When I’m hunting, I view a girl who crosses my path from the bottom up. Her legs, after seeing so many thousand pairs, reveal to me her body’s size and shape, even if she’s wearing a long winter coat. I look away if the legs are misshapen or lumpy, not daring to risk accidental eye contact. Otherwise, my eyes move upward, excitedly, to see what kind of chest, face, and hair she has. I then make a snap judgement of her overall condition and if she’s worth my effort.

When a girl passes my visual inspection, she’ll have at least a good body and an average face with one unique quality that is exquisite. That’s more than enough to pursue a night or two of sex, but for more than that, I need much more—I need a face that I could love.

A face that I could love may not contain the most beauty, or the least amount of flaws, but it is a face that I’d enjoy looking at every day for the rest of my life, one that I would instinctively risk my life for if a group of men more barbarian than me tried to take her away. A face that I could love will still contain objective beauty, because a man of my experience and age can’t be anything but a widower of beauty, but I rather stay alone than to be with an ugly face that I cannot possibly love.

A face that I could love will not be the same face that you could love, and that’s something we should both be grateful for. I can try and describe it to you, the softness of her cheeks, the silent invitation of her eyes, the gentle moistness of her lips, but it would just give you the wrong idea. A face that I could love can not be measured or quantified. If I explained it to a police sketch artist, he’d up drawing a monstrosity, because the heart cannot put into words what it wants. A face that I could love is imprecise, maybe awkward even, but always beautiful, like the the first flight of a bird after its mother encourages it out of the nest.

Love is a decision. When you perceive that a girl is deserving of your love, you let go. You turn off your shield so things happen as they may. While she may refuse that love, and stab you in the back with a hundred serrated knives, the decision must be made for you to feel what is love.

If you do not make the decision for love, the end will be decided at the beginning. When the novelty of her energy or naked body fades, or she dares to do something the least bit bothersome that you wouldn’t even notice on a girl who has a face that you could love, you’ll end it hastily, cruelly, without regret. The course of events with a new girl is written in the first meeting, if not the first minute, if not in the first moment you glance at her, top to bottom or bottom to top, with a most careful examination of her face. None of this requires your conscious awareness. You know if you will love her before you know if you will love her.

When I’m with a girl who has a face that I cannot love, I avoid her eyes. What a waste to be with such a girl! I’ll get some orgasms from her, as cheaply as I can get them, but the time it takes to get an orgasm from a face that I cannot love means I miss out on the opportunity, the chance meeting, with a face that I could love, but the need for sex is stronger than the need for love, and even easier to satisfy, so it’s sex I have pursued for so many years and sex that I will continue to pursue, but I know this is a devil’s bargain, for while I can experience the sexual satisfaction of sultans of old, the chance of love fades with every new girl.

The better I’ve become at gaining sex, the less I am open to the possibility of love, and sometimes at night, when I lay on my bed before going to sleep, I wonder what would happen if I write off sex completely to just talk to girls who have a face that I could love, a face I see once every several weeks, often while looking at the face of a man whom she already loves. I fall asleep. The anonymous women who come in and out of my dreams seem to mirror the ones that come in and out of my life. The pattern holds firm, the grey hairs steadily increase in number, and my motivation to work for women fades, so I greedily hold on to any short-term pleasure while the chance of making a sacrifice for a face that I could love becomes ever more improbable, until it will finally disappear. My heart will give up soon, and then it will be hard to look at faces anymore.

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  1. Amanda Johnson July 24, 2017 at 10:48 am

    No matter how realistic men become, they will still be romantic, awwwww

    1. Roosh July 24, 2017 at 12:05 pm

      A man can love a woman for who she is. You can only love a man for how he makes you feel.

      1. KingEdward July 24, 2017 at 1:56 pm

        I think you summarized the male-female dynamic in that one phrase Roosh. I think your piece about the Brazilian girl you loved might still be the best. You should repost that one sometime.

      2. EB February 15, 2018 at 6:39 am


      3. GuiltyRifle58 July 25, 2017 at 11:02 am

        Sometimes you sound like you’re going to go MGTOW.

      4. Jack July 25, 2017 at 12:14 pm

        Probably the best course of action for him. At his age, status, income, looks, reputation, he’s priced out of the market.

        A middle-aged man pining over a beautiful face, ugh, not a good look.

      5. Da Mac July 27, 2017 at 4:48 am

        Fortunately for him, he’s left the capitalist marketplace behind.

      6. Robere July 28, 2017 at 6:26 pm

        wtf? I’m older than Roosh and have dated and slept with several *beautiful* very young women this year. Albeit mostly in foreign countries. The fuck outta here with your defeatist BS

      7. Scotcho Rouleau July 27, 2017 at 6:50 pm

        Not true. My wife yearned for my seed when we met.

      8. True King July 30, 2017 at 12:06 am

        The truth of that statement pains my soul.

      9. yomomma August 7, 2017 at 3:31 pm

        The shear hypocrisy of what you write is mind boggling.
        You don’t love women for who they are, you love women the same way a man loves his fancy car. You see women as nothing more as an extension of yourself.

        You compare women to t-shirts (http://www.returnofkings.com/829/women-are-like-t-shirts) and bread (http://www.returnofkings.com/675/women-are-like-bread), and then wonder why you can’t find a “face to love”? No women in the right state of mind would ever choose to spend her life with you once she finds half the stuff you have written online.

        You aren’t romantic, you are a pissed off almost 40 year old who doesn’t understand why he can’t find an 18 year old virgin who will never age past 25 but puts out on the first date and has been waiting her entire life to serve only Roosh V.

      10. Noah brandini August 8, 2017 at 9:42 pm

        I have realized that most of all the time we have bad relationships because we base our relationships in fantasy and not in reality. This means that we have these unrealistic ideas of what we want with a partner that doesn’t match our reality. So if we start basing our relationships with realistic expectations, we could have better loving relationships.

      11. L January 6, 2018 at 7:15 am

        “You can only love a man for how he makes you feel.”

        Is this not literally what you are describing here though? You say that the face that you love is decided in the first few moments of the meeting, you do not know her or her flaws, you are falling in love with an abstract ideal, with a feeling. I don’t see you describing loving a woman for who she is, but an idealized love an idea with no personality of her own that only serves you. Might as well just get a dog.

    2. Vegard Johansen July 24, 2017 at 3:43 pm

      How many good love songs where written by a woman?
      The same thing goes for poetry, films etc.(relative to men)
      Valentine`s, anniversaries etc. Well that`s all about women buying stuff for men, and creating a romantic ambiance, showing how much they appreciate them isn`t it? Maybe not.

      Women want men to desire them, but men have to bring the romance part to the table. From men`s perspective, women appear very unromantic I would say. Not faulting women for this, it`s just another consequence of evolution. But pretending it is not so is BS.

    3. shura July 24, 2017 at 4:24 pm

      I think men are intensely romantic when they allow themselves to be. When they lower that shield Roosh describes. And the better the man, the more difficult the lowering of it. The emotional realm isn’t the natural home of men, but when they find their way to it, when they allow it in, they ennoble emotions in a way women are rarely able. Otherwise, men languish in the physical. Like a sultan of old.

      But I think “romantic awww” doesn’t do justice to the hard won self awareness and insight of this piece.

      1. Red Rollins July 25, 2017 at 6:15 am

        I wouldn’t say, “The better the man, the more difficult it is to lower the shield.” What is a better man: someone who is nigger rich, care free, works less but makes more, growing string bean, muscled up juice head, or a guy that has has traveled and fucked with some sluts? Who is the ultimate judge? And please, do not say the moderators of a blog forum are the end all and be all to anything in the tangible realm. Maybe you mean the guys that have witnessed the act of having played the fool the most are the last to lower the shield. AKA the fuck boys or their homies

      2. shura July 27, 2017 at 9:24 am

        Look at those descriptions! 🙂

        Well that’s maybe not easy for me to describe, being a girl. By my observation, a better man is a self actualized man, one who has internalized archetypal masculine traits with awareness.

        Some shields are made of mostly scar tissues, true. Those shields aren’t so hard to break. Plenty of the people behind those shields are just about begging you to break them. The shield is emotion based so the breaking is too. A self actualized man’s shield is made of intelligence and right perception more than not. I’d say something similar applies to “better” women – though I might replace ‘intelligence’ with ‘virtue’.

    4. Shaughnessy July 24, 2017 at 7:33 pm

      After moving to France, listening to anglophone women say “awe” makes me cringe. Why do we do this America? Pas chic, pas sexy. My comment is not a personal attack by any means, simply an observation. I’ve heard so many French people make fun of this while imitating anglophone girls approaching a puppy. I’ve come to think part of the reason American men are less romantic is the female response of “awe,” and if we could find a sexy response not also associated with puppies and babies, and therefore not emasculating and/or slightly degrading, maybe men would start to be more expressive. But, that’s just my opinion. Maybe women have adopted this approach the same way they’ve adopted negging. But, we all know a girl telling a guy he’s cute (friendzone) is very different than a guy teIling a girl she’s cute. I’d love to know from someone well-traveled if “awe” appears to be an anglophone thing. Everyone seems to love Ukrainian and Polish girls; what are their responses after a lover has made a romantic gesture?

      1. Aleksandra Zivkovic July 26, 2017 at 11:06 pm

        Trust me, that awww thing is yours entirely. You also smile too much, always seem overly enthusiastic, which looks fake to many of us. Sorry, lol

      2. Salarino July 28, 2017 at 12:02 am

        It’s called ‘the American Smile’ by the French sweetheart.

      3. Shaughnessy July 30, 2017 at 3:28 pm

        Haha, no need to apologize; it’s not something that was ever a personal habit and now that I live in France I don’t have to deal with it anymore.

      4. Turboprop ✓ 🇺🇦 August 2, 2017 at 3:28 am

        In EE, people perceive you as mentally ill for acting that way.

      5. Salarino July 28, 2017 at 12:00 am

        First off, French girls are wonderful and are slams out of the park compared to American women.

        There’s a lot less bullshit sentimentality with them, virtually none has been my experience. I don’t know if it has been your experience with them as well, but have you also noticed they have a good laugh at “the American smile”?

        Back on topic, my wife is French, I spent a good deal of time in the Francophone world (i.e Quebec and France) and never once heard a young lady say ‘Awe!!!!!’

        Although they sure do like to serve men and act pretty feminine, just my two cents, for whatever it’s worth.

        Have a Monaco at the cafe for me brother 😉

      6. Shaughnessy July 30, 2017 at 3:32 pm

        I completely agree. American interactions are very forced. I love living here, largely because I’ve learned so much about being feminine and am not shamed for being a feminine young woman.

      7. Salarino July 31, 2017 at 8:29 pm

        Call me sexist, but I assumed you were a young man.

        Anywho, that’s wonderful that you’ve moved there and are having a blast. I can see why a young, non-brainwashed American girl would like hanging out with French girls. They are generally pretty pleasant to be around and socialize with.

        I’m sure that it’s a breath of fresh air to be there.

      8. Shaughnessy August 4, 2017 at 7:53 pm

        Interestingly enough, I no longer have any American girl friends…

      9. Robere July 28, 2017 at 6:29 pm

        She either meant it condescendingly or sarcastically. Par for the course for American girls….

      10. Zarathoustra August 3, 2017 at 4:58 am

        Yeah. Frenchman, living in California for the last 3 years. Overall, French dating is more pleasant, more natural. But American girls are really slutty. If that’s your thing…
        PS : and the AWESOME thing. God. That shit should be made illegal.

    5. Robere July 28, 2017 at 6:24 pm

      Men love unconditionally, women love transactionally. Men are the true romantics. That’s why they write all the love songs.

    6. citizen49a July 29, 2017 at 7:56 am

      Begone strumpet!

  2. Gammelsvensk July 24, 2017 at 11:00 am

    First i had to check, is this really Roosh writing? Its different but it must be some of your best writing. Lot of wisdom here, the kind only those who have been there understand. A few years older than you i can no longer motivate myself to chase a girl i couldn’t love. Yes if she comes easy ill bang a slut but i won’t invest. So the bangs get rarer, not because looks or ability is lacking but the investment isn’t worth the return. One can’t fool one self as one could when somewhat younger and all was novelty. Now i know all to well what kind of girl i want. Only when she has that something special will i do what it takes to follow through.

  3. somebody July 24, 2017 at 11:14 am

    This question got swamped in other comments the last time, so I’ll repost it:

    Roosh, what the fuck happened to Kings Wiki? Seems some drama caused it
    to shut down recently, but I can’t find any info anywhere on what
    happened. Care to fill us in on that?

  4. Copperhead Joe July 24, 2017 at 11:34 am

    I’m in love. I met her in 2013. We are both in our late 40s. She is a widow; her husband died 11 years ago from a brain tumor. It took 2.5 years for me to “let go” as Roosh puts it, because I had reservations about giving up on having kids (I’ve never been married and don’t have kids). But let go I did, last spring. During the time when I had reservations, I moved back to my home state (I met her while working 1200 miles from home as a consultant) to sell a house and have an addition built on my cabin. She knew from our first date that I would do that. I told her I would come back. She could sense I had reservations. She told me that she feared I would leave her, and I did little to comfort her, even putting her through 2 soft breakups, and telling her I didn’t want to get married early in 2016 over the phone. We reconciled both breakups within 48 hours, but they happened, and were my actions. A problem that haunted me was that she had an online dating profile last year, while I was living away from her. When I found it, she told me that it was just for attention, that she loved and needed me, and she took it down when I promised her that we would plan a future together (I know game would say next her at that point, and I normally would have, but this was different).
    Well I made it back to her state, found a good job, and was heading to my home state 6 weeks ago to get some of my things. I was calling her as I was driving, and se wasn’t answering the phone for 1.5 hours (not a big deal per se, but we traditionally talk at that time when I am on the road). I was remembering the dating profile (over a year ago) as I was driving, and delusional jealousy got me around the neck. It spiraled out of control, and when she called me back, I accused her of cheating and told her I don’t want to talk now, bye. For about 5 days I was convinced she was cheating and didn’t call her. After I calmed down, I read all of her emails from the previous month, and said to myself, you idiot, she was outside working in the garden just like she said. I called her, no answer. Emailed her 2 weeks later, no reply. Her faceberg page was deactivated (I know, facebook, why would a man my age have anything to do with it, I know, but this is relevant). I mailed a very heartfelt, hand written letter to her about my faults with jealousy, told her I understood the online dalliance last year and it meant nothing to me, told her I made the biggest mistake of my life, even threw in some stuff I had read about delusional jealousy and admitted that although I make fun of psychologists, this time they knew something about me that I didn’t . She got it maybe 5 days ago. On the day I assumed she got it, her facebook profile came back up, still with all pictures of us, and it stands that way today. No new guys, she’s not on the online dating site. I really love this woman; I’ve dated hundreds of girls, and she is the most compatible in my life by a wide margin. I’m not a oneitis type gamma at all guys, I’d say high delta on Vox Day’s scal, plenty of experience. This is not something I generally do. No reply to the letter yet. This girl was absolutely crazy about me for 3.5 years and put up with all my shit. Can I salvage this? I need to get her in front of me and look at her and talk to her. I don’t know if the cheating accusation shut her feelings down permanently, if she told her whole family and they are pressuring her to ditch me, if she was dating someone else, if she hates me, if she is saving face by giving back what I did to her, or if she wants to be pursued like she used to want when I was lukewarm in the past.

    1. Demography is Destiny July 24, 2017 at 3:21 pm

      Sorry man, you have not my sympathies. You say you have plenty of experience but you behaved like a teenager drama queen when it turned out she was just doing gardening. I can understand the woman that she is growing tired of this volatility. I avoid it in women as hell, so what might a female feel if she finds it in a man who is supposed to be the stable part in a relationship?

      1. Copperhead Joe July 24, 2017 at 3:29 pm

        Fair enough, but she was dating while telling me we were exclusive a year ago, and we’re not kids. Marriage minded middle aged people. I didn’t invent the entire notion of her lying; there was undeniable precedent. You are right though. I lost it on this particular day.

      2. Demography is Destiny July 24, 2017 at 3:53 pm

        Good luck anyway.

      3. Copperhead Joe July 24, 2017 at 4:40 pm

        Thanks. I’m embarrassed that I did this, even being anonymous here. I admitted all of it to her. In a situation where a girl just loses interest over time, I know to let it go. I’ve never taken something that was fine and just actively screwed it up by causing hurt in one sudden foolish act before, so I don’t have a problem being beta about it in a limited way, because it’s my fault.

    2. Anti-Gnostic July 25, 2017 at 9:26 am

      You’re not a “high delta”, or a “gamma”, and you certainly do not need “game”. You are like any other man who sought love. No, you assuredly did not “behave like a teenager drama queen”, you just got caught up in your own insecurities, which people have in some way, shape, and form.

    3. citizen49a July 29, 2017 at 7:46 am

      “A problem that haunted me was that she had an online dating profile last year, while I was living away from her. When I found it, she told me that….”

      Whatever. You should have shut her down right then.

      She showed you her nature. You can believe what she showed you, or you can deny it. It doesn’t matter.

      Either way, you’ll still be a replaceable cog. And eventually, you will be replaced.

      1. Anti-Gnostic July 29, 2017 at 7:35 pm

        “Either way, you’ll still be a replaceable cog. And eventually, you will be replaced.”

        Yes, you are hurting because you are projecting your own insecurities. I suggest reading Gorilla Mindset to rid yourself of your own butt hurt. It is most unbecoming.

    4. Whatever July 30, 2017 at 8:21 am

      “I’m in love. I met her in 2013. We are both in our late 40s”

      So you are all giddy about a late 40ish saggy titted way-past-her-prime spinster… whatever, dude.

      1. Anti-Gnostic August 1, 2017 at 5:41 pm

        That’s no way to talk about your sister in that manner. Have you no decency?

    5. Turboprop ✓ 🇺🇦 August 2, 2017 at 3:32 am

      Sounds like you need more experience with pussy. Women can smell the lack thereof on you.

  5. JC July 24, 2017 at 11:44 am

    Beautiful. Kind of reminds me of Walt Whitman.

  6. Ilijas Jung M5M 🇩🇪 July 24, 2017 at 12:28 pm

    “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”

    Hold fast Roosh, get in touch with your Lover Archetype by doing some Art, reading Blake and Rumi and keep searching. You can find her

  7. Dan Timmons July 24, 2017 at 1:31 pm

    “…the grey hairs steadily increase in number, and my motivation to work for women fades, so I greedily hold on to any short-term pleasure while the chance of making a sacrifice for a face that I could love becomes ever more improbable, until it will finally disappear. My heart will give up soon, and then it will be hard to look at faces anymore.”

    I’ve reached the age where the cost of that sacrifice is just too damned high, and the potential benefit somewhere between ephemeral and illusory. Certainly too high to forego my hobbies, casual plates, and leisure time to chase after unicorns.

    Roosh, you’re getting to be a pretty good writer.

    1. Da Mac July 27, 2017 at 7:37 am

      pretty damn good, actually

    2. Turboprop ✓ 🇺🇦 August 2, 2017 at 3:35 am

      I wanted to say that without kissing his ass. He’s done an admirable job of always learning from his successes and mistakes, and sharing the wisdom that comes from the lessons.

  8. PhenixRising July 24, 2017 at 1:57 pm

    “Poor Freddie. Why did she leave and where did she go? She’s going, soldier. One day soon. She’ll leave because, no matter what the uniform, the mercenary blade always pierces exactly the same heart, stopping it over and over again. Only the angle changes. Until all hearts become the same target. And the hooker receives from all customers exactly the same plum-taut glans, slaying it in the same rocking lubricious clench of inner muscle ring, clasp of outer labia, pumping it to its small jolting death, welcoming it ever again, affixed to the loins of another stranger, but always the same in its greed for death. Until all erection is the same, including the husband one, all equally meaningless except for the chance of pleasure-feeling, and the money.”

    John D. MacDonald, “The Long Lavender Look”

    It happens to guys too, given a high enough N-count. Maybe 20 to 30 times as many as for women, but it can happen when you get jaded enough. Jaded and joy may begin with the same letter, but they’re mutually exclusive emotions. Pick one — but only one. The other will be out of reach.

    1. punjabipunani August 20, 2017 at 10:40 am


      So what’s the solution? Is there one?

  9. Lynn July 24, 2017 at 2:22 pm

    This is beautiful.

    It makes me wonder, how hard is it to find a girl who is feminine, caring, pretty, and wants children?
    I thought the reason you choose to stay in Europe is because the women are beautiful, feminine, domestic, and wanted children.
    Can you not find her because you are not looking? Are you looking, but your standards are so high that she does not exist? Do you not give girls you meet enough time to fall in love with them?

    1. Roosh July 24, 2017 at 3:30 pm

      I chose Eastern Europe because it was the easiest place for me to get laid with the prettiest women. Any other reason to stay came after.

      1. Lynn July 24, 2017 at 5:39 pm

        That’s what I understood.
        What I’m asking is, aren’t those the current reasons you are choosing to stay in Eastern Europe? I’ve heard a lot about how those women are higher quality. But I’ve also heard how they are slowly becoming westernized. Surely they are nowhere near the level of an American or Canadian. I just don’t understand how you haven’t chosen someone. Very curious.

      2. Aleksandra Zivkovic July 26, 2017 at 11:46 pm

        Roosh, when they see you they all become virgins!

      3. Aleksandra Zivkovic July 26, 2017 at 11:49 pm

        And you’re gonna have somewhere around 988888054 of them, trust me!

      4. Salarino September 14, 2017 at 11:24 pm

        Respond to me with your email and then delete it. I’d hope I’m not a fag too!!! Are you from Croatia???

      5. Da Mac July 27, 2017 at 7:41 am

        Eastern European girls like to play games, though, and clearly enjoy it. They would seem a bit more questionable when it comes to marriage IMO. Bear in mind as well that the Soviet era didn’t exactly encourage their parents to admire Americans, either, while current American politics does no favors.

  10. Demography is Destiny July 24, 2017 at 3:27 pm

    The article is basically the manifesto of the male sheng nu. The main difference to women is the age difference but the situation is ultimately the same. Our generation has never learnt to make a life decision which came to our parents and grand-parents naturally.

    1. D Beguiled July 24, 2017 at 4:33 pm

      A sheng nu is a left over woman.

      There is no such thing as a left over man.

      Men do cost benefit analysis, and women pretend not to notice that as their personalities harden, they have less and less to offer, and at a certain point, the prize isn’t worth the contest.

      Men will always find meaningful things to do, the question is, will they want the modern woman along for the ride?

      In the financial world, we have been tricked into trusting a debased, fiat currency.

      In our romantic lives, it is getting harder and harder to pretend we are not dealing with merely fiat women.

      Men want real ones.

      Good article.

      1. Demography is Destiny July 24, 2017 at 8:04 pm

        Men too have less and less to offer, that is the – reluctant – point of the article. They can push back their best before date (much) more than women, but eventually it catches up with everyone. Older men are losing motivation or attractiveness or both. Even Casanova had to admit at one point that his art even at its finest cannot seduce young women anymore. Soon Roosh will come into the age where he is forced to be more concerned about his PSA levels than the next one-night stand. He instinctively realizes that and it is not rocket science because it is called aging. You can’t beat aging. You can only adapt to it by maturing.

      2. spicynujac July 25, 2017 at 12:35 am

        Older men losing attractiveness? I don’t see that. I’m competing with other men in their 20s 30s 40s and 50s for the same young fertile girls. Many of the key provisions man can offer woman are only stronger as one ages, specifically protection, wealth, guidance, and wisdom.

        Do we get weaker as we age? In some ways, sure, but so far aging has had minimal negative effects and huge positive ones. Do I wish I were 17 ? Well, if you had a magic wand, sure, but really I’m happy with who I am. Worrying over the past is a lost cause.

      3. D Beguiled July 25, 2017 at 1:19 pm

        Just another chick pushing for false equivalence.


      4. Aleksandra Zivkovic July 26, 2017 at 11:20 pm

        No, man, you are just losing testosteron levels, basically becoming an old lady, that’s why you go straight to Thailand. They truly love you there!!!!! Ok, might be a little money for shemale and her extended family, but hey whatever floats your boat. All the best!

      5. spicynujac July 25, 2017 at 12:27 am

        ha ha fiat women. They are feminine only because they proclaim it to be. What a great term.

      6. Clark Kent July 25, 2017 at 12:50 am

        hehe was thinking the same thing

      7. spicynujac July 25, 2017 at 1:10 am

        Hey Clark turns out I will be coming to T town but only for one full day, returning at night, and the agenda will depend on the girls I’m riding with, but any advice on some must-do cool things there?

      8. Whatever July 30, 2017 at 8:26 am

        “In our romantic lives, it is getting harder and harder to pretend we are not dealing with merely fiat women.”

        Profound. Chicks today are as fake as money.

  11. arménio pereira July 24, 2017 at 5:47 pm

    Dear Mr. Valizadeh: I once thought of you as being a brave man. Are you on the journey to become a brave soul? Anyhow, thank you for not hiding it (whatever it is).

  12. anon1 July 24, 2017 at 6:48 pm

    this was good poetry man. very wise. – jalaluddin rooshy, volume 1: on love and other trifling things

  13. anon1 July 24, 2017 at 6:49 pm

    Are you still dating the girl that you were seeing during your periscopes?

    this may be a past tense phenomenon

  14. spicynujac July 25, 2017 at 12:41 am

    The need for sex is stronger than the need for love.

    I suppose this is true, but the statement is only really meaningful if you disregard frequency. Yes, in a given week I may not require love, but I will desire sexual release. Just as in a given day I will require water but perhaps not a bowel movement. That doesn’t make the need to expel toxins any less strong as the need to replenish water, just more urgent. They simply occur on different frequencies.

    Perhaps I’m a hopeless romantic, but the desire for a simulation of “true love”, and a family, is a driving force in me as I age, and while I cannot forgo sexual release easily, I am finding it increasingly empty and difficult to face the prospects of not pair bonding. I am hoping to find some semblance of love in a woman, as well as creating a family that will also be a source of love. In that sense, it is every bit as vital to my existence, even if it is not as urgent as food, sleep, water, or sex.

    1. Lisa July 25, 2017 at 1:45 am

      Have you tried eating more fruit?

  15. Clark Kent July 25, 2017 at 12:52 am


  16. Conservative Muslim Guy July 25, 2017 at 2:06 am


    I feel like you did not edit this piece before you hit enter. This has to be the run on sentence of the century:

    ” I’ll get some orgasms from her, as cheaply as I can get them, but the time it takes to get an orgasm from a face that I cannot love means I miss out on the opportunity, the chance meeting, with a face that I could love, but the need for sex is stronger than the need for love, and even easier to satisfy, so it’s sex I have pursued for so many years and sex that I will continue to pursue, but I know this is a devil’s bargain, for while I can experience the sexual satisfaction of sultans of old, the chance of love fades with every new girl.”

    This sentence should end with “what love is” – “the decision must be made for you to feel what is love.”

    Anyway good piece. Love doesn’t satisfy the heart though – only God does.

  17. Nasty Joe July 25, 2017 at 5:49 am

    “A face that I could fuck” would have been a better title 😉

    1. Butter Biscuits McGee August 2, 2017 at 6:11 am

      Any girl can get face fucked … only a few can be face loved.

  18. Red Rollins July 25, 2017 at 5:53 am

    Damnit man! I thought I was coming here to critique the writing for not showing what you truly felt. I was ready to tell you that you’re a little short on characterization but have set us up to expect some insight when you sit waiting for her to walk by. But no! As your personal narrative displays, the feature’s specific to ‘her’ genetics are irrelevant. The Roosh V is ready for love and to be loved back! The breaks in your syntax were dynamic. The narrative arc circled the stars and your message from an evolving boy toy to a grown up was quite clear. Excelente article! IMHO this write up has been your best work! ~ R^3

  19. Red Rollins July 25, 2017 at 6:26 am

    Bring her around some USDA prime beef and I bet against your NUT she forgets your name!

  20. Rich Zubaty July 25, 2017 at 2:44 pm

    Man is attracted to an infantile looking face as it reawakens his provider and protector instincts. That’s why women are obsessed with youthfulness. Similar reason explains the popularity of blonde hair. Most Caucasian children are born with light color hair. That’s why women dye their hair blonde.

    Esther Villar says:

    A man needs a woman because, he needs something to which he may subject himself. But at the same time he must retain his self-respect. This leads him to endow woman with qualities which will justify his subjection.

    I also agree with schopenhauer who says:

    It is only the man whose intellect is clouded by his sexual instinct that could give that stunted, narrow-shouldered, broad-hipped, and short-legged race the name of the fair sex; for the entire beauty of the sex is based on this instinct. One would be more justified in calling them the unaesthetic sex than the beautiful. Neither for music, nor for poetry, nor for fine art have they any real or true sense and susceptibility, and it is mere mockery on their part, in their desire to please, if they affect any such thing.

  21. Jim Harrison July 25, 2017 at 11:36 pm

    roosh makes his money from from websites (nothing wrong with with that). BUT I’m disgusted that he sells his snake oil…from a forum of ” losers” that sell ..I mean ” civil war vets moderate” his distorted message.(not an open forum)
    roosh will never ever be a ALPHA male (being a greasy haired mentally screwed up ugly dude in a backward polish village is no way to prove how friggin smart you are) in the west we ALPHA males spit on him…he has NO idea about women (or do his trolls) he knows he’s a sad lonely fuk and well never measure up (next stop Africian tribes?)…he needs a real job,.. plus therapy and to realize hes always going to be a NOBODY…beautiful people are born…roosh isn’t in that group

    1. Whatever July 30, 2017 at 8:31 am

      Sure pal, sure.

  22. jayteeniftb July 26, 2017 at 4:48 am

    Daddy government and empowered surrogates, and their enslaved patriarchs.
    Someday, articles simply wouldn’t be enough.

  23. Righterous July 26, 2017 at 3:16 pm

    “A face that I could love may not contain the most beauty, or the least amount of flaws”

    nature lol when read it. love is a reward for best genetics – almost perfect beauty

    “but it is a face that I’d enjoy looking at every day for the rest of my life”

    habituation – you will stop respond for beauty when you have it all the time.

    not mention couple years and wrinkles show on that beauty face, which makes you puke

    “A face that I could love can not be measured”

    oh really, female faces that makes men fall in love are symetric, childish

    “Love is a decision. When you perceive that a girl is deserving of your love, you let go.”

    you let go, but still love her. if a woman behave bad it means she’s got 100 other men who loves her, why? because she’s got great genetics. so why love will fade if she’s that good?

    “so it’s sex I have pursued for so many years and sex that I will continue to pursue”
    what a waste of time. men cannot pursue women
    the one who pursue is in worse position and must offer something.
    when agressive and egoistic man gain rich & fame women just jump to bed with him, offer them sexy bodies and he can behave that he like. the PUA’s need to develop some “game” because they need to offer something.
    some dipshit in youtube can do some stupid, crazy shit and even just show his stupid face on camera – when he’s got money, fame, female beauties just send him naked photos and offer him sex.

    1. redpillyogi July 26, 2017 at 10:22 pm

      hey cool language you are writing in there. what is it, exactly? looks a bit like english.

      1. Righterous July 27, 2017 at 12:29 am

        looks like another pua pursuer who’s spoiling the females by chasing them like if they got something more than a sexy body that is worth so little in prostitute market 😀

      2. redpillyogi July 27, 2017 at 9:53 pm

        what is the matter, Righterous? Are you triggered because I pointed out the fact that your grasp of the english language is at a 2nd grade level?

      3. Righterous July 28, 2017 at 6:29 am

        nope I simply don’t care about your language 🙂 second are you have something interesting to comment or you don’t have arguments and can only attack my poor language skills? 🙂 and you attack because you feel touched by brutal true when I wrote that PUA’s are idiots when chaising pussies? you know, girls don’t really care about the gamers, that’s why they can broke with you guys in a second without emotions (like Anna with Roosh in Ukraine :D)

  24. Danny July 26, 2017 at 10:55 pm

    I used to go about it this way: look for a beautiful face. The problem was, these women are pursued by tons of guys. The competition is fierce. Unless you have dashing good looks, or are in a rock band, or your game is really good, you don’t stand a chance. I went through years facing rejection but then realized it was because I was shooting out of my league. Then I pisked up some game. I lowered my standards and went after girls as Roosh has described. When I do this, I get way more sex than I ever imagined possible. I also found that the more pussy I got, the more new pussy I wanted. It is the excitement of the challenge and the conquest that I like and enjoy. But like Roosh says, these are emotionless fucks for the sake of fucking. If one goes back to searching for a woman of beauty, you run back into the same problem of intense competition again. Is there a solution? I’m looking for it. Right now, I’m thinking that if she has okay looks, that is fine as long as she is a freak in bed and has a good personaliy.

    1. Righterous July 27, 2017 at 1:10 am

      “The problem was, these women are pursued by tons of guys. ”
      that’s not problem, that’s the solution! tons of horny guys – boring. one man that doesn’t care about me? i’m intrigued who the hell he is and why he’s so immune to my charm? 🙂

  25. Da Mac July 27, 2017 at 4:46 am

    But giving up is the same as death, no?

  26. James Parks July 27, 2017 at 1:03 pm

    Roosh with one-itis? The world is ending.

    1. Roosh July 27, 2017 at 8:16 pm

      I wish!

  27. Ferguson Curly July 27, 2017 at 6:25 pm

    “”You know if you will love her before you know if you will love her.”

    This has been true every single time I have fallen for a girl. Incredible Roosh.

  28. citizen49a July 29, 2017 at 7:35 am

    “The course of events with a new girl is written in the first meeting,
    if not the first minute, if not in the first moment you glance at her,
    top to bottom or bottom to top, with a most careful examination of her

    Since you know what you’re looking for, it’s time to stop distracting yourself. Start beginning with the face.

    When you begin with the face you eliminate about 90% of the terrifying sluts marching around on the North American landmass.

    Your mileage will likely vary since you’re on a different continent.

    1. Anti-Gnostic July 29, 2017 at 7:34 pm

      “When you begin with the face you eliminate about 90% of the terrifying sluts marching around on the North American landmass.”

      Another mad bro who resorts to lying because he is unhappy about his own love life. Sad, very sad.

  29. Peter July 31, 2017 at 1:08 pm

    “Love is a decision. When you perceive that a girl is deserving of your love, you let go”

    This is true. In our hedonistic society we have lost sight of what love is. As the Catholic Church truly teaches love is not an emotion, it is an act of the will.

    One wills to love a woman, and when the will fails for whatever reason love dies. Otherwise all one has is the moments of passion, but never true love.

    And a woman must rise above her selfish feminine emotionalism, and into the realm of will, if she is to truly love, and be loved.

    1. Anti-Gnostic July 31, 2017 at 2:41 pm

      Actually, men and women must rise about their selfish nature, and into the realm of will, if they are to experience love and be loved.

      1. Peter August 1, 2017 at 5:49 am

        That is what I said, as love is an act of the will. The statement was pointed more at women because of their lack of logic and emotionalism.

      2. Anti-Gnostic August 1, 2017 at 5:40 pm

        Actually, men and women lack logic and emotionalism. Not one over the other.

      3. Peter August 3, 2017 at 8:38 am

        You need to go back to the drawing board. Or read some of St. Thomas Aquinas. Men have logic and reason. Women have emotionalism – there is a reason why it is call hysteria.

      4. Anti-Gnostic August 3, 2017 at 3:16 pm

        Clearly the Alt Right and the manosphere is emotional, i.e. hysterical, and solipsistic to boot with their cause. You can’t see it because 1) you refuse to see it or 2) you are ignorant.

      5. Peter August 7, 2017 at 12:14 pm

        Try because my IQ is high enough to understand things you can’t.

      6. Anti-Gnostic August 8, 2017 at 9:05 am

        “Try because my IQ is high enough to understand things you can’t.”

        Spoken like a true beta.

        Speaking of Thomas Aquinas–
        Man cannot live without joy; therefore when he is deprived of true spiritual joys it is necessary that he become addicted to carnal pleasures.

      7. Peter August 10, 2017 at 3:31 pm

        I’d take beta any day over your gamma. But, nonetheless, your atheism is stupidity incarnate.

        G.K. Chesteron: When Man ceases to worship God he does not worship nothing but worships everything.

      8. Anti-Gnostic August 11, 2017 at 12:51 pm

        You are the one rutting every girl in sight and claiming to be Christian. Think about it–Roosh does not worship God, only poon. Yet, you support his clearly anti-religious lifestyle. Why?

        “I’d take beta any day over your gamma.”

        Actually, I’m a sigma.

  30. draidean August 1, 2017 at 6:57 pm

    Why don’t you switch to looking at faces first and pursue love? Is it time to write a book on gaming for love instead of sex or would that ruin it (as in you’d really just want to be yourself in love)?

  31. OriginalGangster August 2, 2017 at 5:17 am

    Roosh, the next Danielle Steele.

  32. Zarathoustra August 3, 2017 at 4:49 am

    The sad song of the aging player. Amen

  33. TSK August 6, 2017 at 12:54 pm

    Nicely written.

    Sometimes you got to wonder after having so many sex.

    If you can go back in times and wish you had love of one woman vs thousands of horny sex with random woman.

    1. Anti-Gnostic August 11, 2017 at 12:45 pm

      You’re rutting instinct is too powerful for you to control. Leave the relationship and civilizational building to us alphas.

      1. TSK August 11, 2017 at 9:35 pm

        So tell me… what have you built personally mr. proclaimed alpha?

      2. Anti-Gnostic August 14, 2017 at 10:14 am

        “So tell me… what have you built personally mr. proclaimed alpha?”

        I rebuild cars, reprogram computers, and put “men” like you in their place.

      3. TSK August 14, 2017 at 7:51 pm

        “put ‘men’ like you in their place”?

        Easier to say that online.

  34. J N August 7, 2017 at 7:30 am

    Stay away from “Mtv. fags.” This is exactly why: The highly controversial article by Ian MIles Cheong: ‘Google Researcher: Porn Featuring Violence Against Women Is More Popular Among Women Than Men’ proves it. Get that article, make it “go viral”, as they they say, so that we can expose these fucking disgusting animals. ¶ None of this is an issue of semantics. ¶ Firstly, renounce clubs, bars, lounges, etc., & the venues for mating rituals. These places are determined by the feminine – epicenters of male collusion, wealth transfer, & just making you – the male – to be something you’re not. You will lose money. By renouncing & working on yourself to set your own terms, operate with the attitude that every whore in such a place is a disloyal slut with various other problems that you should not be trying to fix. ¶ The males who frequent bars or clubs, etc., are delusional & only do so to get drunk to try to speak on the feminine level: “UUUah, beer & shit….”, & most of them are all striving to be accepted by whores by basically emulating female psychology. This can also be done by males employing a skewed form of masculinity, even turning to violence, &, not a lot of people realize this, but it’s actually defined by the feminine. The most extreme case is that his main focus is eliminating competition & securing access to whores he believes you might be competing with him for, whether you are or not. They feel threatened. This is the guy who attacks other males both in the physical & indirect sense. He ruins you’re good time if you’re having one simply because you’re good time is a threat/distraction to his access to whores, & he realizes that his access to whores depends on his “sports competition” & acting ¶ Women often seek these types of men as a meas of making sure other males don’t “get out of line”/maintain collectivism. ¶ When women are aloud complete freedom of sexual expression, as they have been today, the first thing that they will request, with bad, scattered communication, is varying degrees of simulated rape/abuse/disgrace, etc, or some other type of “journey” – all about making you something you’re not – &, yet, people don’t realize that male sexuality is vastly different – mainly bodily-visual – because we’re bombarded with things like entertainment. Boys are being taught, expected to do some ranging version of ’50 Shades Of Greed,’ or G.G. Allin, or something else really stupid. ( also accounting for the true cause of the problem of infertility of cultured families – because females are waiting & trying to flee to get to something unreal, &, let’s realize it, most women hate (or use/think lesser of) these free-way builder types of men – males who are actually making something of value), & this is one of the reasons why female determination of social structures must be stopped. ¶ The spectrum continues all the way to whores even offering themselves for marriage with high-profile serial Killers like Richard Ramirez, & nearly no one notices this. They even just make songs about it, etc., like when it was sensationalized during the infamy of Richard Ramirez of, from cross-state, women actually competing over his attention. This is not a small, little trend. It is various & common. ¶ Why does this happen? It’s about access to novelty. ¶ Also, before I got slandered by all these “Mtv. fags”, the real reason I quit all of that was because I was noticing that those whores masturbate to G.G. Allin raping them, or something like that, & I was the only one who noticed I should not be in any competition for fucking scraps. More on that can be found by the blogger Hedon: Female Hybristophilia: Porn Featuring Violence Against Women Is More Popular Among Women Than Men. ¶ Women then perpetuate the narrative that a mature/evolved/disinterested male is “autistic” because of the situation of a group talking about something stupid, like wrestling, one guy isn’t involved in the debate, then he’s perceived as having something “wrong” with him. ¶ “Break a woman’s fucking jaw” (not sexually).

  35. King Wu Tao August 12, 2017 at 6:44 am

    “But we have turned that, what you call sexual activity, which is biological in its nature, into a pleasure movement. There must be two, you know. I love somebody and somebody else loves me. Wherever there is division, there can’t be love. We are trying to bridge this gap, which is horrible for us, which has no meaning, which is demanding something from us, with this fancy idea that there must be love between these two individuals.”
    ― U.G. Krishnamurti, Love

  36. punjabipunani August 20, 2017 at 10:34 am

    And once you’ve fallen in and out of love enough times with enough faces, all the faces become the same and you’ll never do it again.

  37. Joey August 28, 2017 at 12:52 pm

    An honest and sure explanation of the condition in which some of us find ourselves. Roosh, this is some of your best writing, hands down.