I can’t help but wonder if this is the way it’s suppossed to be. After much persistance we finally open our hearts and sooner or later we’re resented for it. It’s pushed away. Women tell us things like “Don’t be needy, be a man, be mysterious, take charge, don’t react, make me look cool by being with you, etc.” And we give them these things. For those of us that don’t know how (myself included, we thrust ourselves into literature and communities like this that will teach us how to do these things…to give women what they want. And we get good at it. So good at it…that suddenly we have women, women who wouldn’t even give us the time of day before, now suddenly lining up around the corner for us to give them what they want. And in return they give us sex as the reward for a job well done. Like a high five and a smack on the ass after hitting a home run and returning to the dugout hearing “Good game.” Because sex is what we want, right? And once we get it from whoever we want whenever we want we’re happy, right? At least for a while. Each lay represents a shovelfull of dirt to throw on the old memory of having your heart torn to pieces once upon a time. But there’s a sadness to those girls lining up around the corner…what happens when you put the technique aside and decide to open your heart? Connect? Be human? Is that allowed in this whole arms race of attraction? Or will that be pushed away too? I wonder.

Cheers.

and, importantly, they’re only products of their environments. American girls are born as innocent as Brazilian girls – they are conditioned and socialized to be jacked in the head. Their environments are the same as our environments – a cultural wasteland with ‘asteroid belts of garbage’, otherwise known as ‘America’:

http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/view/id/121

I don’t see the world as a man vs. woman battle for dominance. In that, we differ. I get sick of ‘game’ posts, but I also get sick of Cosmo magazine telling women they can hang on to their boyfriends by doing 47 acrobatic things to him per night. I was a bit of a date-aholic when I was younger, I burned out and moved on.

There’s a point where you decide to just be yourself, and let the chips fall where they may. You opt out. And that’s usually the point where good relationships start to enter your life.

Basically, play the game all you want, but if the game is all you want, learn to live inside the void.

Shannon’s last blog post: Crazy Sex-Starved Women!!!!.

when a woman strives for a financially secure, tall, funny man who will be devoted to her and willing to relinquish his desire for sexual variety in commitment to her, is that a case of the woman exploiting the enemy? because if it isn’t, then neither is it exploitation when the man follows his own desires and acts to fulfill them.

roissy’s last blog post: One Year Anniversary: Greatest Hits.

But that’s clearly not what RooshV is doing. He’s just looking into himself to find out why he’s not ready, or at least why he hasn’t been ready in the past.

Megan’s last blog post: The Mogwai Are Restless.

Striving to be a better person isn’t idle wishing or intellectual laziness. It’s seeing the world for what it is, and doing your best to make it a better place and to not exploit others for your personal gain.

At any rate, judging from Roosh’s post above and my own experiences, you either grow out of it or lose a part of your humanity.

Shannon’s last blog post: Looking at the People Who Are Looking at the Stuff.

It’s just life. We walk up to the Buddha in the road, don’t kill him, and circle around to see if he makes sense the second time. He never does-in fact his being there stops you from understanding (or so the story goes). It’s this representation of perfection we put outside of ourselves-and as long as that exists outside, it can’t happen inside.

Which is to say we keep meeting “imperfect” people because we keep meeting our imperfect selves. People keep saying “She isn’t her…”, but they keep meaning “I’m still not me..”

But fuck it-plenty of people mucking around, screwing up and trying to figure this shit out-and nobody has got a great answer. No shame in just being like everyone else anyway-it’s what makes us relatable.

Frank L’s last blog post: Nats Don?t Post Loss-Unsure What That Means.

if what men want often seems at odds to what women want, well, that’s because it is. the sexes have opposing goals. we are designed that way.

roissy’s last blog post: One Year Anniversary: Greatest Hits.

Who knows? But I’m interested to see what happens next.

Shannon’s last blog post: Looking at the People Who Are Looking at the Stuff.