Really?

One of the more fascinating catch-phrases in America is “Really?” While mostly used by girls, it’s quite common with men as well, even men who I would describe as masculine.

Midway through my month-long stay in American last year, I found myself saying it quite often. It would give me some pleasure to do so, but that pleasure turned immediately to regret, similar to how I’d feel as a confused teenage boy after masturbating. I’ll admit it’s a handy retort, but I have since gone to great lengths to eliminate this word from my speech, even as I hear its use increase among foreigners.

The problem with really? is not only with the word but the women who use it. The mere utterance of this word by an American girl actually reveals a host of lame traits and behavior. If you hear a girl say really?, this is what you already know about her:

  • She has had over ten sexual partners.
  • She will not hesitate to get into an argument with a man.
  • She did not vote for Mitt Romney in the last presidential election.
  • She has read 50 Shades Of Gray, and can actually identify with it.
  • She has taken a self-shot picture in her bathroom, right next to the toilet bowl where she defecates.
  • She believes men make more than women for the same work.
  • She has read at least one article on Jezebel.
  • She has waited in a long line to purchase a cupcake, cronut, or otherwise baked-good equivalent.
  • She can point out Kony in a crowded bar by not her own Senator.
  • She doesn’t know or care that the USA is raining bombs on countries she can’t pronounce.
  • She has at least one beta orbiter who she uses for emotional support. In return, he gets her “friendship.”
  • Her favorite drink at Starbucks is a frappucino, always with whipped cream and caramel sauce.
  • She has taken over 24 hours to reply to a text message even though she had a functioning signal during that time.
  • She has told a guy “Is that a line?” or “Is that your game?”
  • She believes it is distasteful and wrong for a man in his 40s to date a beautiful girl in her 20s.
  • She has sent a text that read “Don’t text me again.”
  • She’s on birth control.
  • She owns at least two pairs of flip flops.
  • Getting railed by a Spanish or Italian guy with a thick accent is on her bucket list.
  • She has lost interest in a man for not being abusive enough towards her.

As I’ve described in the past, Western culture is a virus, and it tends to display a similar set of symptoms in the hosts that it infects. Girls who really uses really? have a personality that depends on snark and insult instead of kindness and warmth. They all consume the same media, they all believe the same propaganda, and they all think a woman should power fuck her way through her 20s while giving men hell. They’re the product of an assembly line that produces not Mercedes or BMWs but Yugos and Saturns.

When I look in the mirror, I don’t see a Yugo staring back at me, so it makes no sense for me to use a word that Yugos use. How they act, I will not act. How they think, I will not think. How they speak, I will not speak. I fail to find any justification for men to adopt the habits of the female gender that opposes them.

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  • Good old Roosh
  • mike

    lmao roosh hahaha.

  • Anonymous

    Really?

  • Carlos

    I think “really” must mean something completely different in the US. Here in the UK (the home of english)it is most often used a means of seeking confirmation, assurance where there is disbelief or to display deeper inquisition.
    You might need to add video link to demonstrate the context you’re describing.

  • Anonymous

    Wow, just wow. ;)

  • Anonymous

    Synonymous with this are guys on FB or other social media that post shit like western girls. Like telling us you just worked out. Wow, aren’t you a special go-getter. Or posting gay little sayings about life-perspective b.s. Western culture, motto: “Turning one man after the other, into a worthless bitch..”

  • Rakishness

    Really?? This post was so awkward and creepy.

  • REALLY!!!

    Isn’t “really?” something that Tome Leykis would throw around when hearing something suspicious from a caller.

  • arafat scarf

    Awkward!!!

    Wait…what?

  • shut-the-fuck-up

    seriously! -thats another one i hate, especially with a high pitched whiny accusatory voice.

  • josh

    The “really” phrase can actually be pretty funny when someone like Bill Burr says it, as a kind of verbal punctuation mark. After he has said something funny. Or before.

    It means: what you are saying is so stupid, I can’t believe you are saying it.

    What ruins it is when self absorbed millenials use it because to them it means either: “I didn’t get what I wanted” or “I didn’t hear what I wanted to hear.”

    They can’t tell the difference between something being objectively ridiculous, and the obvious ridiculousness (to them) of their needs not being instantly met by whoever is near:

    Stranger: Gimmee your cell for a sec.
    You: No.
    Stranger: Really?

    They often follow it up with a “wow” for emphasis, which they pronounce in an elongated way:

    waahahaow.

    Stranger: (Interrupting your conversation on a cafe patio) Hey bro, watch my bike for a sec.

    (He has a lock, doesn’t feel like using it.)

    You: No.

    Stranger: Really? Wow.

    That’s what makes it annoying to me. The self absorption and over confidence. Also, it doesn’t really stand alone. You have to expand on your theme. Otherwise it is a lame and over used catchphrase. Like “Ackwarrrrrd.”

  • What Happened?

    I fucking hate that one guys and gals use it. Nothing happened, if you didn’t hear the question say, “excuse me could you repeat the question?”

    Fucking morons. Strike what happened from your vocabulary kids.

  • Long Duc Dong

    And I thought I was the only one who didn’t like this faddish expression. It reminds me of something like grody to the max or gag me with a spoon from the 80′s. Very annoying but I think it serves that purpose.

  • doclove

    Stop insulting Saturns as they were better built, did what they were designed to do and produced more happiness than Western or more specifically American women. Actually, the same thing could be said about Yugos although to a much lesser degree than Saturns. The highest value in women are simultaneously good wives and good mothers. The next highest are good wives only. Third, come pleasant professional honest prostitutes. Fourth are pleasant sluts. If you add unnecessary unpleasantness to wives, mothers, prostitutes or sluts then these are at the bottom. Most American women are gold digging(can you say whore or prostitute) unpleasant sluts whatever their status of relationship be it single, divorced or married. Before you say sluts are better than whores, remember that at least whores are smart enough to be provided for all the dicks which get stuffed into them while sluts get nothing but dick and a worn out stretched out pussy. Ladies, failure to get men to provide or protect you may or may not mean you have failed as a human being, but it does mean you have failed as a woman.

  • http://irs.gov Quincelius Godsize

    Yeah, “really” is the witless(es)’ fallback phrase. One suggestion for a new default comeback is: my dick, your mouth.

    Or maybe kick in them in the tits.

  • Revo Luzione

    Yes, agree, these words are linquistic pariahs, and indicate major character flaws in the user. “Really?”, “Seriously?”, used accusingly, imply impropriety, as if the user of these words is the ultimate arbitrager of “appropriate” behavior.

    Don’t even get me started on “inappropriate.”

    Yet for needling American girls, if she’s laughing and responding with “really” and “seriously,” I know I’m pushing her buttons, which is a good thing.

    Oh, one more which annoys me to no end: When chicks write or say “totes” instead of “totally.” If a guy says it, he’s clearly gay as could be. When a girl says it, it’s clear she’s a pop-culture groupthink sheeple.

  • kasparov

    I think you just described like 95% of the 20-something American female population. even if she doesn’t use that expression, you can safely assume that at least half the things on your list are true.

  • Ted

    What’s even sadder than the use of “really” is someone spending the time to write an article complaining about it and then trying to correlate it to what the woman using it must be like. Does a real man blog about words he doesn’t want people to use? Talk about a desperate/pathetic stretch (and waste of time). Roosh, research confirmation bias…this post is a prime example of it.

  • http://www.ihatethereforeiam.com decomposer917

    Another super annoying conversations habit is saying “I know, right?” Absolutely cannot stand it.

  • Daniel

    lol

  • http://turismominucioso.blogspot.com.ar/ Pablo

    “She did not vote for Mitt Romney in the last presidential election.”

    Why somebody that does not belong to the 1% would do that? Even you Roosh must know about the disastrous distribution of income in the US.

    “Getting railed by a Spanish or Italian guy with a thick accent is on her bucket list.”

    YES! I AM GOING TO SCORE!

    “She doesn’t know or care that the USA is raining bombs on countries she can’t pronounce.”

    So she would vote Romney, but you said that she will not, so.

    “She’s on birth control.”

    I hope so, I don´t want children with her.

    “She owns at least two pairs of flip flops.”

    And if it is for the beach? I mean, everybody owns flipflops in Brazil.

  • John Rambo

    really, roosh? you dirty arab

  • Ali

    Roosh, brilliant. This has been one of my pet hates for a while now. Carlos – it is used in exactly the same annoying way in the UK as in the USA. Indeed, use of the phrases ‘reeeeally’, like ‘wow just wow’, ‘awkward’ and ‘creepy’ has crossed the Atlantic. As several commenters have noted, using ‘modish’ fallback phrases like these really does indicate a lack of originality in thinking, feeble-mindedness and the sort of mentality that absorbs and latches onto whatever shit is currently fashionable, in addition to being a clear and instant indicator of a cuntish personality. This is all spot on and the comments in near 100% agreement reflect that, so Ted: fuck off.

  • Lucky

    I loved the bullet points, I just woke up and read this and started laughing. Good way to start the day.

    “Midway through my month-long stay in American last year, I found myself saying it quite often.”

    Was this sentence inspired by Dante? I just read The Inferno and the opening begins

    “Midway on our life’s journey, I found myself In a dark wood, the right road lost.”

  • / Hipstersstink

    Really? Oh that’s totally me. Like… totally.

  • LR

    I “really” don’t know what the hell you mean when you say girls are using the expression “really”. It’s one of the hundreds of thousands of words in the English language that we need to use everyday to qualify things. If I like something a lot, I wont just say “it’s good”, I’ll say “it’s really good” and I have nothing in common with the bitch ilk you have mentioned above.

    It’s unfortunate that the quality of women is as utterly depressing as it is in North America. The buying price on men is so low though, and it’s because countless men are behaving like beta pussies and now ALL men have been categorized this way. Women can be as low quality as they want, and it’s a fair trade because men aren’t built like they used to. This is how Rome fell. Stay strong, hunt down a quality girl worth finding, never relent.

  • Tuli kulje kanssani

    Just got back from a year in Finland and this article is spot on.

  • german guy

    do you american guys think you are any better than your cunts?

    western culture (ie usa “culture”), a virus indeed

  • Jim

    Yep, you can tell all that list of things about a girl just because she uses the word ‘really’.

  • Anonymous

    I also notice that they yearn for Englishmen along with Spaniards and Italians, which is odd when you consider women from every other country depicts them as ugly, unkempt drunks.

  • Born Again Alpha

    As a guy dedicated to “power fucking” girls through their 20s I find “really?”, for lack of a better word, really useful. Sort of like “reclaiming” perjorative terms. It’s good to dominate the culture.

  • Anonymous

    NEED HELP. SEEING THIS GIRL FOR 2 MONTHS AND AT LEAST 3 OF THESE APPLY TO HER. GOOD OR BAD?

    She has had over ten sexual partners. YES 20+ BUT THAT STOPPED 6 YEARS AGO
    She will not hesitate to get into an argument with a man. NO
    She did not vote for Mitt Romney in the last presidential election. N/A
    She has read 50 Shades Of Gray, and can actually identify with it. NO
    She has taken a self-shot picture in her bathroom, right next to the toilet bowl where she defecates. NO
    She believes men make more than women for the same work. NO
    She has read at least one article on Jezebel. DON’T KNOW
    She has waited in a long line to purchase a cupcake, cronut, or otherwise baked-good equivalent. PROBABLY
    She can point out Kony in a crowded bar by not her own Senator. DON’T KNOW
    She doesn’t know or care that the USA is raining bombs on countries she can’t pronounce. NO
    She has at least one beta orbiter who she uses for emotional support. In return, he gets her “friendship.” NO
    Her favorite drink at Starbucks is a frappucino, always with whipped cream and caramel sauce. YES
    She has taken over 24 hours to reply to a text message even though she had a functioning signal during that time. NOT TO ME
    She has told a guy “Is that a line?” or “Is that your game?” DOUBT IT
    She believes it is distasteful and wrong for a man in his 40s to date a beautiful girl in her 20s. NO
    She has sent a text that read “Don’t text me again.” NOT TO ME
    She’s on birth control. YES
    She owns at least two pairs of flip flops. 1 PAIR SHE ONLY WORE TO THE POOL
    Getting railed by a Spanish or Italian guy with a thick accent is on her bucket list. NO
    She has lost interest in a man for not being abusive enough towards her. NO

  • Anonymous

    “20+”

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

  • Anonymous

    Starbucks frappucino with whipped cream and caramel sauce. Really? Really.

    I believe it was Tuthmosis over at ROK who referred to Starbucks as a “calorie loading malt shop.” Made me laugh out loud. I can no longer refer to Starbucks as anything else.

  • JQ

    Hey Roosh. Were you high or something when you wrote this?

  • wtf

    Pretty sure I’ve said “really?” before, let’s see how many apply:

    She has had over ten sexual partners. – no

    She will not hesitate to get into an argument with a man. – I’m not argumentative by nature, but if I got into one for some reason it wouldn’t matter if the person was male or female.

    She did not vote for Mitt Romney in the last presidential election. – true.

    She has read 50 Shades Of Gray, and can actually identify with it. – no

    She has taken a self-shot picture in her bathroom, right next to the toilet bowl where she defecates. – no

    She believes men make more than women for the same work. – no idea.

    She has read at least one article on Jezebel. – true.

    She has waited in a long line to purchase a cupcake, cronut, or otherwise baked-good equivalent. – no

    She can point out Kony in a crowded bar by not her own Senator.- No, I’m terrible with faces.

    She doesn’t know or care that the USA is raining bombs on countries she can’t pronounce. – not true.

    She has at least one beta orbiter who she uses for emotional support. In return, he gets her “friendship.” – no.

    Her favorite drink at Starbucks is a frappucino, always with whipped cream and caramel sauce. – no

    She has taken over 24 hours to reply to a text message even though she had a functioning signal during that time. – yeah, spam messages. I don’t text that much.

    She has told a guy “Is that a line?” or “Is that your game?” – no, but I would if it seemed PUA-ish (well, more likely I’d make an excuse to go away).

    She believes it is distasteful and wrong for a man in his 40s to date a beautiful girl in her 20s. – eh, depends. I’m in my twenties and don’t want to date 40 year olds. I don’t really care if others do.

    She has sent a text that read “Don’t text me again.” – no, but I wish people wouldn’t text when they could call. I hate it.

    She’s on birth control. – no

    She owns at least two pairs of flip flops. – yes (three, actually)

    Getting railed by a Spanish or Italian guy with a thick accent is on her bucket list. – no.

    She has lost interest in a man for not being abusive enough towards her. – no.

  • Ron

    Roosh, I don’t know where you come off thinking that Republican chicks aren’t just as insane/hypergamist/delusional as other American broads, but as someone who has banged a significant number over the years, I gotta tell you are sorely, sorely mistaken if you think that political conservatism of an American female is an indicator of sanity. They are just as insane, if not more so than liberal chicks.

    And they say “really” too. A lot.

  • Anonymous

    I hate it when men say “wow” slowly, stretching out the syllable until their vocal chords rattle. It really fucking pisses me off.

  • Matt

    Hontonee?

  • Catrasca

    Bro, whatever is you are smoking I want some!!! … Seriously, have you considered writing sci-fi or maybe cartoons? … Lol, what an imagination you have.

  • monster221

    yugos hahahahahaha right on.

  • Joost

    @Matt Shikata ganai.

  • Anonymous

    Like omg… you are getting so depressing. You need a new angle.

  • Kieran

    I hate this too. I wasn’t conscious of it until I used it at the end of a question on the forum a couple of days ago, and immediately regretted it after having posted.

    This has definitely caught on in the UK, and as already mentioned, there are loads more too, with “wow” being one of the worst.

    Actually, most of what comes out of English girls mouths irritates me these days. One phrase I particularly don’t like is “can I get a …” in bars etc. This maybe okay to Americans (I don’t know), but here it sounds shitty, and when men use it, it sounds extremely feminine to me.

  • http://www.youtube.com/user/nguyenimproved14 nguyenimproved

    Roosh back in FORM so quickly from the hiatus!
    hilarious yet deadpan? check
    informative? check
    offers insight/angle into pop culture no other blog has? check
    this is another great article in the vein of the “things you can tell about girls with smartphones” classic.
    forget lsd this roosh guy really gets you thinking.

  • Anonymous

    didnt you mean “seriously?”

  • Virile Kent

    “New” Roosh? Really??

  • Jim

    @34 no he wasn’t high, he’s just hating so much he’s losing his grip on reality.

    By now he sounds more delusional than his feminist counterparts.

    He used to be a cool down to earth dude.

  • Anonymous

    ‘Really’ ?

    Yes, really, you stupid little bitch.

  • creepy!

    This observation is SO real its becoming… creepy!!!

    ;)

  • Anonymous

    Roosh, why do you even care? That’s what feminists do – they don’t focus on the things women can do to improve their situation, they focus on the things men have been doing/should be doing/should not be doing/. You need to ask yourself why it’s even bothering you. Maybe then you’ll feel better.

  • http://quintuscurtius.com Quintus Curtius

    Great observation,as always. What I particularly hate about “really” and other boilerplate American chick conversation blatherims is how they end every sentence, no matter how banal, with a rising intonation. This almost forces the listener to utter some word in response himself, as if to acknowledge her statement. The use of “really” and other “rising intonation” sentence enders is a subliminal Americhick way of gaining control over the conversation. For this reason alone, it must be greeted with deadpan silence.

  • Carlos
  • http://theuniversalmale.wordpress.com/ Sam Spade

    I successfully ditched “really,” after it jumped the shark on SNL years ago. It’s annoying and I’m surprised it’s still in use like that.

    I would recommend losing it in general, along with “actually,” “honestly,” and “seriously” before you launch into a statement.

    Sarcasm is not feminine.

  • anon1

    its a terrible word, but i get the feeling you’re extrapolating too much

  • Timoteo

    I make it a point to eliminate any word or phrase that becomes too embedded in the lexicon, especially if it’s something women use.

  • George

    @44 Nguyen, thanks for posting, hilarious, but by the end of the video I could have kicked you! Why didn’t you just offer to meet up with them later in the day, and show them around from a local’s perspective!??

  • Big Jim

    Roosh you took a month off and comments still haven’t recovered. Can you fit a curve to this data.

    I would add to the list…
    - She takes it in the ass (not from you) and each time says “oh no man has ever done that to me before!”
    - She has herpes simplex, duplex, triplex, and four-plex.

  • Emperor

    Roosh, i agree with you brother. Reminds me with a similar post about the word creepy and how girls use it. I canceled my account on facebook as of late and the reason that it is not providing and advantage to my life style. Every time i log in i am increasing the wealth of Mark Zukerberg and indulging in that disease, combined with a smart phone , is ten times worst than cancer. Facebook is just a media for attention whores to validate themselves and having a cluster of beta orbiters floating around them. On Friday night, and just to make a point i showed my brother a post of a girl on facebook, the kind that you wont give her the second look, where she has taken her picture behind while driving…bitch. Her comment was ” i want to be in control”. within an hour she got 67 likes and 26 comments. All praising her masculinity. There is no line or routine that would open her that Friday night. After that shot of validation she is on a cloud nine. I would recommend to fight the origin of the disease it self buy stopping to be a part of the problem and quit facebook, twiter and the like. It is not adding anything to your life…it is taking away.

  • http://www.realnaturalseduction.com/what-attracts-women-natural-seduction-101/ Vincent Vinturi

    You left out the most telling part, Roosh, which is the WAY people say the word. I tried to find a video that demonstrates it but I couldn’t find the right shade of disgusting.

    On the one hand, you could just say it for confirmation because what the other person told you provokes skepticism.

    “Man I had sex with 5 different girls this week”

    “Really?”

    Totally normal usage, yeah.

    But the way chicks and fruity dudes use it has a whole different meaning. First it has a very annoying intonation and is accompanied by equally obnoxious body language and facial expressions.

    The way people say it conveys SO much.

    One, they sound irritated that whatever is happening is actually happening. Next, they feel doubly irritated that existence had the audacity to put this undesirable situation before them. (“How dare it!? Doesn’t life know I have better things to worry about?”)

    Basically, the communication is one of gross entitlement and overarching existential annoyance. I used to hear this kind of phraseology all the time in the hipster dumpster known as San Francisco. The way people speak there drives me crazy.

    But since I’ve been Thailand I’ve only heard “really” one time in almost 6 months. From a Thai girl who had lived abroad in…you guess it – The US! It’s just like Roosh has said a million times in a million ways “Western Culture Poisons Women”.

  • Jedders

    A slut I’m seeing now:

    She has had over ten sexual partners. 18 and she’s 22 years old!
    She will not hesitate to get into an argument with a man. Sometimes
    She did not vote for Mitt Romney in the last presidential election. N/A
    She has read 50 Shades Of Gray, and can actually identify with it. Read, craves it, lets me do some kinky shit too.
    She has taken a self-shot picture in her bathroom, right next to the toilet bowl where she defecates. Has plenty of selfies, not in bathroom though
    She believes men make more than women for the same work. Nah
    She has read at least one article on Jezebel. Probably not
    She has waited in a long line to purchase a cupcake, cronut, or otherwise baked-good equivalent. Yes
    She can point out Kony in a crowded bar by not her own Senator. Dont care or know
    She doesn’t know or care that the USA is raining bombs on countries she can’t pronounce. No Idea
    She has at least one beta orbiter who she uses for emotional support. In return, he gets her “friendship.” Yeah for sure
    Her favorite drink at Starbucks is a frappucino, always with whipped cream and caramel sauce. Dont care or know
    She has taken over 24 hours to reply to a text message even though she had a functioning signal during that time. Nope
    She has told a guy “Is that a line?” or “Is that your game?” think so? no idea
    She believes it is distasteful and wrong for a man in his 40s to date a beautiful girl in her 20s. Dont know or care
    She has sent a text that read “Don’t text me again.” Nope
    She’s on birth control. Nope, and I still raw dog
    She owns at least two pairs of flip flops. has like 3
    Getting railed by a Spanish or Italian guy with a thick accent is on her bucket list. Yes, already has done that!
    She has lost interest in a man for not being abusive enough towards her… No idea

  • Ocean

    “Like” is worse than really. Yes, it really is.

    You here it at the start, during, and at the end of the sentence by some stupid bitch and it drives me nuts.

    A recent conversation I was unfortunate enough to overhear between two dumb broads:

    “Like, you know did you see that, like awful dress that Lisa was wearing? Like, you know, like it was so 2012 like, wow like she really like needs to keep up with the fashions, like you know”.

  • Zac

    I haven’t been on this site since a little over a year ago, but I’m impressed with how far you’ve come intellectually.

  • Tre

    “Really?” In this context, to me, is for situations that no one can control and that happen for seemingly no reason, eg, you buy a laptop specifically for audio projects and the headphone jack stops working two days later. I see what you’re saying in the post but I still use the word a lot. Haha.

  • YoungD

    Dude holy shit that is terrifyingly accurate.