The Secret To Landing A Man

Feminist culture has done a good job robbing American women of their natural feminine allure. All that’s left are empty shells of human androgyny that is begging to be filled by so-called female dating experts who were unsuccessful in landing a man themselves . Cosmo, self-help books, and Jezebel are eagerly filling the hole, creating women who are unattractive and painful to talk to.

If you want to boil it down to one sentence, here’s what they are teaching young women today: “Just do what guys do to you!”

Want to attract a guy? Talk about your awesome office job!

Want to get him more interested? Be witty, funny, and interesting!

Want to make him wonder about you? Neg him!

And as much as they made fun of The Game when it came out, they are now taking a whole chapter out of its playbook by negging guys so regularly that it’s becoming the main way American women “flirt.”

Women think, “Some guy used this on me once and I fucked him, so it must work!” They honestly think that men and women are the same, so that game must be interchangeable. It’s just a matter of time until they learn how to pee standing up.

The even bigger mindfuck is that a lot of guys out there have been tricked to think that he’s happier with a woman who has a good job, is witty, and busts his balls. But that’s another topic altogether.

Here is the secret to landing and keeping a man:

1. Spend most of your free time into improving your appearance.
2. Lower your standards.

Any possible problem a girl has with a guy is because she’s not hot enough for him. It’s as simple as that. I don’t care how mentally incapacitated a woman is, but if a man feels that she is much hotter than him, that she is “out of his league,” he will pursue her with everything he’s got and want to wife her up. If a Russian 9 wanted to date you but didn’t speak any English, I bet you’d speak your first Russian sentence in a week. Any possible complaints a guy has about a girl’s personality or character magically evaporates if he sees her as hot.

When a man asks a question about how to get a girl, he already lost her. When a woman asks a questions about how to get a guy, she’s not hot enough. Any questions?

Okay I see there are some hands raised in the hamster audience…

“But I really like this guy and he doesn’t like me.”

You’re not hot enough. Spend more time into improving your appearance and then lower your standards.

“I want a hot guy like my girlfriend has.”

You’re not hot enough. Spend more time into improving your appearance and then lower your standards.

“I work with this guy named Trevor. I give him a lot of signals but he doesn’t ask me out. What’s the deal?”

You’re not hot enough. Spend more time into improving your appearance and then lower your standards.

“Guys only want to have sex with me. What do I have to do to get into a relationship?”

You’re not hot enough. Spend more time into improving your appearance and then lower your standards.

If you’re a girl and have to think about “game” at any point in trying to get a guy, that means you are not hot enough for him and are aiming way too high. Otherwise he’d be chasing you with absolutely no effort on your part. Correct girl game is improving your appearance and lowering your standards.

What this means is that you will have to get a man who is less handsome than you are pretty. This is how it works in most of the world. You do not deserve a hot man because there is a 99.8% chance you are nowhere near hot (or even pretty, no matter what your friends say). You should be lucky that there is a man out there somewhere, ugly or not, who is willing to put up with your bullshit and neuroses. Take whatever you can get, and I’m not joking. Otherwise start building your cat colony.

Women in Industrial Shithole, my current home, are very sharp with their appearance. I swear that a 5 can make herself look like an 8 in the club, yet she’s with a 4 guy. They maximize their appearance and get someone who is still under their attractiveness level. You better believe that 4 guy is happy to land what sometimes appears to be an 8, meaning he will not stray or be aloof with her. The woman doesn’t need any game to keep him, because once all that makeup and hair is did, she’s a model to him. He worships her.

In America, you got 6 rating girls who look like 5s with their flip flops and short hair trying to snag an 8 guy. No amount of Cosmo reading or “girl game” is going to solve this problem. Hell, you can win the fucking lottery and still an 8 guy is not going to want to put up with your mediocre ass. Get a 4 guy, wrap him around your finger, and be thankful you don’t have to buy any more cats.

As you can see, the problem of finding a man has nothing to do with game or there not being “good men” left in the world. The problem is that women have grown up in a fantasy culture that teaches them that they can get a man more handsome than they are pretty, something that has not regularly happened in the course of human history.

To all the future cat ladies reading me: simply improve your appearance, aim low, and you’ll never again have to worry about game or keeping a man. You know you did well when your dude is ugly enough that everyone thinks the only way he got you was because he has a big dick.

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  • Anonymous

    hahah so true

  • Anonymous

    Amen. Truth. And this is coming from a woman who did just that.

    My 6 married me, a 9, and he loves and adores me and works his ass off.I adore him as well, and his character, strength and intelligence turned that 6 upside down so all I see is a 9.

    I cook for him, and take care of him at home. ( yes, I also work full time as well) Sorry, Feminists, you have it wrong. No job will ever fulfill you. The love of a great man wins every time.

  • seeker of truth

    Absolutely fantastic, perceptive, and brilliant article! Love it, Roosh. Thanks for the great insights.

  • Tampa

    You can preach this blog post to the fucking heavens, you can sing it on every mountaintop, you can post it on billboards, you can play it on the radio. American women will not settle. It aint happening.

    Take a look around DC. There is a sea of 35 year old washed cougars who have missed the proverbial marriage train trying their mighty asses off to still land that 1 mil a year earning partner at Holland & Knight so they can get their McMansion in Bethesda and send the kids to St. Albans prep. Go over to that new bar The Hamilton on 14th and F on a Thursday night…..it’s a fucking wasteland of cougars and divorcees….

    It’s fucking comical. I try to explain to my friend who is searching for Mr. 250k how many single guys there are in this city that are making 250k. Then after we nailed that number down which is probably about 5,000 TOTAL guys….I asked her why would a single white guy making 250k settle for a 34 year old chick who is a few years away from infertility?

    Women are delusional bro. If i could give them any advice….it would be I don’t care who you have to settle for, get your ass married by 30. Once that 30th birthday comes, you have lost 50% of your capital. You are playing on a a short deck and you’ll be lucky to get half the man you dream of. But they won’t settle. They will wait until 35! Unreal

  • Anonymous

    Epic. The truth will hurt many, but ultimately it is good for them.

  • http://N/A Psychonaut

    Brilliant!

  • seeker of truth

    @Anonymous: I respect your honesty, both with yourself, and others, and the wisdom that you offer via experience. However, I’m not convinced that you are a “9″…

  • http://taoofdirt.wordpress.com Dirt Man

    This is so true, yet it pains me every time I see a handsome guy holding hands with a girl that is definitely way below him in attractiveness. Come on guys, you can do better! Aim higher.

  • Redleg

    This is what women’s mothers used to tell them, back before everyone’s mother was divorced and delusional. Now that we’re two generations into the marriage apocalypse, no one remains to tell their kids how to act.

  • outlaw josey wales

    If women realized and accepted how easy it actually is to be happy their heads would explode. However, the hampster will not allow it, so the beating will continue until morale improves.

  • outlaw josey wales

    @Tampa

    Lulz on the Hamilton. I work near there. I should stop by this Thursday for a taste of cougar.

  • Anonymous

    Ever had to sit through Hairspray? I could only bear 5 minutes of it, but part of the plot is that this young landwhale (her mother is so fugly, she gets played by a dude) snags a handsome skinny guy with her um, “charms”.

    I now understand where self-confident landwhales who chase after handsome dudes half their weight come from.

    Toxic propaganda like that has got to go.

  • http://rationalmale.wordpress.com Rollo Tomassi

    In a commercialized SMP, hypergamy is to women what bikini models are to men; the easiest way to a buck.

  • Anonymous

    @ Seeker of truth,

    Its ok if you think so. Or not :) I used to model, so for an old broad Im hanging in there :) The point is, that, instead of focusing on someone “hot”, I know ( however hard it is for other women to accept) that most of what Roosh says in the post is true. I focused on his character, kindness, and intelligence. He tells me all the time how he cant believe how lucky he was to marry a woman as beautiful and kind as me, and I feel the same way, that I was lucky to marry someone as intelligent, hardworking, with good leadership skills that I can look up to and respect. Done and done :)

  • Mage

    This is truth in roughly 95% of cases but there is a bit more to it. Generally there are two conditions that when BOTH met should make women do more than just improve appearance and lower standarts.

    The conditions are:
    1.The man knows the nature of women(red pill, game, natural, traditional culture, school of life or whatever), knows that they are sinful and moraly unstable.
    2.That man is seeking a long term partner and not a girl for just a night or few nights.

    In both these cases women should also:

    1.Lower their bitchyness and develop a pleasant character.
    2.Spend time improving their homekeeping skills, cooking, communication with children and cleaning.

    These things are secondary, what Roosh mentioned is primary, most men are so desparate that they will see only the criteria mentioned by Roosh, but I felt that these two had to be added otherwise the formula is still incomplete.

    That is it might loook complete from the viewpoint of Roosh ho is intrested in hookups only, but from a viewpoint of most women who want commitment from a man as well as understanding and a healthy share of domination and leadership at the same time these two that I added are a must.

  • americanbk

    This is your best article ever posted. Cuts straight to the core and is 100% true. WELL DONE

  • LE

    I would add that women can improve their chances, in addition to being pretty, by 1) being affectionate, 2) initiating sex more, and being “good at sex”, and 3) being easy to get along with / drama free.

  • http://ts156@livejournal TS156

    Have to agree with Tampa, great advice but it will not be heard by those who most need it. As we well know women today cannot accept that there is anything wrong with them, or anything they do.

  • http://rationalmale.wordpress.com Rollo Tomassi
  • dragnet

    “I would add that women can improve their chances, in addition to being pretty, by 1) being affectionate, 2) initiating sex more, and being “good at sex”, and 3) being easy to get along with / drama free.”

    I agree with this. Chasing a girl is about looks, but keeping her is about what she brings to the table. How you feel around her and whether she is an asset to your life or a drag.

    Good looks + Sweet disposition + Wifely skillz = A keeper

  • Gixxer

    This is all true, and we are all be witness to this as western society continues to weaken from within.

    The other half of this equation of course is the beta/herb men (boys) being raised by single mothers on a diet of video games and HD pornography who are being deprived of proper male role models.

  • ghghg

    The author of this post is an idiot. women are looking for the best man they can get, not any guy they can find. to suggest women do otherwise is to be blind to differences between the sexes, not to mention disastrous to evolution.

  • Tampa

    This response is funny…

    __

    The author of this post is an idiot. women are looking for the best man they can get, not any guy they can find. to suggest women do otherwise is to be blind to differences between the sexes, not to mention disastrous to evolution.

    ___

    NO they aren’t looking for the best man “they can get.” Because if you are 35 and unmarried, you haven’t been able to “get” him. You’ve failed. It is time to settle. You are a victim of choice addiction. And you addition to choice and your unchecked desire to have mr. 250k is literally driving you toward a life where you don’t even have kids. A very sad existence is a 35 year old woman with no husband and no children.

  • Mr Lemon

    This opening paragraph is perfectly brilliant:

    “Feminist culture has done a good job robbing American women of their natural feminine allure. All that’s left are empty shells of human androgyny that is begging to be filled by so-called female dating experts who were unsuccessful in landing a man themselves”

    Between Roosh’s post and the comments following it, I see more wisdom and understanding of the human race than the entire 40 years of radical feminist bullshit.

    Keep it up folks. Feminism is the most amazing bubble of lies and abuse in recent history. It will eventually pop, and when it does, the explosion is gonna be incredible.

    The question is, will the Feminist horror-show take American/European culture with it down the drain, leaving the world firmly under the control of the Chinese or some other less decadent culture? Or will it just leave behind worldwide social chaos/riots? That is something to debate over beer.

  • The Specimen

    I think ghghg has a point – however disagreeably he’s stated it. Women are always going to try to get the best possible deal for themselves that they can. It’s how the sexual market works. Just like you have a lot of guys that want to bang 10s when they’d do a lot better targeting 6s, a lot of women are also trying to punch above their weight class.

    Among women, I feel like the ugly and hot girls have at the very least an intuitive understanding of exactly where they stand in terms of who they can get. It’s more the average to cute/marginally hot chicks that tend to have a distorted view of things. The problem for them, I think, is that they’re attractive enough so that in-demand guys will fuck them, but not hot enough to land one for anything more than a no drama FWB situation. As a result of these gus trying to drunk dial them every so often, they get the idea that this is the level of guy they can attract, when in reality she’s option 3 or 4 and only gets asked out (or booty called) when options 1 and 2 have fallen through.

  • Basil Ransom

    Great post. The thing is, these women don’t even want a strapping, handsome rich man for his own sake. They want Mr. Perfect so they can SHOW OFF TO OTHER WOMEN. Having Mr. Perfect at their side is proof of their superiority to all the women who couldn’t get a Mr. Perfect. American women aren’t looking for love, they’re looking for a man who can play his little role in making her idyllic dreams come true. The man is just a bit player, an accessory to making her dreams come true. He is a means to those dreams, not an end in himself. That is why American women constantly insist on going out and doing things, because the man is not a sufficient reason in and of himself.

    And even when women do try to look good, it’s in the spirit of competing with other women, and not attracting the appeal of men. Walk around almost any yuppie gym in America, and you’ll find girls doing curls, pull-downs, and shitty bench presses, or running on treadmills and ellipticals several hours a week. These women invariably have this skinny broad look, with a wide back and lats, slim muscular arms, and undeveloped legs and ass. And while it doesn’t look bad, no guy would choose it as ideal. If these women were trying to appeal to men, they’d be squatting ass to grass, or doing lunges at the very least. But she’s more concerned about not having ‘a big butt’ because then other *girls* will think less of her.

  • Roosh is the Man

    “1. Spend most of your free time into improving your appearance.

    2. Lower your standards.”

    ^^best advice that can ever be give to a woman who seriously wants to find a husband.

    Shame the feminists and delusional women won’t listen to it.

  • Professor

    Roosh’s advice is probably going to be hard to listen to for most women, but good advice is good advice.

    Stands up and gives Roosh a standing ovation.

  • Treyvon

    Here’s the list COSMO won’t ever publish ladies:

    1. be submissive follow instructions
    2. suck his cock real good
    3. do what he says
    4. suck his cock some more
    5. ALWAYS support him in public
    6. you may disagree, but then you owe him a cock suck

    Let there be Manhood101

  • Anonymous
  • Tomtud

    Women in western society have power in the singles market when they have the leverage(looks). Guys are suppose to approach aren’t they ladies????? So women get to choose. I know average looking women getting 20-30messages a day on POF.com. This is in Toronto. So women cannot complain and say where are all the good men or settle when they have many suitors in their reach.

    Based on their misuse of power or lack thereof, hey have picked or not picked suitable gents in their own prime. Now, when their looks are fading (black diamond) ski hill, steeeeep slope, they have the audacity to criticize men for these comments.

    Of course, I don’t blame anybody for going for the best. But, ladies you are in the drivers seat here. Men approach online, in person all the time. Ask yourselves how many times did you do a cold approach????? Thank you for answering my rhetorical question.

    Now, get off your asses , don’t do a ladies night sleep over where you won’t meet any men and get out there. But when you get out there, make yourself avilable by not hiding in a corner surrounded by your friends. Miingle with men you dig. Say hello first. I don’t want to hear men need to say hi first. They always did before and look at the results.

    Things won’t change unless you change. Simple. Swallow your pride and say hi. Trust me guys aren’t as snobby like women, they will always be polite and say hi back. Trust me.

  • vb

    That was brilliant Rooshie. We talk soon.

  • Anonymous

    “Guys only want to have sex with me. What do I have to do to get into a relationship?”

    “You’re not hot enough. Spend more time into improving your appearance and then lower your standards”

    euhh…sure about this one, Roosh?

    Great post, just this littl doubt

  • http://www.therulesrevisited.com Andrew

    Nice post. It more or less encaptulates the entire message of my blog, which I write in an attempt to get this message to women.

    http://www.therulesrevisited.com

    Specifically, this post, which explains the same “it worked on me so it will work on him” phenomenon:

    http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2011/08/why-most-women-dont-know-what-men-want.html

  • greenlander

    Great post, and I agree.

    Whenever I read a dating blog written by a female (like Susan Walsh’s “Hooking Up Smart”) I think the exact same thing. Susan’s whole blog could be summarized by “1. Be hotter. 2. Tame your hypergamous hamster and settle for a beta.”

  • http://universityofman.wordpress.com Professor Mentu

    Thanks for the lunch read, Roosh. I laughed out loud on your hamster questions.

    Ugly women should be hunted for sport.

  • The Glee Manifesto

    Join the military?

  • MP

    lol @ “Otherwise start building your cat colony.”

    kinda makes me wonder if there’s a positive correlation between obesity and the pet care industry.

  • http://gameforomegas.wordpress.com Omega Man

    I think society is burned out on this and moving back in a more traditional direction.

    A woman who wants a husband needs to look at betas, rather than alphas. Betas aren’t lower, they just serve a different purpose.

  • DiamondEyes

    Good post. Of course it takes more than just being hot to keep a good man with options, but being hot is the prerequisite.

    I remember reading something at roissy’s I believe a long time ago that went something like “the most happy and successful marriages are where the woman is better looking than the man, and the man has greater social or financial status than the woman.” That seems to be the perfect match, because each partner truly appreciates what the other brings to the table.

  • Tampa

    100% true. Never really saw it this clear.

    “the most happy and successful marriages are where the woman is better looking than the man, and the man has greater social or financial status than the woman.”

  • Jordan

    Another Great Post Roosh! I think The Specimen @25 left a great comment too.

  • Anonymous

    @33
    Same thing, emphasis on #2.

    If you are being pumped and dumped, they don’t consider you worth keeping.

  • Bortimus

    “It’s just a matter of time until they learn how to pee standing up.”

    They have funnels designed for that purpose now.

  • http://flyfreshandyoung.wordpress.com FFY

    The cold hard truth. Not that it matters since they’re not going to listen.

    As long as the herd is telling all girls they can have it all and get their Prince Charming, nothing is going to change.

    Not that I’m complaining- It’s a player’s market

  • Jay in DC

    Roosh- Poetry sir. This should probably be elevated to the status of some type of Manifesto. It is a simple, crystal clear, and quite cutting perspective of the current situation.

    @#4 Tampa

    I am just laughing out loud over here. I met up with DC Phil last night and was just laughing at the absurdity of the average “DC Frau” (I am uncertain if I am the progenitor of this meme but I know my friends and I use it to great effect). What you are describing at the Hamilton is a great picture as well as the highly over-educated, highly under-dressed, highly self-important, highly missing out on the gym 20 something women from ‘somewhere else’ who land here to work for the Nanny State that allows their liberal feminist existence. As I said to DC Phil last night, if you can successfully run game in DC which I am pretty sure is the worst city to attempt it on Planet Earth, you can run game ANYWHERE. I was born and bred here so I cam up “in the trenches” and am low alpha so I pull here, but based on most everyone else I interact with, that is the exception, not the rule. The only saving grace of this cesspool of Fraudom is that the city is juuuuust international enough that you may land a great foreigner. This has been my sole focus for the past few years. The Fraus are invisible to me now.

  • this is disgusting

    I can’t even believe people buy into this. It’s hilarious to me that everyone who enjoys this blog seems to think ALL women think the same way as if we’re just “bitchy-baby-machines-that-want rich-husbands.” I assure you that some of us don’t give five fucks about how much our significant other makes and only cares about the essence and personality of the person. That isn’t to say that looks don’t matter at all (everyone has their own preferences), but to some women (and men) physical appearance isn’t the most important characteristic. Just like there are women who don’t care about personality and only looks. Honestly, this entire site is offensive to BOTH genders, it assumes that women are entirely superficial and men only want sex. Surely you aren’t so harsh on your own sex and will admit that men are more than just the “horny animals” your lovely blogger portrays them.

    How about you all grow the fuck up and stop hiding behind these sexist pretenses of what “women and men” want and actually get to know people as PEOPLE without making (false) assumptions on their gender. Have you ever considered that a superficial women is superficial because she is a superficial PERSON and not because she is just a women? Woah I know, too much to handle.

  • Aleph

    Roosh describes the opposite of what men have had to do. Because so many women have taken themselves out of the dating pool because of their obesity and overweight nature men have had to:

    1. Spend exorbitant levels of time investing into their looks

    2. Lower their standards

    Look how many dudes are packed into gyms these days. I guarantee you it was never like that in the past. Men are in there investing an entire lifestyle into building ideal bodies. How often do you see a girl in the gym building a body that’s ideal? It doesn’t happen in America.

  • Retrenched

    HOW TO GET AN ALPHA MALE:

    1. Be young
    2. Be beautiful
    3. Be willing to fuck whenever he wants
    4. When he cheats on you, forgive him and take him back, or just overlook it
    5. Repeat step 4 as needed


    HOW TO GET A BETA MALE:

    HA! As if a girl wants that…

  • Anonymous

    “women are looking for the best man they can get”

    Apparently they’re looking for a man they CANNOT get, otherwise they’d have him by now.

  • DiamondEyes

    “I assure you that some of us don’t give five fucks about how much our significant other makes and only cares about the essence and personality of the person.”

    Yes, the fat and ugly ones. I have never seen a hot girl with a guy who was neither rich nor criminally alpha.

  • DiamondEyes

    To clarify, I mean you don’t see hot girls marrying or in an LTR with a guy who has neither money nor a high level of alphatude. Yes, she’ll bang any douche that comes along with some game, but not commit to him.

  • Paradise World

    @Aleph, I was thinking about the gym thing too. So many guys are going now a days. I think it’s because the culture is revolving around muscular men like in Jersey Shore and MMA, but also it could be because men may feel less adequate for female attention these days. I struggle with my decision to go back to the gym myself. I like the way I look, but in the back of my head sometimes I ask myself “If I was a little bigger, would it have mattered? would she have texted me back sooner? would that other chick have been nicer?”

  • Paul

    Or the guys at gym thing may be because guys have more time, these days, without women using up every spare second.

  • http://www.pofdomination.com Bigfoot

    Good post.

    Girls in other countries seem to realize that dating a point or two below their own attractiveness is a solid dating strategy.

    Girls over here however go for guys 1-2 points above them. Even if they go for guys at the same level of attractiveness the guy will probably stray for something better.

  • internetguy

    spoken like someone who has never been in a long-term relationship with a “super hot” girl.

    not worth the bullshit.

    find a cute/pretty “girl next door” with sweet and affectionate personality.

    also helps if you have some reason to believe she will age well.

    there are a large amount of very attractive women in the world… to assume that personality doesn’t enter the equation for how to KEEP a guy (okay maybe not so much in hot to attract him) is total bullshit and calls everything else in the post (and supportive comments) into question : P

  • Aleph

    @Paradise World, the reason for going to the gym is that there is such a small pool of attractive girls that guys need to pull out all the stops to one-up the competition.

    When I first started pickup I was having a lot of trouble even establishing attraction because there were so many more guys who were objectively better looking than me in any given venue. Once I started getting serious about developing my aesthetic appeal, girls became much more receptive and I am able to spark attraction in most girls I meet.

    I would say that being physically attractive is a cornerstone of Game. The strength you acquire in the gym lends natural alpha male credence to your subconscious. So much of game is predicated upon the idea of evolutionary psychology, so it’s important that you hit these ancient attraction triggers.

    So, yeah, go back to the gym, get a routine, and meticulously manage your diet.

  • http://kalamazoo-uncut.blogspot.com Aleph

    Also, an addendum to the above: if you’re going to go the gym, be serious about it. Treat it like a job and don’t dick around with stupid routines, bad diet, or poor work ethic.

    I contend that given the right education and work ethic, almost any skinny geek on this planet can become an alpha male within 2-3 years if they put in the work in the gym.

    When you look alpha, you’re playing Game on easy mode.

  • Paradise World

    Thanks so much for replying Aleph. I’m gonna throw you some more reasons as to why I still don’t take the gym seriously so bare with me lol.

    1. there are more PUA guys with skinny bodies than those with muscular bodies. I can only name three off the top of my head Arash D., Matador, and Savoy. The rest I have seen are skinny (Gambler, Adam). So if they can get girls without muscles, then why should I bother?

    2. Isn’t approaching for an hour and a half, four days a week for 12 weeks a better use of my time than lifting weights for the same amount of time?

    It’s like, why should I bother going to the gym when there are so many men who haven’t and do amazing with women?

  • http://ophoopvanzegen@blogspot.com Joost

    Because going to the gym can be part of a greater transformation than just becoming a “hunk”. Part of the allure lies in challenging yourself, gaining more energy by training regularly and somehow gaining more physical power that translates into self-confidence and social dominance.

    And it’s nice. You have a body, use it, go to the limit and see what boundaries you can push. It sure beats sitting behind a desk somewhere.

  • Mage

    @ 59 Paradise World

    Training your body is something conscious people do for themselves, attention from the opposite sex is just one of many benefits. Since you are in Game just for easy chicks than you won’t understand this and your game probably sucks anyway. If you were in Game because you were generally interested in self-development and conscious living, taking control over your life, than you would understand this simple thing.

  • http://kalamazoo-uncut.blogspot.com Aleph

    @Paradise World, I don’t know who a lot of those PUA guys you listed off are, but chances are that they’re pretty tall. I notice a lot of guys who write about game are like 6′ 2”+ and height is basically a central determining factor of whether or not women are attracted to you. I’m 5′ 9”.

    That said, before realizing how important my aesthetic appeal was, I approached about 100 girls in a relatively small frame of time. I had a conversion rate of 2% on my approaches. Girls simply didn’t respond to escalation because I didn’t pass the minimum threshold of attractiveness that was required before they could slut out for the night.

    After a particularly harsh string of rejections that was preceded by a somewhat less harsh stream of consecutive no’s, I knew that something had to change, and it wasn’t my approaches or strategy. I’d basically exhausted my creative abilities at that point trying to find something, anything, that would work. I tried direct, indirect, and somewhere inbetween.

    I still noticed that girls were slutting out for certain guys in bars, just not for me. The one thing they all had in common was that they were physically imposing. You might be thinking: it took you 100 approaches to realize that? Well, yes, because I used to buy into the idea that looks meant relatively little to women based on what I’d read on numerous Game blogs written by dudes who are 6′ 4”. I’m 5′ 9”. Things are way different when your small.

    Basically, she has to want to buy what you’re selling. If you’re a quality product, you need relatively little salesmanship (Game) to seal the deal. There are some products that won’t sell even if Obama himself went on air and gave it a ringing endorsement.

    I had relatively few takers for my product.

    Professionally, I graduated from a top school, have a job, and am well-read. Girls my age (I’m 23) don’t really give six shits about that unless they’re already looking for a husband for whatever reason. I’m not looking for a wife.

    So it dawned on me that if I wanted to succeed in obtaining SNL’s, it was imperative that I developed an aesthetic that was better than most of the competition while also becoming more physically imposing than most men in any given venue.

    Getting strong was relatively easy, as most dudes don’t know what a squat or deadlift is, but sculpting an aesthetic is a bit harder and takes a lot of discipline. I meticulously manage my diet and drink only once a week so I don’t gain any fat.

    My conversion rate on approaches these days is 8-9%. Girls ask me for my number in bars. I smack girls in the face when I fuck them and call them whores. Life’s good.

  • http://www.insideawomansmind.wordpress.com Dins

    It became a cliché, but it has so much truth in it; ‘He’s just not that into you’.

  • http://littlepdog.com/ LittlePDog (Starting Young and Aiming High)

    I don’t like rating guys out of 10, because looks are a small(er) part of the equation for us.

    I do not think that it is possible to get women to lower their standards consciously. Their standards will lower if something drastic happens in sexual market place, for example in Ukraine where there are many more women than men. Telling girls to lower their standards won’t make them do it. Hypergamy compels them not to and you cannot fight with nature. Unless we men all collectively go on a commitment strike or 10% of us die of AIDS and alcoholism then it’s just not going to happen.

  • Tampa

    I agree with this statement right here:

    “I do not think that it is possible to get women to lower their standards consciously. Their standards will lower if something drastic happens in sexual market place. You can’t fight nature.”

    -
    Really the only thing that gets them to lower their standards is time and a desire to have children and get married. If women did not age and their beauty did not fade, they would never settle and we’d have a sexual apocalypse. The only thing that corners the market and returns things to an equilibrium is the ravages that father time has on the woman’s sex appeal.

    I currently have three women in the rotation. I met up with a 35 year old former Vandy sorority chick last night. The other three girls I’m working are are all under 30. One is 27, one is 28 and one turns 30 in 3 weeks. I’m currently early 30′s and making a really good living.

    This girl last night was 35 and you could just feel the bitterness and coldness in the conversation. What was weird was that at first I thought it had to do with her not being into me, then she implies she wants to meet up again and you could just feel the desire to get married. It’s a sad sight to see a women who was obviously very hot in her 20′s out on the prowl at the age of 35 looking for a husband. And I can 100% assure you that she passed up on multiple betas hoping to land that one alpha cock but is now standing in proverbial no-man’s land. She has no long term prospects and she is probably 24-36 months away from not being able to pass her genetic linage to the next generation. What a sad fucking site it is. I bet the chick was a smoke show when she was 26.

    I guess thems the breaks. When you push all your chips in the middle hoping to hit that straight draw and land the 200k a year alpha, sometime the cards that you need just don’t come out of the deck and then you’re left with no chips, no chair and a sad future. Life’s a gamble baby.

  • frank

    @internetguy
    You have a warped idea of how long it takes in the gym to put on a respectable amount of muscle. Twice a week for under 45 minutes gets the job done for me. People spending longer than that usually have no idea what they’re doing. Strength training at the casual level is not particularly time consuming like marathon training and such are.

  • G

    Roosh,

    You write:

    “Any possible complaints a guy has about a girl’s personality or character magically evaporates if he sees her as hot.”

    Is this true for you personally?

  • http://www.TheSolomonPress.com Samuel

    Ladies,

    It is not settling, if its the best you can do.

    That is like lowering the price on a house. The sellers think they have just “lost money” by reducing the price when, in fact, they have only accepted that the value they imagined they had, did not actually exist, after all, and that the marketplace has spoken. The house wasn’t so magical and valuable after all.

    The real irony is that most often the sellers who price themselves too high sit around on the market and become “shopworn” where everyone says “whats wrong with it?” and the seller, in light of this full demonstration of diminished value for all to see…

    actually has to lower their price to a point even lesser than they would have gotten originally if they had just priced themselves fairly. They have to discount more aggressively because nobody wants a shopworn turkey.

    Sellers should have just been less greedy up front, they would have gotten more, and gotten it sooner, with less frustration.

    and so it is, in the sexual marketplace.

    Gauge your value more accurately, and then it won’t be ‘settling’ because you know you did the best you could. If you really want to command more value from the marketplace… then like Uncle Roosh says…

    Improve your appearance. A clean and lean house will always be more desirable than a smelly, cluttered one. If a woman can’t do the math on that and womyn want us to just “love me for me”…

    the marketplace will eventually tell them the truth they were refusing to accept.

    and by then, even her cats won’t care about her.

  • Anonymous

    The “hotness is all that matters’ meme becomes less and less true as absolute hotness increases, except where hotness is such that it brings in out of band benefits, like Giselle’s paycheck. In all other cases, an absolutely fantastic, warm, caring, loving, cooking, cleaning, childrearing 8; beats the heck out some 9 or 10 whose sole goal is to leverage her looks to a partner position in some law firm, so she can preen around playing “power woman” between sets of pumping up her jaw muscles.

    The law of diminishing returns hold for looks as well. But in the belly of the curve, where most women and men live, looks sure matter a lot.

    Perhaps not appropriate for a game blog, but one thing a woman can bring to the table that competes with looks, particularly amongst subgroups of men who are unusually LTR minded, is virginity. Particularly for those who bitch about “only being wanted for sex”, that wold seem like a pretty obvious solution, but hey.

    As for berating women for not “settling”, it won’t get anyone anywhere. Evolution doesn’t select for people who settle. Rather, in order to restore evolutionary sustainability to the sexual market of Western countries, what is needed is a transformation of the economic framework in which the SM operates. In such a way that social status (which are really male SMV) are bestowed on men more in proportion to their productive contribution; rather than to their ability to inject themselves into value streams they have not themselves created.

    Most people alive today, are so because they’re ancestors could produce life sustenance from their environment. Only very few because they payed games of court intrigue well, which is basically the traits “game” teaches, and correctly so as that is what currently gives “alpha” status and therefore access to mating opportunities. But none of that court intriguing would survive absent producers handing over spoils to the king. Ergo, stop handing things over. As in, as close to completely as possible. Never, ever support anyone who would “redistribute” anything to anyone, for any reason what so bloody ever. “Children dying in the streets” is the way things are supposed to be, for children whose parents can’t, or won’t do what’s necessary to keep them alive. And people getting gunned down in the streets are also the way things are supposed to be; for people who can’t or won’t defend themselves, and simultaneously won’t bother learning which streets are safe enough to travel. If so called “betas” just internalized the wisdom in that, the West would return to sustainability in rather short order; without women having to “settle” and such.

  • Alternate Option

    Women who aren’t interested in the kind of men who dispense this kind of advice can disregard it and handily narrow down your dating pool to people you’re actually compatible with. The women who follow this advice will get the kind of guy who wrote it. Everybody wins. PUA dudes can get the hot women they want, and girls who aren’t interested in PUAs can relax and cultivate a mature, honest relationship with a guy who PUAs will deride as a beta or worse. To which you can say: “Meh, who cares? He makes me happy, and fortunately my happiness isn’t contingent on whether my reasons for being happy add up for anyone but me.”

    Dating isn’t really about universals. It’s like striking a tuning fork and all the same-pitch forks in the room will start ringing while all the different-pitch forks stay silent. The Game you spit and the Rules you play by determine the mate you’ll attract.

    So feminists, no need to be upset by all this. It’s not written with you, or the men you’re interested in, in mind.

  • Paradise World

    Mage: yeah you’re right I got into it for hot easy chicks :P the conscious living and self development is a very close second though! And I’m always the first to admit that my game needs work. I’m not where I want to be yet but I’m on my way.

    Aleph: I would definitely believe that a shorter guy has more of a pressure to have a good body than a taller guy. I’m 6′.

    Maybe it’s all these natural advantages that are making me lazy. I took the red pill 6 years ago and I haven’t even reached 50 approaches yet, while you got yourself to 100.

    I read your blog and it says that you attend WMU (so does my close friend. small world!), and I have heard and seen that the most desireable college girls are alot more superficial and want “eye candy” in their men.

    out of the guys I know at my school who do well with women only one is skinny, but he’s a tall mofo with a miserable asshole attitude. I don’t wanna be like that.

    Thanks for taking the time to reply to me guys.

  • Paradise World

    The best plan I ever followed had me in the gym 45-60 minutes for 4 days a week, for 12 weeks. On two of the days I had to run, adn it was another 30 minutes on top of that.

  • Paradise World

    @frank The best plan I ever followed had me in the gym 45-60 minutes for 4 days a week, for 12 weeks. On two of the days I had to run, adn it was another 30 minutes on top of that.

  • blackdude

    ROOSH- I have a question that is unrelated to this post. Maybe u answered this before, but I dont understand why you quit your job as a scientist to travel fulltime instead of just making tons of $$$ and traveling once a month/ every other month or something. Im guessing that the money ya make now is prob less than then, and with student loans and all….. Then again money aint everything so i can see that angle as well. BUT i mean seriously student loans suck how can u afford to pay em?

  • http://www.TheReturnOfMen.com George Glory

    At least three things you said in this article make me relieved that I’m not the only one in the world thinking the same things:

    1) “If you want to boil it down to one sentence, here’s what they are teaching young women today: “Just do what guys do to you!” ”

    2) “They honestly think that men and women are the same, so that game must be interchangeable. It’s just a matter of time until they learn how to pee standing up.” (and men start peeing sitting-down).

    3) “The even bigger mindfuck is that a lot of guys out there have been tricked to think that he’s happier with a woman who has a good job, is witty, and busts his balls. But that’s another topic altogether.” (I hope you make an article out of that one, Roosh).

    I’m glad you said these things, as they are not said enough. I sometimes think I must be a different species judging from the reactions I get when I tell people there is no such thing as equality, or that men and women are different, or that our biology gives each gender different strengths that when played-to, makes for a stable society ala human civilisation up until about 50 years ago.

    It’s as if this nebulous ‘equality’ concept is a given, with there no reason to dispute the idea that men and women are the same. People have been so hammered with this nonsense that women are the same as men, that they cannot see the stupidity of female policemen, female firemen, or female soldiers, female programmers. On the contrary, they champion this, encourage it, incentivise it, not realising the destruction this ultimately causes society, in taking the home-making gender out of the home to compete with the competitive, industrious gender.

    I have a friend who has a daughter, who is his only child, and the apple of his eye. He is an ambitious and adventurous man, who has taken his daughter with him on adventures, travelling to various parts of the world, and pushing her as she studies human rights law (a typically female piece of shit of a subject). She is 20 years old and has done more and seen more than the average man. My friend literally cannot see how he is setting his daughter up to be one lonely girl as she grows up. He thinks he is helping her along in life, setting her up for a life of achievement, as if she was a son, but he can’t see how he is turning her into a completely unattractive potential mate for males. No man will feel he had anything to offer her, and will be constantly annoyed with her relentlessly correcting him, and regaling him with her stories of adventure. The sad thing is, this is a common thing, and your average person is completely none-the-wiser.

    Any gents reading Roosh need to keep doing so, and add Bernard Chapin, and A Voice For Men, to your reading list. This will be some of the best education you will ever have.

    Anyway, please excuse my slightly off-topic bitchery.

    Greta article.

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  • Brandon

    I heard that if you rub your balls 15 mins a day, you’ll produce more testosterone and increase your muscle gaining rate.

  • Timothy

    “When a man asks a question about how to get a girl, he already lost her. When a woman asks a questions about how to get a guy, she’s not hot enough. Any questions?”

    You dropped PEARLS with this post! Chicks repeat the mantra “Don’t settle” in their heads, and constantly to their girlfriends. They stubbornly feed their deluded minds with nonsense. They need to be fuckin’ and suckin’ that dude that’s showing interest, instead of pining for the dude that pays them no mind.

  • Vesuvius

    The three Fs are what women need to get and keep a man. Feed him – fuck him – and shut the fuck up!

  • BornAgainAlpha

    Ok. Reality check from the real world. At what age do women give up on their hopes of landing their fantasy alpha male? It’s not 35!! It’s fuckin’ 45 when they hit menopause and the hamster in their hindbrain starts to shrivel up.

  • Anonymous

    @70:

    You’re successfully following rule #2 (lower your standards). The world’s now a happier place.

  • Dante

    Tampa + Samuel: Great analogies.

    So may broads maintain a steady diet of brainless mags / blogs / tv shows.. and emulate tinseltown life, yet still whine and complain that they can’t find ‘a real man’…

    yet they offer zero value to someone who has good looks and ample means.

    i mean… how often does anyone here get good head? AND she swallows? AND you could actually talk to her again in the morning?

    exactly

  • Mike

    WOW. Unfucking-believable post, i’ve been SMACKED with truth and I love every bit of it.

    Big props to commenter number 47 for being the only real criticizer. It always helps to keep an open mind and I wish there were a few more trolls.

    The lack of trolls clearly demonstrates the utter truth in Roosh’s words. This post is priceless. It’s too truthful it’s so necessary. Bravo.

  • Roosh II

    Case in point. Tina Fey! Ever notice that in every episosde she is always wh a stuff that is waaaaay too hot for her! I mean come on, John Ham!? seriously stop giving the young bitches ideas!

  • Roosh II

    Case in point. Tina Fey! Ever notice that in every episosde she is always with a stud that is waaaaay too hot for her! I mean come on, John Ham!? seriously stop giving the young bitches ideas.

  • Stud

    @69
    “The “hotness is all that matters’ meme becomes less and less true as absolute hotness increases, except where hotness is such that it brings in out of band benefits, like Giselle’s paycheck. In all other cases, an absolutely fantastic, warm, caring, loving, cooking, cleaning, childrearing 8;”

    No such female exists like that in the States where they now have become self entitled, genital herpes carrying Paris Hilton wannabees today. Western europe is the same and east europe is not far behind.

  • http://www.BronanTheBarbarian.com Bronan the Barbarian!

    Lol’ed at the hamster questions.

  • Girl (not) next door

    I agree with this post.

    I think most women that are alone have got their standards too high.
    I’m not sure about spending all your time on your appearance though, if you’re naturally beautiful, you don’t need to do that.
    But yes, being feminine is very important.
    And a pleasant personality does help as well.

  • speakeasy

    Reading this was actually cathartic. I literally had a smile on my face as worked my way down the page.

  • http://www.dandroper.wordpress.com Dan Droper

    “All that’s left are empty shells of human androgyny that is begging to be filled by so-called female dating experts who were unsuccessful in landing a man themselves ”

    Best. Dating. Advice. Ever.

    Moxie – That’s Why YOU’RE Single!

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  • Anonymous

    Roosh, Great Post

    Off topic question: You say to “never value a pussy. “Because when you value a pussy, girls can automatically feel it, and you will automatically lose her.

    Here’s the question:

    How do you NOT “value” a particular pussy… and yet still decide to GO FOR a particular pussy. By definition, you have to desire a particular girl to some degree in order to approach and game her. So to some degree you are valuing her going in.

    So what is the correct mindset here? Where am I going wrong

    Thanks

  • Astounded

    I agree that people need to maintain a minimum level of aesthetics in order to make life a little more pleasant for everyone.

    That means pay attention to your weight, posture, hygiene, hair and wear decent outfits that are not a blight on the eyes. A minimum standard for looks has to be met for women, we can all agree on that, and it is unfortunate American/Canadian(?) women are not meeting it.

    However, as a person who was not born in the West but immigrated here as a teenager, it astounds me the disproportionate value men pay towards looks. Assuming a baseline standard for looks (weight, posture, all of the above), the important characteristics in a wife have very little to do with her looks. Maybe for a girlfriend or a mistress, sure, but not for a wife.

    My sister is serious with a Canadian man (we live in southern Ontario) and one of the major concerns my parents had was that white men tend to leave or divorce or lose interest in their wives after they have children because of the disproportionate value they place on looks. They eased up on their concern after they checked his background (he is one of 5 children and his parents have been married forever ditto with both sets of grandparents).

    Also, I can see why a lot of men resent feminism but it has benefited men in one sense. The whole “equality and fairness” thing that is now so ingrained in Western men really, really, really makes you lot attractive to non-Western women who come from patriarichal, macho societies (like me).

  • Jonathan

    You all have to understand where women’s hunger for alphamales comes from. THEY WANT THEIR SONS TO HAVE REPRODUCTIVE SUCCESS. Having a beta or omega son could be the same as having a homosexual son. The reason for disappointment is the same. No grandchildren and end of the genetic line. Almost all women throughout history manage to reproduce. A huge percent of men don’t. That’s why women have the desire hardwired.
    Asking women to settle is the same as asking a man to not crave good looks and fertility.
    Women don’t even need alphas to be husbands. They’re happy to share alphas. All they want is that alpha seed. The seed is key.

  • http://soundcloud.com/aesis AnalogCocktail

    This is the most fantastic piece of writing I’ve read since Augusten Burroughs. Consider me a subscriber.

  • bobbb

    i think many of the commenters here need to bear in mind that the author of this piece has never (?) had a real long term relationship and is clearly quite hung up on his life as a social non-entity before PUA. hardly surprising then that he is fixated on appearance and youthfulness.

  • Anonymous

    What’s funny is that Tina Fey married as a virgin to a beta type dude and rejected some alpha dude in college.

  • MDK

    @seeker of truth
    I agree. Ask any girl to rate themselves on a scale of 1-10 and whatever number she gives you, deduct 2 or 3 points and that is most likely what she really is. Men are much more likely to be humble and know their place in terms of what they can and cant get than women, roosh has it spot on. Its bad here in OKC. I was downtown last night at a thunder game and while I was walking I noticed a good looking guy holding hands with what appeared to be an over sized gumball. This woman had to be at least 250 and the guy was fit and in shape so if they break up, that woman’s standards will forever be at the level that guy was at. unbelievable….

  • MDK

    @this is disgusting
    This blog is based off of the actions of women, not the words of women. Ask any girl what they want in a man and they will probably say a lot of the crap you just said about not caring about money and social status. Women SAY a lot of shit, that doesnt make it true. How many 9s and 10s do you see married to men who are working minimum wage jobs with no college degrees? Let me know when you find one.

  • MCA

    It’s apparent that the dude who wrote this has never been with a hot chick. Trust me, after you’ve fucked a really hot girl, the sheen wears off and you don’t even notice their hotness anymore. After this happens, you better hope that the girl is dynamite in the sack or has a cool personality, otherwise you’ll end up with a very beautiful dud.

    As far as the angry dorks bashing feminism, what the fuck is wrong with you morons? I don’t know about you dumb fucks, but I don’t want to go back to a time when women fucking around was frowned upon. Simply put, if you hate feminism and women fucking whenever and with whomever they feel like, then you need to hand over your balls because dudes who are getting laid don’t need you conspiring against us. By the way, how do you pussies feel about sharing Rick Santorum’s morality?

  • bobbb

    @MCA

    dude has pathological problem with commitment and stable relationships, sexual or no. one of his recurring themes is the impermanence of adult friendships, and his own lack of interest in maintaining them.

    if you make your life’s purpose banging new women, of course appearance matters a great deal. and if you spent your whole early life as a cipher to pretty girls, this only worsens the pathology.

    i don’t think i’m being particularly scathing. all of this is plainly on show in his published work

  • DistinguishedGentleman

    @100 MCA

    “As far as the angry dorks bashing feminism, what the fuck is wrong with you morons? I don’t know about you dumb fucks, but I don’t want to go back to a time when women fucking around was frowned upon. Simply put, if you hate feminism and women fucking whenever and with whomever they feel like, then you need to hand over your balls because dudes who are getting laid don’t need you conspiring against us. By the way, how do you pussies feel about sharing Rick Santorum’s morality?”

    EXACTLY! Love 99.9% of Roosh’s post. But this anti-feminism attitude is straight up retarded. There are good parts and bad parts to feminism. I think it’s a massive plus for guys overall.

    Some guys (like Roosh) are waaaay too sensitive about the Plain Jane 5s out there thinking they’re all that (as if this was somehow “better” back in the day). When some “6″ acts too hot for the room, your attitude should not be to get mad. It should be to say “fuck this” and move on to the next. (And why are you even talking to her in the first place?)

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  • Anonymous

    Cheers @ 102 DistinguishedGentleman

    It’s very revealing when someone reacts with anger to another person not playing their social role correctly (such as a woman acting as though she’s worth more than you feel she is). A person secure in himself would have a reaction somewhere between disinterest to mild annoyance. Severe annoyance and anger suggest that the author actually feels his own sense of self is threatened by these women who don’t follow the rules.

  • ken squire

    This is brilliant.

  • http://Buttholesurfer123@yahoo.com Dddddddd

    Women everywhere need to just close their legs unless they’re married, or at least have a ring on their finger. They are giving it away to you guys for literally NOTHING and it’s time to wise up. As soon as they figure out that the cock carousel ends in catlady land and not marriage, they’ll get off for good. Hopefully before they’re too old. Instead of sleepin around with you guys and putting out they should spend their time working out, taking cooking classes, and honing their domestic skills.

  • Anonymous

    If this is the most important thing, how can women “get hotter”? Do you mean plastic surgery?
    Except for fatness, hotness is down to genetics.
    I can wear dresses and heels and do my hair, but the main indicator of beauty is a pretty face and nice boobs and those can’t be faked without surgery, which most men find unattractive.

  • J.M.

    @ MCA, infamous gentleman, @Bob and @anonymous

    Thank you for coming. The article needed trolls and mindless opposition to spice things up, otherwise it would be boring to read all the comments agreeing with something that was common sense for ALL our ancestors until the morons of our grandfathers. Roosh is disfunctional, your defense of feminism equals jews hailing nazis and negroes praising their arab masters hahaha.

  • Anonymous

    LMMFAO!! Shallow much? You’d probably have a lot more fun if you lost some (no, I didn’t say all) of the maCHEESEmo. There are some really cool girls out there. Even hot ones that are cool. They’re single at 35 because they see through all the bullshit and decided it’s too complicated. I am fun and smart. Witty and not afraid to get dirty. Proud and not apologetic in the least about going out and making my own money. Unafraid to claim my own orgasm. My house is clean, and my cooking will take a grown man down. And I ain’t too shabby to look at. Never had any trouble getting a date when single. My boyfriend isn’t a male model, but I see 10 when I look at him because he wasn’t a pussy and got down off of his high horse to look me in the eye and treat me as an EQUAL. That’s why I love doing all the little things to make sure he’s happy and taken care of. I’m by no means a feminist, but I am also NO man’s slave or plaything. Maybe crazy old cat ladies came to the conclusion that cats would be better company than a shallow, selfish man. Lol. It just tickles me to pieces. Get OVER yourselves already and come down off the cross. We need the flippin’ wood.

  • Anonymous

    If women were simple and straight forward to understand, there would have never been a need for a manual on pickup (the game). Dating used to be straightforward. Men bring strength and masculinity, and women bring in love and feminity. Now we see a huge role reversal. Pretty much woman can do most things that men do, thus questioning and shaking the reality that men are used to this far. Go online on match or any online profile. You will find majority of women talk about how they are adventurous, love sports, like to hang out with friends, likes to or travelled to a ton of places, pose for ton of pictures some of them even air brushed. No women ever have talked about what a great gf or wife she would make, or what kind of home keeping skills she can bring in. Or how great a cook she is, or how helpful she would be on day to day affairs. Women seem to care only about superficial stuff. And lo and behold tehy turn over 32 or so they flip around and start settling down with any guy they find.

    I for one never asked a hot super model. I actually like plain janes as long as they arent over weight or obese. And have a personality and a overall friendly adorable smile, and a reasonable bit of education and intelligence. I always believed everything else can be learnt eventually. But instead i got stomped all over and now i am branded a jerk. Yeah i get laid fairly regulalry. But when i look at my old pictures i was atleast happy. Now all i have is a huge void.

  • jon

    I think there are some issues with is advice because I’ve ran into a number of very hot girls that I just couldn’t stand to talk to for any length of time. I could tell they were brain dead and all they had to talk about was what Kim Kardashian did last week or what they saw on Jersey Shore. It doesn’t matter how much I want a girl when I see her if she then opens her mouth and sounds like a complete idiot. I just lose all interest at that point even if I try very hard to keep looking at her ass to make myself horny, it just won’t work.

    Aside from many girls being far to stupid the rest of the advice is right. I would add that girls should stop digging for gold. They have to drop their obsession with money and their materialism if they want to be happy. Marrying some rich dude they don’t love, then divorcing him years later and taking him to the cleaners seems to be the norm in America. Meanwhile smart good looking guys that aren’t necessarily rich are forced to leave the country to find a girl.

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  • Anon

    This guy is a mysoginistic jerk … First off he’s not right … I know at least three objectively beautiful gorgeous young looking single women over thirty there are tons of them … I also kniw plenty of plain janes who married quite attractive men … men care about more than looks … certainly its a factor but looks alone diesnt keep a man … men have emotional needs and care about personality and brains too The problem is not what you look like as a womanto attracting a quality guy it’s the guys out there are afraid of commitment and like the freedom of the single life … But a man whose relationship ready is looking for a good woman not nec a Barbie doll … The majority of women who are walking around are not supermodels and they get into relationships just like ‘hot’ women do … Also men have different looks preferences thank goodness for that … And I also know plenty of women who met their soul mates after thirty … To suggest to women take whatever you can get is degrading … The divorce rate is fifty percent … Women who rush into marriage will be single parents a few years later … Is that what he’s proposing women do ?

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  • Anonymous

    This article is ridiculously simplifying, but the essential kernels of truth are so ignored, so insightful (to a woman without clear insight into the male mind) and so worthwhile to embrace that I am happy to have read it.
    Honestly, I get tired of women being insulted by other women, friends included, for cultivating their appearance with high effort. It’s so patronizing to be treated like a real choice of yours is you being a lemming- like the media indoctrinated me to want to be physically attractive or pursued by a man whom I’m considering getting close to (as opposed to tolerate tepid treatment, splitting on dates, etc)- like it’s not embracing my nature (maybe human nature) or based on a reasonable understanding of what men respond to, like it’s not sincere. … I hate feminists for talking down to me.

    I came to this article from the Rules Revisited blog and find his opinion on the average woman’s potential for hotness to be notably different from yours. I agree with him that the average young woman, staying thin, working out, doing her hair nicely, etc., would be beautiful- hot to many, given individualized attraction. Is your assertion that so few women are hot hyperbole or bitterness (like, you’re just fed up with women and the dating world) or do you really have that high standards? I aspire for hotness and find acceptance or encouragment of mediocrity to be the norm in most things so am curious about your (or anyone with high standard’s) take on what constitues hot?

  • Ashley

    This. Is. Epic.

  • Dawn

    Lol. Um, a really hot woman is not going to settle for a guy making a measly 200k a year. Maybe if he also has a net worth of at least a few million. I mean, do you really expect us to settle?

    Lmao!

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  • Nikoloz

    Yeah… your reading comprehension needs work.
    He’s saying “be hot and keep standards lower than what your level of hotness can realistically get you.”

  • opus

    I don’t get this because I see plenty of “challenged” looking chicks that are wifed up or dating. They weren’t hot but they landed a man. So does this mean the man must be willing to settle for what he can get and lower his standards? lol

  • k8

    That seems to make them happy, marrying rich guys and robbing them blind. It’s nice if you’re enough of a sociopath to pull it off.

  • k8

    Imagine if you were a girl looking at that. This is why we have an obesity epidemic. I don’t know what is up with this but there are a lot of really buff guys who seem to like dating land whales. It just kills any motivation I have for being pretty.

  • AriD2385

    As it turns out, people’s appearance is not the sum of who they are. He might be handsome and she plain, but he must have found something in her that brought more value to his life than being single or pursuing other options. Moreover, who knows what shortcomings he might have or virtues she might have that would make their relationship one of equals.

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  • GuestBoinkaMaster

    “I also kniw plenty of plain janes who married quite attractive men …”

    These men are beta’s. That’s ok, if that is what the woman wants.

  • BigBoobyLovah

    Being an Omega is NOT bad: An omega is merely an Alpha that is independent or a loner, still dominant, and still straight-up Alpha. Word.