Seduction Chronicles’s last blog post: Sinn (Seduction Masters Interview).

If you set yourself up in the coffee date where she has to work for your attention, you can get some mileage from it. Then if you’ve clicked with the girl, you can move onto another venue like a bar and continue the conversation you’ve started at the coffee house.

One reason I hate MySpace is because it makes it too easy for a girl to get a maximum amount ……

but here’s a fact: most guys are not in the market for ONSs. they want to meet their ideal woman and enjoy more than just one sexual encounter with her. when you hear of NSA sex it is often just a case of the guy deciding ex post facto that the girl is not attractive enough for him to continue seeing her. imagine a sliding scale of attractiveness (for men, this is almost entirely physical at first) with a lower and upper bound, beyond which points the target is either too ugly to notice or too hot to even contemplate.

barely attractive enough to induce hard-on: ONS
attractive enough to induce hard-on more than twice a week: fuckbuddy
attractive enough to induce hard-on more than twice a night: LTR
attractive enough to induce consecutive throbbing hard-ons without a refractory period: exclusive LTR

so it is not the casual sex, per se, that inhibits the transition to something more serious, but the attractiveness of the partner which puts the brakes on deeper commitment. with an ideal partner, first date sex is really just an affirmation of how incredibly attractive each finds the other. with a less than ideal partner, first date sex is what you think it is — casual.

“I imagine the sex must have been amazing for you to continue to see the same person.”

everything was amazing about her. that is why i continued seeing her. and it didn’t take the requisite 3 dates for me to see what a great girl she was.

“But a bad personality is something you just can?t change.”

it’s difficult, but not impossible.

Okay, casual sex may work for you. But I think that you overestimate the general population. Most people aren’t looking for a relationship when they have casual sex…they’re just looking for no-strings-attached f***ing. Like I said, to each his own, but I imagine it’s rare for a serious relationship to grow from a night of casual sex.

I imagine the sex must have been amazing for you to continue to see the same person. But in my opinion, you can always teach your partner what turns you on…sex can improve, even if you were both awkward in the very beginning. But a bad personality is something you just can’t change.

besides, the guy i’m dating now, our first date was a coffee date, and after he walked me home i invited him up and we made out for hours. so if you’re good it doesn’t matter what the first date is.

define casual. sex on the first date after a wild night drinking, dancing, groping, and tumbling in the grass around the reflecting pool? that relationship lasted two years and was one of my most fondly remembered. or do you mean occasional sex with a fuckbuddy? ONSs? pulling a girl with the intention of having a one night stand with her has sometimes led to much more.

one thing that’s missing in this false dichotomy of slut v. meaningful waiting period is that personality appraisal happens quicker than most people wish to believe. that is, the “getting to know her” part is not mutually incompatible with the “getting to fuck her right away” part.

“Do you honestly respect a girl who gives it up on the first date?”

sometimes, moreso.

keep in mind that the “slut” term is more often used as a weapon by women against other women. loose women make it harder for marriage-minded women to use sex as a bargaining chip. sluts help break the traditional sex-for-commitment monopoly. while men are genetically-programmed and socially-reinforced to shy away from long-term expensive commitments with girls who act slutty, they certainly won’t degrade them or behave in a manner that would provide an incentive for these vibrant women to strap on the chastity belt.

“Or do you naturally assume that if you?re getting laid without a lot of effort or investment, that she?s probably gotten more use than the neighborhood bicycle?”

redirect to: alt.support.slut-acceptance

the better my game gets, the less likely i am inclined to assume that a girl i bed quickly is a natural born slut.

“Next time you?re at a one-night stand?s apartment, check out the medicine cabinet. I?m sure it will be a total aphrodisiac to see your date?s refill bottle for her prescription of valtrex.”

you’re mistake is in assuming that all women who give it up fast are without standards.

Keep it simple. “Hey lets grab a drink after work.?”

Fuck coffee. What the hell is coffee? Talk about an hour of misery.

How about a Busch Light, some darts and a Nascar Race.

Now that is a good time.

Truer words were never written. There’s nothing morally superior about prefering emotional attention to sexual attention.

No! Just on Fridays when Chaco post. Thats the worst post. This week should be about his girl, relationship, sex or some trivial insignificant observation. Watch, I’ll put 500 down now!!