The 3 Immutable Laws Of Getting The Highest Quality Women

Every six months or so I do a regressive analysis on my most recent sexual relationships. I ask myself the following questions:

  • Where are your lays coming from?
  • What is the ROI on the venues you are approaching in?
  • Do you see any common patterns among the girls you have been happiest with?

The last question has led to a surprising conclusion that I can no longer deny: the girls who have treated me the best had merely slightly above average beauty. In other words, the girls who played the fewest games with me, answered the phone whenever I called, replied back to texts immediately, rarely complained or whined, and attempted to make all my sexual dreams come true had beauty that was not especially high. They were cute, but I have done better in terms of raw attractiveness, sometimes significantly so.

Let’s say that my overall value in Eastern Europe is a 7.5. If I date a girl who is also a 7.5 in beauty, which is comparable to my value, I will have to keep my game sharp at all times. She will test me regularly and be generally challenging even in a normal relationship. If I date a girl who is an 8.5, the relationship is hanging on a string. One little mistake on my end and she may be gone. It will only be a short-term relationship that I beat myself up about when it’s over.

The more I date down, the easier it is to manage the girl in a relationship. She will essentially do whatever I want and treat me like a king, but when I’m out with her on my arm and see many girls more beautiful than her, I feel like a failure. I’m jealous of other men who have obviously better looking women than me, and that I’m selling myself short based on how hard I tried to improve myself as a man. I just can’t escape the negative feelings no matter how much I try, so beauty is a requirement I can’t let go of.

So therein lies the dilemma. Back in my pump and dump days, I would sometimes have a lucky night out and bang a very pretty girl, maybe because she was on the rebound, but maintaining a relationship with her is quite different that fornicating with her one or twice. It’s almost as if the work is just beginning once you bang such a high value girl, but with the girl whose quality is lower, it’s smooth sailing after the initial penetration. In the latter case, you just have to show up and she’ll worship you.

I’m the type of man who likes to have his cake and eat it too (a silly idiom, for if you have cake you definitely want to eat it), so I thought about this problem and asked myself how I could have the beautiful girl who also worships me. By looking into my past, I came up with three possible solutions:

1. Find a beautiful girl who, for some reason, is insecure or unaware of her value (she almost always is under 25).
2. Find a beautiful girl who lives in a city that lacks good men while having a disproportionate amount of other beautiful women.
3. Be a 10 guy who is higher value than just about everyone.

The first point is not location-dependent. You can find this type of girl anywhere in the world, but it will require an immense number of approaches. In effect, you’re looking for a needle in a haystack. In my 10+ years of gaming, I have found less than 10 of them. It’s hard to develop a strategy on meeting these girls, but focusing on day game is the best way to start.

The second point is obviously location-dependent. In effect, you’re looking for poosy paradise where local environmental factors greatly aid in a man’s search for beautiful women. You will be looking for a non-Western location with a high busted dudes score and a population of more women than men (it is possible to find this type of advantage in the West only if you develop a localized niche). This is what I have been doing for roughly the past five years, searching for the one place where my value is higher due to local factors.

The third point is limited by genetic factors. Some men, no matter how hard they work, will never be a 10, but it is our duty to hit the limit that our genetics allow, both in appearance, resource accumulation, charm, and interestingness. If you are a 4 currently, and your genetic ceiling is a 6, it’s still in your best interest to reach for that value. I figure my default value is a 5 (average), but with strenuous work I pulled it up to something in the 7′s.

From whichever angle I look at it, the same answers to the “woman problem” keep popping up, and years of experience both in America and abroad keep supporting these conclusions. They are essentially the three immutable laws for any man to lay a beautiful woman and keep her in a way that provides him with happiness. Here they are:

1. Learn game.
2. Increase your value as much as possible through work, effort, and persistence.
3. Be as location independent as possible (have penis, will uproot).

This is the “secret.” From the time I was 22 to about 28, I diligently worked on game, racking up god knows how many approaches. From approximately 26 to 33, I got my money right by publishing over 15 books that earn me passive income today and which allow me to pursue non-monetary goals like learning a new language. From around 28 to currently, I have researched over 20 countries in the search of poosy paradise, and while my standards seem to always stay just ahead of my results, I have drastically increased both the quality of women I’ve layed and the happiness of mini relationships I’ve ended up with.

I know some guys are thinking, “But I can’t spend years to travel to find my poosy paradise!” Then you’ll have to massively step up your efforts in the other two areas. If you nail at least two of the three, you should have strong results. If you can nail all three, then you are probably hitting your ceiling. Within the next few years, I will lay the highest quality girls that is possible based on who I am. Then I will enter my 40′s and start seeing a decline (based on the same amount of work).

It’s important to note that my increase in qualitative results with women have been so gradual I can’t perceive it in real time. Every couple of years it gets just a tiny bit better, a change so slow that only when I look at girls I banged several years ago do I realize the jump I’ve made. The sad thing is that with such a slow change, you really don’t feel like you’re getting better, so the struggle of yesterday always remains with you today.

Tomorrow I will wake up and still have to tweak my game to deal with ever changing factors that require different strategies to attract a higher quality of women I want. I still have to keep my value high and make sure my money is good. I still have to be flexible with my location, and get ready to move away from places that used to serve me in the past but have recently changed. For most of us not born with top genetic looks or stock, the quest for great women is all encompassing, continuous, exhausting, and full of hardship. That’s never going to change, and most men will say no to taking this path because it’s harder than playing video games or watching sports, but for men like myself who want to enjoy its rewards, at least we know what we have to do.

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  • yohami

    “the girls who have treated me the best had merely slightly above average beauty.” – hypergamy. The higher your value in comparison to the girl’s, the more she likes you, the better she treats you. If you’re her equal she doesnt like you that much. If you’re beneath her she’ll be a horrible person to you. Most love relationships are the cycle from infatuation to contempt: how the girl thought you were the man, or you tried to make her see you as a man (beta game), till you faded into a frog in her eyes. Solution, climb the ladder and be the top man (hot girls will want you, be nice to you), then avoid anything that devaluates you, including putting her on a pedestal, any supplicative behavior, etc.

    Lots of guys want to get a girl they can put on a pedestal – that will never work.

  • Ricky Vaughn

    There is also a location dependent method, and that involves having a tight-knit social circle in your community and being a high-status leader in this community.

  • Bob

    I gotta say, you have a rather deep understanding of such a superficial concept such as picking up women. But, no matter how superficial, it is still an essential part of our life. However, you are missing one important aspect of the game with women. While a man should strive to improve himself in every way, if he strived to improve the life of a beautiful woman too, he would make her value him much higher than any of her past experiences. That way you would be able to attain a 10 with any woman you want. Also, if you wanted to move on, you wouldn’t feel bad for doing so but you’d feel like you’ve enriched her life. In my experience, by using women who rated me as a 10 has allowed me to steadily pick up even better women.

  • seth datta

    Either ‘high quality’ women do not exist and the standard set by different types of men are different

    OR

    (1) she doesn’t drink
    (2) she doesn’t smoke nor do drugs
    (3) she has a relatively higher set point for being tempted to leave/cheat

  • Johnny

    Roosh man I honestly think your perceptions of beauty are far too altered by your American upbringing- Ive seen plenty of black and Arabic women who destroy most average white girls. So, because you are Middle Eastern you are only a 5 or 6? Nah man! I’m Latin and I don’t limit myself like that- most regular Turkish or Spanish look way better than a plain Jane white American IMO. The whites look best is media brainwashing.

  • http://pantheondweller.blogspot.com/ Pantheon Dweller

    “if he strived to improve the life of a beautiful woman too, he would make her value him much higher than any of her past experiences. That way you would be able to attain a 10 with any woman you want.”

    That’s not being attractive, that’s being useful. Improving their life won’t give you any benefit. Almost every beta in the country would do anything to “improve the life of a beautiful woman”, and they’re still miles away from attaining a 10.

    The only way that works is improving their life temporarily by giving her the opportunity to be with an exciting man.

  • GetItGoing

    How can you say his perceptions of beauty are too much influenced by an American background? As he has traveled so much and been involved with women from multiple backgrounds/ethnicities/etc, his frame of reference no longer is that of strictly an American point of view.

    I can say the same (to a far lesser degree) after having spent time overseas and having known latinas. A man’s frame of reference changes.

    But you are definitely, by far, so right about the Southern US. I live in the south, and it is rare that I find an attractive woman anywhere with the exception of midtown/downtown Atlanta, or younger women near college age.

  • http://pantheondweller.blogspot.com/ Pantheon Dweller

    Ive seen plenty of black and Arabic women who destroy most average white girls.

    Of course, if you take the best black or arabic women, they will be more attractive than the average white girl, but that’s just how averages work.

    because you are Middle Eastern you are only a 5 or 6? Nah man! I’m Latin and I don’t limit myself like that- most regular Turkish or Spanish look way better than a plain Jane white American IMO.

    He doesn’t limit himself either, you can’t decide your value, women’s choice in men do. If by latin you mean spanish or italian, yes, women tend to like them. Turkish men have less success however. It may not be fair but it’s called the “mating market” for a reason, it depends on supply and demand.

  • Nomad77

    Well, it depends on what constitutes an 8 in your book. It is just looks then she may be weak in intelligence, character, or personality. Our value is the sum total of everything we are regardless of whether someone chooses to factor them in or not. For example, you may not factor in a girl’s personality or intelligence but other men will. The bottom line is if you want an 8 to be subservient to you then you will have to be a 9 or 10 in her eyes. And yes, getting sex, is not enough to for them to want to establish a relationship with you. In fact it may be detrimental to one if it comes too early.

  • Tom Dane

    So it all comes down to one rule really..be of more value than her. And that would always be location dependent. Of course you can be truly location independent if you are a good looking famous 25 year old billionaire.

  • Tom Dane

    No, a woman has a cast, and that cast is dependent on her looks alone. That determines what man she can realistically hope for. There will always be exceptions of course. And its the same for men, it’s just not based purely on looks.

  • Ruckus

    Pay a 10, game a 7.

  • anon1

    1. Find a beautiful girl who, for some reason, is insecure or unaware of her value (she almost always is under 25).

    So basically go to either the middle east or maybe somewhere in Russia that doesn’t have smartphones or instagram

  • Ruckus

    Or move to the Southwest and scope the mexicanas from the border towns…

  • Roosh_V

    I lived in siberia for one month and it seemed like every girl had a smartphone and instagram.

  • Christian McQueen

    This is why the old saying about women is true: “The hotter the woman, the worse you treat her”.

    I think you might be short selling yourself Roosh.

    You’re an accomplished author who makes his LIVING from his books. How many writers can say that?

    You’ve traveled the world, speak multiple languages, are well above average height (6’2-3″?), are location independent, own your own successful business, have a fan base of thousands and thousands and have even created another successful men’s site out of nothing: ROK.

    I think what it comes down to, is that your own ego could be larger.

    Bear with me…

    While you’re very accomplished as a man, perhaps you don’t allow your ego to flaunt itself more to women.

    As a man thinks, so is he.

    If you think some women are above you and that deep down you’re not good enough for them, then your vibe will communicate that.

    If you believe that you’re the shit and that every woman would be lucky as fuck to get the chance to be with you, then this will be communicated.

    While you’re more experienced than me in travel overseas (I have none yet), perhaps allowing yourself to be more egotistical to a certain degree will open up doors with top tier women that you initially thought were closed.

    You know what you’re doing, but just my 2 cents that may help you out.

  • http://dcllive.wordpress.com/ dcl

    “It’s important to note that my increase in qualitative results with
    women have been so gradual I can’t perceive it in real time. Every
    couple of years it gets just a tiny bit better, a change so slow that
    only when I look at girls I banged several years ago do I realize the
    jump I’ve made. The sad thing is that with such a slow change, you
    really don’t feel like you’re getting better, so the struggle of
    yesterday always remains with you today.”

    This is how I am seeing my change, or self improvement, as well. I feel the same way, and you have articulated it very well. Thanks Roosh. -d

  • Joe

    Roosh
    You inspire many men
    You remain humble and appear to be intellectual and introverted (im guessing this is a but if a struggle for you- I’m an introvert too so I get it).

    I say you need to do deep immersion visualization (Ross Jeffries has written in depth about this- Nlp trick- get super relaxed verbally affirm how awesome you are and do mental imagery about your greatness and what you want to manifest- I’ve envisioned certain types of women and seen something 95% close to that the next day). This may sound different but it has worked.

    To take all the risks you have and put yourself out there is admirable. When I first saw your ad on amazon- I said this dude is blunt matter of fact and direct as well as cheap- sold! Besides how many people share their insecurities publicly like that? Definitely not the weak. People can laugh but I’m in this thing for an unreal level of intensity of connection and understanding with women that goes beyond what’s measureable in the outside World. I want to become a force that moves those I choose to invest in beyond what they could know or feel anywhere else.

  • https://twitter.com/MoreLulabelle Stephanie Shepard

    “The more I date down, the easier it is to manage the girl in a
    relationship. She will essentially do whatever I want and treat me like a
    king, but when I’m out with her on my arm and see many girls more
    beautiful than her, I feel like a failure.”

    If she does everything you want why not just get her to increase her SMV? Feminine beauty is highly controllable for women. There are essentially 3 things a woman can control to increase their beauty a few points. Lose weight, wear feminine clothes, and maintain their hair. Very simple really.

  • https://twitter.com/MoreLulabelle Stephanie Shepard

    I think you are right. It is no different than buying a neglected car and restoring it. If you invest in a woman to enrich her life you will find her more valuable. Women do this all the time with men.

  • lol

    “While a man should strive to improve himself in every way, if he strived to improve the life of a beautiful woman too…”

    Do this in your personal life and you will get nothing but resentment and disappointment in return. Well, not exactly… you might get a little cuckoldry.

    http://therationalmale.com/2012/05/21/relational-equity/

  • seth datta

    Humility keeps you grounded and alert/sharp. Pride comes before the fall.

  • seth datta

    I think about moving to Central or South America permanently as feminism is not as evolved there as in other places. Sure, it exists, but it seems like the rest of the world is f*cked.

  • seth datta

    This is unfortunately true – improvement can be done for the self, but it is arguable whether it leads to more women or a higher quality of woman.

  • Acehole

    Maybe what you say is true. But what if the next generation of women is better than the current one? What if the next generation of young women see how bad the previous one was, then make adjustments to better themselves? You never know. Maybe you can date the next generation. Hope springs eternal.

    However, I wouldn’t hold my breath on my theory. Tacky, poorly placed, useless tattoos are still the standard issue fashion accessory for the 18 yr old female herd members in this dopey culture we call the US.

  • Acehole

    Double standard at play here. When women do it, it works for them. When men do it, it fails miserably and blows up in his face and his goals are not achieved.

    Women can readily get all kinds of support from men on almost every level imaginable. The only thing women cannot easily get is lusty emotions and recurring attention from a high value exciting man.

    Lots of men are helpful and caring, but have no edge to them. Sure you’ll hang out with them, but you’re not going to bone them, and you know it. They’re boring. Even if only temporary, you want the hot guy who treats you like number 5 in his sexual lineup. If this is true you can admit it. If you say it’s not, you’re either lying or you’re boring too.

  • Acehole

    Every man wants what he wants. Beauty is rare. We live in an ugly world, full of ugly things and ugly mediocre people. Having a beautiful woman is a huge boost in life. Appreciating and admiring beauty is a central theme of classical Western Civilization. It makes life worth living. Without it, everything is common shit. You can get that just about everywhere.

  • https://twitter.com/MoreLulabelle Stephanie Shepard

    “The only thing women cannot easily get is lusty emotions and recurring attention from a high value exciting man.”

    Women can get those, sure. But it is usually fleeting and inconsistent. Women do love attention, lust, and affection. They usually feel like the bait and switch has occurred when it stops. I am not sure what you mean by being exciting though.

  • anon1

    first world connectivity is killing shyness/low self esteem in women

  • Widower

    These game/PUA websites certainly paint a grim picture of the dating world. I don’t necessarily disagree how you describe the modern woman, but it’s not as bad as you make it out to be.

    I was with the same woman for 14 years before she passed away. With my entire social circle comprised of other married couples, I ventured into online dating at age 40.

    I am a fit, good looking and financially secure guy. However, I have a more quiet and reserved nature and not a natural alpha at all. I’ve tried to use game on those women I am interested in, but can’t keep up the facade for very long.

    So I do my own version of the shit test: I just be my nice guy beta self who treats a woman nicely and let the chips fall where they may. If she starts to flake out and does the LJBF thing, I simply drop her and stay stone cold radio silent. The vast majority of the time, these girls try to get a hold of me months later and I love to hear the pain in their voice when I politely inform them that I am dating somebody else.

  • Widower

    (Continued)

    I am dating my current Oneitis for 3 months now. I’ve seen no indication whatsoever that she is bored with my being myself and acting like a nice guy. She constantly expresses gratitude at how well I treat her. She goes to Church and is family oriented.

    But if she starts to flake out and says she needs space to herself, I’m not going to wait around like an orbiting satellite hoping she comes back my way. The best way to get over a Oneitis who breaks up with you is to go and bang another girl.

    I had his one casual girlfriend (a friends with benefits situation) who is 25 who constantly texts me and asking to hook up. I think she became really enamoured with me when she came over to my house in the suburbs seeing that my casual mentions of my modest wealth have some validity to them. The more I ignore her, the more she is aggressive towards me. But I keep telling her I’m on love with somebody else.

    I tried dating women my own age (early 40s) but I find myself not nearly as attracted with them as I am with those who are younger than me. I want to have children, and that definitely plays a factor.

    The modern dating world is certainly a shark’s den compared to when I was single 15-20 years ago. But back then I had no property or even a car. But I get laid a lot more because let’s face it, I am a man of means. Nothing is sexier to a woman than a man who is financially secure.

    My advice to sexually frustrated young men today: strive to become financially independent. Do those things that actually build wealth. Easiest way: buy your home instead of renting. Even if the home is in an area with crime problems, gentrification will increase the value while the crime problem goes away.

  • Widower

    PPS: I refuse to have anything to do with single mothers. I don’t want to have to compete for a girlfriend’s time or put anything towards raising another man’s child.

  • johnathan blaze

    The hotter they are, the more of a pain in the ass they will always be. And when it comes to long term, demeanor trumps hotness (within reason). You don’t want someone who makes your life more stressful, or who you have to worry about straying. You want a girl who is thankful to be with you. Arm candy is nice too but not as nice as a dedicated chick.

    There is also some delayed gratification element. If you marry a 6 at age 30, by 50 she is going to have chubbed up a bit, while the 8 would have stayed thin and attractive. But would it have been worth 20 years of stress? Maybe. And who knows if the 8 wouldn’t have left before then?

  • Deb Auchery

    I have the same problem. Seeing a lovely 17yr old who gives amazing blowjobs, answers calls/messages promptly and is generally delightful, but I should be pursuing higher quality. Problem is that if WE act in the same way with women we cannot date up like them, instead they will think we are WEAK and won’t respect us for answering messages straight away etc.

  • fooled no more

    Quote: “But what if the next generation of women is better than the current one? What if the next generation of young women see how bad the previous one was, then make adjustments to better themselves? You never know. Maybe you can date the next generation. Hope springs eternal.”

    Thats not going to happen in this life. The USA is a shithole ands becoming shittier, and its women will get ugleir and uglier to the point where they won’t even look human.

    In order to see the return of the slender, sweet all american gal the States is going to have to pass through this high tech medieval period, and competely crap out and die. Then from then you could see things get better. I’m guessing this will take three generations.

  • fooled no more

    Quote: “While you’re very accomplished as a man, perhaps you don’t allow your ego to flaunt itself more to women.”

    It’s not about flaunting acomplishments as it is being the “clown” for the female in order to bang her. Roosh write something about this not too long ago.

  • fooled no more

    Quote: “I lived in siberia for one month and it seemed like every girl had a smartphone and instagram.”#

    So then how are the attitudes of the women there?

  • fooled no more

    Quote: “Or move to the Southwest and scope the mexicanas from the border towns…”

    And tell all the super hotties in mexico that you are an American laison to a narco from her home country. She’ll definitely dig you.

  • asshole

    Same for the Middle East. Many people (especially the young) are very much up to date. In many cases more so than a lot of places in the US.

  • asshole

    Middle Eastern women are getting rapidly westernized i.e. fucked up princess attitudes and extreme demands. Many women have adopted feminist viewpoints (problably without being fully aware of it) although they’ll refuse to call themselves the f-word.

  • Cake Eater

    Having cake and eating it to is because some cakes (such as wedding cakes) are meant for display purposes. The rub is wanting to have a beautiful cake to showoff, and also wanting to eat it.

  • Cake Eater

    *too

  • Johnny

    Roosh
    Just had a spark of inspiration-
    how to help young guys escape college and college debt as well as the feminist social gulag of the Anglosphere. Think of the boring lectures, snotty campus girls, corporate cubicle roots-esque plantation, and the 49ers (4s acting like 9s) out at night coupled with the sausage fests, 1984 surveillance, robo cop DUI road blocks, etc.

    If a smart guy (higher iq than me-youre a scientist dude!) can help guide and save some young guys some torture and pain-why not? Like your kid brother (s) help them find a way to dig themselves out of the psychotic place known as DC.

    That would be a cool future book-”Save the high school graduates-Uncle Rooshs guide out of college debt, corporate slavery, 49er chicks, and TeamMurica Bilderberg-Orwell living to cheap living, relaxed culture, and feminine girls”

  • Megamuppet

    Hey,the perfect solution to this problem is known by 1% of men. Simply,you have to be richer than 99% of other guys in your location and use half a brain to be able to show it off. Hot girls worshipping you- guaranteed. Read interviews with michael adam,founder of fashion tv,one of the biggest alphas on the planet.
    10 chicks have plenty of sexy boys to choose from. But they dont have that many richfucks.

    And its not about decent earnings. Its sleeping in top hotels for at least 1/4 of the year
    Think 500usd per night. Top clubs,top car rentals,high end clothing and jewellery.
    Designer pad in class A location.Easily 2 grand in property tax alone. Or 70k yearly for rental.
    We are talking 300k per year in net income and the best legs ans sexiest lips are all open.
    Just do it.

  • anonymous

    check out “married man sex game” and ‘dave from hawaii’ relationship advice.

    If you wouldn’t be okay with your girl gaining 30 pounds and letting her looks go, you shouldn’t be okay with becoming a whiny dweeb.

    Keep your game tight in the relationship.

  • Bob

    Pantheon, you are mistaken. No beta knows how to improve a woman’s life so that she is not only attracted to you but she rates you above all others. Only an Alpha knows. If you’re an Alpha, you will always be Alpha, and there is no way that your improvement of a woman’s life will be temporary or short-lived. You will always dominate and make her feel like a woman, while also making her follow your lead as a consequence of that improvement. It’s about making her rate you a 10, because no matter how much you improve yourself, in some women’s eyes, you will never be good enough.

  • http://pantheondweller.blogspot.com/ Pantheon Dweller

    Don’t be so vague, if you’re going to tell me I’m wrong, at least give some examples of what you mean by “improving a woman’s life”.

  • the great pumpkin

    > Let’s say that my overall value in Eastern Europe is a 7.5

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAH

    Seriously Roosh, when are you going to do something useful with your life? So far your contribution to society is a net negative. You are a taker, and you teach others to be selfish takers. Go do something useful for once.

  • anonymous

    ?

    Why should Roosh do something that *you* find “useful”?

    He creates and sells information that other people find value in and pay money for.

    In fact, Roosh makes enough money off his books that he doesn’t need a 9 to 5 office cubicle job. He travels when he wants, does what he wishes, and basically doesn’t give a fuck.

    If you want to talk about “usefulness”, you’re the person who’s so useless that you spend your time criticizing a supposedly ‘useless’ person online.

  • Roger Daily

    I found that too – the bitches that have been most pleasant to be with have the the slightly better than average ones. I don’t even have to smack them.

  • Scooby d

    Idk about this one Roosh.. Ones perception affects how he acts and feels around 10′s and 9′s. If you think she’s gonna leave you cause she’s hot, that makes you insecure in the relationship. It’s hard to do, but I pretend hot girls are 6′s and it helps the mental part. Also, some of the hot girls don’t even know they are hot

  • Bob

    I’m sorry, I thought I was clear about that in my first post. By “improving a woman’s life” I meant everything a MAN does for A WOMAN. But in a nutshell, it would mean that you soak up everything she’s saying, creating a big picture of her life and then spotting the minor details in there which you can influence and improve. If she was neglected, give her a little bit of attention. If she is insecure or has a silly complex (eg. the shape of her toes), lift her up and tell her she’s being silly, etc. You have to be a man! And that also means not using the knowledge of her insecurities or habits to get back at her or whatever. Only when you attain the ability of foretelling what women need will you be able to get the insight into their true nature and capabilities. I could write about this for days and still not cover everything but I think you got the picture. However, if you need some adjustment to be THAT man, I suggest martial arts. It will teach you everything about strategy, chivalry, mental and physical toughness and a general value of life. In short, it will improve you as a man.

  • http://pantheondweller.blogspot.com/ Pantheon Dweller

    That’s what I thought, your examples of “being a man” are what every beta already does, giving attention and comforting insecurities. This advice is what you can read anywhere in the mainstream media… and it doesn’t work.

    From my experience, her insecurities are good for you, beautiful but insecure girls are low-maintenance and they would do anything to please you.

  • guest

    Well said.

    Pay the hot 10 whore and game a decent looking 7.

    Getting hot whores should be in every man’s game plan.

  • Bob

    Betas are pussies and cannot provide attention and comfort in the right amounts. Only alpha can. The point is in having the right balance in giving and taking. If you’re a greater giver, women will see you as a beta. If you’re a taker, they’ll see you as a selfish twat. If you know when to take and when to give, she’ll want you because you’re a well rounded man. In my experience 60% taking, 40% giving will do you perfectly. What I don’t understand is your need to be told what to do when it comes to ladies. Observe. Adapt the game. Conquer. Enjoy the time with her. Another thing a beta does is pussying out on a woman when he could have it large if he stuck around for a while. Even leaving things to hang in the air is better than “hit and run”. I was having 5-6 women on the go at the same while I decide which one I want.

  • K

    men must be takers in order to become great. they must work on bettering themselves each and every day for the betterment of all society: this plays into the laws of natural selection. the most valuable man wins, and women give him their love and/or the right to procreate/have sex with them.

  • http://alphanextdoor.com/ Chuck @alphanextdoor.com

    I like your solution, especially if your in a LTR, in fact, I cant think about any other way to not lose control …. If you fail to “evolve” faster than the competition or her, its going to go to shit before you reach the 2 years mark.

  • KP

    What does a 7/10 and 8/10 female look like to you Roosh?

    Some guys have crazy standards, some don’t. I can’t really see an average looking guy banging 7 and 8s consistently because of all the options they have and hot guys that hit on them. At the end of the day, there has to be some physical attraction

  • Halfasian

    This is good advice, but only slobs going from a low starting point can increase their beauty by a notable amount.

    Many, if not most, non-Western women in the dating market are already doing the 3 things you suggest and have already gotten somewhat close to their optimum (there’s always some room for improvement, but nothing spectacular).

  • The bitter truth

    Strange how I used to think roosh and you puas were right about game, but in my mere 20 years, all it took was realising that you just have to be yourself and be direct. It’s natural to want sex… Follow your instincts, the mere fact you rate girls tells me you all pedestalize them, I had a late start but it took the game and a good look in the mirror and now I literally don’t need to chase, have had 17 different girls in the last month or so, think it’s all about your social circle and ability to read aseen my barber hit on a girl in the most affluent part of London and he got a number, he wasn’t gaming, just genuinely interested in her and the Aryan beauty probz had her curiosity piqued. Read rooshs stuff but you’d be a fool to take it literally. Game is for ppl who lack confidence and comfort in their skin, or if you’re over 35 I guess but by then the money should be there.. My two pence