I found a post that commented on my latest video. It’s titled Ruining Roosh, which I fully expected it to be a hate-fest. Let’s take a look. (If you haven’t seen the video yet then you might want to watch it first.)
The first thing I thought was, “Wow, his hair is even WORSE than it looks in stills!”
The second thing was: even if I were an aspiring PUA, I’m not convinced this guy would have much useful to teach me. Sure, the techniques he recommends sound plausible and may, in fact, work for someone like himself. But what the videos, taken in neither a sexual nor even social context, indicate to me is that he is already building on a base of raw charisma that would be extraordinarily difficult to teach or fake. It’s hard to articulate the source of the charisma. The tenor of his voice, at a minimum. The structure of his face. Maybe body language is involved, in that he didn’t do anything obviously off-putting. The point is, the attraction for women is obvious. I can totally believe his tales of conquest; what I don’t believe is his claim that the psychological manipulation he employs would be met with the same success when used by people without his natural advantages.
First, I appreciate the flattering comments, especially since many haters have arrived at opposite conclusion. I wanted to address the comment that I have “natural advantages.”
You see my appearance in the video. I look like Teen Wolf spawn and except for my height everything the modern 20-something American woman finds attractive in a man is a quality I don’t possess. Girls make fun of my hair almost every night I go out, but they still compliment me in the end, something that I noticed is increasing. Don’t get me wrong I feel very comfortable in my skin, but when I’m banging a girl I don’t believe it was because of my look. I believe it’s because I said the right things with the right attitude, with the right moves, and with the right body language.
I think a girl will rationalize a man as more attractive when there are subconscious forces at play (body language, tone, etc.). For example, if I had a blog called RooshVirgin.com and every day I told stories about how I never get laid and cry myself to bed most nights and then made a similar video, would the blogger have seen me in the same light? Neil Strauss, author of The Game, is an ugly man with an appearance that is best described a rat. If you’ve heard him speak he has a high-pitched, annoying voice. (I hear him talk and I truly feel bad.) But have you caught yourself looking at him, after knowledge of his success, thinking “Oh he isn’t that bad”? He actually is that bad! He’s hideous and I even found myself rationalizing his success by saying, “Well he’s written a couple articles for the Rolling Stone before The Game. That’s why models were banging him.” Doubtful.
Last point I wanted to make: charisma is a learned quality. You don’t know charm without hundreds of sexually charged interactions with the opposite sex. My early experiences with women were rough and awkward and I had trouble smoothly stringing together sentences that kept a girl’s attention. But now I can do it without trying and it’s not because I was born with it but because I’ve had so much practice.
Every year it’s getting easier for me because every year I get better, even as the lines on my face get deeper with age and my physical appearance has long since peaked. I have a feeling my 30′s will be the best, easiest years of my life when it comes to women.