As I get older, I’ve become more mindful about how to teach my brothers to grow up as strong men. I have been examining the environment they’re in and trying to find ways to replace negative influences in their lives with positive ones. While I barely see them enough to have a huge influence, the time I have spent with them has given me a basic plan for how to raise my own son in the future. Here are five guidelines I will use:

1. Lead more by example than mandate


A lot of people think that having children is like possessing little slaves that do what you command them at all times, but humans by their nature have a resistance to being controlled and told what to do, especially children. Not only that, but when you force your son to do something he isn’t sure is right, he starts building resentment against you. This resentment, if too high, will result in him becoming a rebellious teenager who goes completely against your wishes.

Instead of commanding your son on what to do, give him an opportunity to copy your behavior. Do you want your son to be athletic? Then be athletic with him. Do you want your son to read more? Then read with him. Do you want your son to study history? Then tell him interesting historical stories that capture his imagination. Monkey see, monkey do, with both negative behaviors and positive ones. Compare that to commanding your son to exercise while you watch TV, or telling him to read while you surf the internet. Why should he do it if dad doesn’t?

Use the fact that children love copying their parents. If little Johnny sees his dad lift weights at home several times a week, it won’t be surprising when he picks up a weight and mimics dad. By simply doing the activities you want your son to do, you may never have to command him to do anything. Be the role model that your son needs instead of a strict schoolmaster who just wants to dictate commands.

2. Instead of forbidding behaviors, create an environment where what is forbidden is not even desired


What are some things that you don’t want your son to become? Fat, homosexual, lazy, or hedonistic. If you want your son to eat well, don’t bring junk food in the house and don’t get lazy—or enable a lazy wife—by taking him to McDonald’s for a “quick” meal. If you don’t want him to be homosexual, have an appreciation for feminine beauty, allow him to see the loving bond you have with your wife, and don’t leave him alone with pedo-loving liberals. If you don’t want him to be a bum, don’t have television and video game systems in the house that enables his worst traits. If you don’t want him to be hedonistic, show him the fruits of your hard work and how little rewards and pleasures in the right doses can lead to satisfaction instead of addiction.

While it’s impossible to prevent your son from making mistakes later in life that hurt him, you can show him how his father was able to achieve a happy and stable life by leading a life of discipline and moderation. If you have vices or addiction problems, there’s no way you can expect your son to abstain from them either. Your son will be a reflection of not just want he hears from you in terms of right and wrong, but what he sees as well, even when you think he’s not looking.

3. Find what he likes doing, and then nurture it


You can’t make a boy practice a hobby or sport that he doesn’t like. If you do, he will resent you and soon come to hate whatever you forced upon him. Instead, expose your boy to a range of masculine activities and find what he insists on doing himself with hardly any encouragement. If your son, on his own time, is learning or practicing outside of the designated time, that means he has found a passion. As long as it’s not doll dress-up, you should encourage it and give him the space and resources to develop it.

My younger brother is in university. I’ve encouraged him to take on weightlifting and he has done it, but he’s reluctant to work out unless I’m on his ass about it or he has someone to work out with. I don’t blame him, because lifting weights is not as fun as playing video games.

My youngest brother is different. Once I taught him how to lift weights, he became addicted to it and worked out on his own, without anyone else’s insistence. For his young age, he’s becoming a monster, one of the strongest boys in his class, and even when he’s sick, he still wants to lift. Would it be smart to push the older brother into a new fitness hobby? Probably not, but my youngest brother would definitely respond to it.

Modern fathers want their sons to only do “useful” activities that could lead to a good corporate job. While that is understandable, it’s the wrong approach. Any passion that your son takes on will teach him the work ethic to apply to just about anything. Making money will be trivial to him after he’s spent his 5,000 hours on a hobby he loves and which he has taken to a high level.

When I was in university making basic web pages for fun, I couldn’t at all predict that that skill would develop into the web empire I have today, but it has and I’m thankful my parents didn’t forbid my hobbies as a “waste of time” when it allowed me to build the business I have now.

4. Don’t try to create a mini-me


While your son may be similar to you, he is not your little clone. Accept that he will be a unique person with different strengths and weaknesses than you instead of forcing him into a box of your choosing. Many fathers have been disappointed in their sons merely because they were not like them, but the fact that he has 50% different genetics than you and raised in a wholly different environment with different experiences suggest that you should be surprised if he is even a quarter the same.

A better method is to find who your son is by observing him in various situation and challenges. Maybe he’s abnormally frightened of insects but doesn’t get scared of heights. Maybe he’s a sore loser in games but can deeply focus on difficult tasks. Maybe his general athleticism is weak but he has powerful strength.

Parenthood is less about shaping a mound of clay than identifying a person who already exists and who needs to find himself, his nature, and his place in the world. The answer may disappoint you, especially since not every man born will accomplish great things, but whatever his nature is, it’s the father’s responsibility to find it while blocking damaging influences that want to hurt him.

To understand your son means you already understand yourself. If you don’t know who you are, and live life as a confused, conflicted man, chances are your son will be that way as well, and mentally suffer as an adult.

5. Spend face time with him

Distracted parents

I’m seeing a growing trend of parents neglecting their children by giving them electronic devices to play with. Even worse is that I’m regularly seeing parents glued to their iPhone when a child was tugging at them for attention. I completely understand that children require huge amounts of time that gets tiring, but leaving your children to be raised by games, pedo Hollywood, and Gaysame Street means you’re essentially outsourcing your parental duties and letting outside influences install beliefs into your child that will turn him into a degenerate faggot socialist who suffers from clinically low testosterone.

By default, your son will love you and his mother more than anything else in the world. You won’t be able to tell when he throws a tantrum, but there is no one else he rather be with. So be with him. Include him in your daily chores. Tell him how your day went and ask him the same. Let him share his silly stories without your interrupting or breaking eye contact. Show him how important he is and that he has a father in life not just in name only.

Don’t confuse my advice here with indulging all of your son’s whims and sacrificing your own well-being to be some sort of clown to keep him constantly entertained. Instead, just be there for him when he wants to spend time with you and don’t let him feel that he has to compete with your smartphone, because you will be hurt when he grows up and decides that he doesn’t have the time or attention to give you. The type of man your son becomes will depend on the influences he’s exposed to when he’s growing up; you might as well be the biggest one.


I share this advice as a man who doesn’t have children, but one who has thought about it deeply. I’ve examined the parental strategy of my own father along with my attempts to positively shape the lives of my brothers. What you see above is the strategy I will use if I have a son tomorrow. While I’m sure there are flaws in what I’ve shared, along with any other parental method, it’s one that I confidently feel will allow a son of mine to hit his absolute potential, no mater how different he may be from his dad.

Just don’t ask me quite yet about what I would do if I were to have a daughter.

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  1. The Quintessential Man May 23, 2016 at 9:46 am

    Damn Roosh, powerful piece. Especially the “lead more by example” part. I recently came to the conclusion that most of our conundrums as species stem from our inherent drive to mimic others in order to blend in. Mirror neurons play a significant role in this and their operation is so subtle that we don’t even realize it. You can see it play out beautifully in crowded places, where big events take place. Having that realization can prove paramount for the way you approach influence.

    1. Morrison May 25, 2016 at 6:07 am

      “Damn Roosh, powerful piece. Especially the “lead more by example”

      So true. My father used to tell me now and then “Don’t do what I do, do what I say” this simply made me lose respect for him.

  2. Lunostrelki May 23, 2016 at 9:49 am

    The first two are by far the most important. So many parents do things that they don’t want their kids to do, while yelling and screaming at their kids not to do them, and then wonder why their kids go wrong later.

    It’s a rather Taoist concept: the best leaders are the ones whose rule goes unnoticed.

  3. Omar May 23, 2016 at 11:06 am

    Great post Roosh.

  4. xcalibur88 May 23, 2016 at 11:10 am

    Very good advice. However, a Father must also be able to make an honest assessment of his son to guide him properly. If the boy is a dumbass and likes to fuck around, mandating proper behavior and keeping tabs on his schedule is essential. I see lax parenting a lot by Dads who let their son’s get away with bad habits/behavior because of some guilt trip or to be the “nice guy” parent vs. the mom.

    1. Roosh May 23, 2016 at 11:39 am

      “f the boy is a dumbass and likes to fuck around, mandating proper behavior and keeping tabs on his schedule is essential”

      Definitely. You have to stay on top of him and essentially be his “coach,” but with the end goal that he’ll have to be on his own eventually. Will he fall apart with you not at the helm?

    2. greyghost1 May 24, 2016 at 6:46 pm

      Nice guys finish last and have kids that grow up with problems.

  5. iBooB May 23, 2016 at 11:27 am

    Roosh, unban me on ROK.

    I will stop with the floodposts. And as shitlords ourselves I think shitposts comes with the territory sometimes, don’t you think? And as for personal insults to the “ROK Team”, I can’t promise anything but I’ll try.

    Give it a thought at least.

    1. Blinko23 May 23, 2016 at 8:49 pm


      Unban me too from ROK.

      My egregious sin on ROK was a few lines in one post where I said that MGTOW wasn’t a bad option for older guys who have been around the block enough times. BOOM! Ban hammer. Still has me scratching my head.

      1. iBooB May 24, 2016 at 6:27 pm

        I believe there is more to the story than just that.

        Anyhow, I deserved to be banned. I went haywire after a fellow commenter whom is quite popular and beloved was banned when he started gaining traction amongst our peers in opposition to a writer on the “ROK team”. Without warning or explanation he was banned.

        Quite disappointing after thinking this site was a free-for-all. At least that’s the impression one gets especially when you have that spam-whorebot whose posts NEVER get deleted. Say whatever about whoever or whatever, however you wanted.

        I chalk it up to the irony that life is. Although hypocrisy is a cruel teacher and could really be done without.

  6. fatherofthree May 23, 2016 at 11:34 am

    Pretty good for someone who doesn’t have his own children. So stop delaying, jump in the water if you wan to learn to swim.

    I’ll add on few rules of my own:

    1. Don’t let your son(s) spend too much time with their mothers. After the age of 5 they have to be 80% with his father compared to the time they spend with his mother. The mother’s softening influence was considered detrimental to a boy’s education.

    2. Feed them man’s food. That means mostly meat and vegetables.

    3. Home school them if you can.

    4. Make sure he does not masturbate too much. He’ll suffer from low self-esteem and premature ejaculation in his adult life.

    5. Teach them to be good with money and explain to them how money is created.

    6. Don’t let them watch television (part of point 2 in the article).

    7. Teach them that love is an illusion.

    1. Blue88 May 23, 2016 at 10:00 pm

      I agree.

    2. Morrison May 25, 2016 at 6:18 am

      Brilliant list Fatherofthree.

      “3. Home school them if you can”

      I would say definitely home school them. Currently home schooling is not banned, not yet anyway. A public school is not only a Marxist indoctrination camp, but a social shit hole and toxic environment for any child (male or female) to grow up in. The mentally ill politically correctness of always having to be careful not to upset anyone’s feelings, etc. and other bullshit issues.

      I would (respectfully) also ad in teach him how to fight – specifically using martial arts – street fighting tactics. I’m sure another major World War is heading our way very soon.

      1. fatherofthree May 25, 2016 at 9:48 am

        Home schooling is tough as it takes two incomes to make the ends meet. Plus, I don’t think most mothers are suitable for it.

        You’re right, self-defense training is a must.

      2. Hugo July 5, 2016 at 10:47 pm

        Good points. Let me summarize. Be involved in your kid’s lives. Thats the magic sauce right there.

    3. Darwin May 25, 2016 at 11:41 am

      Good comment, good article and I agree that for many of us it’s time to jump in the water instead of pontificating.

      Home schooling, real food and limited media exposure.

      1. Franz Saint-Fleur June 5, 2016 at 8:31 am

        Wouldn’t homeschool take away his ability to learn social skills and Independence?

      2. me June 5, 2016 at 7:00 pm

        The only things I managed to learn in government-ran schools was antisocial skills and dependence. It took many years to unlearn that crap.

      3. Darwin June 6, 2016 at 10:22 pm

        There would have to be another place to learn those things. Maybe athletic lessons. You’re comfortable with brainwashed peers and teachers instilling values in him day in and day out? No way Jose

      4. Franz Saint-Fleur June 7, 2016 at 9:08 am

        You’re right. The fact that believe athletic lessons will be a better teacher in Social interaction instand of public/private schools.

  7. Clark Kent May 23, 2016 at 12:37 pm

    Great piece Roosh

  8. P.A. Beaulieu May 23, 2016 at 2:43 pm

    Too many – way to many- fathers treat their sons like smallers copies of themselves that they try to mold rather that different individuals they have to assist so they become real men later. The sad fact is that those fathers do not have bad intentions most of the time, as they aren’t even aware of the wrong they are doing.

    1. Franz Saint-Fleur June 5, 2016 at 8:30 am

      That is so true. A lot of those fathers feel great disappointment when their son is different from them. Even if their son is successful I feel a slight disappointment that they’re not a copy of them so. A lot of fathers don’t have guidance themselves. They’re not aware ir what they’re doing, that’s why articles like this are important

  9. M_ May 23, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    I wonder how the feminists will twist this into something other than truth.

    1. Lunostrelki May 23, 2016 at 4:21 pm

      The feminists are going to ignore this post, just as they ignore 99.5% of everything they say is evil.

    2. Thorverine May 23, 2016 at 9:42 pm

      They’ll focus on the very last sentence

      1. Jed Mask May 24, 2016 at 12:35 pm

        “Just don’t ask me quite yet about what I would do if I were to have a daughter.”
        Yep, and they’ll ruin and DESTROY an otherwise healthy, young, impressionable girl unto a whorish harlot by teen years into early adulthood… Smh. SHAME, SHAME… Amen.

    3. anon1 May 25, 2016 at 6:39 am

      No they will ignore the article because it doesn’t fit their narrative

    4. Franciscanesta June 5, 2016 at 5:53 am

      Sorry if I ask you stupid question…
      Is feminism in USA really that bad?
      I mean, in my point of view, feminism was created to give more space for women to go to school and work ( thus participating in building a family).
      But eventhough women can have higher positions than men at work, it doesn’t mind she can run away from responsibilities as a wife and a mother…

      1. Franz Saint-Fleur June 5, 2016 at 8:34 am

        It really depends on where you go. Not as bad as some people make it seem and I know I’m going to get crucified for saying this on this blog. However, when it gets out of control people’s lives and careers can get ruined just because a bitch had a fit.

      2. Franciscanesta June 5, 2016 at 10:05 am

        I see…
        The “bitches” I encounter are usually unmarried and/or has no children.
        They are not only nasty to men but to other women as well…
        I don’t know, either they do that coz they feel superior than other human being, or they feel pressured and frustated coz no men wants them ( coz they are nasty).

        But my ex-boss is married and got 3 children. Yet she’s a bitch, being nasty to everybody and doesn’t mind hitting her husband’s head at front of the workers coz she’s the one who earns the money. Sometimes I feel pity to the husband coz his wife doesn’t respect him at all.
        I hope I will never do that to my husband.

      3. Franz Saint-Fleur June 7, 2016 at 9:15 am

        That’s a weak husband. And I know what you mean a lot of the women I encountered that are nasty have no kids no husband are in their mid-thirties or above. And more importantly they have no real career in life.

      4. Franciscanesta June 7, 2016 at 11:46 am

        The funny thing is, the husband is proud of his bitch-wife, saying how often she saved him from troubles… ( but us the workers get embarrassed by seeing the wife acting like that… we are still traditional asian people who think that a husband should be reapected, not punched at front of us like that).
        When I had problem with his wife ( so I quitted the job and started to be a housewife and work from home), I pointed out that am tired working for them coz his wife doesn’t respect any human beings, not even him and his children.
        Guess what, he said that I live in my “small world of etiquettes” without having much experience in life, that I was too proud of my university degree and I didn’t want to blend with people.
        Damn he must be a masochist man.

      5. Franz Saint-Fleur June 7, 2016 at 7:54 pm

        That is super sad, I have no respect for those people. Husband and wife are equal partners but not the same. What I mean is that each person, the man and the woman give not 50% into the marriage. But 100% from the man and 100% from the woman. They are equal partners but what they bring aka their skills is what makes them different. A women has more of the nurturing skill to help the husband and child. Where the man has more of the strategic skills the help the family. That family is mentally weak, and so never be respected. I did a video on my channel talking a little bit about this. I won’t link it here out of respect to the blog and not spam it on here. My channel is called T.E.F.S. the video is called Building and Maintaining Attraction. Check it out if you’re curious.

      6. Guest June 9, 2016 at 8:26 pm

        OK can we get this corrected once and for all…
        MEN= plural (more than one)

        WOMAN= singular
        WOMEN= plural

        It’s so basic, I can’t take any post seriously that constantly refers to one specific individual as
        A WOMEN.

        It’s not difficult.

      7. Franz Saint-Fleur June 10, 2016 at 2:25 pm

        Ok sorry for the grammar mistakes. Don’t get butt hurt when I am responding on my phone in between breaks at work, so I don’t spell or grammar check. Can you correct this sentence ” Suck a dick” or is it “Suck My dick” please let me know

      8. Franciscanesta June 11, 2016 at 8:23 pm

        I agree. Men and women are made to complete each other, not to compete with each other.

  10. Thorverine May 23, 2016 at 9:41 pm

    With the exception of #5, this explained what my parents did wrong

  11. Blue88 May 23, 2016 at 9:58 pm

    It’s true. I never forced my boys into a slot. They had skills that showed early and I supported them. I always told them, Do what you love and the money will come. I also told them, Sometimes the money doesn’t come, but at least you are doing what you love. My boys are doing what they love and they are very, very good at it.

    1. Sgt POG May 24, 2016 at 8:02 pm

      I love striking. My son can’t strike for shit. He excels at ground fighting. I guess he’ll be his own person.

  12. Blue88 May 23, 2016 at 10:01 pm

    Roosh, maybe it’s time for you to make babies. I remember, way back when, I just thought, now is the time. Just went for it. Turned out good.

    1. Jed Mask May 24, 2016 at 12:39 pm

      So long as it’s done in an actual MARRIAGE with a compatible wife counterpart.
      Sick of seeing all these children raised by single mothers… They can’t raise a boy into becoming a man… they can’t.
      Now for *good* mothers of good character and virtue raising daughters; a good mother can pretty much raise a good daughter; although a FATHER is needed to set boundaries and firm direction in love concerning how his daughter of age should present herself to QUALITY MEN her father would approve of her marrying. THAT’S KEY. Amen.

      1. Franciscanesta June 7, 2016 at 9:54 pm

        I agree… a nasty mother will raise nasty daughters, coz they see what their mother does as “right things”…

  13. TomP May 23, 2016 at 10:50 pm

    Great post! Will come in handy for me soon

  14. 3dogs May 23, 2016 at 11:05 pm

    This is beautiful.

  15. Djay May 24, 2016 at 12:06 am

    Roosh, you are definitly getting wiser with age. You would do a great father. I hope you can find a good woman to marry and have childrens with.

  16. Titus Vibius May 24, 2016 at 2:01 am

    Nailed it with the article.
    I always thought parenting was a skill (and a responsibility), not a right or a hobby or a bucket-list tick.

  17. Charliedelto May 24, 2016 at 2:38 am

    You sound more and more like you’re ready to be a father soon. It took us 3 years once the wife and I decided to have kids before we succeeded so don’t underestimate the journey. He’s now 10 weeks old.

    His birth changed everything and I’ll never be the same again. I’m still not past the part where I can believe he is alive and am still reeling from the miracle. I was so unprepared for the enormity of “Him” and this “He” is my son. It’s so humbling.

    The part where I guide him one way or another is still to come.

    1. Phantom May 24, 2016 at 11:52 am

      Congratulations. Enjoy him as much as you can. They sure grow up quickly before you know it. My own son was born only last week, and now he’s 11 years old. Haha.

      Oh, and great article, Roosh.

  18. Kane May 24, 2016 at 6:52 am

    “degenerate faggot socialist who suffers from clinically low testosterone.”

    Poetry – yet so true of the left

  19. Joe Cavanaugh May 24, 2016 at 9:05 am

    I’m teaching my son to hate Jews.

    1. Fokker TISM May 24, 2016 at 9:16 am

      (((Shill))) comment detected.

      F L A G G E D

  20. Andrea May 24, 2016 at 9:55 am

    This is definitely sound advice. I’m lucky that my sons’ father does a lot of this. As a parent I do struggle with limiting technology. Another thing I’ve noticed is that my sons seem to always be full of energy. They love to rough house and be physical with each other. As a single mom is hard to maintain a healthy energy level to not find their energy exhausting. I’m trying my best to not be controlling and let them explore and test their boundaries. I would appreciate to hear about the mothers who allowed you to become the men you are today. How were they on the daily basis? What do you remember about their personalities? How did you feel around them? What things did you enjoy doing with them? Etc.

    1. Jed Mask May 24, 2016 at 1:17 pm

      Hello Andrea. It’s good the father of your children has an active role in their lives. I hope you all are blessed and restored together as a WHOLE FAMILY.

      “I’m trying my best to not be controlling and let them explore and test their boundaries. I would appreciate to hear about the mothers who allowed you to become the men you are today. How were they on the daily basis? What do you remember about their personalities? How did you feel around them? What things did you enjoy doing with them? Etc.”
      My father is a strong Christian man as well as my mother.
      For me, my mother is a mentally and physically-strong Christian woman of dignity and she has always been there for me and my younger sis.
      As a kid growing up she raised us up to have good manners and to treat people right. She gave us much freedom to have the space to develop our natural talents and gifts as she even “spoiled us” with good food, lots of toys and pretty much anything we wanted; but we were good kids though; that’s why.
      In hindsight, looking back, my mom has always been very generous and hospitable to all the people she allowed into her life and was good fun and help to everyone in her life; she simply treated people the way she would want to be treated and it payed off for her and us.
      Because of the “personal conflict” my father and mother had when me and my younger sister were growing up (which is pretty much between them and their past) my mom separated from my dad and we lived on the family property with our grandparents; which turned out to be a great childhood in my ignorance of what transpired between my father and mother. It didn’t affect me “personally” until as I grew up into my teenage years and was trying to “find myself” as I was “whisked away” into growing up into a young man…
      My mother really tried and did instill the good character traits of a Christian into my being but as much as she could do; I did not learn the true reality of becoming a man until my l saw my “lacking” in male-oriented skills like knowing how to fight (though I picked on that as a child), how to use tools, how to change a car tire; playing sports and so many areas of life that men and boys naturally and traditionally did in life…
      Long story short after a few “(minor) mistakes” of my own I instinctively sought after becoming “a man” and would look to the older men in my life for guidance. My father came back into my life as I was older and I learned a few, key, vital life lessons from him; though by then I was nearly out of high school… My parents seem to get along well with no “hard-feelings” and life is good because of the Lord Jesus Christ.
      My mom is very much the “real woman” motherly figure indeed. There’s a lot more I could say of her; though you get the idea. She fulfilled her role as “mother” but as much as she tried she could not instill the character in me that only my “father” could fulfill as my father. That’s natural. She always lamented how I “didn’t have a good male role model” in my life to raise me how to be a man and deep down she always knew she as a woman can’t do a “man’s job”.
      Only a FATHER can raise sons into MEN. Not the mother; although the mother nurtures the growth of the children; but she can’t raise her sons into *real* men as it’s called. Only a MAN can fit those shoes.
      So for you Andrea, I won’t go into your personal business but I tell you from experience, I hope you and the father of your children can reconcile your differences and restore your family together; because I’m telling you: you as a woman can only be their mother but you can’t truly raise your sons into “men” without the father being present. It won’t turn out right. It just won’t. It’s not the natural order of things.
      HUSBAND (father) and WIFE (mother) and their CHILDREN raised TOGETHER is how it’s supposed to play out.
      I’ll be praying for you and your family. Thanks for commenting. Amen.
      ~ Sincerely,
      Bro. Jed

      1. Andrea May 24, 2016 at 3:59 pm

        Thank you. Trust me, I know how vital his presence is to my sons. I’ve been trying to have a respectful and healthy relationship with him and even tried to make it work but it has proven to be very difficult. He is also trying but often says that he simply cannot treat me as a friend. We have been separated for almost 3 years. I’m hoping with time he will change his approach or that I’ll get used to his very cold demeanor.

      2. iBooB May 25, 2016 at 2:39 am

        If you love your children you would do best to accept your husband for who he is good and bad.

      3. Jed Mask May 25, 2016 at 12:23 pm

        Well, I’ll be praying over that fervently Andrea. It’s good you two at least get along. Only GOD knows your situation best so it’s in His Hands.
        May you and your family be blessed in the Grace of God Almighty, Lord Jesus Christ.
        Take care in life. Amen.
        ~ Sincerely,
        Bro. Jed

    2. Jim Johnson May 24, 2016 at 6:46 pm

      Andrea, as a father of six, I would tell you a few things.

      Go to church, and become committed to it. Your boys will need the extra strength without a father. Read the scriptures every day, with them. Be consistent. Look up “for the strength of youth” for some excellent resources.

      Search “art of manliness”, it is a website about men vs. boys. This is a website about men vs. women which is not as applicable to your situation.

      Above all, know that men and women are different, their roughhousing is fine and dandy. A broken bone is one thing, a broken spirit, or getting involved in drugs is far worse.

  21. Jed Mask May 24, 2016 at 12:30 pm

    Great advice Mr. Roosh. See here THIS is the “good stuff” people should hear more often. Very *SOLID* advice; just throw the Bible (King Jame Version Holy Bible) in there and you have a fine set. Amen.

  22. Nestor May 24, 2016 at 1:43 pm

    “If you don’t want him to be homosexual, have an appreciation for feminine beauty, allow him to see the loving bond you have with your wife, and don’t leave him alone with pedo-loving liberals.”

    A person becomes a sodomite as a general rule if he is sodomized when he was young. Sodomy is repulsive for the normal man according to the law of nature. Sodomites are mentally ill persons and do not function well in real life.

    Of course, one should eliminate everything that encourages sodomy like movies and television. And one should remove his children from schools where they will be taught sodomy sooner or later. And one should stay away from sodomites and sodomite-loving liberals, as you said.

  23. EhIntellect May 24, 2016 at 3:29 pm

    As a father of 4, I admit this article should carry many far.

    Fatherhood allows me to pass the torch of knowledge, strength, and determination to the next generation. Boys naturally want to be strong leaders. Their dad is their first leadership impression. All I have to do protect them from severe danger but let them struggle with most else. If they want help they usually ask, and that’s when Dad’s really can step up.

    This site is on my teen sons’ bookmark bar for good reason. Like the weightlifting brother, men naturally gravitate toward strength. Powerful website.

    Oh, and speaking of dads, here is how most boys-to-adults grow and see their fathers:

  24. Djay May 24, 2016 at 10:07 pm

    Roosh, since you don’t like star buck, you can use this image for a future post, I found it quite funny.

  25. Jeremy May 25, 2016 at 12:52 am

    its clearly time for you to write your most ambitious book yet:

    How to apply all the game knowledge you have accumilated over years to the ultimate purpose – being in a position of acquiring a good wife, and maintaining that relationship through all its fruition

  26. splooge May 25, 2016 at 2:59 am
    figure id leave this here, since it sorta relates to your bit.
    the v and c really related to r an k selection for women and family raising, its a 4 parter

  27. Morrison May 25, 2016 at 6:05 am

    “3. Find what he likes doing, and then nurture it”

    Supposing he likes drawing and painting?

    1. Roosh May 25, 2016 at 10:44 am

      That’s not bad. Maybe let him try sculpture as well.

      I’d probably discourage poetry, though.

      1. Morrison May 26, 2016 at 7:52 am

        Sculpting is good to get him used to using tools. If he is doing metal sculpting with welding thats even better. As long as he is not sculpting penises.

      2. manuel hernandez May 26, 2016 at 10:48 pm

        Unless that poetry can be translated into good music, so would I.

      3. Guest June 9, 2016 at 8:40 pm

        Haven’t you commented in the past that only men write true (I.e. good) poetry?

  28. anon1 May 25, 2016 at 6:38 am

    Good advice.

    I definitely think there’s a niche and need within the manosphere for instructional sites by fathers on how to raise children, particularly sons and daughters.

    I think Roosh’s advice is sound but what I learned from this side of the Internet is we should always learn from those with experience, and that’s why I think it’s valuable if some older readers created their own blogs and sites to do just that.

    And by older I mean readers with children who are in their late teens or ideally 18/19/20s. Because a lot of stuff happens in the teen years that younger fathers may not countenance.

    I am thinking of having children once I hit my early 30s and I don’t have great male role model examples I can draw on that are alive today. Just tidbits from my uncle and stories of my grandfather on my mother’s side.

  29. TSK May 25, 2016 at 7:41 pm

    This sounds like what I could apply if I wanted to have kids –> son.

  30. Days of Broken Arrows May 26, 2016 at 5:03 pm

    Nice piece. But I would argue #1 should be “marry well.” A lot of traits your kids will get will be genetic (check the studies on genetics and personality and/or intelligence). What you don’t want is to marry into a family of alcoholics, dimwits, or other undesirables — the kids will reflect this. I’ve seen this happen in families and it’s not pretty. Also worth checking out are studies on how separated twins are very similar despite being raised in wildly different environments. Genetics matter.

  31. Joe Shanley May 28, 2016 at 6:23 pm

    You’d make a great father.

  32. Liam June 4, 2016 at 3:18 pm

    I watched the Godfather II last night. For most of the programmed robots out there, they will watch Harry Potter or some other trash like Twilight 3 or 4 times a year from front to back of the series. They may choose to watch it everytime they have a major holiday. For me, that’s the Godfather. Every single aspect of those films teaches men to be strong. They’re also films about being strong in business, and teaches lessons on how to mind it. If you want to raise strong boys, watch what Michael and Vito Corleone do with their sons. Marlon Brando was like THE image of masculinity in these movies. Remember: “A man who doesn’t spend time with his family cannot be a real man.”

  33. Franciscanesta June 5, 2016 at 5:46 am

    I really like this article!
    I’m a woman ( not American ).
    What you put in the article esp.point 1-3 is very true!
    For a girl, the mother should do the same things, i.e make the house nice, cooking, gardening, painting, playing musical instruments,handicrafts… usually the little girls are fascinated by how their moms do such things and they will want to try it themselves…
    At least it happened to me… I saw her making delicious meals, making crafts like crocheting or embroidery, and I learned to do it from my mom… even though she’s working ( the economy is hard here), but after work she still spent time with the kids. the result is I prefer to do crafts and gardening rather than going to the pubs. These hobbies make me feel relaxed, more effective than alcohols.
    And I impressed my boyfriend (now husband) parents-in-law by these activities, coz they could see I got other qualities than just boobs and ass.
    Really, I think parents should do things you wrote in this article!

  34. Franz Saint-Fleur June 5, 2016 at 7:14 am

    This is first article I read in months. I took a Hiatus to work on my vlog and I come back and it’s the first one I read. Amazing I’m going to use this advice when I have a kid

  35. Riccardo Onofri June 5, 2016 at 10:47 am

    I like that the first picture of the article is from the Book of Mormon. That’s the prophet Abinadi being received by king Noah and telling him to repent and follow God’s commandments.

    Did you choose it knowing it’s from the Book of Mormon or was it just random?

    1. Jed Mask June 8, 2016 at 3:41 pm

      … The Book of Mormon is a FALSE religious cult of the Devil, SATAN founded by the FALSE wannabe prophet “Joseph Smith”.

      … Shoot even the wicked, secular worldly show “South Park” knows how ludicrous the Mormon stuff is.

      I suggest you get acquainted with the TRUE GOD: LORD JESUS CHRIST!

      Get saved!:

      And read ye the KING JAMES VERSION HOLY BIBLE (KJV)!:
      Be safe in His Grace…
      ~ Sincerely,
      Bro. Jed

      1. Riccardo Onofri June 8, 2016 at 7:10 pm

        lol are you for real? Im not even mormon

      2. Jed Mask June 9, 2016 at 3:36 pm

        Yeah, I’m “for real”. It’s good you are not a Mormon. Turn to JESUS CHRIST and be SAVED sir. God LOVES you. Amen.

  36. Kronos1978 June 9, 2016 at 4:00 am

    Well put, especially given the fact that you don’t have kids yourself. But it sound as time is ripe for you to transmit all the knowledge and wisdom you acquired over the years to your own kids (ideally boys).

    I’m father to a 2 year old son, and there is absolutely nothing in life I enjoy more then being with him, teaching him, observing him learning, watching him experiencing the world with all his curiosity…and definitely its even nicer when the babymama is not around 🙂

    And to all of those, who fear that life and fun is over, once you have a family: Its not. Especially if you are self-employed or have a job that allows you to come around and be out of the house from time to time, you can still chase skirts, if that is what you want,

  37. curious June 12, 2016 at 5:39 am

    What if you had a daughter? How would you want her to be raised? What would you teach her?

  38. K June 17, 2016 at 6:31 am

    One of the best articles on this site. Great advice for this modern day degenerate mess of a society. If I may add my long-winded input…

    I fear that a family friend may struggle with being a normal masculine man in certain aspects. Overall, he’s a kind good-hearted guy who has a strong work ethic. However, he lacks any sense of backbone/self-defense and is afraid of any conflict (may be due to parents constantly fighting?). He’s very sensitive, and even tells me and others to stop talking about negative world events or politics when he’s in the room. Any criticism against him will result in other relatives angrily shaming the “bad” person for hurting his feelings. I can understand the random SJW on cringe videos being like this, but it’s hard when it’s a loved one…He won’t listen to a younger relative (me) and all the older male relatives are wimps themselves.

    Throughout his school years (and now as an adult) he’d always passively take bullying, even getting his hat thrown across the hall and had to pick it up, ‘friends’ repeatedly saying put-downs to his face without him saying anything back, etc. He’s short, but when I try to encourage taking self-defense classes he says he’s fine, that he can punch good. (Putin is shorter than Obama, so height doesn’t mean a man is destined to become less dominant than taller men.)

    The spinelessness is too much to bear sometimes. On Fakebook he made a fan club for a guy that he let cheat off of his test, white-knighting for him over the course of ~5 years, saying things like he has sleepless nights and worships him. Some of his likes consist of feminine therapy groups with dumb quotes about feelings.

    He once told me when he was in a store he heard a mom & preteen daughter arguing, and said he was glad he got out of there because “anything could’ve happened” (there’s near 0 violent crime here). Another time we were talking about a movie that involved someone’s house being shot at. His female relative said if they were in that position hypothetically, it would be best to shoot back, and he replied, “No, you can’t just do that!” (so he wouldn’t protect his family???).

    I try to tell him red-pill things but he shames me for it (like when I told him reasons to never hire women if he has his own business, he then got mad and face-palmed and changed the topic). He’s very naive when it comes to the true nature of women, even though he got cheated on.

    Let’s just say that the ‘men’ in the family are Hillary supporters, and most of the women are dominant feminist cunts (only a few of them are Trump supporters). Never underestimate the value of raising your son (or daughter) right.