a journey with a concrete beginning and a not so concrete end. And when time comes for you to move on to something else, when you’re sitting around for weeks or months with that empty feeling of accomplishing nothing beyond mere survival, a new project comes into your mind and off you go again. A meaningful life is a series of projects.

UFO’s
If you haven’t experienced it first hand then you don’t know, regardless of the authority. It’s just time killing entertainment. It’s not true unless you see it, touch it, feel it, taste it, until it’s confirmed beyond a reasonable doubt. There’s theoretical knowledge and there’s applied knowledge. But don’t take my word for it.

Should, must, have
You don’t have to do anything but die. There’s no rules in life. Anyone who pushes rules onto you is suffocating by theirs. No one said you have to work for megacorp on the exact same days and same hours as everyone else. Think about this concept we have called “rush hour.” Twice a day most of the population drags themselves to work and then back home again. Who said it had to be that way? Who said you have to have to own a house and car and barbecue grill to be a complete person? Who said you had to work hard most of your life to save money until you can barley bend over to tie your shoes? Who said you had to act and talk and look like everyone else? If you can’t answer why you are doing everything you are doing then you’re living by someone else’s rules, not your own.

Late
The most important thing in life is time. Besides basic survival with food, shelter, and clothing, it’s the only thing you should fear losing. While many people are lucky enough to live long lives, you may not. I’m not a gambling man—I’m not going to assume I will live to 76.3 years of age. Time is a savings account, and you’re drawing on it with soulless endeavors and draining relationships. You will die before you are ready, and there is no praying or hoping or wishing that will get back the time you did not spend wisely.

Garbage in…
Everyone wants to get something for nothing. Quick cash with scratch tickets, quick weight loss with pills, a big house with a self-destruct loan, Hollywood style love, talentless fame. People want the sweet things without having to taste the bitter. I don’t know if the things I do in life are right or not, but if it’s really hard to do and I curse it every night before I go to bed wishing life was easier then it’s safe bet I’ll have a rich payoff. If it’s easy then it’s not worth doing.

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  • http://www.askjimmysuede.com Eric

    I really enjoy it when you wax philosophical like this. Great stuff, Roosh.

    Eric’s last blog post: Great Expectations.

  • Jamie

    I agree with a lot of your philosophy, you’re basically existential. Especially when it comes to choosing your friends.

    However I have a problem with “should, must, have.” It’s easy for you to say “don’t live by the man’s rules” when you’re not pulling your own weight. We’d all like to be carefree and life life without selling out to anyone, but the reality is, it’s pretty hard to do that – and it’s pretty lame to criticize anyone else who does that when you yourself are getting a free ride.

    What would you be doing now if you had to pay rent?

  • http://roissy.wordpress.com roissy

    Without character you’re a fraud.

    true. the world is full of phonyfucks.
    unfortunately, for so many people, character is destiny.

    roissy’s last blog post: The Five Stages Of Cougar Grief.

  • http://raleighrapscallion.blogspot.com/ J. Woods

    Thanks, Roosh. You basically outlined most of my beliefs.

    I am a big advocate of Eckhart Tolle’s philosophy of living in the “Now”. If you haven’t read The Power of Now, I encourage you to.

    If you aren’t happy, you can either do three things: Escape it, Change it, or Accept it. This concept can be applied to a lot of your philosophy.

    What you or I hold true today may or may not be true for others, or even ourselves tomorrow.

    J. Woods’s last blog post: Parting the Red Sea.

  • http://withersdavis.com Withers

    Great post, in some ways reminds me of Paulo Coelho’s ‘The Alchemist.’

    “There is only one way to learn. It’s through action.”

  • The Dude

    This was an awesome post and very inspirational. Thanks dude– this is why I am still reading this site after 6 years.

  • mike says

    Been on a tear lately. Well done.

  • http://dchero.wordpress.com dchero

    Roosh, I think I see eye to eye with you on more or less everything but this:

    The only way I can sleep at night is if my words and my thoughts match how I live my life.

    It seems like you’re equating character with consistency. The older I get, the less I believe that these two things are related. What happens when your new words and thoughts don’t match how you’ve lived life so far? If I contradict ideas I’ve previously thought, do I have less character? I really believe men are walking contradictions, and fighting this will only leave us as slaves to our past. It’s only natural to change our beliefs as we gather more information.

    I think true character is never being afraid to stand up for what you believe, even if this means letting go of your longest-held beliefs.

    dchero’s last blog post: Girls and Their Powers.

  • DF

    Without character you’re a fraud.

    Oh, so where does this “fake it till you make it” game mantra come from?

  • Paul

    Roosh,

    Nice Job man

    I feel this post really hit the spot… especially
    the part about fake character.

  • Namtab

    Great, great post. I second ‘The Dude’ – these are gems that keep me coming back.

  • http://thepinkfish.blogspot.com/ The Pink Fish

    Yep.

    The Pink Fish’s last blog post: relatio felacio…..

  • todd hackett

    thanks — good stuff again

  • http://themodernsavage.com Matt Savage

    Ahh Roosh, like a modern day Socrates perhaps? Good stuff. I think I would add the following life philosophy though:

    “Every now and then say, ‘What the fuck.’ ‘What the fuck’ gives you freedom. Freedom brings opportunity. Opportunity makes your future…Say ‘what the fuck.’… If you can’t say it, you can’t do it.”

    - the guy who played Booger in Revenge of the Nerds (although the quote is from his character Miles in Risky Business)

    Matt Savage’s last blog post: How To Kiss in the Rain.

  • http://www.shebangsshebangs.blogspot.com namaste

    What a great post. A well-rounded departure from the usual drill. I especially agree with “Rare”.

    namaste’s last blog post: “You May Say I’m a Dreamer…”.

  • SeaFighter HSV

    More drivel.

  • mr. hanky

    great post….but something confused me

    in your past post title “the rules of life” you stated that if you were in a situation that you hated (esp with a girl), it would be better to cut your losses now rather then keep going and hope for a good outcome/payoff because you’ve already invested so much.

    but in this post, under the section “garbage in” you say that if you’re in a situation where you curse yourself every night, it makes you feel good since you know it will lead to a good outcome…

    not sure if that makes sense

  • RG

    Mr. Durden,

    I agree with you completely!

  • skadanks

    This is gold! Pure gold. I should repost this on myspace.

  • http://keepablogalive.blogspot.com Rita

    I like this post. I really needed to read something like this right now. Thank you for sharing.

    Rita’s last blog post: finally!.

  • Anonymous

    Who said it had to be that way?

    Nobody, but if for example, your vocational calling as a writer required you to work in the city center as a journalist. Then you could practice your writing skill and make money and then live in your own apartment. You would be a rush hour drone like the rest of us.

    Who said you have to have to own a house and car and barbecue grill to be a complete person?

    Nobody, but its handy when you have kids and wife and you look stupidly out of place in a pub and just want to have some friends over to relax after a hard weeks commute.

    Who said you had to work hard most of your life to save money until you can barley bend over to tie your shoes?

    Nobody, but I may want to put good food on the table for my family and make sure they get a good education. I also might want a pension so I can retire early and maybe have a nurse bend over to tie my shoes…

    Who said you had to act and talk and look like everyone else?
    If I dont, I will just alienate myself socially and end up trying to justify my lack of conformist by traditional hippy philosophies. I will also significantly increase my chances of depression.

    If you can’t answer why you are doing everything you are doing then you’re living by someone else’s rules, not your own.

    Bollox, its a pattern that works to ensure safe and successful reproduction.Which is the ultimate aim of the human species after survival.

  • Anonymous

    Another thing interests me , as to why with your deep understanding of life and the system you would throw away your job and education to a life of scrimping and scraping as a writer in your dads basement in order to justify your own happiness and doom any family you may be fortunate to have to lesser quality of life than the one your mother obviously WORKED hard to give you.

    This is pure selfishness ?

  • http://www.patrick3d.com R. Mutt

    Good stuff Roosh, I espeically liked this sentence:

    “Everything that is needed to become fulfilled and self-actualized and so on is only found within you. The faster you realize that the sooner you’ll stop waiting for someone else to do a job you can do for yourself.”

    I think a lot of people searching for love could use this advice. You’ve mentioned several times that it’s statistically unlikely one will ever find a soul mate.

    Bearing that in mind I think genuine confidence and self fulfillment is an important part of life to keep you trekking down the long road. Otherwise if you sit there waiting, wondering where and when you’ll find it…time will pass you by.

  • The Dude

    I am not sure why there is so much hate about you wanting to be a writer. I mean, you were a chemist, correct? There’s no reason you couldn’t go get another job as a chemist tommorrow right? I don’t see anything wrong with following your dreams for a while– it seems like too many don’t.

  • http://www.thegmanifesto.com The G Manifesto

    What does “Hollywood style love” mean?

    Three LA party girls and some Beeks at 3am Chateau Marmont?

    - MPM

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  • http://www.patrick3d.com R. Mutt

    I assume he meant the atypical romantic comedy where guy/girl fall for each other but the best friend,parents, girl or guy screw things up yet in the end the couple end up happy ever after and madly in love. Think of any movie with Jennifer Lopez or Kate Hudson.

  • Loudog

    Amazing Roosh, thats all i have to say.

  • Anonymous

    “the libertarian who takes government assistance”

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  • Roosh

    It seems like you’re equating character with consistency. The older I get, the less I believe that these two things are related. What happens when your new words and thoughts don’t match how you’ve lived life so far? If I contradict ideas I’ve previously thought, do I have less character?

    There is no penalty for learning.

    …in your past post title “rules of life” you stated that if you were in a situation that you hated (esp with a girl), it would be better to cut your losses now rather then keep going and hope for a good outcome/payoff because you’ve already invested so much.

    but in this post, under the section “garbage in” you say that if you’re in a situation where you curse yourself every night, it makes you feel good since you know it will lead to a good outcome…

    Curse yourself because it takes work and is challenging (like making a movie or learning calligraphy), not because it’s sucking the lifeblood out of you. Women will very rarely be something that is worthy of nighttime cursing. Anyway I think this is what you’re referring to:

    “After you’ve hit the point of diminishing return, the energy you put in is much less than what you get out, whether it be from jobs, relationships, friendships, or hobbies. Don’t wait until things get stale; by then you’ve waited too long.”

    I still stand by that. Working towards a fruitful goal is not that the same as taking shit from a girl or being disrespected or trying to fix something that all signals point to as not working out.

    Another thing interests me , as to why with your deep understanding of life and the system you would throw away your job and education to a life of scrimping and scraping as a writer in your dads basement in order to justify your own happiness and doom any family you may be fortunate to have to lesser quality of life than the one your mother obviously WORKED hard to give you.

    I want to be a starving writer so I don’t write sentences like that.

    What does “Hollywood style love” mean?

    Blissful love and happiness without work and effort.

  • Anonymous

    Amazingly derivative of what the conventional wisdom is for anyone under 30. Frightening that some think it original or worthy of comment.

  • http://travelvice.com craig of travelvice.com

    I enjoyed this quite a bit, Roosh.

    craig of travelvice.com’s last blog post: Champagne and Mineral Water.

  • Antti / Finland

    Every time when I almost start to loathe you, you post something like this. great post, and i agree with you on almost every thing.

    Why almost? I dont personally agree that you have to have “a project” always going on. I think that’s one of the modern day man’s greatest perils: you always have to better your market value, do something interesting or exotic just to earn the right to be. I think one can achieve real happiness when you are satisfied yourself _just being_ (yourself). Many people have real difficulties with that nowadays.

    And yeah, I think you, Roosh, really put your money where your mouth is: I think you try too hard to be that mystical “alpha male” (or at least you write your blog in a way that gives us readers that image. I reckon you’re probably a little less black-and-white in real life)

    You can really write provocative posts so I’ll be coming back to read your stuff. Keep up the good work. And hey, how is it going with the brazilian you spotted at the pool? ;)

  • SeaFighter HSV

    “I want to be a starving writer so I don’t write sentences like that”

    You don’t get to criticize grammar, unless you want me to take the red pen to your posts.

  • KM

    my friend, this post has an eckhart tolle tinge..interesting!!

  • World Class

    This is the dumbest shit that I’ve ever read. You’ve got a lot of growing to do if you want to be a good writer.

  • Anonymous

    Mind if I steal this?

  • Anonymous

    Mind if I steal your philosophy on life post modified with my own thougths

  • Evan

    I like this list! Most of the stuff is actionable, with rare exceptions, and it’s easily applicable in the reader’s life.

  • Dane

    I really enjoyed this article roosh, very insightful,and I believe very true

  • Anonymous

    there are so many lines here I want to quote! very inspirational and well-written.

  • Anonymous

    Last point is garbage.

    The best way to live is to get the highest possible return for the minimum possible investment. That’s Timothy Ferris right there.

    The man who can show others exactly how to do THAT for any given situation is the man with the golden eggs.

    The experience you gain from consistent failure followed by success comes with the realization that you could have gotten the SAME result for much less if you weren’t such a fucking idiot – this is what teaches us (especially young people) to stop being such fucking idiots all the time – the knowledge you gain from said experience you can transpose to other efforts and achieve what you want faster than otherwise, for less than otherwise.

    Be overly glad over a success that cost you immense time and effort – it’s just another example of emotional investment – the hook, so to speak – you’ve put your heart into it – you HAVE to feel glad you finally got what you wanted, even if you had to work twice as hard as the next guy.

    This doesn’t change YOUR reality. Let YOURSELF be the one who determines what investment is justifiable. Realize also that you can almost always do it faster and cheaper.

    The people who really don’t stress about shit and don’t have mid-life crises are the ones who get the most for nothing.

  • Rit

    It is really interesting…i am gonna follow it my own way…..

  • roo

    thanks rooshy dooshy. this was really great to read right now. i need to repeat this stuff in my head as i head out on the road again, going for gold again.

    you can be really inspirational sometimes.

  • Theodora

    Are you sure you’re actually acting on #4 “If you find someone with character, don’t let that person go.”?

  • http://ryanhogue.com Ryan

    Amen

  • YB13

    At Theodora..it could be any sort of good influence..friend..someone that could vouch for you in future..get you a job..write you a recommendation letter…,etc. At least that’s what I took from it.

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  • son of a beach

    Roosh is a smart man indeed.