3 Things I Learned Last Year

Some quick thoughts from what I realized last year…

1. More information may not help you make better decisions.

While information is important, it’s not always the case that more information will make a difference in the quality of your lifestyle decision making (in business, more data tends to improve your decisions) There are two reasons for that: (1) more information may actually be irrelevant noise, and (2) more information may equally side between the two outcomes you are deciding on.

A common problem with me is deciding whether or not to stay in a city. Common sense dictates I should explore a city, approach a lot of girls, and then use those experiences to make a decision. The problem is you’ll have both positive and negative experiences in your sample that may not aid the initial impression you had in your first day. If you get laid right away, you’ll think the city is great, only to find out that you got lucky and the environment is actually much harder. If you don’t get laid immediately, you’ll think the city sucks, without knowing that just a bit more work would have unveiled poosy paradise. There’s never a way to be sure. It’s sometimes better to make a snap judgement and do what it takes to succeed regardless instead of using a sample size of experience to help you.

2. What you want is constantly changing.

It’s hard to notice this change because when you make a goal for yourself, you think it will drive you forever, but it’s inevitable that any specific desire will cease to excite you. This is why people become unhappy when they double-down on an initial goal they created, most specifically when it comes to money. A man is not exactly happy when he hits his goal so he decides to make more, thinking that will do the trick, but of course it doesn’t. In life you will have to make several sharp turns away from what you used to want as your growing experience changes the path that is right for you.

I used to greatly desire one-night stands. I couldn’t get them so well in Ukraine and figured that I was less happy because of it. I went back to Poland and had two within my first month that didn’t increase my happiness one bit. In fact, they had a neutral to negative effect. I had to accept that what I wanted in the past no longer held true, so I completely changed my game workflow as a result to accommodate my different needs.

3. You don’t need much income if you’re not a consumer.

If you don’t want a luxury car, a penthouse, the latest electronic gadgets, or a dozen custom suits, you don’t need a lot of money. If you don’t feel the need to make it rain in clubs, and you use day approaches as your main game strategy, you won’t need more than $100 per notch. If you realize that things can’t possibly make you happy, you won’t find yourself buying much besides good liquor and food. The less money you need to spend, the less money you need to make. The less money you need to make, the less work you need to do. Instead of chasing dollars and objects you’ve been programmed to buy, you enjoy your own leisure time, hobbies, or reading.

It doesn’t hurt to be rich, and I won’t bash those men who go for it, but a huge percentage of the world’s pretty women are content with dating a middle class man who is fit, intelligent, stable, and confident. I’ve had great months where my income was much higher than normal because of a new book release, but there was nothing to spend the extra money on that would increase the things I value in life (good people, women, work, health, and books). After a very modest amount, additional money becomes an abstract construct that exists only on a computer screen. Design a life free of superfluous consumer desires and figure out how much money you need a year to live that life. There will be no need to bother with more.

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  1. YosarriansRight January 10, 2014 at 10:21 am

    Brilliant article, as usual, Roosh. Needs and wants evolve, we are not immune from that. And having just got back from Europe (Italy), your #3 point is so true as I plan my exit from America.

  2. KK January 10, 2014 at 11:19 am

    Hey Roosh, nice insights, do you have an estimate about your total expenses during 2013? I would guess around 25-30k.

    1. Roosh_V January 10, 2014 at 1:53 pm

      Your guess is quite accurate.

    2. euneaux January 10, 2014 at 8:19 pm

      Okay so now we know the expenses, what I would like to know is what one earns in a year as a first-tier self-published lifestyle, culture and philosophy guru.

      I wouldn’t worry about anybody trying to follow in these big footsteps… it certainly can’t be easy breaking out and getting the kind of publicity and following that these kind of leaders already have. Although I would be interested in some kind of an extended writing “apprenticeship” or “Boot Camp” to help find my voice and polish my style.

      Perhaps an interesting business idea to leverage your representation and extend your brand?

      1. Nick January 14, 2014 at 5:41 pm

        What’s important is knowing what your expenses are or will be. Anything extra can go into a rainy day/retirement fund. Submit an article or two to ROK, you’ll get some feedback.

  3. SJ January 10, 2014 at 12:21 pm

    Good insight as always Roosh. I like toys and nice things as much as pussy so thats the only reason why I work and go for it. BUT if all that I cared about was sex then teaching English in Ukraine or Brazil would be where I am going.

  4. Bob January 10, 2014 at 12:52 pm

    I’m sort of in the same boat. Late 30’s extra income and not many expenses. Invest it. Investing is a great hobby and it increases your overall net freedom. The goal should be to continually build your passive income year after year and reinvest it and over maybe 20 years you can reach an early retirement if you sock away enough

    1. Edward January 10, 2014 at 7:12 pm

      He’s living a retired-esque lifestyle now … pursuing projects because he wants to, not because he needs to.

      To that end though, investing is a great way to make passive $ though. I’ve found dividends in particular to be really psychologically rewarding.

      1. Bob January 10, 2014 at 8:53 pm

        Regarding dividends, I’m particularly fond of the ETF “DVY”. A nice addition to any portfolio.

  5. 'Reality' Doug January 10, 2014 at 12:55 pm

    “$100 per notch” It’s a big difference (to me, yah sad) whether that includes all sarge expenses or just what is spent on the notch. Even if the total cost per notch, makes prostitutes look almost reasonable.

    New notch, $100.

    New carousel cleanliness vis-a-vis a hooker, priceless.

    1. 'Reality' Doug January 10, 2014 at 2:52 pm

      Did I hurt someone’s feeewweeengs? muah ha haa Slaying blue pill for the greater good, the viable one I’m in.

  6. Armchair General January 10, 2014 at 3:18 pm

    With your expenses, and middle class income, you must be living like a baron in dirt cheap Ukraine

  7. John January 10, 2014 at 3:55 pm

    Haha, I just posted something on RoK that sounded nearly identical to #3. I couldn’t agree more.

  8. seductionsextravel January 10, 2014 at 4:09 pm

    I can totally relate to that, especially with number 3. I really managed to figure out in the last couple of months how much I actually need to live a happy and fulfilled life. I don’t need a car and my old flat that had about 60 square meters was already too big for me and I feel much better now, even when I just live in a doghouse in London. We are told by the media all the time to consume, consume, consume and with every unnecessary thing we acquire, we get more and more miserable. At least I already figured this part of my life out and won’t sit in a big house with too much stuff at the age of 40.

  9. Giovonny January 10, 2014 at 5:46 pm

    I love #1 and #2!
    I love when Roosh self reflects with honesty!

  10. Eli January 10, 2014 at 6:36 pm

    On Point 3: I stopped working in late 2009 and have been just investing my own money and living in various countries around the world, usually renting apartments in the cities i visit. I have very little interest in consuming trinkets, as I assume is the case with all respectable men. Without splurging on a woman, i feel like i could do this indefinitely…it’s really women that keep consumerism afloat..that and men who buy things hoping to impress women. It’s incredible how much time a man can free up for himself by avoiding the inanity of rapacious consumerism. Having excess capital should be viewed as buying freedom, not the right to blow it on intellect stunting gagdetry.

    1. CalicoCat1 January 11, 2014 at 6:28 am

      Just remember that from a tactical perspective if you go thrifty (unless you are independently wealthy) you must go hipster–not that you would want to go prep anyways.

      1. Eli January 11, 2014 at 9:56 am

        It’s not about being overtly thrifty but simply avoiding big ticket anchors that make you a slave to the bank. Namely, expensive cars and mortgages on things like a condo which carry a lot of hidden costs on top of the interest payments (maint. fees, pty taxes, etc, etc.) I think it’s these “monthly payment scams” that cause most peoples financial problems and lack of freedom. i.e. perception that owning is better than renting, or somehow viewing a $500/mth car payment as normal even though it’s the financial equivalent of paying $35-$40k up front for a car.

  11. JR January 11, 2014 at 6:14 am

    Are there some male role
    Models who promote ethics and virtue- that a whole generation of troubled men can look to for guidance???

    Ill be the first to admit that feminism and government courts aka the elite controlled system skew things against men but we need solid, virtuous men to look up to. An immoral civilities action is a weak and easily controlled civilization, and I don’t want gain saying by anyone saying I’m acting holier than thou because all I make mistakes and do wrong myself. I know we can’t build a revolution for masculinity on poor character. We need to authentically love women and or fellow man and we need the guidance from people from healthy morally virtuous eras to do it. The West is drowning in sin that leads to death and destruction- we need a revival of our hearts and consciences towards God so true love and peace can rebuild our broken society. I’m praying for you Roosh- God bless you.

  12. Moses January 12, 2014 at 8:22 pm

    I ran the numbers and confirmed that owning a house is a terrible financial investment. An “investment” that eats cash is no investment at all.

    Renting is less cash out each month plus frees capital for higher return investments. I may never buy a house.

  13. Purple Penguin January 13, 2014 at 6:30 pm

    Point 3 is great, reflects closely my mindset. It’s not possible for me to work just enough to live though, so for me the goal will be to retire young.

    “and you use day approaches as your main game strategy”

    Is it what you do?

  14. Jafar January 14, 2014 at 8:58 am

    Number 2 really spoke to me. Recently I’ve achieved a few lifelong goals I had, namely getting laid. In my mind, I thought I would have an euphoric sensation, gain an unbreakable confidence. And yet, here I am feeling no difference. My confidence is still not good

    1. rpg July 23, 2014 at 1:51 pm

      Getting laid once is worse than never getting laid. Sex is meant to be repetitive. This is why virginity is a paper tiger. Go without sex for a couple of months and you feel like a virgin again. Have sex 5 times in one night or 2 different girls in one night and you feel like a king.

  15. Petra Boynes February 25, 2014 at 3:17 pm

    I’m female, but these articles are really mindblowing, I live on the Island of Trinidad & Tobago where women give themselves to men for as little as a box of fried chicken! I have been a traveller so I’ve developed sophisticated tastes. I love thinkers not talkers so I’m gonna follow this & see where it leads.

  16. Zyzz April 16, 2014 at 11:56 pm

    Make a lot of money to invest in income producing assets. Have your money work for you.

  17. Jonny_Paycheck May 2, 2014 at 3:20 pm

    I think the idea that owning stuff doesn’t make you more content is easier to swallow when you already have a bit of stuff to begin with.

    Having said that ,the notion that just being an endless consumer of fancy goods will fulfill a reasonably intelligent person is ridiculous ,but it is nonetheless continually shoved down your throat whenever you switch on the telly or open an magazine.
    “You’re not good enough unless you own this!!” Ad infinitum.

    And those media are controlled by…intelligent people!