The King Of Warsaw (Part 1 of 2)

A year ago I got an email from a reader of mine named Kamal. He lived in Warsaw and asked for some advice on getting with the local models. My advice to him was simple: “To get a star you have to be a star.” Even though I wasn’t swimming in models myself, I knew that it took displays of high value to get with women who are viewed upon as having high value. Through the months he sent me short updates about living in Warsaw, but they were somewhat forgotten in the huge pile of mail I receive.

By the time I arrived in Warsaw to continue my exploration of Poland, I was ready to pick a city and stay for an extended period of time. By hopping from city to city, I was not leveraging the value I’ve built up over the years. I became so dependent on the cold approach to get laid that the minute I stopped approaching was the minute all my prospects dried up. I knew that the only way I’d get “passive” sex is if I build up some local status and have girls seek me out based on what they have heard or seen. I was ready for Warsaw to be the place that I stay and work on this new game.

I wasn’t in the same state as my last trip to Poland, when I had very little European women experience and was hungry for notches and flags. Now I was looking for stability and something that resembled a more normal life. Even if I was thirsty for more bangs, Warsaw would have stymied me. The quality was below the Polish average but the male competition was intense. I had written off Polish guys as being duds, but in the first few clubs I went to, they were out in force, approaching like maniacs. There was no room to build up a bit of a mysterious vibe and play it slow like I did in Poznan. It was a race to approach the fastest, spin the girl around, dance, and so on. I didn’t have the will for it.

It didn’t help that the attitude of the women were more sour. I was getting dismissive responses and two girls I approached even asked me to buy them a drink, something that didn’t happen to me in the entirety of my previous stay in Poland. I could tell that the biggest and fastest growing city in the country was having a negative effect on women who I naively thought were immune to that sort of thing. My plan to stay in Warsaw, to build local status and get passive bangs, was cancelled after just a few days.

Kamal responded to my arrival email where I asked if he wanted to have a drink. He agreed and we met on a Friday night. He greeted me with a large smile and a handshake. Immediately I noticed he spoke with a French accent. It turned out he was from Morocco, which has a strong French influence. He led me to one of his favorite lounges where the doormen cordially greeted him. We checked our coats and I noticed that he was suited up. If I knew, I would have upgraded the H&M v-neck I was wearing.

I followed him to a table where he introduced me to four Polish women, one of whom he recently had sex with. More people joined and he always quickly introduced me as his friend. He worked the table like a raconteur, talking enough to show value but not so much that he bored his audience. All eyes were on him while I got the perfunctory “Where are you from?” but with no substantial follow-up to my answer. He made everyone feel special enough but not too special, and he tossed me a few glances that I interpreted as “You’re alright, yeah?” I noticed he would often adjust his cuff links, not because they needed to be adjusted, but perhaps to relax himself, to take the edge off of being in the social spotlight.

“This is only the warm up spot,” he told me. “There’s a club I want to take you to.” After a couple drinks and more introductions with Warsaw scenesters whose names I immediately forgot, we left to the club a few blocks away. It was a mob scene. The line was more than half a city block long. Before I objected to what would be an uncomfortably long wait, he said, “Follow me.” We walked down the line and received cold glares as we passed those waiting in the cold. At the front door the velvet rope gave way and we were whisked in.

Inside the club we went straight to the VIP room. I excused myself to the bathroom and noticed that they had real cloth towels, not paper. The club itself wasn’t bad, but the talent was lacking. Kamal apologized and said that it was usually better. He bought me a round of drinks and we stayed awhile. He showed me pictures of the model he was banging, the one that my advice helped him get, and I made no attempt to conceal that I was duly impressed with the evening, which ended at a local bar down the street with a round of Polish yellow vodka.

The next night we started in the same lounge. He brought one of his fuck buddies. I won’t lie—she was gorgeous, and so refined that I didn’t know Polish girls came in that flavor. The story he told me of how he got here had a lot of detail, with explanation into his early game and how he deflected the cockblock and so on, the type of detail that men who don’t do so well with women wouldn’t even be aware of. I wanted to dig deeper into his success.

On Sunday afternoon we met in a quiet café. “You’ve built up quite the empire here,” I said.

“Thank you. It took two years.”

“Two years?” I asked, surprised.

“Yes, the first year I didn’t do as well. That first time I emailed you I was actually in the middle of a slump, but I took your advice and decided to be the star. I got a beautiful flat in the center, I joined a business club that connected me with the most successful people in Warsaw, and I actively used Facebook to keep contacts warm. Like today out of the blue I got a message from a girl I kissed six months ago. She asked me if I wanted to meet for a drink. I think it’s because she saw all the other girls that comment on my profile.”

“So this wasn’t an overnight thing?”

“No, definitely not. When I first came in the city, I was working real hard. I was going out all the time and approaching girls like crazy. I was banging some but it took a lot of effort for what I got. For a while I was spending serious money on bottles and not getting much in return. I even spent time gaming the bouncers. Now over 80% of my bangs come from that club, where I can sit back and snipe. I had one streak where I approached four girls over a weekend and banged three.” I mused for a few seconds on the logic of such a streak.

“When you approach a girl now in one of your regular spots,” I said, “she has probably seen you before flirting with other girls or talking to the staff. So you’re leveraging the status without knowing it.”

“This is possible. Now random bangs come to me out of the blue. My social circle is big, money is good, and I’m about to buy an apartment here. I love the city and plan on staying.” He’s 27 years old.

“How do you make money?” I asked.

“Just like you. I sell game books but to a French audience. There are not many French ‘PUAs’ like in America, and I was one of the first.” He went on to list some of the technical specifics of his business before the conversation came back to how he created his Warsaw lifestyle.

I said, “I really like the idea of building a social network and getting messages from girls out of the blue. I’m getting tired of actively hunting every night. If I don’t approach for one month, I don’t get laid. I have to always be working. The irony is that my money is passive. We’re talking now and I’m selling a few books probably, but when it comes to getting laid, I use a different approach that’s starting to wear on me.”

“You saw me this weekend. I did maybe two or three approaches. To get this you have to invest hard in the beginning and then you can relax. You can do it very easily with what you know.”

“Yes but there is a problem: I don’t stay in the same place. You’ve been here for two years. I rarely stay in a place for two months. How can I build passive bangs in that short of a time? My travel habit guarantees I’ll have to keep grinding it out, at a time in my life where I’m least motivated to do so.”

“Well that’s a problem then.”

“It is.”

CONCLUDED: PART 2

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  • http://www.the3bromigos.com bojangles

    Good story, can’t wait for part 2

  • OldHornDog

    Well, I guess your next mission is clear. Pick a city and become the King of XXX. Write all about it and enjoy your stardom as one of Europe’s premiere pussy monger ;-)

  • C

    It looks like he’s already found the country to become King in… Romania.

  • http://scartissue.us Wald

    New complex?

  • solo

    Very good post. I’m also hopping from country to country and that definitely makes it necessary to work (approach) more than if you stay in the same place. Hopefully later on in the future I will start to at least narrow down the number of countries i live in. But as of now I’m not ready to make that kind of commitment before I have visited at least the countries at the top of my list. Even if I was King of Warsaw, I would be thinking “maybe Ukraine is even better”. That may or may not be true, but I wouldn’t know for sure until I visited both countries.

  • Josh

    I like posts like this that are less polemic (although I agree with your views on feminism) and more about game. I think you maintain a good balance, though. You raise awareness of your blog with the anti-feminism stuff while staying true to your roots and maintaining your core audience with posts like this.

  • Mr. Rubirosa

    Something i disagree after reading this post of Roosh is that girls in Warsaw are below average…not true at all..below average u will find in the south of Poland and the best in north, in particular Gdansk and Szczecin or in west like Poznan…the worst region in PL is Slaskie not only because of women but even because of the horrible cities like Katowice, Bytom, Tychy, Gliwice and so on ;) The only interesting city in this awful region is Wroclaw but girls there are too cold in my opinion…..

  • Mr. Rubirosa

    And i didnt notice women in Warsaw were sour but in my experience more open minded than in south ;)

  • Hook or Crook

    This sounds very similar to how Krauser has built his mini-empire, although he relies quite heavily on having a tight circle of fellow gamers that all DHV each other (ala the compound from The Game). You two are hands-down my favorite writers on this subject, so I’m interested to see your take on this angle. Personally I’ve never been able to stomach attempting the meandering 2 hour facebook conversations and fairytale stories that he cranks out to hook his girls, so hopefully you’ll crack the code in a way that the rest of us can emulate.

  • http://en.maciejrajk.eu Maciej Rajk

    Haha! It was a great pleasure to meet you Roosh and it’s cool I had a chance to hear your chat with Kamal.
    I hope you won’t forget about us in Romania and will visit some time!
    PS Maybe we’ll surprise you in the land of Romanians!

  • Peter

    Kamal – the king of the Warsaw. I’m very courious because I live in Warsaw and I have never seen any Arabs with georgeous lady-like polish women. Maybe you will consider me as a racist but vast majority of polish people including girls don’t like arabs.

  • erm

    There’s something better than Facebook for online game Poland. It’s a singles’ site, costs about $3 to join. N.B. people declare if they’re not looking for a relationship, and there’s a private messaging function. If you don’t post your portrait, you won’t get a date. And there’s a lot of time-wasting with girls who like to chat online and do nothing else.

    Here it is http://sympatia.onet.pl/

    @Peter

    With respect, you’re totally wrong. Walk in to Sheesha or Platinumun and you will see gorgeous Polish women with Arab men. And try Sharm el Sheikh for a holiday some time: it is full of female Polish tourists. Guess why.

  • Dr. Giggles

    It’s very admirable what Kamal has done in establishing himself in Warsaw and France by increasing his quality of his bangs. Regardless Roosh has more exposure overall.

    Take Kamal out of his small pond, and he won’t do that well. But the lesson Kamal gives is that it may be better to narrow one’s focus; be really good in one place rather than be okay in many places.

    Roosh has mentioned that he got more groupie love as the DC Bachelor than as the globe trotting Roosh. But I believe it takes more time and effort to achieve success and easy life the way he’s doing it now. I think it’s already showing fruit if he’s appearing on Ukrainian national TV.

    When you’re in a race, the moment you are most tired, angry, and willing to give up is right before the finish line comes in sight.

  • dee 33

    the world is changed. women also. screw the clubs, that places r not cool and relaxed, anywhere…. libraries, coffie shops r places to find nice and easy going (and normal) girls…. good luck

  • Anonymous

    he should translate his work to arabic to get a bigger audience

  • Peter

    Erm, I was in Platinium and saw a lot of goldiggers with guys in 30s and 40s with diffrent etnic background. It’s not good sample. Maybe this disliking of arabs is big of exageration, but polish girls i met really weren’t charmed by Arabs. They find them very obssesive toward women. Moreover I was refering to polish girls in Poland not in Sharm, Berlin or London.
    I’m wondering if building up your reputation in Warsaw by buying expensive flat in city center, making business connection and spending tons of cash in prestige clubs can be really consider of being star. Any guy with cash can do well in Platinium, Bank, Capitol or any other club in Warsaw.

  • Mr. Rubirosa

    Sympatia is the best polish website to date girls but like for everythin which is virtual if u are ugly and your look is not good your opportunity will be less than zero…that means no women will answer to your mails, im sorry to say that but its totally true ;)
    Anyway about this website in the polish version which cost just around 80 zloty in a year (20 euro) my greatest challenge was to motivate women to come to me and not to take contacts and go there…girls and women bought fly ticket to spend a special weekend to me and that happens often, so i have to consider myself the king of Poland and not just simple prince of an obscure polish city :) )

    P.S: in Poland its not easy to see black men hand to hand with local girls like it happen for example in Holland, Danemark or Sweden….i have to say polish and most russian dont like arab and turkish people and they are a bit racist…of course with some exceptions ;)

  • Mr. Rubirosa

    And i totally agree with Peter and not with erm…as i wrote in the previous post girls in Poland dont appreciate much arab and turkish men…we are not talking about what is going on when girls are somewhere at vacation (Sharm or Antalya just to mention 2 cities very popular during vacation time).
    And again Peter is right to say that somebody who pay a lot of cash in clubs cant be consider a superstar…try to motivate a stranger from dating website to come to u for a special weekend as i did for many years using sympatia..its quite difficult and u really need to be at first handsome, then u have to create in skype special empathy and make that girl trust u a lot, in a word u need to be a good psycologist and understand what she is looking for…of course im very modest too ;)

  • Greek kamaki

    Poland is very easy.For a guy who comes from competitive environments like in southern Europe where you have to be 2-3 steps before girls thinking in every moment girls who are used to every type of technique and flirt Poland seems like
    Kindergarden.
    I doubt one needs to stay there actually to build momentum.Of course if you stay you maximize the benefits but again if you do it in Ukraine your penis will become limb from the continuous fucking.

  • surrey jack

    @anon
    ya it would be a good idea to put his work into arabic. Bigger audiance an bigger sales an theuly can go an game europe too.
    Saw a documentry online of polish women screwin guys in egypt durin their vacations

    roosh u should do the same thong an translate your work to persian turkish spanish n russian to expand your audiance…more diverse in the manosphere

  • gdlck

    I bet I travel more than you do (although you travel a lot as well) and I know that beauty is subjective, however, I haven’t met as many stylish women (and don’t confuse style with kitsch) as I saw in Warsaw. I think that maybe there are too many hot looking girls and it’s intimidating for you and the fact that you were turned down by so many may cause how you think. Maybe aim a little bit lower.

    Apart from the fact I find it extremely pathetic to be a male slut, which you are, it’s even more crazy to “brag” about it. Beware of catching something. But of course that’s your life, you do what you want to.

    One advice… when you state your “truth” think outside of the box. I saw your vid on how European women use “old phones w/numbers”… you think they only do it because of the price? Technologically Europe is more advanced than the US, but less than Asia (you may read numerous articles on that).
    I’m European and I use “old” phone because I hate huge brick-like phones and I find touch screens ugly. I buy phones that are small and handy only, not because I can’t afford what you think is better. My phone didn’t cost less than an iphone but I find it way better. So, as you see it’s the matter of what you like not stupid trends that Americans blindly obey. Most Americans I met (I lived in the States) don’t think, they act like the sheep. If something is out they will stay in a line for days to get it only because they were told it’s great or because it’s brand new. No one think whether it’s good for them, whether they need it or not. So next time you formulate some opinions don’t think from your American side nor the sheep side only. Your standards aren’t the standards of others and since different people read/watch you (and they might lack the ability to think outside of their standards) you might want to look more pro and be more objective. To my standards you are a slut but it doesn’t mean you don’t have a right to do what you are doing, and I’m aware of that. I won’t even say I’m sure that’s who you are as I don’t know you and won’t say anything for sure in 100%. I leave a window (not a big one this time to show you what I meant).
    Greetings.

  • DrG

    Thank you Roosh for this great article. Warsaw, Poland is one of the hardest places in EE to run game, I detailed my recent trip there in below:
    thread http://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-18085.html?highlight=warsaw
    I disagree though with some posters on here, and that is that for a minority guy like my friend with whom I went, it is way easier to get ONS in Warsaw then in other EE countries like UA or Russia.

  • Indian_hotguy

    Hello,

    I am a hindu indian still a virgin , please help me, how i can have sex with a girl, i have no shame in accepting that my penis size is just over 5.8 Inches when erect , close to 17 cm when erect

    Recently a black magician has done black magic on my penis and my testicles disappeared and i prayed hindu gods and performed all rituals to get my testicles back

    Having got my testicles back, i feel its time for me to sleep with some women, but i have never touched women in my life

    Recently i met a girl, next day i bought a gift and gold ornaments worth $5000. she never gave me any kiss ,let alone sex

    What should i do, i have prayed many hindu gods

  • Chris

    @22: Maybe next time the black magician will make your fingers disappear so that you don’t have to type such crap.

  • the passenger

    Agree with kamaki. Gaming polish chicks is relatively easy. The different thing is the quality of those girls…I live in Warsaw for about 13 years now. Don’t know if its just me, but polish girls expect serious relationship very quickly. This kills a rosy, light and beautiful time of random dates, pre-LTR hook ups.
    Perhaps they’re desperate to land with a decent guy ;-)

    Club scene was definitely better few years ago.
    Places like Platinium, Enklawa or Opera: the vibe there is skewed towards gold diggers.

    King of Warsaw? Easy to become one: have some $ to burn and just be in good relaxed mood. These two things will put you ahead of 90% of guys here.

  • Mr. Rubirosa

    Greek kamaki is right to say that if u come from south of Europe where the competition is high like for example for me that im italian, when i move to Poland or other countries everything is more easy…but this doesnt mean polish girls are easy…and beside it depends on the girl u choose,and im looking for the top ;)

    @the passenger, only after 13 years of living in Warsaw u found out polish girls are looking for serious relation, i think it was not so difficult to understand it and for me this is something positive comparing to russian, swedish, danish etc who want sex and fun, nothing else…
    PS: if u have a lot of money u have more opportunity to have girls around, this happen in all the world ;)

  • Anonymous

    saya akan makan daging manusia.

  • Janek

    “who I naively thought were immune to that sort of thing”

    Beheheheh, i was wondering how long it would take ;)

  • madmax

    hey Roosh, ok so this guy has no money problems. Straight question: is he good looking?
    I don’t doubt his skills but it would be interesting for me to know about the looks.

  • Polish Chick

    I say quiet handsome…

  • Mr. Rubirosa

    Handsome is too much, i would say better than Roosh ;)
    Anyway he seems to be quite short, maybe 1,70cm? In this case he needs special shoes, the same of Mr. Berlusconi with heels to be at the same level of women, otherwise he will be always like Tom Cruise and Nicole kidman…i would feel not comfortable, lucky im 1,85 ;)

  • Peter

    Polish chick, is that type of man polish girl would be head over heals? Considering this photo is really him not just random guy.

  • madmax

    I just realize, after having done about a few weeks of hardcore work approaching women, that money matters a lot more than I thought, and if you are better looking, it will certainly help. I have neither money, and am average looking, but am happy to have approached like a machine for a few weeks, almost every day. I just am doing very badly money wise for now and don’t have the time to pursue some bitches just for some sex, so am focusing more about stuff I care more about. Fuck all women, sex is good if you get it, but it’s not the most important thing for me right now. They are all bitches anyways. Oh man how clearly I see that now: no woman is worth more than yourself and the things that really matter to you. I just don’t see women like I used to. I only see them as cumbuckets with legs, nothing more. Even if I had a girlfriend, I could never spend too much time with her. I would just fuck her. You can never spend too much time with a woman. Just empty your balls and get back to your life and take care of yourself, never of any woman.

  • WorldTraveler

    Roosh, if you ever happen to read this, can you please tell if you ever get an urge to just settle down, find yourself a good and smart girl and have a family?

    Yes, I mean it, to settle down, have a family and have that feeling of being together. Not being one, but being TWO (or more, if you happen to have kids later on). What’s the fun in all this eternal search for new sex partners? I can understand this at the age of 25, ok, even 30. But what happens after you hit 30? Don’t you want to share your travel experiences with someone else? Don’t you want to show all those places you’ve already visited, to someone else? Don’t you want to share the joy of travel and discovery??

    You start sounding like a sex crazy robot with only one program in his head, repeating the cycle over and over in every city you happen to get to.

    Everyone is welcome to express their opinions.

  • http://www.ruxman.com Ruxman

    fucking amazing post, it’s still on my mind 3 days later…