7 Things I Would Tell My Teenage Self

Yesterday I turned 32 years old in Poland, a place where I have a pleasant lifestyle thanks to years of work on my game and my books. Yet if I followed the below suggestions from a younger age, it would have cut short the amount of time I spent doing things that made me unhappy, allowing this moment to arrive much sooner. These are the things I have already told my 15-year-old brother.

Dear teenage Roosh,

1. Don’t listen to your parents. They want you to have a stable and boring existence without the struggle they had to go through. They want you to play it safe instead of taking risks that may lead to your ruin or even death. Unfortunately, if you follow their advice the most you’ll get out of it is a steady paycheck. You will have a mere average existence with average women and average experiences in an average city. Understand that the more risks you take, the greater rewards you receive.

2. Hit the gym. Just because you’re not the best looking guy doesn’t mean you should give up on being attractive. Weight lifting will help you build confidence and increase your testosterone level so that taking risks literally becomes in your blood.

3. Cut off the television, internet, and video games. Pick a hobby such as music, writing, DJing, languages, or sports, and dedicate one hour per day on it. You’ll be a beast before you even hit 21, where it’ll not only make a positive contribution to your life, but give you the option to take an alternative path.

4. Read at least two books every month. You don’t know shit about life right now. Hell, you still won’t know a whole lot even when you turn 30. Keep yourself sharp by tapping into the brains of others through their work. Writers have spent hundreds of hours to create books that distills all their knowledge or experience in an easily digestible format. Take advantage of that, and watch your conversational skills increase as a result.

5. Stop being concerned about what other people think of you. They don’t care about you. They are so wrapped up in their own insecurities and what you think of them that you’re wasting your energy trying to get accepted by strangers. Take risks, fuck everyone else, and note down what you learn. If you’re not making a lot of mistakes, you’re not doing enough.

6. Take the pussy off the pedestal. You know what? Just become sexist. If getting laid is what you want, that’s the path you should take in the feminist society you live in. You can soften that stance when you get older, but for now just view women as mindless fuck toys who are garbage. Whether or not they really are garbage, this will get you more pussy than you’ve ever imagined. Sure it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy in a way, but you’re living in an age where the laws and cultural environment concerning marriage are set up to destroy you. You might as well get laid a lot.

7. Have a backup plan to earning a living. Don’t count on putting in four years at college and getting a cushy job that lasts until some golden retirement. Don’t count on some cunt in Human Resources to like your answer to what your greatest weakness is. Don’t let people who don’t care about you determine your income. Re-read number 3 again. One hour a day into something has probably made you a mini-expert. What service or product can you now create with your expertise that someone else would be happy to buy? Trust me when I say you’ll be much happier making $20,000 a year controlling your destiny than four times as much being controlled by someone else.

Good luck little Roosh!

Sincerely,

Old Roosh

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The Truth
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Good advice. Happy Birthday!

JT
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Amen! Happy birthday!

MO
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Happy Birthday Roosh man

olivherbst
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Epic post. Especially the last point got to me. I really should go on writing this self-defense book I started some time ago.

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100% spot on…agree whole hearteldy with all your points. I tell my high school students constantly about turning off the t.v., reading books, thinking for yourself and taking risks. Being an American Male in his mid 30’s I have watched how the USA has been and keeps being destroyed by warping the minds of the masses/young people with its fucked up media and pussified pop culture. Throw in money grubbing lawyers, and entitled unfemine women and it just makes me cringe as to where this country and it’s future holds. I still have some hope, that a small percentage of our youth can right this ship, keep doing what your doing…..happy bday and keep living the dream. –Tully

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Hope some Pole has the decency to put out to celebrate your Birthday!

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Have a good birthday, Roosh, and this post is excellent. It reminds me of Pook, and his Book of Pook, who said the similar things except with much more poetic language.

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Congrats Roosh!
Shit I’m 25 and I will follow the list myself..
great advice for life.

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excellent, excellent advice. I’m 7 years older and my letter to my younger self would look very similar. In other words, you already know a lot of the shit it’s taken me till now to figure out – and I thought I was a truth seeker throughout my whole life. Problem was thinking truth could be found in politics, music, or art. It’s all there but it’s not YOUR truth.
respeck

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Maybe your best post today. Happy birthday, and I just realized we have more in common (I turned 31 today).

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*to date

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At least I’m still considering myself a late teenager… Happy B-day? from Colombia

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Happy Birthday bro,

I have a feeling The Weekend Mix tape and an afer hour party was involved.

I would tell my teenage self that all the girls that I think are hot and might have dissed me at the time, in less than ten years they’ll be fat, have little fat kids and hate their lives. Time is the ultimate equalizer between the sexes.

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Happy birthday.. your last two posts have been great. Keep it up.

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Dude you almost lost me with your first point. Don’t listen to ur parents? I have 3 kids. My daughter is hard headed and likes to learn things the hard way. one of my sons listens all the time. Neither extreme is preferable. Follow the middle path. Heard of that before? wink

Johnny Milfquest
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That’s sound advice. Not just for teenagers!

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Happy birthday!

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Preach playa preach. I get into arguments with my parents about this shit all the time. I took their advice all the time and its gotten me a college degree which is useless because i cant find a job here in D.C. I also got a huge amount of debt. If I had listen to my instincts I would have been a concert drummer with the skills I have. I definitely would not have wasted my time in college. A 9 to 5 is a waste of life.

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There is a lot of good advice here.

I would also advise to start traveling early.

“Don’t listen to your parents.”

The problem with parents advice these days is the things they say worked great before America got completely f*cked up.

Now is just Pitbull eat Rottweiler.

In this day and age, their advice doesn’t translate as well. Especially concerning college, careers, and financial advice.

However, my MOM is still right about nearly everything.

“Trust me when I say you’ll be much happier making $20,000 a year controlling your destiny than four times as much being controlled by someone else.”

Great point.

It would take about a million a year (probably more) for me to start working for some balding chimp in khakis in some crap office.

Freedom is everything.

Hell, I just spent the day hitting on topless girls at the beach.

Try that trick in an office park in Topeka.

– MPM

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@19 “Freedom is everything.”

Man, you ain’t never lied.

Chad Daring
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Its cliche to say his really resonated with me but its true. The past month I’ve been in a funk. I got a new car a new pad and a promotion but I was less happy then I’ve been in a while.

I was empty. My life was plain and thankfully I’ve been realizing this on my own in no small part thanks to you and the other masters.

I feel lucky to have been exposed to your site and books at a young age. I’m not a teen and I wish I had gotten this advice even sooner but everyday is a chance to change.

Happy birthday and thank you.

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Chad Daring –

“I got a new car a new pad and a promotion but I was less happy then I’ve been in a while.”

That is because that crap doesn’t mean anything. (Now if you are talking Custom Suits, then, yes, those make you feel great).

Hell, before I found freedom (not complete mind you, still working on that trick) I had a ton of material stuff (not jacka*ss material stuff mind you) but I was not nearly as happy as now.

That is why you see so many “successful” people hit drugs so heavy; they hate their lives.

I can’t even remember the last time I did drugs.

– MPM

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Solid post.

When I finished university I got a decent job with the idea I’d save some money and buy a house and settle down.

It sucked, all I wanted to do was go back to university where I worked a bar job, hooked up with girls and drove my motorcycle all day.

Within a year I quit and went to Rio (another Roosh inspired move).

Money doesnt buy happiness. If you’re living your life making someone else happy (parents, partner, boss), chances are you’re not making yourself happy.

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Truly priceless advice.

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Roosh, you are 9 years older than me.

I feel lucky to have stumbled across your blog and forum a year and a half ago. There is so much wisdom to be found from older more experienced role models. When I was younger, all I knew was that I didn’t want to “ride to conveyor belt of life.” I attribute your writings as part of a major lifestyle philosophy that I am working hard to put into practice now.

Rest assured that my younger brothers will all be getting their copies of Bang, as well as this blog when they turn 18.

Happy birthday, Roosh.

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I lived my like this.

I just turned 29 and I’ve had a rough time making a go at stuff. It’s awful and horrible and miserable. I’ve lost friends (you really find out how much your friends care about your when you become a self-employed person who doesn’t become a gadzillionaire right off the bat), and my family looks at me askance with the constant joke “Get a job!” lol.

I hope when I’m 32 I’m feeling as good a you Roosh.

But it’s not an easy road to travel. Although, you do learn WAY more about yourself and the world—and that is priceless and what keeps me going.

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Happy Birthday Roosh!
Beautiful Advice, As a teenager I’m taking it in and memorizing it.
I feel so lucky that I found out about game and location free living so early.
I hope to have it down by my early 20s so I don’t have to work for someone else.

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It looks like i’m the only actual teenager posting here. Even though teenagers are young it is tricky to change habits and then onwards to mindset. Routing many false beliefs on child’s brain does cause damage.
However, being provided massive amount of free time, if it’s used in the right way then you really feel happy about life.

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Hey Roosh
Did your infamous “Same Birthday” psycho-“soulmate” send you a bouquet of flowers for your birthday.

or just some rabbits in a boiler.

ps great article. encapsulates a lot of your world views in a neat readable and most importantly use-able fashion.

with so much shit out there that’s labelled self-help, it’s weird that your writing’s the only thing that’s having an actual concrete impact on the course of many guys’ lives.

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Happy birthday Roosh!

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I would amend number 1.

Listen to your parents–they (usually) actually care about you. That doesn’t mean you have to follow their script, but you should take their perspective into account–it’s coming from a positive place, built upon experience.

Instead, utterly ignore popular media and conventional societal pressures. The mass media couldn’t care less about you; they’re just trying to make money propagating liberal utilitarian garbage.

And most Americans, male and female, lap it up.

So, trash your television, pay no attention to the latest popular culture celebrities and memes, and instead figure out what you want and do just that.

Wallowing in popular culture will destroy both your mind and soul. Aspiring to get that corporate cubicle job with great benefits and then a lifetime mortgage…well…ugh.

Work out, read, create things that matter to you, and of course, game fine women.

Now that I’ve preached it, it’s time for me to start living it.

Good post, Roosh.

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Happy Bday Roosh,

Another epic post.

I´m self employed, I´m enjoying the ride. Confort and freedom are antagonic. The more you have one, the more you loose the other. I´m working 12 hours per day. But I´m my own boss. I organize things as I want, without having to ask permission to nobody. And I answer to nobody. That´s a fucking great feeling.
The only thing that worries me is death. One day closing my eyes. The only answer I found for this is having a child to continue living in him.

Keep it up Roosh.

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I love lists like these.
Here’s a few additions from me:

0. Make a list of all your FEARS, social and non-social ones. Be totally honest. Then conquer them one by one. There are books on how to.

FEAR is what makes men to mice. FEAR is the only obstacle between what you want to have or achieve.

1. Join a boxing club for a year or two. Do heavy sparring. Learn how to take punches and hit hard.
Don’t ask why. Just do it.

2. Learn game and practice – as early as possible. Bang cute hookers if you like, but not exclusively. Always wrap up.

3. Travel as a backpacker for 6-12 months after school. It will open your mind, teach you lessons and give you memories for a lifetime.

4. Learn at least one other language when in your teens. Smart guys know they can combine 2, 3 and 4.

5. Take dancing lessons for a year or two. Salsa is fine. Don’t ask why. Just do it.

6. Get a side job that puts you in a social environment and makes some money, like bartending. Once a week is fine.

7.Keep cool and relax. Accept that all of us are gonna have regrets in the end. Just make sure you have very few of them.

8. Worship the 80/20 Rule (Pareto Principle).
Don’t ask why. Find out yourself.

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I’m almost 21, and I actually told my dad something along these lines recently. He was 17 when I was born. I was like, “Dad. What is the point of passing on your genes, especially at such a young age…if the way you raise your kid ensures that your kid will have extreme difficulty doing the same?” He is a fundamentalist Christian now.

And he had no answer to my question. Sad day.

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Clap. Clap. Clap.

Anon
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@ Chad Daring,

You’re sad because your reptile brain realizes that fucking hot chicks is 100,000 times better than a new Civic, new apartment lease, a jr. manager promotion.

BTW what do a new car, new pad, and new promotion have in common?

They’re all RESPONSIBILITIES.

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Number 3 is huge. I meet so many people at this “place of higher learning” who have nothing they enjoy doing. They lack a hobby and I find them incredibly uninteresting people.

Do something you like, work towards your 10000 hours. You’ll be a rockstar in no time.

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Congratulations roosh, but who will you be celebrating your birthday with now, since youre abroad.

Agree with every point btw, passive income is best

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this post is spot on. I couldn’t agree more with the points.

Snoeperd
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Btw roosh, how often do you wokr out?

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“You’re sad because your reptile brain realizes that fucking hot chicks is 100,000 times better than a new Civic, new apartment lease, a jr. manager promotion.”

Ha.

When he wrote that I was thinking a Porsche, a new home purchase at the beach and a VP slot.

– MPM

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I work like a maniac for the last decade. I have almost 3mil Euros in the bank. My job is 24/7 all year long and at places where only crazy men like me go. No socializing with women because there aren’t any around. When there is time for R&R, me and a couple of friends hit the high class escorts scene hard and then back to the grid till next time.
I am 37 should I do this for another decade and stash a cool 10mil or quit now? Share your 2c$.

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Thank you for existing man! You have changed countless lives for the better!

Chad Daring
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@G and @Anon

This is what I began realizing myself, then of course I read this and it just clicked. Stuff doesn’t make you happy, and that was exactly what happened. I was hoping a new car, job, place, would all make me happy, and when they didn’t that made me unhappy.

Now I’m just gonna live and take it in stride and enjoy my life one day at a time

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When the check comes ask, “Are you a feminist?” If she replies yes then say, “Okay well I’ll let you pay half. I don’t want to offend you.

that’s golden.
I would phrase it as would you consider yourself a feminist?

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to pimp or not to pimp, that is the question

happy birthday homo

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Happy Birthday. Epic post.

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Damn Roosh, I turned 23 yesterday and it hit me. I’m not a kid anymore. My young years are now being counted. My life mirrors yours a lot. I got dumped by my girlfriend four months ago. I deeply cared about her, even though she was far from perfect. She dumped me for nebulous reasons like a lack of “spark” or “chemistry”, even though I had not changed my behavior since we got together until the end. She is so hot, but she’s older than me by 1.5 years and I have been obese for a while. I wasn’t surprised I lost her, but I realized I had only gotten her by being more alpha than the guys she knew and I’m fairly handsome and charismatic.

I think about her each day, but I know I have to move on. I feel like I’m embarking on a journey similar to yours, Roosh.

Have fun in Poland. Pole chicks can be so fine!

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#1 in a great musical/visual/lyric form:

http://youtu.be/UdvIUHw31js

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Chad,

It’s just like Fight Club: the things you own end up owning you. In fact, the key to happy living (at least in America) is to be happy IN SPITE OF the things you have, NOT BECAUSE OF the things you have. It sounds twisted, but I think it’s true.