There Are No Rules

The biggest problem I see in men is that they needlessly limit themselves with arbitrary constraints, waiting for someone with courage to attempt what they want to see if the coast is clear or if it “works” or not. You have a lot of men who sit on their ass, waiting for proof of concept, scared to task a risk without a guarantee of a big reward.

“You can’t make money self-publishing. It’s for amateur writers only.”

While one man spends five years getting rejected by agents and publishers, wasting money attending writing conferences, another man breaks the rules by producing books on his own, getting them on top-selling lists on Amazon. One sought to be approved by the gatekeepers while the other took the plunge on his own dime.

“It’s too hard to live abroad. I will continue living in this expensive American city and hopefully travel when I retire early at 45.”

While one man wastes the prime of his life in a job he hates for a future that may never come, another man is making a fraction of his income in internet marketing or English teaching, but still able to travel modestly, have extra time for leisure, and sleep with women who weigh less than himself.

“Game doesn’t work. Only rich guys who are good looking get to experience sex with attractive women. No one is really having sex anymore.”

While one man masturbates on game denialist forums, another man who is short and average-looking with minimal means is approaching girls in the coffee shop, the mall, and the bar to get a varied sex life than men of a generation before him did not.

You can’t approach a girl in a women’s store. You can’t borrow a friend’s dog to use as a prop to approach women. You’re too young to make a lot of money or travel. You’re not experienced enough to start an authority blog. One man lets these doubts prevent him from action while another man uses them to challenge himself into being successful.

No one is giving you homework. No one is forcing you to create something, do approaches, or take risks. No one will punish you if you decide to do nothing, or simply do just enough to have an average existence where you vicariously live through men who are no more skilled or intelligent than you are.

At the same time, no one is telling you what you can’t do. There are some laws that can limit how to make money, but it can’t stop you from going to places where laws either don’t exist or can be lubricated with bribery. Even if you want to start a cocaine empire, there are places in the world where you can apply your intellect and balls to get away with it. The only limitation is what you imagine.

Man has never lived in a time where there are so many countries that give him more freedom of behavior than at any other time in the world. Right now you can start an internet business without need for a permit. You can approach 100 women and get laid, today, not tomorrow, not next year, but right now. Even in the police states of American and England, you’ve never had more mobility and more information to create your own lifestyle, as if you were at an all-you-can-eat buffet. A spoon of sex with Latinas combined with a hunk of internet money and a dash of waking up at noon. Don’t forget the dessert of having big muscles. Whatever you dream can be yours, and all it requires is for you to take the risk and work at it.

It pains me to see men apply self-imposed limits on their own behavior, limits that even their own governments haven’t placed. Instead of breaking the rules in an era where rule breaking is greatly rewarded, they’ve voluntarily walked into a jail of their own making to be shackled and constrained.

I spit on your decision to protect yourself from failure. I spit on your imaginary limitations. Let the market decide if your risk is worth value. Let a woman decide upon your approach if you’re worth having intimacy with her. All you should think about is how to get what you want and how to begin working. Take the risk and begin to work. Break the rules that your mind tries to set upon you and then reap the rewards.

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  • LaM

    Don’t fall for this guys.
    It looks damn good on paper but real life will crush your dreams. Roosh makes it sound like creating an internet business in marketing (lol) is a piece of cake.

    It is not, it requires skills, skills you need to acquire. You need to find your niche first, and guess what, you won’t be able to capitalize on many niches. That’s the harsh cold truth.

    Roosh capitalized on his niche, good for him. Now he is stuck in this niche, the only other legit option would be teaching English, yet English teachers don’t make good money, wherever they are.
    Don’t take advice from a guy who looks up to a younger man who can afford bottle service.
    You need to develop skills you can rely on and are valuable to society.

  • Moses

    @14 Peddle your doom and gloom elsewhere, mate.

  • http://www.realnaturalseduction.com Vincent Vinturi

    Amen Roosh.

    What is life but a big playground? If it wasn’t, why would we even be here?

    “No, you’ve got to do X, Y and Z!” but the only thing you really HAVE to do is die. And the grand irony is that only the ALIVE man who lives following HIS heart, has no fear of death.

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    But a real man who lives and speaks his truth and goes courageously into the unknown every day, who faces the reaper with each moment existence gives him – he has no fear of death.

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  • http://made-men.com Made Men

    You are free as soon as you recognize that you are.

    It sounds like pablum, e.g. “what you believe, you can achieve!” but there is truth to it. The only shackles that exist, the only thing constraining your actions is a cell that you constructed, bit by bit over the course of years and seconds.

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    And the answer is, in seeing through the illusions your own mind constructed.

  • http://strategyfocussuccess.com/ William

    True. You can do a lot of these things. But the key is how you prioritize and focus.

    But, you’re point is valid…. F the rules. I’m beginning to think you can get farther in life by doing the exact opposite of whatever who gives you rules says. If somebody says “you can’t do that” or “even I can’t do that”… go TRY it and see if they are right or wrong. Only after trying it will you know for sure (and even if they are right and you don’t prove them wrong… you’ll probably learn a lot more in the process than they did from just sitting around saying “you can’t.”

    I know its not a movie often quoted in game blogs – but it reminds me of the scene in Love & Basketball, when Q was a kid and he said, “I can’t do this shit!”
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  • Tampa

    You can do whatever the fuck you want. It really is try.

    Actually a better statemetn is….”As long as you stay debt free, you can TRY to do whatever the fuck you want, and nobody will stop you, and nobody will really care. Success depends on how hard you try.”

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    I’m pretty content right now. I’m sure that will change in the future, but for now, i’m pretty happy sitting on my ass and doing nothing.

    Live and let live baby.

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  • anon

    “Don’t fall for this guys.
    It looks damn good on paper but real life will crush your dreams. Roosh makes it sound like creating an internet business in marketing (lol) is a piece of cake.”

    I can attest to this. Look, there’s a lot to be said for what Roosh has written here, but LaM is right on the money in this respect. Launching a successful, longterm internet marketing business, whether as an affiliate or as a product owner, is the toughest thing you’ll ever do.

    Most of you who try this will fail miserably, wasting time and money and getting nothing out of it. Some of you will manage to earn a bit of beer money, but nowhere near enough to carve out a comfortable living, even in a poor country. Fewer of you still will be moderately successful, but will quickly learn the difference between making $100 IN A day, and making $100 PER day – with all the stress that entails. And maybe one in a thousand will actually succeed at creating a stable, longterm living from this.

    And unfortunately, it is getting increasingly difficult.

    Go ahead and label this negative doom-and-gloom. Go out there and try. But don’t say you weren’t warned.

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    Great Post! Thought Provoking and inspirational…

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    I’ve pasted this YouTube vid before and feel its more than complimentary to Rooshs post.

    http://youtube.com/watch?v=rKLlqUTUJ9M&feature

    I agree, nothing beats failure but a try. I’ve put my neck on the line with various investments that have paid off, I only believe in calculated risk not out and out rolling the dice stuff, that’s gambling. I think Roosh is experiencing what i am right now which is, if I can do it, any one can do it and I want people to know this so they can improve their happiness. You need to have that burning desire to achieve though, it ain’t a walk in the park, but it’s more enjoyable than slaving away for someone else, whether they’re a good boss or not.

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  • Roosh

    14 and 21 are giving really good advice. Don’t try, life is hard, why bother? Suicide, consider it.

  • iwjan

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  • LaM

    Roosh, I like your work, and I respect what you did and what you achieved.
    Yet you need to realise who your audience his, most your readers are not Virgile Kent’s, they are average, and average doesn’t make the cut when it comes to being a successful risk taker.

    It’s not about realizing you are free, it’s about acquiring skills that will set you free.
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    [Roosh: I don't want average readers, and I'm encouraged that posts like this turn them off. Now go read Engadget and AskMen and spare us your fearful comments.]

  • anon

    Who said not to try? Of course you should try. I said as much in my own post. But your post needs to be tempered by a dose of reality. Most of your readers who attempt what you’re proposing will fail. That’s a fact, jack. If you’re not happy about it, take it up with God or something.

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    Reality doesn’t sell. That’s what the problem is here.

  • Anonymous

    I think a lot of people (myself included) don’t want to push our comfort zone which results in putting things off and short term happiness. This was an inspiring read to get moving. Thanks

  • OhNoFailure

    “Most of your readers who attempt what you’re proposing will fail. That’s a fact, jack.”

    This is loser talk. So what? Of course you’re going to fail. The key is to learn from that failure, get your ass up, and try again with something different based on what you’ve learned. I’ve banked over $500,000 from internet marketing type businesses, after taxes. I’m also a successful professional making mid-six figures from a day job. You know why I’m the guy who succeeded where a bunch of other guys “fail?”

    Because all the other guys gave up. I failed at probably 20 business ideas or schemes to make money before I ever hit on one that made any. After my first limited success with internet marketing, it took me about four years of repeated failed ideas before I ever found one that made much again. Then I made a huge burst of money – and failed again when it collapsed.

    I’ve got dozens of failures for each success. There’s one reason why I’m a millionaire and the average guy is sitting around whining about how he has no money and can’t ever succeed: because after each failure, I sat around for awhile thinking about why it didn’t work, then picked my ass off the ground and tried something different.

  • hmmm

    ‘No one will punish you for avoiding risks and living a minimal existence’ … true … but Life itself will punish you severely for this choice.

    Fear of risk/failure is a kind of prison, and often conformity is too.
    Indifference can be very liberating.

  • hmmm

    A common but insidious trap is to focus so much on avoiding one particular pitfall that you don’t see that you have paid too high a price for doing that.

  • Andrew

    Sad thing is, most people, men included, have evolved to follow the lead of better men. Not everyone can be an alpha in a society : we need alphas, betas, omegas, they all complete each other in a good society.

    But right now, the leaders of society don’t lead. They only care about their own interest. So the vast majority of people are clueless lemmings roaming around.

  • http://thecaptainpower.blogspot.com thecaptainpower

    Good post Roosh! When I was finishing up my first book, people on amazon were telling me to expect 50 sales TOPS. I did 150 in the first 3 months.

    I will probably make a whopping $1,000 this year from it, but at least I made an effort. If you don’t try, nothing will happen.

    And it will at least pay for a vacation ; )

  • Abe

    Good stuff. I haven’t determined yet whether most people have zero self-awareness or if they just don’t enjoy improving themselves, but it irritates me how little most people grow.

  • Big Jim

    “Man is born free, and everywhere he is in chains.” -Rousseau

  • http://www.moralinefree.blogspot.com jesse

    Substitute “life” for “market” and “trading” in the following quotes…

    “Win or lose, everybody gets what they want out of the market. Some people seem to like to lose, so they win by losing money.”

    “I think that if people look deeply enough into their trading patterns, they find that, on balance, including all their goals, they are really getting what they want, even though they may not understand it or want to admit it.”

    –Ed Seykota, MARKET WIZARDS: Interviews With Top Traders

  • avd

    Roosh, how do I properly say this? I’m proud of your rate of growth. Good on you. Unlike others, you are GROWING.

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    30 -> There is no such thing as “internet marketing type business”. You don’t sell marketing. But cool story bro.

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  • Spike

    I think people are focusing too much on the particulars instead of the general message. I don’t want to live abroad, count flags or be an internet entrepreneur. No, that’s not because I’m trying to convince myself that I like my shitty office job and that the best a man can do in life is rub one out between X-Box gaming sessions. It’s about finding what *you* want to do with yourself, and doing it to the utmost. In my case, drop the shit office work, get a trade apprenticeship and work a skilled trade, preferably in the sun, stay on my beloved island with my family and culture which I value and wish to perpetuate, and get enough Game to find a woman who hasn’t been spoiled rotten by our globalized atomized commercial culture and keep her that way for the long haul. Even if Roosh himself thinks my goals are stupid, I don’t care because I *know* that’s what *I* want.

    Of course if your inclinations match Roosh, you probably get more value-added in his advice, but I come here for the Game, the stories and the general philosophy, and that more than suffices.

  • Mark Minter

    I read the further reading at the bottom “Everyone is hoping you will fail”. Not me, man. I root for you as I root for no athlete, no politician.

    You’re my horse in this race. I am cheering you on, rooting for you, and hope to fucking God the one day, you get big as big can be.

    You are the role model I hold up for all young men. “Do that. Be that.”

    You go boy. You fucking go.

  • OhNoFailure

    40 – don’t be fucking dense. A bunch of various businesses that are or were generally relating to marketing shit on the internet. Wallowing in semantics to avoid listening to what I’m telling you isn’t going to get you anywhere. Listening to someone who’s actually been successful might.

    Put it another way: you’re on a site about how to pick up women. Imagine someone came here and said “what’s the point of ever asking anyone out, 99% of women I ask out will reject me?” So the hell what? Go ask some out, fuck it up, and learn how to do it better next time. Succeeding in business isn’t really all that different.

  • corey

    Whaddabout this????????
    http://www.rooshv.com/today-is-day-zero-in-the-destruction-of-man

    “Today Is Day Zero In The Destruction Of Man”

    quote:
    “I look into the future for guys like us and all I see is darkness. It’s not getting better anywhere. There is no place where women are becoming more feminine, where worker power over industry is increasing, or where people put aside technology to interact more with their fellow man. This means we have no choice but to become flexible and location independent, moving from one pile of rubble to the next, trying to squeeze out the remaining ounces of happiness that the world is capable of giving us. Baby boomer men have lived in what was perhaps the best time to have been a man on earth, where they could marry a real woman and build a family while working a stable job, all in the same place. That’s over, and it will never improve. Loot while you can.”

  • seth

    There are no rules as long as you play by the rules of the ‘elite’.

  • seth

    Oh yeah, as you can guess, my answer is that these guys should and will eventually be sent down.

  • Walt

    Roosh is right. I see some guys with motivation do more in a week than most lame-os could do in a decade.

    Rather than get concerned or lose my cool while things are going on, my thought is “whatever happens, I’ll deal with it….”

    Shit or get off the pot. So many of the nation’s problems are exacerbated by people waiting for things to come to them rather than meeting them half way.

  • Nicky G

    You inspire me. You’re one of the best of our generation and we’re just warming up. I’ve started hustling on Amazon, written my own ebook, and stopped being a slave to pussy and material posessions. If I fail then I fail. I’ll not die knowing in my heart that I could’ve done more. Thank you

  • Gurgle

    Unfortunately, there are many situations and careers where your outcome is dependent upon what other people think.

    You cannot be properly trained as a lawyer unless a partner at an established firm hires you. You cannot be a university professor unless you make it through the hiring committee. You cannot be a stockbroker unless . . .

    Being a free agent accountable to no one sounds great but it only works in a small percentage of cases.

    Conformists have better career outcomes overall.

  • earl

    @ ROOSH KNOW IT ALL
    “14 and 21 are giving really good advice. Don’t try, life is hard, why bother? Suicide, consider it.”

    No. 14 said:”You need to develop skills you can rely on and are valuable to society.”

    Thats not being negative, thats a nuts and bolts thing to acquire in order to achieve the greater goal.

    No. 21: “I can attest to this. Look, there’s a lot to be said for what Roosh has written here, …. Launching a successful, longterm internet marketing business, whether as an affiliate or as a product owner, is the toughest thing you’ll ever do.”

    Anon 21 Isn’t saying not to do it, but I also have known a few web based business people that had trouble realizing a profit.

    From both no. 14 and no. 21 we can conclude that nothing is easy and requires more tha n a positive attitude and smoke blown up our asses, thats all.

    If all i wanted to hear about was having a positive attitude and “there are no rules, girl” i’d go to one of the many gynocentric sites. But i assume your site is different because as an unplugged site it factors in everything, good and bad to go for the goal in a realistic manner.

  • Jesus123

    Roosh, I’m on your side.

    People like Social Kenny should not be making “Authority Blogs”, and this post gives them the confidence to do so.

    That’s all that I wanted to say. I wasn’t attempting to slight you at all. I read your blog regularly.

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  • you can’t hide

    I’m still going to read your blog.

  • Giovonny

    #36 — “Man is born free, and everywhere he is in chains.” -Rousseau

    I like that.

    Too many of us are living in fear.

    Fear is a mind-prison.

    I also like this one:

    “Most men lead lives of quiet desperation”

  • El Guapo

    Most people don’t assess risk properly. They over estimate sometimes and underestimate others. The reason, in my experience, is that they allow emotions to color their judgement. When you understand this it and analyse your past mistakes it gets easier to overcome making these bad judgements from misunderstanding the risk. A classic example is when deciding to approach a girl. Almost no real downside yet that’s not how it feels to the unpracticed.

  • Some Guy

    “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” ~Theodore Roosevelt

  • madmax

    well, men like these are complete and closed-minded dicks. They are little whining bitches. You can’t say something works or not if you have not tried it for yourself, end of story.

    Even I, who am pessimistic and pretty bitter about my life and life in general, never really said ‘it doesn’t work’ if I have not tried it. I am actually glad I tried something even if it didn’t work, and I respect myself for that.

    Like I said, I am pessimistic and bitter (not to an extreme level, but let’s face it, nothing worth doing is easy, and life isn’t really a wonderful walk in the park), but if I am pessimistic, is because I actually tried things. When you try something, it can go one way or another. And if I failed, I blame no one for that, not even myself. And if you do blame yourself, you are making a mistake: you can say ‘I could have done this instead of that’ but you should not beat yourself up. You gave it a shot. Hell, that’s all you can do. And don’t listen to the fuckers who will tell you how bad you are, they are on the same spectrum as the little whiny bitches who moan and complain about shit they don’t know. They should both be bitchslapped.

    There’s only one rule: if you haven’t tried it, and you know it worked for somebody else, shut the fuck up. Oh, the place where people such as these gather, is puahate. Man, what a forum of fucking bitches, someone should piss on their face.

  • keith

    There are some laws that can limit how to make money, but it can’t stop you from going to places where laws either don’t exist

    This is a point I really like. In the U.S. there are so many licensing laws, subsidies for politically connected companies, and other barriers to entry. People are being sued and jailed for cutting hair without a license here! All of this makes leaving the country a great option. Roosh talks a lot about internet businesses but there are so many other options and most of these options are outside the U.S.

  • http://quintuscurtius.com Quintus Curtius

    Concordo totalmente, camarado….

  • Anonymous

    i turned 40 a few months ago ad have a net worth of 1.5 million. I am RICH according to statistics. The AVG. millionaire is a self made guy.

  • yungpiz

    so fucking true…

    recently wrote on the same topic

    http://misterinfinite.com/2013/05/01/limitations/

  • Mohammed Stevenson Braun

    Somebody mentioned the Baby Boomers living in a golden age for men. The problem is that schools, colleges, and to a certain extent society is still stuck in that golden age. By that I mean giving out dated advice that would have worked in the 1950s and 1960s but not today. Very few institutions properly equip young people with the knowledge of how to survive TODAY, in the modern stripped-down world.

  • Raskolnikov

    I have been reading some of your texts recently. I have discovered the red pill recently partly by my own intuition and understanding, partly by reading up on it. I don’t need to be convinced anymore of the veracity of it.

    But this particular text of yours resonated with me. I have been limiting myself for so long, and just now recently, the blinders fell off, the walls tore down. And suddenly I felt and breathed the invigorating fresh air of the universe that lies ahead of me, with loads of unexplored planets to be conquered.

    I just wanted to say I respect you, as corny as that may sound from someone replying from behind a computer screen.

  • Lacedric Towerwood

    It’s posts like this that really speak to me.

    Solid writing Roosh.

    And piss on society’s artificial chains of the imagination and human spirit. Commie ass pigs.

  • Jean Talon

    I really like this. But, from one writer to another, I am still going to build a profile for myself by getting published in lit mags and look for representation with a good lit agency.