After sex, the power shifts to me. Vagina strength is highest before sex and declines to almost zero afterwards, assuming the girl is with a man who has options. I relax my game after sex not only because the power shift enables me to, but because if we are going to continue seeing each other the relationship has to be built on a foundation where we act natural and closer to our real selves. I know that a relationship built on two people playing hard to get will not last for more than a few dates, so I put less focus on planning alcohol dates with sex being the end goal and try for dates where we have to talk more under sober conditions (e.g. ice cream, bookstore)—more of just hanging out with each other’s company. But this is where it starts to fall apart because a lot of girls don’t know how to act when the main chase ends. They know their power has decreased so they overcompensate to keep your attention when they already had it in the first place.
I called a girl two days after I had first-time sex with her and she answered the phone. We talked for several minutes and then I suggested we do something in a few days. Her response: “Maybe.”
That’s in line with “That can be arranged,” an unnatural and tried answer, especially to a man whose hand you brought up to your neck for semi-aggressive choking. If you don’t want to hang out with me then fine, but don’t pick up the phone and try some move you just read in a book by a “relationship expert.” Don’t tell me the bookstore is boring. Don’t respond to my voicemail with a text message. Don’t suggest a specific restaurant unless you are treating. Don’t start talking about your past relationship failures. Don’t be surprised when I decide to move on.
Assuming you are cute (which is why I talked to you) and good in bed (which is why I called you again), you don’t have to put on a front to keep me interested. After sex, a girl’s game should transition from communication and logistical games to teasing and seduction games, where she tries to heighten a man’s physical arousal during the time they are together. She should send him to his buddy saying, “Dude, this girl drives me crazy. For some reason I can’t stop thinking about her.”
Girls need to increase sexual tension not by withholding attention (an okay strategy before sex) but by giving good attention that takes time and work to master. A lot of girls, unfortunately, have no desire to improve their game beyond techniques they learned in high school. To them, attention withholding is game. But once a man penetrates vagina, chances are he won’t be turned on by the extra time it takes you to return a telephone call.Tweet Follow @rooshv
Related Posts You May Like:
Game Tips Newsletter:
True that. After sex, there’s no need to play hard to get. You’ve been had and unless your personalities click, it’s time to move on.
I wouldn’t put ‘maybe’ in the same category as ‘that can be arrainged’.
‘That can be arrainged’ was used pre-sex, pre-date. The girl is trying to be coy, cute and mysterious.
‘Maybe’ was used post sex. Maybe, for the most part, means no. If she really wanted to chill, the word ‘maybe’ wouldn’t have came out of her mouth.
I’m going to agree with Michelle.
Good post, though. Nice try. :)
“Girls need to increase sexual tension not by withholding attention (an okay strategy before sex) but by giving good attention that takes time and work to master. A lot of girls, unfortunately, have no desire to improve their game beyond techniques they learned in high school. To them, attention withholding is game. But once a man penetrates vagina, chances are he won’t be turned on by the extra time it takes you to return a telephone call.”
I completely agree with this last part. The problem is that women have so much practice at playing HARD TO GET, but have very little experience at how to KEEP A MAN. Thus, they rely too heavily on their pre-sex skills to keep a man interested, which as Roosh points out, backfire because she comes across as egotistical. It’s like the star athlete who plays hard to get during contract negotiations, and continues to do so once he is a member of the team. The star athlete comes across as arrogant to the rest of the team, because egotism is antithetical to teamwork.
what ever happened to genuine feelings of interest? Whenever I start dating a guy, it’s because we both felt a strong physical and emotional connection. Aren’t these things instinctual? Isn’t there a natural progression of a relationship? ya’ll confuse me!
I think the tables are turning. Nowadays, a lot of girls are looking for sex as much as guys are. Therefore, I think the power both before and after is all subjective.
I disagree w/ Som Catchy Chic’s statement that alot of girls are looking for sex as much as guys are. Alot of women claim to just be looking for sex, but deep down they really want something to come out of it. It’s just the way women are programmed.
Irina hit it spot on.
I don’t put any thought into what I should/shouldn’t do when I am interested in someone – the whole wait this many days for this/don’t send a text/don’t send an email/don’t say maybe/don’t play hard to get/do play hard to get/who has the power… is like “The Rules” on crack.
I thought only girls over-analyzed…. ;)
Just semi-aggressive? Wtf.
Catchy Chic is almost right. A lot of girls think they’re looking for sex and are then terrified the morning after when they feel they’ve blown their trump card. A man, on the other hand, remembers that knowing is half the battle, and having known how to get the woman in the sack the big song-and-dance of the relationship can be done away with and the two can (walk away, or) get to know each other like normal human beings. Gatsby called it on this one, high school girls have it easy to hold a man down, because if he doesn’t put his penis in something at least every 18 hours his balls explode (they even show us pictures in gym class.) For men in their 20′s and up, we can go 72, even 96 hours if we don’t drink too much, and the woman’s job becomes convincing us it’s worth banging her again, and again, and not risk the furlough chasing the Russian chick who can do that thing with her elbows. Being wishy-washy over the phone is not going to cut it, and any girl who says ‘maybe’ when she means ‘no’ is retarded.
[...] Maybe Filed under: Relationships — by nullp0inter @ 10:59 pm Another reason to not take advice from “relationship experts“. Roosh called BS on what Oprah would say months ago. [...]
One of the best posts ever! Agree completely.