Thanks to influence from both Virgle Kent and The G Manifesto, I decided to try out suit game. It started with buying a suit while I lived in Poland. I tried on many different suits and picked the one with the best natural fit. It happened to be from Zara. It wasn’t the highest quality but it looked good on me and was therefore acceptable for testing purposes. I had the jacket sleeves shortened to allow the cuff of my shirt to stick out a bit and I also tailored my pants, both the waist and length. I would wear it with a pocket square and skinny tie. Here are the things I’ve noticed from my suit experimentation:
1. I received more eye contact from everyone. Women gave me more stares, but I actually got more attention from men, who approached me frequently to compliment my attire.
2. Women did not approach me outright because of the suit. After ten wearings it only happened twice, both by girls I wasn’t interested in. You still have to be pro-active about approaching. Don’t expect the suit to draw in women like a tractor beam.
3. It caused me to spend more money. Wearing a suit had a strange psychological effect on my spending habits by encouraging me to make it rain in the club, even if I didn’t plan on doing so. It’s like my brain insisted on pushing a behavior that would better match my look.
4. My standards went way up. When I looked good and knew I looked good, I became much more discriminate about who I approached, with the effect that I approached less. Very few girls were good enough for me when I was suited up.
5. Non-Westernized girls don’t appreciate a man in a suit. If you go to Eastern Europe, it won’t be uncommon for you to see beautiful girls with guys dressed like bums. The girls know what a suit is, but it’s not something that makes them interested in you. The times I got positive attention from the suit was more from Westernized girls. I remember in Iceland and Denmark I’d get approached many times from girls when just wearing a nice collared shirt.
6. It didn’t make the game easier. I’ve written many times how money has less effect on getting laid than people think. If it improves your logistics and access to women it will help, but just having a stack of cash in your pocket isn’t going to do much if you don’t have the game and lifestyle to match. If you pick up a girl in a suit and then take her home in your hoopdie to some shithole apartment, you may actually turn her off more than if you had more of a hipster look. She’d feel tricked. The suit has to be part of a rich tapestry.
7. I got more mileage from the suit while wearing it on dates. If a girl already liked me, and then I rolled up on the first date wearing a suit (on the weekend), there was a sort of “power couple” effect when we went into a club. With a suit and a pretty girl, I would get an insane amount of looks from other females, increasing my date’s jealousy. The suit would also make her feel more proud to be hooking up with such a fine looking gentleman.
8. Not all venues are made for suits. The effect of the suit will be greatly diminished in a fancy place where every other guy is wearing one as well. On the other hand, wearing it in a dive bar will be a waste of your fine threads. The best place to wear a suit is in a semi-nice venue where you are the only one wearing a suit. You will stand out in a positive way.
9. It can make you feel really hot. Even in cold weather, wearing a suit indoors can make you sweat. From a practical standpoint, it’s not the most functional thing to wear when going out at night where even a little dancing will be involved.
Overall, suit game promotes a more passive strategy where you hope to catch some eye contact from willing girls in order to do more casual, situational approaches. Unless the girl approaches you outright, the amount of work you’ll have to put in compared to when you’re suitless remains the same. The problem is that the suit encourages you to lay back and be cool, meaning you will do a lot less approaches than normal. Therefore, I actually got laid less with a suit than without. It did not have a notch-increasing effect that I was hoping for. Unless you’re in a venue where girls are approaching guys in suits (I’m getting word that this may be the case in America), I don’t see it helping much.
This experiment reminds me of how game and effort trumps everything. They are the biggest determinant to a man’s results with women. I don’t believe it would happen that we can take the same girl and have her be interested in me while suited up though completely reject me if I’m wearing something like a v-neck and jeans. This may be the case in elite venues, but those aren’t the type of places I go to.
If you have the bankroll to frequent places where women look for status and wealth, a suit would be a logical choice to get your foot in the door, but looking to the suit alone as some type of game miracle prop is foolhardy. It must fit in with your overall look, game, and vibe. I’ll wear it once or twice a month just to mix things up (if it’s not hot), but I don’t see it taking over my more casual style in the foreseeable future.