The King Of Warsaw (Part 2 of 2)

PREVIOUSLY: Part 1

On a Thursday night I went to a club alone. In order to recapture the glory days where I was the approach machine, I decided to do ten solid approaches.

My first approach was on my ideal type of girl, but ten minutes in her friend dragged her to dance. I did more approaches, not because I wanted to get laid, but because I was supposed to hit ten. The alcohol wasn’t loosening me up and I was getting more withdrawn as the night went on. My opening line felt stiff. My mouth was actively moving but my brain had left the building and was waiting outside. I made it to eight approaches, kissed a girl I only got a half boner for, and left.

There’s no physical reason why I couldn’t do something that I’ve done dozens of times before, but the desire wasn’t there, even though I would have happily banged 50% of the girls present. I’m now only willing to work for a certain type of girl who I know can give me immense pleasure with minimal investment. Otherwise I have to be especially horny, something that may happen one or two nights a month.

I met Kamal once again at the lounge and he told me that the random girl who messaged him on Facebook the other night was coming with three other friends. They eventually arrived and his girl was the cutest. The second cutest wasn’t bad, but she didn’t want to chat and went with the other two to dance.

Kamal and his girl talked next to me and I could tell that he would get far based on how she was smiling and giggling at most things he said. I remembered when she took out her phone to text someone and he said, “Why are you texting me, I’m right here!” He never put out an arrogant vibe or displayed anger. He was a gentleman with style, something that plays very well in a country that lacks such men. He built the foundation with his logistics, personal attributes, and social circle investment, and could now cash it in for years to come. All he needs to do is show up. While he was talking to the girl, I was thinking about which parts of him I wanted to implement into my own game.

I did a handful of approaches but it was tough. In one of the snobbiest bars in Warsaw, the cold approach was getting me less mileage than even industrial Ukraine.

Kamal came up to me and said, “We’re going to a new club. I took a girl there yesterday and bought a bottle but she didn’t drink so they saved it for us tonight. We have to kill it.”

“But how about your girl?”

“She’s going to meet me later. She wants to spend time with her friends.”

“Are you sure it’s a good idea to leave her? It’s okay if you need to stay with her, I can find something to do.”

“No, it’s better I leave. I want to play around a bit and then meet her later.”

We went to the club and got to work on the vodka bottle. In the VIP section there were many guys older than me dressed in suits and smoking cigars. Opposing them were women in their late 20s who seemed like they would accept cash for sex. A couple of them had bobblehead body language, physically present but not mentally. The main crowd had average talent of somewhat older people.

I started talking to one of the club’s dancers, a privilege that the VIP access gave. She was surprisingly receptive, asking me questions and deflecting cockblocks from her fellow dancer friends. She went to dance and actually came back. I offered her a drink from Kamal’s bottle and she accepted, later inviting me to dance. I tried to touch, a suitable move after our 30 minute conversation, but she pulled back and said, “I need space.” I replied, “I’ll give you space” then walked away.

She came back to me later, a huge sign of interest, but there would be no extraction on this night. My need to stay in one city was now stronger than ever. The optimum strategy of scoring top talent was being painted in my head with three colors: game, residency, and local value. As long as I only had one, I would always have to work.

After killing the bottle, we stumbled out of the club and walked to another. Kamal eventually got the text from his girl and left. I went home not long after, alone.

The next afternoon we met at a café to review the night. I said, “Now before you tell me what happened, I’m going to guess that you came close to banging but didn’t get quite there. It seemed like it would take one more date.”

“When I went to the club she was at, she was dancing with another guy.”

“Uh oh.”

“But then when she saw me, she immediately stopped dancing and came to me. She didn’t look at the guy again. We danced for a little while and I asked her if she wanted to come over for a drink. She said she wanted to but that her friend was drunk and needed to come with us. I said, ‘I wouldn’t mind hanging out with your friend, but I just had the maid clean my apartment and I don’t want her puking in it. I can tell she doesn’t look well.’ She asked what she could do. ‘Let’s put her in a cab. It’s the best thing for her.’ The three of us went outside and we shoved her in there.”

“Cockblock disabled, nice.”

“Yes. Then we went to my place. I made drinks but on the couch she was playing really hard to get, like she didn’t want to kiss me.”

“Did you kiss before?”

“Not much, just short kisses.”

“That’s not good.”

“Yeah, so I told her, ‘Look you need to open up, you’re being cold and I don’t like that.’ And then finally she kissed me. After a while she asked me if I wanted to have sex. I said, ‘No, of course not, I’m not that easy.’ So we’re playing this dance, back and forth, until finally I suggested we go to my room. She said yes and then we banged.”

“Boom!” I gave him a high five. “It was nice to be there for most of it to see it go down. She seemed a little aloof but I guess her plan was to get banged all along.”

“She had really sexy underwear, like she knew she was going to get laid. She just broke up with her boyfriend and was ready to be bad.”

“That’s inspiring, man. What you got is what I want. I just need to find my city.”

“You’ll find it.”

“I hope so, but I will say that you were the right person to meet at the right time in the right country. It’s like god put you in front of me, giving me the answer of what I have to do next. It’s like he said, ‘Roosh, I know you’re having problems right now figuring out what you want to do. I want you to meet this guy named Kamal.’”

He laughed, not minding my melodrama.

“What you’ve done here,” I went on, “such as being a regular at a couple good spots and getting in with the staff, I’ve done a bit of in other cities, but it was mostly accidental. Just like how I’m conscious with game, I need to be conscious with being king of a city. I don’t see why it can’t be done.”

“It can be done.”

For the previous two years I was searching hard for poosy paradise. I believed that within the first week a city should slap me across the face and announce if it was paradise or not, but Kamal did the opposite. He went to a city that wasn’t poosy paradise and made it so. He created paradise from something mediocre by putting in his blood and sweat, while I was living the life of a wandering gypsy, expecting paradise to be handed to me merely from my ability to hop on an airplane. I saw the flaw in my approach, and on the bus ride to my next city, I was ready to change the game that I’ve been running for all of my adult life.

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  • Anonymous

    so this is it roosh…
    this is what you’ll be dedicating the next 5-10 so years of your life to. this is that complex you’ll be chasing… Making those connections, greasing them barstaff, buddying them bouncers, building that Empire.

    It would make for a fascinating read it really would. It sounds something akin to the mafia, sort of like a pussy mafia, having total illegal lockdown on a market.

    Most of all best of luck to you, I’m glad you’ve found something for you to do for the next section of your life.

  • Anonymous

    I feel sad reading this. You know you’re tired of all this game crapola yet every once in a while something pulls you back just enough to dull the pain of getting too old for that bs.

  • http://Wallstreetplayboys.com WallStreetPlayboys

    Great story.

    This is definitely the time to find a spot (or maybe even 2-3 cities) to have locked in. It takes time to build a reputation, just be careful and choose cities where you want to be known.

    Sounds like a city in Poland and a city in Romania might do well.

  • Anonymous

    Is this the birth of a new Roosh? A new thread of Roosh books?

    Pick a city, start to hustle, make connections, create a name, become a legend.

    Social engineering and networking for the modern rakish man.

    I like the sound of that.

  • GP

    Roosh is the self confessed wandering gypsy. He won’t be able to stay in one place because it’ll drive him mad.
    Also, I imagine that kamil told the polish girls that he was french, when he’s actually french/Moroccan which is different. The polish love all things french and still assume it to be the height of civilisation, thereby giving Kamil an immediate boost.

  • Dead Bat

    There’s an interesting character in Roosh’s first memoir, an Italian he runs into in Argentina. His game was more natural, spontaneous, had a magnetic joie de vivre.. . Roosh admired him a lot, back in the day.

    This guy Kamal is another interesting role model, but I’m a little skeptical about becoming a ‘king’ by greasing barstaff and buying bottles to score with dancers. . . but as a reader, I’m interested in where this will take our brave, innovative cassanova.

  • Mike

    So toronto still sucks or your game sucks balls…

  • Zeezbrah

    Damn, i cannot relate to this new Roosh at all. Im only in the game for a month and a half. Im a student, so all these fancy bars, clubs and bottles doesnt really apply to me.

    Will roosh keep on giving tips to new guys or is that chapter definitely finished?

    Either way, keep on doing what you do. Its still an interesting read.

  • http://rivsdiary.wordpress.com/ rivsdiary

    excellent, excellent.

  • Marcellus

    Wow, you found out how normal people get pussy.

    Still, it’s not as easy as it sounds. IF (only if) you have cash you can get to highclass clubs and pay bottles and connect with people. If you are just “another guy” then this is not working. This story was very nice but it fails in explaining how Kamal built his empire. I’m still working my city for 2 years and I’m still nowhere. Competition is HUGE and you fade away in the land of nobodies.

  • http://www.yohami.com/blog YOHAMI

    Kamal is right.

  • LaM

    Terrible conclusion Roosh … really terrible…
    All these years carrying the anti conformist banner to end up pleading “buy bottles in fancy clubs, high five bouncers and who will be golden”.

    After all these years chasing pussy you were still clueless . Very disapointing.

  • Mr. Rubirosa

    Really sad reading this post because i didnt like at all the conclusion. Everybody know that with a lot money u can have a lot of girls around but banging women in this way buying bottles of Cristal or Dom Perignon is opposite of what a REAL Casanova had to do…u have to involve women with your class, your culture, your look too, not your money because in this case u are king of nothing….the capability to have beautiful women around without money is the MUST not like Mr kamal…wake up guys ;)

  • http://www.the3bromigos.com MattC

    As with anything in life, you have to prepare and work. Nothing ever just falls into your lap

  • Peter Phoenix

    “give me immense pleasure with minimal investment”

    I don’t think it works that way.

  • Jack

    I wish I’d realised this earlier in my PU career.

    Cold PU skills are vastly over rated. Sure it’s fun… but when you think about how that time can be spent building and empire… that serves you in far more ways. The choice for me is clear.

    It doesn’t have to be about fancy clubs and bottle service… it could be that you’re THE yoga instructor in your town, or THE art guy, anything to do with YOUR passion.

    I’m not saying PU skills are worthless, just that beyond a certain stage there are diminishing returns and it’s better to focus on life-style.

  • NieceFucker

    17 is saying “I will eat human flesh”.

    Lol wtf?

  • madmax

    great story, Roosh. The best masters are always the ones who will always be willing to be students.

    And yes, if you keep being a moving target, you’ll never find anything. I remember when I ran away from my home and started wandering around, a very good guy told me ‘don’t stay in a place for a short while only, that way you’ll never find anything’.

    He was a Moroccan living in Italy. A really good guy. That was 20 years ago. He was so right. Roosh, if you find your place, you’ll be a fucking rockstar yourself. You have all you need: the insight and the means.

  • hypesession

    Awesome story.

  • Anonymous

    hi , i have 1 million bucks. what city can i be a rockstar in?

  • Anonymous

    saya akan daging manusia

  • infantry

    Didn’t take long for the ‘if its not hard it doesn’t count’ crowd to come out.

    You still need game, but you’re fishing in a cleaner river via preselection. If you’re focusing on the bottle service you’re missing the point.

  • Anonymous

    I would love to hear stories of meeting bouncers and what agreements are reached to always cut in line, and how much they cost. Give us the skivvy on the VIP shit and how good/lame it is, exactly what bribes are needed for it, how much the bribes need to be, etc. If you’re gonna go fake, at least expose it down to every last detail so we can get something out of it. Tell us how many fake bishes are impressed with your Grey Goose bottle, what their average IQ you think is, what do bottle service sluts like to talk about, are they better than the normal folk, if so how, if not how, etc etc etc. Go Hunter S. Thompson on us.

  • WorldTraveler

    Roosh, if you ever happen to read this, can you please tell if you ever get an urge to just settle down, find yourself a good and smart girl and have a family?

    Yes, I mean it, to settle down, have a family and have that feeling of being together. Not being one, but being TWO (or more, if you happen to have kids later on). What’s the fun in all this eternal search for new sex partners? I can understand this at the age of 25, ok, even 30. But what happens after you hit 30? Don’t you want to share your travel experiences with someone else? Don’t you want to show all those places you’ve already visited, to someone else? Don’t you want to share the joy of travel and discovery??

    You start sounding like a sex crazy robot with only one program in his head, repeating the cycle over and over in every city you happen to get to.

    Everyone is welcome to express their opinions.

  • Pedro

    Just my two cents:

    I earned a scholarship to study a semester in Spain. Some thing that struck on me is that every Moroccan exchange student I met was very rich (sports car, house in the beach kind of rich). For what I know the other part of the population is very poor.

    I mean, this guy friend of you must be on the rich side of the scale to be able to pull a lifestyle like that.

  • WorldTraveler

    @ pedro#25

    Don’t count the money in the pockets of other people. Make efforts to have a lot of money yourself.

  • aceofhurtz

    Part of me feels like you are getting rolled here, Roosh, and that this is a Potemkin situation. You need a second opinion on this man from a disinterested observer before changing your life.

    Just as women are fooled by alpha-pretenders, men can be.

  • http://scartissue.us Wald

    It seems you’ve found the next complex.

    The best part about this is that you can build a lifestyle and get the girls. I’m sure Kamal has a job he enjoys or a way to make money that is not much of a hassle. Nice car? Why not? Paid in full. Working out every week. Doing things he enjoys. And in the time he has not managed to fill? He’s fill up some girl with lovin’.

  • jurko

    Isn’t it the grass is always greener on the other side thing? I bet this Kamal is jealous of your ability to pack everything and leave to a new country in an hour.

  • Garzero

    Great story, Roosh, as usual.
    But I have a couple of comment to make:
    - The “I’ll give you space” line to the dancer. Well, usually these girls are not allowed to be seen in some intimacy with costumers, they are paid only to dance. Hence they can’t be touched by anyone. So why hitting her with that line? If she showed interest in you as she seemed to, why not to play smooth and try to bang her at the end of the night when she had finished to work?
    - The girl you kissed and who gave you just a “half boner”. And so what? Maybe once naked in the bed your boner could have been stronger, and if not, just make her suck your dick, the boner will probably show up.

  • BDM

    This is really great storytelling, and now I’m really curious what “king of the city” game looks like. Would love to read future posts on building a social circle and establishing yourself in one place.

  • http://sexthreepointzero.com JJ Roberts

    So you are switching to hypergamy game?

  • Mister

    I don’t agree with everything you say but I respect the way you don’t limit your thought. By that I mean that you are selling books about classic cold approach pickup, but you are not affraid to point out the limitations in your own work. Must be your scientific background.

    It’s funny because if you take a look in the Game (the book) I seem to remember that it was one of the conclusions of the characters, that it was most important to work on “Lifestyle”, rather than learning routines.

    A way to combine both would be to have a “main base” where you work on your social circle and lifestyle, but to stay a max 2 hour flight away from other cool cities, for when you miss the cold approach excitement.

  • dick burns

    Neil Strauss comes to the same conclusion about halfway through The Game, i.e. that it’s all about lifestyle. Hence, the ill-fated “Project Hollywood”.

  • brazil sux

    I’d like to understand what all the hype about brazil is, because I am brazilian and brazil sux, why do you think this is a good place?

  • Infantry

    To understand why Brazil is seen as a good deal, you would have to spend time in a toxic American dating environment. You would have to see how difficult, masculine and bitchy american women have become. Then all would become completely clear.

    Personally I had a 70% strike rate at Emporio Bar in Ipanema, so that might also shade my opinion.

  • brazil sux

    the only part of brazil that is decent is the south region (rio grande do sul, santa catarina, paraná)
    girls from the north part of brazil are all phuglys.

  • http://www.yohami.com/blog YOHAMI

    JJ Roberts

    “hypergamy” is the only game

  • Anonymous

    I am as curious as Anonymous 24

  • Anonymous

    @24-No one who is anybody waits on lines or has to tip doormen.

  • al_jihad
  • soundtrack
  • dragnet

    “I’ve started to increasingly feel that the time I spend chasing pussy is holding me back from getting to the next level as a man.”

    I think this is why most players eventually settle down—or at least dramatically scale back.

  • Casual

    Finally.

  • Anonymous

    Roosh I’m hoping that you can tackle this one and break it down the same way you broke down the mechanics of cold-approach game. I see the potential of what you are doing here.

    Some guys here are missing the point. It’s not about cold approaching vs. social networking/status building. The two skills are not mutually exclusive. They complement each other very well.

    The problem is that the average guy’s social networks are huge time sucks and/or pussy dead ends. That’s why I turned to game. But there are limits to cold-approach, in my city it’s very hard to bang above a 6 that way.

  • http://calarasiunu.wordpress.com/ freshblog

    Oooo…yes!yes!!

  • MrBig

    @28
    “Just as women are fooled by alpha-pretenders, ”

    Never happens. Females are very good at separating the wheat from the chaff and men get females who are at their same level. Many of the females that you boys “think” are 9 and 10′s I wouldn’t even rate at a 6 (ordinary). You’re the ones who are being fooled that she’s higher than she really is.
    And anyone who hasn’t learned any of this game stuff beginning in kindergarten and who spends this amount of time thinking about how to get a female into bed would never be an Alpha or would be capable of passing for one.
    Roosh, by his own admission, has written that he was a failure with females during HS and college and it’s like he’s trying to prove something to himself and make up for lost time but a real Alpha would never do this.And btw, for me to consider a female even an 8 she would not only have to be good looking but have quite a number of other positive traits which you would very rarely find in even the top clubs.I could give Roosh a lot of good advice being an old roué twice his age but I doubt he’d listen. Perhaps he just wants to write amusing books to sell to betas and I wish him well.

  • yazin

    mrbig, that’s because the 1-10 scale is shitty, it shouldn’t even exist.
    post pics of girls from 1-10 and each person will vote different numbers and there will never be a consensus

  • http://www.ruxman.com Ruxman

    Respect for Kamal, a big lesson here with some practical advice.

  • al_jihad

    MrBig makes a very good point, and I’ll add to it: a woman’s social status has more than just beauty as a dimension: it also has JUDGEMENT.

    My ex was a 6. However, she was, before we dated, a mistress to a proper HF manager (I’ve worked in HF’s, before, and I know the difference: this guy is a household name in the industry, albeit retired, now). This HF manager had game, 9 digits, and wasn’t a fucked-up looking guy. He could bang whomever he wanted, whenever he wanted to: he could sing, jam the guitar, fly in his private jet… the works.

    However, while it didn’t work out between us, she has wit and charm sans pareil. She’s truly an inveigling personality… so much so, that a member of the Adminstration actually wanted to
    recruit her, but he demurred when he realized she was a registered Republican.

    She was a 6.

    I repeat, she was a 6.

    A woman’s most valuable asset is her judgement.

    A 6 was able to work her way into the bed of very wealthy men and into the trusted company of literal oligarchs.

    A “10″ with the aforementioned skills would, in my opinion, fly too close to the sun or fall prey to excessive adulation, thus compromising her judgement. I’m sure they exist, but I wager they’re rare. I think a handful of them work at Goldman in Sales or something. lol

    Now, we return to the yearning Beta: you want to bang a “10″: you’re only going to get trash. Maybe she’s “hot”, but she’s going to be lower-class and probably dumb. If you’re OK “dating-down”, you’re better off going for a less attractive yet more wise girl.

    I’ve made my worst decisions in periods of insouciance: it’s intellectual leprosy. Knowing this, how atrophied are the brains of these 9′s and 10′s you’re chasing?

    The good ones are in the office till 10pm and the even better ones at home with the kids.

    newbs

  • al_jihad

    “Sex Tourism is the last refuge of the beta.”

    Think about that… exile for sex? Didn’t Socrates choose poison rather than suffer exile?

    How noble! LOL

  • al_jihad

    maybe the guy thought your ex was a 9 or 10 because the 1-10 scale is subjective and pointless.

  • http://sexthreepointzero.com JJ Roberts

    @YOHAMI, only if you can not appeal to women’s need for a alpha male, yes.

    Women have 2 genetic imperatives (presuming they are heterosexual)

    1) Need for strength / dominance in a man (alpha)
    2) Need for provision (the root cause of hypergamy)

    I don’t really play hypergamy game personally because I have seen how those men get treated when the bottle service dries up or an alpha male hovers into view.

    Read this blog post to see what I mean :

    http://sexthreepointzero.com/2013/03/09/nightclubs-are-hypergamy-pods/

  • Anonymous

    I don’t think Roosh will ever learn any any lessons in Game, as hardly ever player whether learned or natural does. Because they fail to understand one very important key point in our psychology:

    No matter how many girls you fuck, no matter what quality, you are still going to be chasing after the next best thing that is challenging and unattainable. That mysterious unicorn that simply doesn’t exist.

    Even when you master game, you’re still going to essentially want the next challenge. It’s never ending.

    Having said that, there’s also the opposite extreme. Having it come easily through ‘social circle game’, it quickly becomes boring and empty.

    One of my good friends who mastered ‘social circle game’ ended up locking himself in his room and almost committing suicide, because he no longer had a reason to live.

    Girls were throwing themselves at him, was buying him gives and literally delivering girls to him on a plate. he no longer had to work for anything. For most of us, this seems like paradise, but the reality is, it’s empty and unfulfilled.

    So where does it end?

    It all starts from within. I honestly think that Roosh needs to take a good hard look at himself and question is level of self-esteem as that’s the main culprit.

    The only way to come to terms of his consistent pursuit of pussy is to realize that happiness and satisfaction won’t ever come from chasing after things.

    As with any addiction. It all starts from you.

  • MrBig

    @yazin
    mrbig, that’s because the 1-10 scale is shitty, it shouldn’t even exist

    The scale is rather childish but that’s because we’re dealing here with unsophisticated boys who are unsophisticated and basically tasteless in every aspect of their lives.
    However, just because some arbitrary scale is used doesn’t mean that there aren’t grades of females.In looks, you have the fugly, the middling and the top.
    Most men are looking at the top, or what they believe are the top but I find their judgement lacking.It’s like their testosterone has turned off their brain when they’re around any female and they inflate her looks and value.Of course there is such a thing as a better looking female but many of these guys just don’t get it and fall for ordinary females thinking they got a 10.There’s no such thing as a physically perfect female so everything is relative here so a 10 would not only have to be near perfect but she’d also have to have the perfect combination of all other qualities that make a woman attractive to a man.
    I don’t have to go into what puts a female on the lower end of the scale because it’s apparent to any experienced man of taste.Not so much to betas.But a beta still shouldn’t have any problem shagging females in his class with very little effort.

  • Jim

    You are a skinny, ugly piece of garbage who will die alone and childless.

  • yb13

    I think the biggest piece of advice I got from this is in cities where ONS are not too frequent, etc..it might be best to develop more of a social scene period to get access to the most “down” attractive females. It doesn’t have to be bottles, VIP lists, etc but just making the right friends and entering the right circles…that makes life easier to meet women opposed to just cold approaching. Honestly, I think a combination of both is the best way to go :)

  • V

    I like this humbleness and openness of yours. Open to change and adapt new strategies. Never feel you’re perfect and know it all. That’s what keeps following your journey interesting. Good luck!

  • Aaron Douglas

    I’ve always heard that Polish women were some of the most beautiful and friendly on the planet

  • Joey

    Roost your new city and develoent of making it your own would make a good book on how to a boss gamer in your own hood.

    Ill be real I think the east coast and south (I’m from) suck in the us. Where on the west coast is poon wonderland?

    I like down to earth yet smart and open women. I think nor cal is my answer . The north west chicks are too bohemian fore, and they are like the south very passive aggressive at least in the rust belt people speak their truth without pouting. In the south they are repressed in both communication style and intellect. They are closed and not open the only reason it’s growing is bcuz it’s cheap for the big corporate plantations to operate here.

    Your work has added value to my life.

    Thanks

  • Hage

    Aren’t you Asian, why the fuck are you mentioning women when you are basically on the lower bottom echelon of male attractiveness bro? Your basically is the antonym of the female gender and there is NO WAY that a chingook like you can actually have a chance with women of these places.

    Forget bottles/VIP since you are already lower-tier so why the fuck are you cold-approaching? You have a small dick and you look like an alien and every sane attractive non-Asian girl knows this so why post all this stuff?