The Helsinki Diaries (Part 4 of 4)

PREVIOUSLY: PART THREE

I knew she would put up some resistance to sex once in my place, but I had no idea it would be so intense. We kissed in my kitchen but she refused to let me take off her shirt and also declined to lay on my bed. I made her a strong vodka but she held her liquor.

After an hour of standing in the kitchen without getting any of her clothes off, I knew I’d have to be more methodical about how I was going to get this bang. I decided to hit her with a three-pronged resistance buster strategy.

There are many ways for human beings to learn something. Some are auditory learners, some are visual learners, and some are experience-based learners. When it comes to breaking down resistance, some girls succumb to emotion, some logic, and some to never-ending persistence. I decided to hit her with all three.

The logic part of the program was selling a sexual opportunity that she doesn’t normally have, specifically in sleeping with an American guy, something I had initially brought up in the bar. I spelled out the uniqueness of our encounter then asked, “Do you want to have sex right now?” I hit her with this many times to get live feedback on my progress. At first her answer was “I want to but I won’t,” but later it changed to “I want to but I shouldn’t.”

The emotional part was kissing her passionately, complimenting the unique things about her, and hinting towards a future together.

The persistence part was repeatedly trying moves that I knew she would say no to. It wasn’t elegant, but I knew that some girls want to succumb to a strong man.

The key moment came when I went to lay in bed, genuinely tired. I said she wasn’t allowed to lay down with her jeans. She thought I was joking and tried to hop in anyway, but I didn’t let her. I told her that’s my rule, but she was stubborn and refused to take them off. There was a standoff. At the moment the air in the room started getting uncomfortable, I said, “How about we compromise. You can wear my shorts.” It was a reasonable request and allowed her to save face by not accepting a man’s demands, something that Scandinavian women don’t like doing. But for me I knew it was a victory because my shorts were so big for her that they would offer no challenge to remove.

She came into bed and I wrapped my body around hers. It didn’t take more than ten minutes of just minor pressure for her to ask me if I had a condom. I put on the condom and captured my Finnish flag. As it turned out, she was on her period.

 —

In the morning Laurna watched me eat peanut butter sandwiches before leaving. I got her number and honestly wanted to see her again. She was a feminine girl with a great body—what more could I ask for? Even after napping and drinking coffee, by nightfall I had absolutely no energy. When I stepped out the door past 1am, all I wanted to do was return back home, but I was greedy and wanted to get three bangs in one week. I often read stories about guys getting three or four bangs in a matter of a couple days, but I had no idea where they got the energy to do that. After two bangs I just wanted to lay down and sleep forever.

Back at Millionaire I tried my best, but could only manage to do two approaches in zombie fashion. Even though I only busted three nuts in the past three days, the last thing on my mind was sex. A girl would’ve had to throw herself at me for that to happen, and since that didn’t go down I went home and crashed.

I felt more energized on Saturday and did a little coffee shop tour where I people watched. I was surprised by Finland and its women. I had heard bad things about how hyper-masculine they were, and while that was true compared to Eastern European women, there were still quite a few feminine beauties around. Finland offered a small but substantial selection of cute girls who spoke English, liked to drink, and had little hangups about hooking up. Maybe I liked it because I had just come from Ukraine where the girls didn’t drink much, didn’t speak English, and saw every guy as a potential bridge to a better life instead of a fun romp in the sack.

That night I went back to Millionaire for the last time. I had been in the city for less than a week and already felt like a hack by going to the same bar so much. I noticed a blackjack table and decided to try my luck even though they broke international rules by taking your money on a push. A couple of girls gravitated near me and I chatted them up while I played. After losing 10 euros, I got up feeling ready for more action. I started approaching and really did give it my all, but I would have no luck on this night.

I eventually met up with Jon and we hit the streets for some good old street game. We met two girls who he had briefly talked to at another club. One was half-Asian and the other was a blonde Finnish girl who looked Swedish. They were both 19. We rolled an afterparty and brought them to my cramped studio apartment. The problem was that they refused to drink. They were celebrating a graduation party since the afternoon and were sobering up. I did everything to ply them with alcohol besides forcing it down their gullets, but all we could manage was a lame 4-way conversation.

Jon tried to isolate the Asian girl by asking her if she wanted to grab a quick bite to eat at the McDonalds down the street, but she declined. They absolutely were not separating, and there was no dancing to hip hop like with the Thai girls. It came out that the blonde had a boyfriend and was supposed to meet up with him shortly. Thanks for wasting our time.

I fell asleep slightly disappointed. I went out five nights in a row, got laid on two of them, but felt like I had somehow failed.

 —

For my last night I had made plans with Laurna. She researched places to hang out and replied to my texts promptly using full sentences and proper punctuation. She texted me before the date to apologize that she was going to be “8 minutes late.” She later said she was joking, but she was exactly eight minutes late.

Even after spending four months in Denmark and Iceland, it was the first time I went on a date with a Scandinavian girl I banged. Over a bottle of champagne, we had a nice chat about travel and cultural differences between Americans and Scandinavians. She busted my balls a couple times, her default strategy of being “just one of the guys,” but my lack of witty comebacks to them, or even acknowledgement, made her start appearing like an aggressive man. Once she realized I’m not like Finnish guys, she eased into a more feminine role, free of the debate vibe that is boner kryptonite.

We went back to my apartment and I cooked a small meal. She was more comfortable with the sex this time around since she wasn’t bleeding. She said, “I could get used to this.” Maybe I could’ve too. I didn’t think Finland was supposed to have girls I’d like, but here was one. I’m sure if I stayed longer and increased my sample size, I would find masculine girls that would sour that image and even out the bell curve, but if you told me then that I had to stay for two months in Helsinki during the summer, I wouldn’t object. It’s cosmopolitan enough that if I got tired of the Finnish girls I could try for some other flags.

The next morning there were no tears goodbye, but it was a touch melancholy. She told me to visit again and I told her I’d consider it. Upon leaving for Sweden, I had warmer feelings about Finland than Ukraine or Latvia, something I didn’t expect. Until I stop wanting easy sex, the Finlands of the world will remain on my radar.

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  • Wool Suit

    A great ending. Enjoyed the suspense factor.

    Hard for me to mentally accept Finland as better in some regards than Ukraine, but there you have it.

  • Rafael

    Hey, Roosh. I always read your page. Good job.

    Regarding the text, i’ve never been to Finland but I would undoubtedly prefer going there instead as places as Ukraine. Yes, I know the women there are very feminine, but seriously, after some experiences with eastern european girls (in dubai, scandinavia, germany etc) I usually avoid them. I don’t have patience for girls that wants to talk about money all the time and wonder if I can possibly be an upgrade on her life. For me, they are just a myth.

    I love the western european woman’s way. If you have not been to germany yet, I totally encourage you to go there. Holland as well, and even Denmark that you hate (I got two flags there. maybe next time you would get a better feeling about it). The fact they are a lil’ bit masculine sometimes is good because they tend to see sex as something much more natural and they are less insecure. I have stories in those places that are just amazing. Easy sex.

    That’s it, keep the good work.

  • La mouette

    A piece of advice for guys who are expecting a lil’ more from a city than just cute feminine girls : Helsinki is the most boring capital I have ever seen.

    Apart from Temppeliaukio Kirkko (the Rock Church), there is NOTHING to see.
    On tour guides this is the first thing to see, the second thing is another decent church (nothing crazy though), the third one is a lame island, the fourth is a statue and after that it’s just … bars …

    It is expansive, the city center is painfully impersonal, in the way that it might as well be any city in Northern Europe since there’s absolutely nothing UNIQUE about it.

    I also talked to a few people and I heard that winter are quite harsh. “We don’t have much to do during winters, so we drink.”

    If you wanna spend a week there just to get the flag it’s fine, girls are cute and less painful to talk to than in Danemark or Sweden.
    But if you plan on staying there for an extended period of time I can’t recommend it, it will just bore the shit out of you. Try Tallinn instead.

  • greenlander

    I agree with Wool. I’ve never been in Finland but I’ve meet Finnish chicks and got my Finnish flag in the US. The heads of Finnish chicks are filled with feminist BS.

    I’ve been in Ukraine. Roosh, I agree that a lot of Ukrainian girls look at a westerner as a path to a better life… but it’s hard to believe that you consider Ukraine a worse place to chase poon than Finland.

    [Roosh: If I had to pick one place to live, it'd be Ukraine, but for shorter trips, Finland.]

  • http://www.thegmanifesto.com The G Manifesto

    Cool story, Roosh.

    That is why travel is so damn fun.

    “Over a bottle of champagne, we had a nice chat about travel and cultural differences”

    Am I the only one who has been noticing Roosh weaving in little details of a Big Baller lifestyle?

    A few years back he was swiping drinks, now he is guzzling Champagne over dinner. And posting up in swank apartments in city center.

    Now that’s smooth.

    - MPM

  • Tampa

    Brazlian women is auctioning off her virginity. It sold for 800k. Sounds like a smart business woman.

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2222458/Catarina-Migliorini-Brazilian-student-20-set-sell-virginity-780k-online.html?ICO=most_read_module

  • Revo Luzione

    Roosh,

    You’re a master storyteller. Good stuff here.

    There’s a conceptual lesson here that could be unpacked more deeply. I think there’s something rich here:

    “She busted my balls a couple times, her default strategy of being “just one of the guys,” but my lack of witty comebacks to them, or even acknowledgement, made her start appearing like an aggressive man. Once she realized I’m not like Finnish guys, she eased into a more feminine role, free of the debate vibe that is boner kryptonite.”

    I’m wondering if this strategy could work on American women, or if most are too far gone. Of course it could work after one’s already sealed the deal.

    Nonetheless, I’m intrigued about anything that can tone down the BS over here.

  • http://www.nexxtlevelup.com Virgle Kent

    @The G manifesto,

    Yeah I’m feeling that too, the maturation of a G on the from G’s to Gent’s shit

    What is going to be your deciding factor for a place to pick when you do want to settle down and have hairy kids with one woman?

  • Anonymous

    Finland is not Scandinavia, it’s Nordic. There are significant differences between the Finns and Denmark, Norway, and Sweden.

    Also I can’t understand your hate for copenhagen (when it comes to aesthetics/masculinity), when you have a mild appreciation for Finnish women.

  • West Coast Life

    Roosh, just curious, when are you going to list all of your flags? I’m looking forward to seeing this. You could just list the countries, or you could make some kind of graphic with the actual flags. You could group them by geographic location and highlight your flag sweeps, or show them all next to each other UN-style.

    [Roosh: Sure I'll probably end up doing this at some point.]

  • Anonymous

    You really wanna “bang Sweden”? Just ask Julian Assange how that one played out for him…

  • thedarkaquarian

    hey i read the first paragraph of you findland story..I must warn you that you need to be very careful when giving drinks to females you are gaming. in some countries. (sweden for example)if you have sex with a woman who has had a couple of drinks it is considered Rape. and you could face criminal charges even if she was concious and not stunbling or passed out drunk. so be very careful!

  • Theodora

    “and hinting towards a future together.”

    Just wanted to say this sentence made my skin crawl, it sounds psycho, just to get laid.

  • Anonymous

    anyone got a biological explanation why women on their period go for Roosh? Somehow every other story they are bleeding. Is this period game? Or just a statistical anomaly?

  • tuffawumba

    ‘Am I the only one who has been noticing Roosh weaving in little details of a Big Baller lifestyle?’

    It can be quite gratifying styling out a non american woman, on your terms, Roosh is gettin it.

    “and hinting towards a future together.”

    Just wanted to say this sentence made my skin crawl, it sounds psycho, just to get laid.

    “I got it all together now
    With my very own disco clothes,
    My shirt’s half open, t’show you my chains
    ‘N’ the spoon for up my nose
    I am really somethin’
    That’s what you’d prob’ly say
    So smoke your little smoke
    Drink your little drink
    While I dance the night away,
    I’m a Dancin’fool,
    I’m a Dancin’fool…..

    I may be totally wrong but I’m a
    I may be totally wrong but I’m a
    I may be totally wrong but I’m a FOOL-uh!

    Hey, darlin’… can I buyya a drink?
    Lookin’ for Mister Goodbar?
    Here he is… Wait a minute…
    I’ve got it… you’re an Italian! Huh?
    Yer Jewish?
    Love your nails … you must be a Libra…
    Your place or mine?”

    Psycho, as in a normal night at the club….

  • По реке

    @Anonymous above me, women on their period are often pretty abnormally horny…girls want dick the most at the ending stages of their cycle.

    Nice finale in Helsinki, it’s crazy to read that you’re disappointed with 2 lays in 5 nights. As for Helsinki itself yeah it’s kind of a boring city as some said but as you can find in the above entries the girls there are definitely worth checking out. Good stuff Roosh, can’t wait to see what you have to say about Sweden.

  • anon

    ROOSH are you gonna be out this weekend for halloween

    i live in montreal it would be sick to meet you

  • Anonymous

    You should have married her!

  • Anonymous

    @Anon

    His penis is so huge it makes women spontaneously bleed. It are fact. I’ve seen it.

  • K.

    Roosh,

    Question: Do you have some sort of blood/period fetish ????

    why are you always banging chicks on their periods ??

  • Anonymous

    “Just wanted to say this sentence made my skin crawl, it sounds psycho, just to get laid.”

    The usual lack of female empathy here. They can get laid anytime they want, so going the extra mile for it is alien to them.

    Guys have been saying this since the beginning of time. The same way women act like they’re going to treat you just as good after you get married. They’re both lies…but peope keep tellling them because they keep working.

  • http://3rdmilleniummen.wordpress.com 3rd Millenium Men

    Damn I hate that feeling when you say goodbye to a girl you actually really like. One of the crappiest feelings in the world.

  • Poke

    Hey, Roosh: you need to go African, specifically, South Africa. Try Cape Town especially, or Johannesburg (northern suburbs of Sandton only, NOT the city itself). Don’t bother with the other cities, they’re crap or else (Durban!) pox-holes. You’ll need to rent a car, though, because being without a car in S. Africa is like being without a car in L.A.

  • Jack

    @Theodora
    Yes Theo, it’s also psycho when bitches hints at not night together, just to get drinks at the bat.
    WHo cares, if she wasnt a slut she wouldnt be sleeping with him right away, no matter what he said.

  • Jack

    @Theodora
    Yes Theo, it’s also psycho when bitches hints at hot night together, just to get drinks at the bar.
    WHo cares, if she wasnt a slut she wouldnt be sleeping with him right away, no matter what he said.

  • James

    “I knew she would put up some resistance to sex once in my place, but I had no idea it would be so intense. We kissed in my kitchen but she refused to let me take off her shirt and also declined to lay on my bed. I made her a strong vodka but she held her liquor.”

    wtf

  • Ieva

    I just cant believe that all you girls were on period :D DDDDD you like this or what?:DDD
    my and my friend read 3 stories and all girls were on period:DD come on, its just cant be:DDDDDDDDDD
    p.s you can start to make porn movie i think:DDDDDDD

  • Joona

    @14 Anonymous
    I wouldn’t be surprised. Most women around here I’ve known go with the Moon. I guess elsewhere as well.

    @Darkaquarian
    No offence, Sir. But that is bullshit. An ordinary girl with an ordinary guy will never claim “rape” cos she was drunk. At least in Finland. That would sound completely idiotic, as it is GRANTED everyone leaving a club for a one nighter IS more or less drunk.

    If the girl has any second thoughts afterwards, she is probably so embarassed the last time coming to her mind would be to advertise she fucked up and was weak. Being a “strong” “independent” woman has it’s other sides, too. Sides which don’t always play in their hand.

    That is for ordinary guys and girls. Now, if there’s a politician or celebrity and money and/or fame to be had, all bets are off for bitches.

  • Å

    2 girls in 5 days of Helsinki nightlife? Not too impressive for an American tourist (ie. interesting) who uses all of his energy on hitting girls. If I go out in Helsinki on the sole purpose of getting laid, I’m successful almost everytime.

    I’m fitter and taller than most, but still an average Finnish guy. The tactics are pretty simple, no need to write books about it. Confidence is everything. Always look like you wouldn’t want to be anywhere else on the planet. Rest you have to figure out yourself.

  • Pete

    Man, she was playing with you and posting about it online, laughing about how horny and desperate you were. And by the way, har name is not Laurna, it’s LAURA.

  • Jarkko

    When the woman is on her period, she can safely go for guys that she would never in a million years consider anything long term with. No chance of getting pregnant. It’s basicly their pussy negging the guy.

  • Leroy

    I love German girls too. Russian women are so cheesy- they have this sneaky snake look and they think nobody sees the caper they plan on pulling written on their faces. Germans are
    More alpha and Slavs are beta- look at history the krauts have always kicked ass and can do more engineering than just vodka.