The longest cold streak I’ve ever had since studying game was in 2003 when I didn’t get laid in six months. During that spell I remember only getting a decent blowjob from a chubby card-carrying feminist on her period (I tried to fuck her anyway but she wouldn’t let me). Looking back I think, “How the hell did I not get laid for six months?” I had my own place, my own car, and plenty of disposable income. I definitely wasn’t ill with any debilitating diseases.
Back then my game was much weaker. I focused exclusively on clubs and settled for phone numbers, a recipe for incessant flaking. My one-night stand game was based on luck and hope instead of strategy. I didn’t have a killer instinct where a bang was more important than the process of kissing or dating. I had a style that didn’t match my look or personality. It took quite a while to correct all these issues.
Since then my tolerance for not getting laid has become extremely low. For the first two weeks after a new bang I show some symptoms of golden cock syndrome (“Whatever, I just got laid with this new chick—I’m staying in tonight”), but by the third week I feel like I’m definitely in the throes of a cold streak. I start approaching during the day to bulk up my prospect pipeline and add one more drinking night during the week if need be. By the fourth week it feels like I haven’t gotten laid in forever. I may even say “I got to get laid” to friends. And shortly thereafter it happens almost like magic—my dick penetrates a fresh vagina.
While a lot of keyboard jockeys like to say that it’s better to be an asexual being who doesn’t desire sex because it would be “desperate” or some other nonsense, the real world is quite different. If you want to fuck a lot of girls, you have to want to fuck a lot of girls. Otherwise you’ll get only the occasional foolsmate bang that will be the envy of no one.
“Roosh if only you could have this week four mentality every single week, you’d bang tons more girls a year!”
Every guy has a danger zone time where lack of pussy forces him out the door to hunt like a rabid wolf. It used to be several months for me, but now it’s a few weeks. For some guys it’s a whole year. It’s different for every guy based on the sex frequency they’ve become accustomed to. This is a reason why guys who always got laid continue to always get laid. They simply can’t get used to not getting ass, so their inner beast motivates them to find ways to keep the poon supply coming.
Sometimes I read emails or blog posts by guys who whine about how hard it is to go out alone, or how uncomfortable it is to approach during the day. Their danger zone time is so large that there is no urgency for them. They can go several more months of sitting on their hands, or even fuck a prostitute to restart the clock. If they were used to getting laid frequently with non-prostitutes they wouldn’t be chickening out on things that guys like me do all the time.
Once you attain an active sex life, it’d be too painful to go back. While a lot of veteran gamesmen settle down and get a girlfriend, I’ve never seen one regress to not getting laid. If you want to go sexless after getting it regularly for an extended period of time then you might as well get married so you at least have someone to clean the house and cook for you. Sure I get laid more now because my game is tighter, but a big part of it is that I can’t stand not getting laid. I’m almost always hungry, which creates the desire to approach with the necessary number of attempts until sex happens. When you want it bad enough and you have the tools that made it happen so many times before, it keeps happening. For some men, failure becomes impossible.Tweet Follow @rooshv
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It’s true, keeping the momentum of getting laid. You have to want it and when you do any obstacles seem to disappear. My aggressiveness and high sex drive has gotten me a lot farther than periods when I was lazy about it. Once a certain time frame passes, I become like a caged animal.
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Ditto. It amazes me how many men lack the hunger. Maybe it’s a libido issue or perhaps a more sinister reason exists… it’s a rationalization in order to protect their frail egos since they don’t know how to game and get decent results. I can’t imagine it being fun to go out and stare at the wall/TV with your hand in a pocket and the other one clutching your aluminum Bud Light bottle – wishing upon their lucky stars for “something to happen.”
I always get restless after a couple of weeks. Typically a new fling will fizzle out (see: expiration dating) and very few women I’ve met have endearing qualities that allow them keep my interest for an extended period of time. In piquing my interest, the exceptional ones make me want to get to know them even better – they’re out there – but it has seemed to require a solid 10-30 women churn as of late.
“While a lot of keyboard jockeys like to say that it’s better to be an asexual being who doesn’t desire sex because it would be “desperate” or some other nonsense”
Yeah, before the Internet, I never heard of this “desperate” and “overly needy” nonsense.
Guys that swoop mad amounts of girls don’t think this way. They just approach numerous times and close hard.
“Every guy has a danger zone time”
I have never thought about it in those terms, but its true.
My “danger zone time” is a real short fuse. Sometimes I get it after an hour in a bar.
I definitely get it after one or two unsuccessful nights out.
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Jesus fucking Christ. This is my exact problem. Huge danger zone. Maybe my lifestyle, working and going to school, just does not leave me enough energy to think about sex. How the hell do I fix this? Or is this really who I am…some kind of sexual camel. Depressing.
this is really really true…posts like this are why i read this blog
I think one thing that afflicts guys is the uncertainty of the other aspects of their life, like job and financial security. Sometimes these become more important and force out of their minds the desire to get laid. I can say that from personal experience.
But once those things are in order…
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Desire is certainly under-rated.
Not just a sexual desire. You are going to have sexual desire whether you want to or not. It is built into your DNA.
However, that can be sated and your ego protected in a number of ways including porn and hookers.
A desire to get good at this skill. A desire to becoming the best and most fuckable version of you.
Thats what separtes the best from the rest.
Some of it has to do with your life and job too. If you drive to work everyday, head into your cubicle then drive home you may not even see a single cute girl. I find that it’s best to at the very least expose myself to the fact that there are tons of girls out there waiting for me to approach them. If there is no one to get you excited, how can you get excited. Going home seems just as good as going hunting.
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“By the fourth week it feels like I haven’t gotten laid in forever.”
Are you really spending up to four weeks without any pussy? Or do you mean “new pussy”?
I can hardly imagine you not having a decent line of fuck buddies you can call over any time.
Great Post – nice to have the old RooshV back.
Solid write up.
I have a buddy who if he doesn’t get laid after a month his standards go out the window, I can honestly say I do the same thing, not getting any ass for a month, it doesn’t matter, even Monquie’s pussy would feel paramount like the opening of a new movie
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I like this post. Me and my friends call this “Primal Mode”.
Wow, totally relate to what The Rookie said. I’m struggling with this right now. Job/financial situation in utter disarray. Makes it difficult for me to get into the mindset needed to game.
I think it was Dave Chappelle that said if a man could get pussy living in a cardboard box, he wouldn’t buy a house. That basically everything we do as men is essentially geared towards getting pussy. We work, to make money, so we can buy all the trappings we need to attract pussy. It may not be quite that extreme, but that’s definitely part of the motivation for why we get up and enter the rat race every day. Those of us that have the kind of job that we love so much we can’t wait to get to it every day are lucky. Most of us don’t have those kinds of jobs. For me, I think of a job as something that provides me the funds to do things I DO love…
“I have a buddy who if he doesn’t get laid after a month his standards go out the window”
LOL. This is true for most guys. Everyone likes to pretend like they never lower their standards, but trust me…nothing lowers your standards like a vicious cold streak.
This is true for any objective that a person wishes to accomplish. You base your life off of women, that is what makes you happy, so you get good at it and live happily. However, not everybody bases their happiness off of being desired by women. Personally, I don’t base my happiness off of what women think about me. I’m not in high school anymore. I use the “rabid wolf mentality” to accomplish other things in my life.
There’s no shame in taking a shot at something below your normal standard. It’s a matter of just how low you’re willing to go. Is she simply marginal, or is she a flat-out “slump buster?”
Mr. T you ain’t lying, lot of guys fronting saying “I would never go below a 6″ yadda yadda yadda, b.s. I’ve seen guys who were “naturals” with women even bone the occasional Grenade, you don’t have to watch Jersey shore for verification, shit is real
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I don’t understand how Roosh could have cold streaks.
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hmmmm. six months and no sex. how horrible. oh wait, that´s me. i am in the middle of a nasty cold streak and i am living in brazil right now.
i tried to pretend it away, but now it is a problem. got to to get out there boy…..
So you have got hunger? But do you have satisfaction?
Don’t you have diminishing returns of pleasure for each bang, following the next to soon, despite being hungry.
Never felt like an addict? Like a drug addict for instance?
I believe every good thing is bad in too large doses.
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“i am in the middle of a nasty cold streak and i am living in brazil right now.”
Wow. Couldn’t have picked a worse place for that one.
That really could be the definition of hell on earth.
Good luck to you.
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New edition nice. I just noticed that the description/product page for Bang longer than the book itself
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I hear you – if I go without a new girl via a first night bang during a weekend I’m pulling my hair out. If with a mad wing and no same night play something foul definitely is up.
It doesn’t happen often that I get extended free time to game since the follow-ups keep me busy. There’s something to be said about the flings… typically always better than the first night when exhaustion/alcohol may have taken a bigger role than you would had liked.
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I’m 99% sure Roosh is referring to a new bang. The rolodex starts to get a bit tired if the women in it are stale and like everyone else. You start lusting for something new and exciting after 2-3 weeks – regardless of how hot the woman is if there’s no connection/respect for her. Ever wonder how/why Hollywood men can cheat on the hottest women in the world? I don’t.
In general, I don’t think lowering standards for a “slump buster” is the answer. Women can smell it from a mile away. And really who wants to get into heifer territory? I’ve not saying I haven’t done it in my college years… but for every heifer you cost yourself quality bangs. It just comes off subconsciously in your vibe… especially if gaming within a social circle. Women (potential notches) subconsciously compare themselves to your past conquests once made aware of them.
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I am at seven months.
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Great Ramble. It’s like a psychology addiction. I can relate as I went through a 6 month dry patch when I was 21. Never again, come hell or high water. Your comfort zone is the danger zone. You got to keep the momentum going; a rabid wolf has got to feed. Enjoyable post.
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”””’Every guy has a danger zone time where lack of pussy forces him out the door to hunt like a rabid wolf. It used to be several months for me, but now it’s a few weeks. For some guys it’s a whole year. It’s different for every guy based on the sex frequency they’ve become accustomed to. This is a reason why guys who always got laid continue to always get laid. They simply can’t get used to not getting ass, so their inner beast motivates them to find ways to keep the poon supply coming. ””””””””’
Well after a while in a ltr it becomes the same way on wanting fresh pussy in addition to ltr pussy.
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roosh, you definitely seem like a ‘just get laid (with anything)’ kind of guy.
I’m guessing 7′s are your best stock and you dip below indefinitely depending on your ‘danger zone’.
I guess you could call me one of those a-sexualers, as, for me, after having fucked 15 6′s and below (my laycount in the game) I have vowed to abstain till I get a 7 or above.
I found it MORE depressing and detrimental to my self esteem to fuck a less than attractive girl than fuck nothing at all.
I’m getting closer to the golden gates of 7-10 and I feel less needy than ever.
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“Every guy has a danger zone time where lack of pussy forces him out the door to hunt like a rabid wolf. It used to be several months for me, but now it’s a few weeks. For some guys it’s a whole year. It’s different for every guy based on the sex frequency they’ve become accustomed to. This is a reason why guys who always got laid continue to always get laid. They simply can’t get used to not getting ass, so their inner beast motivates them to find ways to keep the poon supply coming.
Sometimes I read emails or blog posts by guys who whine about how hard it is to go out alone, or how uncomfortable it is to approach during the day. Their danger zone time is so large that there is no urgency for them. They can go several more months of sitting on their hands, or even fuck a prostitute to restart the clock. If they were used to getting laid frequently with non-prostitutes they wouldn’t be chickening out on things that guys like me do all the time.”
Damn… you talking about me?
Great post though.
I need to get my shit together…
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the desire in me is sparked by the proximity or by seeing an attractive woman.
The much less stronger desire I experience while I’m at home can be dealt with with internet pornography and masturbation. Doesn’t reduce in any way the strong lust I feel in the presence of an actual hot woman.
I don’t see the need to bang below your level. Why should one do it? what does it accomplish? I prefer internet pornography to any woman who is below my level. Only exception is if she asks nicely and beg
Sex is about having sex with hot women, not with any piece of trash you can put your hands on. And who the fuck cares about fucking lot of girls. The goal should always be fucking the most attractive girls as possible. It’s not manly to fuck chubbies or ugly women just to up your count or whatever (of course it’s not the case if that’s the best you can do)
It sounds like Roosh’s idea of an “active” sex life is getting laid a couple times a month.
Seriously???? How lame.
You need a real girlfriend or wife, dude — then you can get laid several times each week.
I can agree with the low tolerance to lack of sex if you are getting it on a regular basis from different chicks.If you get in the habit of banging 2 or 3 different chicks in a week, you get used to it fast. It’s really addicting and after a while it feels super weird if you don’t have sex for a week.
The more sex you have with different chicks, the more you want it.
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This post and the comments are hilarious.