A lot of guys email me for relationship advice, where they banged the girl and now want to keep her over a long period of time. They may find the game to be fun and life-changing, but they ultimately want to settle down with one beautiful flower, which is probably what you want as well.
Unfortunately, I can’t help you much there. I have a PhD in one-month sexual relationships, not pair bonding. That said, the blogger formerly known as Roissy has put out the best relationship advice for men that you can find on the internet. Here are what I think to be his top 15 relationship posts:
- Agree And Amplify - an elegant method for dealing with shit tests
- Dread - how instilling dread helps promotes a healthy relationship
- Teasing Should Be Like Breathing - how to maintain a fun, attractive vibe in your relationships
- The Fundamentals - how to be the aloof and indifferent man
- Relationship Game Thoughts - dozens of practical relationship tips, rapid style
- Tender Lovemaking - how to deal with various relationship scenarios like making plans and visiting family
- Trumped-up Charges - how to respond when a girl starts nagging at you
- Things A Man Should Never Say First In A Relationship - how to avoid saying cringeworthy lines
- I Love You Too - how to respond when a woman says she loves you
- Subtle Dominance Plays - how to execute moves that increase your power
- The Male-Female Spontaneous Touch Initiation Ratio - how to judge the health of your relationship
- How Good Is Your Alpha Acumen - what to do when your girlfriend treats you poorly in front of other people
- Hints Your Relationship Is Doomed - how to regain the upper hand when you’ve lost the power in a relationship
- The Easiest Way To Revive A Flagging Relationship - what to do when your girlfriend withdraws from you
- The Hazards Of Long Term Relationships - how to avoid the negative features of relationships
These fifteen posts are safely saved on my hard drive. Who knows, maybe one day I’ll get into a serious relationship myself.Tweet Follow @rooshv
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Great, great list here and essential to the modern day married man/LTR-man.
After getting married it’s too easy for a clueless guy, like I was, to slip into some major beta habits thinking they will charm the panties off of his wife. Well, it never works. If you get sex, it’s pity sex; she’s just not attracted like she was anymore and the man gets friendzoned within his own damn marriage.
Maybe I should start writing about this. I think most men who get into the game do so to find a decent girlfriend. Men like Roosh and GMAC who become very good at seduction are in the minority.
I was focused on getting quality notches before I got into my current LTR. Basically, I was just working on my seduction skills and never thought I would meet a girl worthy of being my girlfriend. Because I always had the mentality that a girl would have to work hard for my commitment, it’s been easier for me to maintain my frame in this relationship than the men who get into game just to find a girlfriend.
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I was married for 8 long years and let me tell you Ive been single and playing the field for a while now that Ive been divorced and when I was married Id actually write down when my wife would hit me up for sex Because I just plain got tired of her rejecting my advances,and it turned out to only be every 25 days or so.women usually get hornier a few days before they are on the rag”hormones” other than that it was spank city for the other days for me.marriage needs to be with someone with the same sex drive as you.other wise youll be miserable and may aswell be single.
@Mike That’s a great lesson for those thinking of getting married. Being the man never stops.
I’m happily married to the greatest girl I’ve ever met, and I still use “game” concepts to keep our relationship fresh and exciting.
Background: I’m a white guy born and raised in California, she’s Eastern European and moved to the USA as a teenager.
I love reading game blogs because they validate the concepts I’ve been using to keep my wife happy and keep our marriage strong.
I STILL tease her all the time, the same as when we were dating. I STILL neg her occasionally, I STILL use subtle dominance plays (most of which come naturally anyway), and I STILL get the occasional shit test. These I easily swat away with either an agree & amplify, or I go completely silent and just intensely stare at her with a blank face until she looks down and away.
My wife LOVES me for it. Women want to be “gamed”, and they want a man who knows how to do it. This doesn’t change, even after marriage.
Chateau Heartiste sucks. I promise you will rarely link to new posts from there. The quality of writing and thought is just gone. Midgets on giants shoulders and that.
Turning to Roissy for relationship advice is laughable. The guy is a resentful beta who overcompensated.
@Y yup, you have to keep it up.
@WhiteHistory I had to learn the hard way after having two kids and having sex maybe once a month. After reading about “game” it wasn’t that I needed to be a PUA in the same way that I would if I were single again but that learning about game started making sense within the context of a marriage/LTR because it involves remembering how to be an attractive man even while married.
Everything you said is true about teasing, negs, dominance and shit tests within marriage.
And you know what? There’s now an expectation of sex everynight. Instead of “can we have sex tonight” from me and getting turned down, it’s “we might not have sex tonight” and it’s usually because we’re both way too tired or it’s day 1 or 2 of her period.
Long term relationships. *yawn*
What do you think, Roosh, CAN it happen once you find a fountain of never ending, eternally self renewing flow of pussy?
Friends call me serial-monogamist, since I’m not really about one night stands … a month or two, niiice. Then the shiny wears off and new things start looking cuter up in the distance.
Also I think the whole ‘game’ bizniss isn’t that super relevant, other than specifically in long term relationships, where balls tend to atrophy. Game thoughts: http://two.cedonulli.com/2011/08/game-the-science/
Yeah Roissy has been writing great stuff on relationships for years. Agree and Amplify is by far my favorite tactic, makes for fun dates.
The only reason a woman is attracted to you is because she thinks other women are attracted to you & that you can attract other women. That fact does not change when you are in a monogamous relationship.
The fire that keeps a woman’s attraction for you alive is the subconscious possibility that you are fucking other women.
The attraction dies in a typical relationship because the guy has all but given up because he feels he is guaranteed pussy and gets lazy. A man without other options is unattractive to women.
Thus, the guys who remain most attractive in a relationship are the guys who do not need a relationship to get laid.
“I had to learn the hard way after having two kids and having sex maybe once a month.”
That’s what pretty much happens to married guys. Marriage = less sex, less variety than being single and going out every weekend.
Even if a guy is totally hopeless at pickup, hookers once a week costs less than a wife and much less than an ex-wife.
I’m a big fan of Athol Kay:
This guy also uses some Game tactics in his marriage.
Thus, the guys who remain most attractive in a relationship are the guys who do not need a relationship to get laid.
The man who knows he can go out and pick up another chick today isn’t going to be needy and he isn’t going to put up with shit. He’s ready to walk away.
Roissy does give really good tips with women; however, his socioeconomic/political posts are downright embarrassing so I generally skip those.
I finally settled down and had a passel of kids. Really, the kids are cute as can be. Less sex, it’s true, but at 51, the need for sex declines and the fun of watching your kids grow up is amazing.
This being said, Game tactics are still crucial to keep the wifey on her toes. She hates me when I’m beta.
This is gold
Roissyś last post on “The Reluctant Cockblock” is informative. LAst week I got cockblocked by the ugly friend of a Russian 9. Never was so frustrated. I hope Roosh will do a Anti-cockblock book soon.
“I finally settled down and had a passel of kids. Really, the kids are cute as can be. Less sex, it’s true, but at 51, the need for sex declines and the fun of watching your kids grow up is amazing.”
Enough with the rationalization. Suffice to say your wife is fat, old and ugly?
You should replace her with some hot, young ass and see how your sex drive responds.
Oh, kids are overrated. You’ll find out when they put you in the old folks’ home in a decade or so.
“Oh, kids are overrated. You’ll find out when they put you in the old folks’ home in a decade or so.”
Either you’re a parent yourself and you typed this on a computer in some retirement home or you’re basically giving your parents a reason to a take out a life insurance policy on you and then bury you with your car.
@ 20 and 21
That happens if you do not game your children. Also called proper upbringing where you don’t let other stupid kids or PC brainwashed teachers or TV shows to infuse them with more values than you do.
Figuring out how to lead you wife – another adult should be harder than figuring out how to lead your kids.
The number one tip for long term relationships, a tip Roissy never mentions, is to make it routine to give the girl commands.
You want to slowly build up expectations of her taking on an attitude of taking care you you. You use standard operant conditioning.
If she is acting as if she loves you, she will love you. So tell her how to show her love. Tell her to make you a glass of carrot juice.
Another important tip is to tell your girl how dress. This is a basic architecture of your relationship. Her dress holds the mood. She should have a house uniform that is entirely of your choosing, and is entirely of your whim. When you go out you must approve of her look, and if you don’t approve, tell her what to change.
Another tip is to mindful of how you walk together. My favorite submissive and attentive stance for the girl is to have her grab my forearm with her elbow. Actions create internal reactions – if she is acting like she is attentive and in love, she will be. Enforce the outer actions.
Another tip is to not let her lead conversations that you don’t have interest in. You can and should ignore girl chatter. Make up for ignoring her with brief periods of intense intimacy. Alternation of attention is better than a constant stream of reassurance.
And on and on. Roissy misses most long term game deep issues. It’s not really his thing.
Another quick and surefire tip is be paternal. Paternal to the point of kink. The girl is your daughter.
Don’t do them, I’ve tried long term relationships before and I got my heart broken several times and now it is just hard to replace. My advice for girls would be to find a guy who will actually treat you right and fairly and someone who is honest with you because that is what will make the difference in a long term relationship. Being a guy with a broken heart sucks right now. It sucks to feel lonely and not to fit in with the relationship crowd. Just continue to work on yourself and don’t get your self hurt anymore. It’s not fair to your self. Let the special girl come to you.
Brilliant list. Thanks for compiling that Roosh. And thank you Roissy!!!