A Typical Night Out In D.C.

Since I came back in May, I’ve been refreshing my Western-style game with VK and The Rookie. It was fun at first, but after just two months going out is no longer more satisfying for me than rolling solo in a large foreign club. To show you why, let me highlight a recent Friday night out.

GIRL #1:

I’ve gotten so used to running solo dolo game at night that a good wingman is like an added bonus. I love hanging out with my boys because of the laughs we share, not necessarily because they’re gonna help me get laid. Out of habit, sometimes I wander in a one-man wolf pack looking for opportunities.

I approached a group of four girls alone, got in, and was talking to the one I preferred (21-year-old college student) while the other three walked away. One good skill to learn is to engage the group enough so they accept you, but not so much that they all want to keep talking to you at the same time. This is where I find that Mystery’s strategy of ignoring the girl you want rarely works, because what happens is you build some rapport with a friend you don’t like, and the best-looking one will let it proceed. By the two minute mark I must engage my first choice if I want to isolate her in a reasonable amount of time.

I have a rough framework for the first thirty minutes of conversation with topics that include music, dancing, age, clothing, bar ambiance, taste in mates, and people appearances. Within each topic I have my little lines and conversation threads (I share this in Bang). This framework makes it impossible not to get a decent conversation going if the girl is single and doesn’t mind my look, allowing me to “fake” a connection with someone I have nothing in common with. If I get to the thirty minute mark, the kiss is usually mine for the taking as long as I don’t get cockblocked, but after that a semi-real connection is needed to have a good shot at the one-night stand.

With this girl I lost motivation to continue. She had no personality, no sexy vibe. I didn’t want to “work” anymore by talking to her because I had no interest in taking her to bed. So I said it was nice meeting her and walked away.

Her genetic beauty: 7
Her femininity: 5
Her sexuality: 1
Total interaction time: 10-15 minutes
Reason for no sex: I wasn’t digging the girl

GIRL #2:

We went to a different bar. I approached a cute girl walking by me and it opened. Her girlfriend started talking to my friend.

My girl was very enthusiastic in the beginning, judging by her smiling and touching. She was a little too sassy, but there was some charm lurking underneath and I liked her provocative outfit (with heels). I felt like she was a good one-night stand candidate.

Suddenly she said, “I don’t think my girl is into your friend.”

“Hmmm well they seem to be getting along, but who knows,” I said.

“No, I know her. She’s not into him.”

So what the fuck do you want me to do? I changed the subject. The energy of the interaction changed. She was smiling less. I felt like I was losing her, unable to maintain the initial momentum. Then her friend pulled her away. This is another reason why flying solo can be easier—in pairs of girls you don’t have to worry about if the friend likes your friend, though I’m not certain that’s exactly why it ended in this case. Either way, bros before hoes. Her friend’s loss.

Her genetic beauty: 7.5
Her femininity: 7
Her sexuality: 6
Total interaction time: 5-10 minutes
Reason for no sex: The girls weren’t digging me and/or my friend

GIRL #3

There was a petite girl who appeared a little sloppy (untucked collared shirt), but I saw some potential. The Rookie said she looked like Ellen Page from the movie Juno, which I haven’t seen. I approached her and we’re talking, but I realized she was totally lame. Even my energetic Moroccan friend couldn’t get her to make a facial expression. I politely bowed out.

Her genetic beauty: 6
Her femininity: 2
Her sexuality: 0
Total interaction time: 5 minutes
Reason for no sex: I wasn’t digging the girl

GIRL #4:

This girl was definitely the hottest of the night. She was a 21-year-old half-Paraguayan blonde that lived in Peru for three years as a child. Her body and face were exceptional. Her Spanish was fluent. We talked for a while and she made several compliments, saying I was “interesting” with a “rugged” look. She made a comment that her ex was about the same age as me. While it’s hard to connect with young girls, if that young girl has traveled a bit, I’ll probably be very close to her ideal type (I have a brooding traveler look they tend to like).

One problem I had is that she didn’t give me a lot to work off of, due to having little life experience (she just got out of college). At some point in the conversation we talked about dating culture in the U.S. versus other countries. My intention was to insinuate how it can be tough to meet someone you connect with, even if you live in a large city, but I think she interpreted that to mean she would die a cat lady.

Speed bump aside, we kept going. I felt like this was a very solid prospect, the best of the night thus far. Then four of her college girlfriends joined the conversation. They didn’t cockblock, thankfully, but the energy changed to where I completely lost her attention. Within a few minutes they all decided to check out another bar. I didn’t get the invite to go with them, a very bad sign. They left.

My Moroccan friend said, “Dude why didn’t you get her number?”

“Get a number off a 21 y/o that I didn’t even kiss? Pointless.” I still had a lot of groundwork to lay.

Her genetic beauty: 8.5
Her femininity: 6
Her sexuality: 3
Total interaction time: 30 minutes
Reason for no sex: Logistics, lack of solid connection

GIRL #5:

It was getting at that hour where you could see the desperation on a guy’s face. Bitch shields were going up. Men with cigars were smoking at double speed in the hopes that a woman would notice them. Other men with fedoras were constantly fixing themselves. No time for mistakes.

I saw a curly-haired girl walking through the bar alone. I stopped her and we talked for a while, in a conversation that began very similarly as the other four of the night. She was a PhD student, unfortunately, but her body was exceptional. I wanted to keep going to see what would happen.

After 15 minutes her sister rushed up to her and took her away. I wasn’t upset (am ominous sign). A short time later, she walked up to me to continue the conversation. This was a huge indicator of interest, and normally my one-night stand radar would go bonkers, but while we’re talking I noticed she was careful about maintaining her distance from me. She had proper posture, not the sloppy slouching that I would be looking for at this time of night (she stopped drinking because she had to “get up early”). There was very little touching and the interaction had a coolness about it. The auto-shutoff mechanism on my one-night stand radar kicked in. She also had lazy eye, which was rather distracting (her right eye had a mind of her own when she got excited about something). I told Morocco not to leave me alone with her, because I didn’t want to talk to her continuously.

The bar eventually closed and I walked to a pizza place with her, her friend, and some random guy. While they waited in line for their grease injection, I told them I was going to wait outside. I stepped out, realized that I only wanted to bang her if I didn’t have to talk or kiss her, an impossibility, then ditched without saying goodbye. I went home alone and jerked off.

Her genetic beauty: 7
Her femininity: 4
Her sexuality: 2
Total interaction time: 45 minutes.
Reason for no sex: I wasn’t into her.

Let’s say it takes me around 30 solid approaches to get one lay in D.C., and by solid I mean that I have to be into the girl and willing to do whatever it takes to get laid. On this night I made only two solid attempts. If I go out twice a week, that’s only 15 attempts a month (my day game opportunities are lacking right now). Unfortunately I back out in most of my approaches in D.C. because of not being interested in the girl, something that rarely happened in Brazil or Colombia. I put my heart into just about every approach I did down in those countries.

Since banging a new girl every two months in unacceptable (1-2 new notches a month is a rate that I prefer), there are two possible solutions for when I’m in America:

1. Go out more to increase the odds of finding girls that I like.

2. Lower my standards.

I’ve chosen option two. When I’m particularly horny I would drink more and go for the gold on girls number 1 and 5 above, in effect doubling my attempt rate. While I still consider them bangable, I know I’m reducing myself to specimens whose personalities and vibes I dislike. It slightly burns that I was pulling superior quality just a few months ago.

An interesting thing I’ve noticed since I’ve been back: my libido has decreased to such a level that I’ve considered going on supplements like horny goat weed. Ultimately I decided against it (I’m already numbing myself with more alcohol), but I do think it’s amusing how a city’s lackluster women can drive me to increased drug usage. My horny goat weed will continue to be stints abroad, not a pill, no matter how “natural” it is.

Believe it or not, I’m not upset about this at all. I’ve made peace with life in America because it’s feeding the beast for richer experiences elsewhere. Only thing is I doubt that I could live in this area permanently. Why should I when I can live like a prince in cities with better women?

On the next night I went out, I had a one-night stand with a girl I started talking to a little before last call.

Her genetic beauty: 6
Her femininity: 6
Her sexuality: 2
Total interaction time: 75-90 minutes
Reason for sex: Game, alcohol, lowering my standards
Happiness level: Unchanged

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  • http://wonkawilly.wordpress.com Willy Wonka

    “This is where I find that Mystery’s strategy of ignoring the girl you want rarely works, because what happens is you build some rapport with a friend you don’t like, and the best-looking one will let it proceed.”

    I’m glad to hear you say that. That is definitely the case for me as well…

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  • Anonymous

    Do you ever think that you don’t get laid in DC because you don’t have a job and have nothing to offer a woman? Seriously. “Oh, come to my Dad’s house and I’ll cook you cheap stir-fry. No we can’t go to a fancy restaurant. How about we watch a bootleg DVD on my outdated laptop?”
    Your rejection of societal norms is causing women to reject you. Game won’t help if you don’t play the game.

  • http://www.vksempireofdirt.com virgle Kent

    You know there’s a lesson to be learned here. I can’t put my finger on it though

  • Chopin

    Anonymous: do think a woman will feel attraction to a guy who approaches her with a frame of mind “I have a job and want to offer this woman a lot. The best thing would be taking her to a fancy restaurant so that she likes me and gives me a chance to offer her even more(or at least allow me to bribe her with dinners so that I can get sex)”?

    It sounds like you are a girl… does what you wrote sound like a frame that would get Roosh laid and those girls attracted?

  • Adrian

    I can’t tell you how much i appreciated reading this post. It just illustrates to someone like me that if someone like you has a bad night then it’s more than ok for me to have them too. By ok…i mean i shouldn’t beat myself so much when a night does not pan out as I might have hoped or expected…

  • BD

    Well Roosh, what are you doing in DC? Are you familiar with a city called Miami? Maybe you’ll enjoy life more down here. It is paradise, from our perspective.

  • Fireworks56

    Roosh, I know the feeling. You talk to a girl but a creeping feeling sneaks in that you’ve met her before… experience with the game and the numerous approches allows you to make snap judgments about people that are eerily accurate. It’s like the star QB who doesn’t need to study film, he has seen every NFL defense out there already.

    Game allows one to “read” a bar… casually scanning around you can determine who is banging who, who is out for a girl’s night “go out together go home together embattled mindset”, and who’s looking for someone new to walk into their life. You can even have some fun with it spinning some crazy stories (laced with innuendo to get the coversation moving in the right direction) about the woman you just met and watching her eyes open in amazement (think- be like the Oracle- sufficiently vague but allow it to create the false connection needed for a one night stand).

    NOTE: This ability decreases with drinks consumed due to dulling effects on one’s imagination. Flying solo around here in DC, I tend to lay off the booze for a plethora of reasons- namely so I can drive around if certain bars suck that night- and logistically set myself up being able to offer a “ride home.”

    Personally I find myself refusing to get mixed up with anything less than I would date openly in the public. This can make things difficult because a woman like that doesn’t go out alone. Isolating the friend, etc. can be difficult without a solid attractive wing (bait). There’s no way around it. A good wing doesn’t go out looking for women, they help with the laughs during your downtime to keep the vibe and energy flowing… I stole this from you but it’s worth repeating for your other readers… if you don’t focused on getting laid but on approaching at least 5 women that night everything will take care of itself.

  • http://www.thegmanifesto.com/ The G Manifesto

    Roosh,

    “If I go out twice a week, that’s only 15 attempts a month”

    I think if you are only rolling out two nights a week you need to focus on venues that are going to really help your cause.

    I don’t know exactly what kind of spot you went to, but it sounded like a “cold” bar, with nothing about it to your advantage (ie friends with owner, friends with DJ, friends with house blow dealer etc).

    I haven’t been going out as much as I normally do this summer, but I have been focusing on gigs that I have on lock: The Del Mar Racetrack, Charity gigs with fly girls that I have connects at, Art Gigs when I am a patron or member etc.

    I can’t remember the last time I went to a bar “cold”. The percentages just are not in your favor.

    - MPM

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  • Hydrogonian

    lol…Im going to check the Roosh ratings scale post to remind myself of what a Roosh six looks like.

    Finding the beautiful, cool, feminine psychologically normal woman is the USA is like spotting a unicorn.

  • Hydrogonian

    I just checked the scale. A six isn’t even on it!

  • raliv

    Me and my wing have figured out that we do best when we work the same bar alone. It is for that reason that we try to barhop away from the group of guys who somehow always go out with us.

    Then we split up at a happening bar and talk to different sets. That way we can merge sets or eject easily.

  • Jane Goodall

    roosh, why don’t you get a phd in anthropology?
    you could prob publish Bang as your dissertation.
    and hit the college bars at least 2x’s a week. plus study abroad
    or get a fullbright to go to S. America.

  • Z

    Do you ever think that you don’t get laid in DC because you don’t have a job and have nothing to offer a woman? Seriously. “Oh, come to my Dad’s house and I’ll cook you cheap stir-fry. No we can’t go to a fancy restaurant. How about we watch a bootleg DVD on my outdated laptop?”

    I think Roosh has proven, (and written about it) that money, cars, and jobs do not matter much if you want to get laid. Have you not seen successful women with “artists”. Women, in general, won’t worry about those things until later on. In fact, they even make excuses for their men…”He’s a photographer. He’s not working right now, but he’s sooo talented.”

    You must be new to Roosh’s blog.

  • NeedSumBitches

    I find saying, “Yo bitch, wanna f*ck?” works just fine for me. Say it to as many girls as possible when you go out.

  • Goto a Different CIty

    It seems every 3 months you post about how the girls in DC lack and every 3 months I post a comment telling you to leave DC for practically anywhere.

    NYC, Miami, Austin, Phoenix, Scottsdale, LA, San Diego, New Orleans, practically everywhere except Baltimore and Ohio.

    I traveled nearly the entire US on a motorcycle and have been all these places and can vouch that they have superior talent when compared to DC.

    America is really fucking big and DC is really fucking small.

  • speakeasy

    Good post. I enjoy the field reports laid out like this. You should do this every monday, sort of a post-weekend wrap-up.

    Also, I wish you’d said a bit more about ONL you had there. Particularly the logistics. I think that’s one of the toughest issues to deal with in ONL is having all the logistics fall into place.

  • gringoed

    “Men with cigars were smoking at double speed in the hopes that a woman would notice them.”

    Roosh your writing is solid. Keep it up!

  • MQ

    Do you ever think that you don’t get laid in DC because you don’t have a job and have nothing to offer a woman? Seriously.

    13 has some truth, but even beyond that, having a job and “something to offer a woman” can be a *disadvantage* when seeking a one night stand, because you trigger her LTR decisionmaking — oh, this might be a good catch, better not be too slutty, better not sleep with him unless I really want to get involved, etc. She starts thinking about her five-year plan instead of her one night or one week plan.

  • Anon

    R, thank you for your wonderful post.

    I don’t know if it was supposed to be funny, or if I have an underlying disorder which causes me to feel nearly orgasmic pleasure at others’ misfortune, but I laughed out loud three times while reading.

    I mean, really?

    You have been a “game guy” for years, and make money by selling your purple prose to the acne brigade, and this is the best you can do?

    Strike out while having needy conversations with halfway decent DC college girls?

    Nailing those women is shooting fish in a barrel. It is not challenging, if you cannot instinctually manipulate a 21 year old mind when you are a well traveled man in his early 30s, then give up.

    Lastly, and I am mostly serious with you when I say this, why do you even bother? I was listening to the way you described your approaches to each women – do you really think this way when you talk to people? Do you have any “gut” or do you continuously analyze things in this bizarre technical game and approach way?

    It just seems so unpleasant and contrived to do things that way. I would probably choose celibacy or homosexuality over that.

  • prudential18

    not ohio—- jesus, a exotic looking, traveller like Roosh would clean up in ohio. If there’s 2 things the girls here in columbus like- it’s exotic looks and travelling- absolute chick crack.

    I laugh at you guys living in a big city competing against ballers and getting blown out by bitches. Even when my game was at its worst, i’ve never had a girl blow me out because they are too nice. And if you talk about anything interesting you’re gold.

    ohio, esp columbus with the college scene, is pristine like the mayan empire before the spanish conquest

  • http://sjones84.blogspot.com/ Solo

    Roosh kept it real on that one, but I’m curious if the women are so wack in DC why not go to NYC or something were the chicks are ten times hotter?

    Guys who live in the east coast IMO got it made, come out to the midwest then you’ll have something to complain about, the game is rigged and skewed out here.

    Solo’s last blog post: The Drought.

  • Sinestro

    Everyone asking why Roosh doesn’t leave DC permanently: His family lives in Maryland, as he’s written before. Family is the most important thing in life. He wants to stay near them when Stateside, presumably. Not unreasonable.

  • RedTie

    This speaking honestly but I don’t think Roosh’s bare minimum low budget game will get him any traction with high quality poon in NYC, LA and Miami, everywhere you could probably scrape by.

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  • gringoed

    “Happiness level: Unchanged”

    Given this, why bother with the one-night stand?

  • Jaaa

    “This speaking honestly but I don’t think Roosh’s bare minimum low budget game will get him any traction with high quality poon in NYC, LA and Miami, everywhere you could probably scrape by.”

    True.

    I can’t speak for NYC or Miami, but LA has a lot of gold digging/status whoring bitches. Good luck getting hot tail if you don’t drive a nice car & have a decent pad or have status in the hot clubs.

    Mystery & Style did well in LA, but they basically created their own status in the clubs and had a kick-ass pad (Project Hollywood)

    However, there are a lot of places where the “low budget” gamer can still get by.

    As #15 mentioned: Austin, Phoenix/Tempe, Scottsdale, New Orleans, etc.

    Basically, hit up college towns and/or decent sized cities in the South and Midwest.

  • http://www.thegmanifesto.com/ The G Manifesto

    I am going to shatter this whole “you need a Ferrari, a mansion and millions to get girls in LA” thing once and for all.

    Who do you think swoops all the fly young girls in LA? It’s mostly losers with no dough. Or guys moving a little pharmaceuticals. Or wannabe actor chumps.

    Sure the nice car, money thing helps, but it really helps with older, platinum digger types in the more expensive venues.

    The younger venues are full of idiots with splotchy designs on their t-shirts, gay designer jeans and phony fedoras swooping young girls.

    Being physically attractive, in shape, knowing people, and “cool” (whatever that means these days, usually uncool) is way more important in LA.

    Hell, my crew and I cleaned up in LA when I was a young pup and I can assure you we didn’t have “Ferrari, a mansion and millions”.

    We did have access to Beans and Beeks though.

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  • Roosh

    I don’t know where the “oh my god you get rejected, you’re a loser” hater(s) has come from. I get rejected tons, and I’ve written extensively about rejection on this blog. Even in Bang I wrote something alone the lines that I get rejected more than any man I know. This is how I’ve built my game, which is still better than 95% of men I’ve met. I don’t say that to brag, but it’s the rejection that’s allowed me to get there.

    Do I fuck every girl I approach? Goodness no. Even on hot streaks 10% bang to cold approach rate is incredible. I’d love to meet any guy who does better than that, but I have a feeling they aren’t posting anonymous insults on a blog. If me getting rejected offends or bothers you, then I deeply apologize, but it will continue to be a recurring topic here.

  • Snoeperd

    Re to above post:
    Well, its the internet, you’ll always have sackless idiots who’ll diss everything that doesn’t come from them.

    Imho approaching, approaching again and then approaching some more without a surefire bang in sight shows a long-term happiness focus instead of short-term pain-avoidance. This takes some real willpower to do which i don’t have (yet). So; my hat of to you Roosh.

  • West LA

    Re the haters going ‘OMG’ about Roosh’s rejections –

    Being unafraid to fail (and then undaunted when it happens ) is a priceless trait to have.
    It liberates you to maximize your possibilities.

    Boxers don’t count how many of their punches miss or get blocked.
    They instantly forget it, except maybe to see what adjustment they need to make to their ongoing efforts.
    They stay focused on their next opportunity to land a punch (or two or three), and reading the condition of the opponent.

    Sounds like Roosh knows all this and persists accordingly.

    Some guys seem to approach gaming like a football player whose top concern is keeping his uniform clean during the game.

  • sloopJohn

    good post Roosh, and good additional comments. I have also experienced rejection and can vouch for it as being good for the overall learning experience.

  • Lugo

    “I’d love to meet any guy who does better than that, but I have a feeling they aren’t posting anonymous insults on a blog.”

    I suspect anon #2 was a woman. It had that air of bitchy entitlement about it, as if you automatically owe her something just because she has a vagina.

  • LampLight

    I know you go for a lot of same night bangs, but do you ever feel this way on first dates? I’ve had this problem a few times lately where I just completely lose interest in the girl and the date. Sometimes its because they’re resistant and since I know the bang isn’t coming soon, I basically don’t care to continue.

  • Anonymous

    26: What the fuck are you talking about? Scottsdale is the capital of the United States for goldigging. You call Scottsdale “low budget” gaming?!?!? You are full of shit. You obviously have never been there or lived there. The girls are hot as fuck, but you need serious dough to clean up there.

  • Random Guy

    Any real man worth his salt gets laid without too much effort.You’re going in cold to impersonal bars. What if you went to charity events, embassy parties, art gallery openings, house parties, wine tastings, football tailgate parties, etc, etc.

    This is where status/wealth does make a big difference.

    Watch Californication, the guy gets laid all the time with little effort.

    However, admittedly, finding attractive, intelligent, age appropriate women who are sexy and “get you” has always been difficult, but usually you only juggle a few of these women.

  • Random Guy

    Not to mention get out of DC!! You should even just consider day gaming in the burbs or in Arlington. Or better yet, yes try a much easier or better city.

  • dmoney

    yo roosh dont fall off the deep end jajaja come back to south america
    life awaits

  • http://vincentignatius.wordpress.com VI

    Getting a Ph.D. is a strong signal of low quality in an American girl.

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  • Night Prowler

    I am stuck in this shithole of a town myself. I loved it five years ago. Shit is old and stale and I find myself traveling out of the area to NYC or Philly or anywhere else I can go to get out of DC for at least one weekend a month. It really helps me forget about DC. I don’t particularly care so much about the girls I bang here because they don’t seem to want to care themselves or about anyone else but themselves. I can’t say I’ll escape it by going to other cities, but it sure helps with the downs of living here if you’re not particularly fond of it anymore and you’re not ready to jump ship quite yet because of your career choices or your finances.

    Just an idea, but you ought to start selling more mini-ebooks and see how that works for you. You could then travel more in the US while you think about your next big move.

  • http://neointhegame.wordpress.com Neo

    I don’t understand comments like #19.

    ‘Nailing those women is like shooting fish in a barrel’

    Really? If that were true why is it that a lot of guys in the US settle down with wilda beasts(very unattractive women), use hookers, or get no play whatsoever.

    For the majority of guys, it takes a lot of attempts and rejection to hook up with one decent girl.

    To #35, Your comments have a lot more merit as you describe having a lifestyle that puts you in contact with lots of women, and then getting laid with little effort. I think this is what all of us guys who are in the ‘game’ are striving for, but everyone has to start somewhere and going in cold to a bar is better than doing absolutely nothing(like most guys)

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  • http://www.artbyjoel.com jkc

    maybe you should stop going to places like The Reef.

  • quoddam

    It seems to me that perhaps they are merely amplifying and feeding back the emotional state you are in. Perhaps, at some level, you are tired of this, oppressed with ennui and you communicate that so that you are really sabotaging your own efforts. By dropping your “standards”, you encounter women desperate enough to ignore the messages. As Ed Seykota said, “I think that if people look deeply enough into their trading patterns, they find that, on balance, including all their goals, they are really getting what they want, even though they may not understand it or want to admit it.” You can replace ‘trading’ with whatever is relevant.

  • The Truth

    “Do I fuck every girl I approach? Goodness no. Even on hot streaks 10% bang to cold approach rate is incredible. I’d love to meet any guy who does better than that, but I have a feeling they aren’t posting anonymous insults on a blog.”

    A lot of the hate comes from keyboard warriors who love to shit on everything. Most (all?) of these fags have only picked up women through their social circle, so they have no idea how tough it can be to pick up chicks by doing real “cold” approaches.

    Rejection is a fact of life for anyone doing cold approaches. In fact, anyone who does cold approaches had better get used to it, or else stick to social circle game.

    That is why I hate it when “so-called” PUAs try to play it off like they never get rejected by the hot chicks they approach.

    Yeah, right.

    Keep up the honesty, Roosh. Cold-approach game is a hard skill to master.

  • MQ

    Watch Californication, the guy gets laid all the time with little effort.

    LOL. This is a TV show. It is not real life.

    Although I’m sure that back in the day David Duchovny did get laid pretty easily.

  • Roosh

    44: Yes a lot of guys with poor game mix fiction with reality. Like women, their expectations are not reasonable. If you’re going into a bar without any fame, you’ll have to work to get laid. Even if you’re good looking you’ll have to work, just not as hard. The guys who don’t approach think 1 in 30 is ridiculous to justify their lack of effort and non-varied sex life. Truth is they’ll be lucky to ever see 1 in 100, but they’ll never know because they don’t want to expose their fragile self esteem.

    If you want to play, you have to pay with work. There are no shortcuts unless you already have an amazing lifestyle. In many cases it’s easy just to do lots of cold approaches than get that lifestyle, but my point in this post was that the quality in D.C. means I’ll get less with the same amount of work I put in other places.

  • SomeGuy

    Was the Californication comment a joke? Come on people, let’s keep the complements of fictional TV show characters to a minimum.

    Anyway, I do agree that getting out of DC might be important. Or at the very least, find where the attractive women go and then go there.

    I know how it is when all you have are mediocre chicks women around. Hanging with homies becomes the best part of going out at that point.

  • Samsaraindo

    I think he was just showing DC to compare it with how much more he enjoys foreign gaming.

    However, even if he was in NYC, Chicago, L.A. – it wouldn’t be that much different. In fact DC is the economy that is drawing young people more than those other 3 places so the quality is not a huge discrepancy. Of course, the big 3 are better but on any random night its not much.

    And I say this having lived in L.A., went to DC this year, and now currently live in Chi.

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  • http://therookiedc.wordpress.com/ The Rookie

    that decreased libido is interesting, because i think i’m experiencing the same thing. chalked it up to old age, but maybe it’s just the women…

    The Rookie’s last blog post: 4th Quarter.

  • http://alpharivelino.wordpress.com/ Rivelino

    Roosh, have you listened to The Blueprint? I think you need to tap into the positive energy of the Universe. Tacky American girls will not give you that energy, even if you are drunk.

    Rivelino’s last blog post: Game is real.

  • CJ

    The whole take on Mystery’s ignoring the target seems pretty accurate to me. I’ve had my target step aside too many times, thinking I was actually into her friend. The only way that works is if there’s too many guys in the circle/set and you’re trying to win them over so you can swoop the women with them… course the girls might think you’re gay if you play your cards wrong.

  • stats

    all this talk of bang/rejection rates makes me wanna see some detailed stats for you DC characters. would love to see stats for something like a little month long competition between roosh, vk, roissy and the rookie…

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  • G Real

    Lol-
    Lack of feminity of American women increases drug
    Usage.

    Lol-
    I only wanted to bang her if I didn’t have to talk or kiss her