Living In A Place That Matches Your Values

It’s insane how beefy Brazilian men are in Rio. It seems like every guy, even those who live in a favela, are either cut or buff. I like to think of myself as confident but I couldn’t help but feel small when walking on the beach upon my most recent visit.

There are pull-up and dip bars all over the place and they’re constantly being used from men of varying socio-economic classes. There are gyms on every block, the most per capita in the world, and they’re all full at peak times. If you are a frail guy coming to Rio, relatively speaking you will look like a scrap of a man. While in the U.S. some girls like that frail hipster look (where muscles would actually rule you out from sex), in Rio that’s not the case. Puny men will have trouble competing with guys who have sexy bodies.

Looking good matched my values, so I took very easily to stepping up my workouts to four times a week. It took about two months until I was no longer among the weakest 50% of men within any club. My diet improved as well, since it’s impossible to workout that often while eating like shit. The result? I become a little cockier, I bought tighter t-shirts, and I got more looks from women. That slightly increased my make-out rate with the shallower carioca girls, who grew up in the beach culture where looks are much more important than being, say, a writer who lives in a shack.

In Rio the baseline male has muscles and there’s no excuse not to have them. How did the culture get like that? How did having muscles become normal? How about America? What’s the new normal there? Well in the States I know that there are actual organizations trying to push fat acceptance. There are trying to make being a burden to society—economically and visually—something that is normal. Feminists are playing their part too, because we know that their corps is mostly composed of dykes who could stand to lose a few dozen pounds.

Looking fat and gross doesn’t match my values, so it becomes very difficult when I did my best to look pleasant and I go inside a bar where 60% of the women are warthogs with short hair who can’t dress well. In fact it’s a serious problem.

While there is a happiness blow that comes from leaving family and friends to live abroad, I think it’s nearly compensated when you’re in a place that better matches your values. It remains a happiness wash until you get old enough where you have no remaining single friends. Then the scale tips and a permanent move abroad may be the winning choice to make. If you don’t agree with the life choices of a majority of your countrymen, then you may need to go somewhere else.

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If you want Brasil in america goto Socal. San Diego – LA. Hot chicks warm weather and anti-fat workout culture.

Leaving dc for the west was not a mistake.

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I have to agree…in north america the normal is overweight to obese. its a sad reflection of our society.

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I’m assuming steroids are legal in Brazil, no?

I wonder how many guys down there are on the sauce.

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There’s a new movie coming out about a pro bballer with no game settling for a fat chick. We’re doomed.

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Carl,

Even if roids are legal, based on the fact that most of the model roster comes from there, it’s safe to say genetics probably plays a huge part… like 90%

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Fat acceptance organizations? Yeah, it’s time to get the hell out.

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Damn, I’d have to hit the weights hard before I go to Brazil.

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Southern CA is overrated. Unless you are model good looking, or are rich, you are shit out of luck to get a hot girl.

There are too many mexicans in Socal too. I want white girls.

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#1 is right. Coastal Southern California values muscle and health far more than the rest of America. The under 30 crowd is hotter in Rio, but past 30 SoCal wins. Models, money and the military.

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Yeah I really like this topic. Not just speaking about healthy habits, other values as well. In Argentina people are less hard-working and more social and laid-back. In East Asia people are more family oriented.

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I know I hear all the time that steroids are bad, but it tends to be the same crowd that says that weed is bad. Have you looked into this Roosh? How dangerous are steroids and are there any long-term side effects?

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^^“I know I hear all the time that steroids are bad, but it tends to be the same crowd that says that weed is bad…How dangerous are steroids and are there any long-term side effects?”

– i strongly recommend checking out a documentary called “Bigger, Faster, Stronger”…it can easily be found online (i was able to check it out from my library). in addition, do your own research and base your conclusions from there.

in regards to the topic, i totally agree with striving to live somewhere congruent with your worldview…from what i understand about roosh, it seems like the only place in the states that he would dig is manhattan. incorrect?

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Roosh is a faggot.

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Preach Roosh, this country is going to hell and it’s time to move out.

I still have to visit Brazil sometime–I am half brazilian and have lived with this void for the past 21 years. After hitting the gym solid for the past 2 years and being constantly disappointed with the quality of girls on campus, I think a visit to my fam’s apartment in Porto Alegre is in order.

I’ve always wanted to know, however–what constitutes as the baseline in the gym?

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It takes awhile to get big. You may only gain 5-10lbs a year of muscle without roids. And on top of that you have to eat a high protein diet voraciously. Without that your gains will plateau quick.

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Roosh, get a clue.

Girls like the muscle look everywhere.

Also, working out 4 times a week for two months is bs.

You need to do much more than that.

I lift seriously, and to be honest, you look anorexic.

If you want to get built, you need to have a solid 5x a week routine, rotate between major muscle groups, and eat moderate size meals 5x a day for maximum calories absorption.

Also, you should stop being a winy fag.

Also, the way you talk about other guys bodies, leads me to believe you are a closeted homosexual.

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11 gringoed

AAS (androgenic/anabolic steroids) are no joke.

Properly used, in closely monitored and controlled cycles, they are absolutely amazing though.

However, before you even think about touching them, you need to be an expert in the gym, and you need to have put in some serious time to fine tune your nutrition and exercise protocols.

It takes a hell of a lot of discipline.

Put in at least 6 months in the gym, and do research online, there are some wonderful resources, my favorite is Muscle and Science.

My next cycle (3rd run) is going to be a test e/deca/dbol stack, with HCG and aridimex in cycle, and a post cycle therapy of nolva/clomid.

http://www.muscleandscience.com/forum/

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Cratefw:

You think and write like we would expect given your personal description.

Also, I know a lot of meatheads like yourself. Your only hope is whores, paid or free, guaranteed.

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Your gonna have tiny nuts. Thats not very manly.

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Part of good Game is being able to choose a location where you will get the best results.

Sort of like being able to choose targets who you think will like you.

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@speakeasy

You can gain more with the right multi-joint exercises and keeping to a disciplined schedule. Genetics have a part to play too.

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19 Chris

No, you are wrong.

Testicular shrinkage can be entirely eliminated during a cycle by the use of HCG.

Also, a proper post cycle therapy ensures a rapid recovery, the perservation of gains, and no side effects.

If someone knows what they are doing, the only common side effect from a cycle is acne, and even that can be greatly reduced, and in any event, disappears a couple weeks after your cycle.

The people who have problems with steroids are both incredibly unlucky and incredibly stupid.

The science of human performance has increased GREATLY in the past few years.

Your level of knowledge about steroids is equivalent to the 1930s reefer madness scares about marijuana.

However, I have sympathy for you, you are probably a skinny loser like Roosh, and want to feel better about being too much of a pussy to hit the gym.

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I’m positive you have no game other than meathead asshole game. I’m imagining Ronnine from the Jersey Shore. Total meathead no game.

Your post reminds me of the meatheads in my frat that banged mud turles because they were too scared to approach.

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Actually, he knows what he is talking about when it comes to working out.

Game is just a word for losers, who have no instinct and are ugly.

Also, the world is not divided into meathead jocks and nerds.

There are plenty of people like myself, who are best termed scholar athletes, and who think that you sounds completely pathetic.

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What if you just have a thin build and have a lot of trouble gaining weight? Sounds like getting buff would be a full time job.

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This is interesting. I lived in Mexico and I was shocked how tiny the guys were. I’m a standard 6’2″ 195 lbs and I was really big compared to everyone there. When I worked out, I was usually the biggest guy in the gym. Gyms were really tough to find and there were all sorts of goofy exercises going on.

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It can be tough first starting but discipline yields results.

You just have to eat properly and train effectively.

Consume enough calories, and you will gain. This is difficult for people who have been thin for a long time, because they convince themselves it is a genetic thing rather than the result of a lifestyle choice.

Take Roosh for example, he looks like a skinny emo tool, and he probably is never going to be a competitive lifter, but I guarantee you I could turn him into 200 lb beast in less than 6 months.

There are plenty of resources out there.

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Without turning this into a purely gym discussion, I have been on a high protein, low carbs and fat diet. They goal is to not only get big, but to tone as well. Is there anything else that I can do aside from my lifting schedule and dieting?

The gym does wonders for confidence and makes approaching that much easier. I just don’t want to stop lifting and go pure dieting for fear of losing what I’ve gained thus far.

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I agree with CrateFW. Roosh is tiny compared with most workout guys I know.

However, he gets good results with women so cut the guy some slack. Muscles only help with some women on the West Coast and in the summer.

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CrateFW,

I think you have a lot to add here as most of these guys could benefit from lifting.

Don’t give Roosh shit, he is cool enough to share what works for him with the rest of his. Besides, you have to admit that the guy is living the dream, traveling around S. America picking up women.

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Hey CG #2 – don’t lump Canada into the mix. It’s thin, good looking. It’s the USA that is full of fattys. Americans are fat. Canadians are not.

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CrateFX : you mention in #27 there are plenty of resources out there. I’m interested. Can you pass on a few please?

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Actually, in a country like Brazil, like most Third World countries, muscles and physical strength are inversely correlated to high status. The buffer you are, the more obvious it is you focus on the physical to the detriment of the mental and probably don’t have a high paying job requiring intelligence, and the less interested the women are.

At best, decent muscle tone is a good thing in Brazil, but being buff, not to mention super buff, will mark you as lower class and be a serious handicap.

This is actually true in almost every country in the world – being too buff is a marker for lower status. I live in New York, and being too buff is more tolerated but still very far from desirable as it suggests stupidity, manual labour, less intellectual occupation, less sophisticated and less educated, but I would really LIKE to be muscular! I build muscle very easily and if I am not careful I get too buff too fast, and I notice much less attention from women as my perceived social status and degree of sophistication and level of perceived education plummets, and I actually have to monitor myself carefully not to get too buff! Strange but true.

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Alot of it IS genetics.

Brazilians are a mixture of races, so it helps them in that respect.

You don’t need to freaking huge to pick up, just not anorexic looking, but with some meat here and there.

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The more I think about this, the more I realize that workouts should aim to improve mood and energy. These are more important to getting laid than muscle mass.

I think at least 50% of results with picking up women from gaining muscle mass are due to confidence boosts rather than strength/looks.

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If anyone is interested in a very simple, very easy weightlifting program that will make you much stronger and bigger in a relatively short time, I’d highly recommend checking this out:

http://startingstrength.wikia.com/wiki/Starting_Strength_Wiki
http://startingstrength.com/

I started this in October at 6’1”, 195#, ~12-13% BF and by February I was 225# at ~14-15% BF. My one rep max squat went from 285# to 420# today. Anyone can do this if you are willing to commit to eating a lot and squatting, pressing, and deadlifting heavy three times a week

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Also, CrateFW sounds like a very committed, experienced bodybuilder using drugs (and there is nothing wrong with that). I would guess that most guys on this site are novices when it comes to weight training, and you will therefore have the greatest capacity for building muscle and strength. You should focus then on the complex barbell movements like the squat, deadlift, press, bench press as these will involve the more musculature than isolation movements and get you bigger and stronger much faster. Try to stay away from the advanced bodybuilding split routines until you have built a good baseline level of strength first.

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@27 Crate: please specify what resources are out there you recommend

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Hey Wrong #32- I am Canadian thats why i specifically said north america…trust me there are just as many fattys here as the good old US of A. The only place I would say thin good looking is the norm is Quebec, more specifically Montreal.

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Roosh:

Don’t make yourself look stupid. Roid rage is a myth.

Wrong:

There are a lot of ways to go about this. I will give a couple of links at the end. To anyone who is about to start out on a serious workout program, there are some important things to keep in mind.
1. Learn the proper form first, don’t overdo the weight. I can’t stress this enough. Don’t go too heavy too quick, or you will injure yourself. Learning the proper form for a given exercise will pay huge dividends later.
2. Warm up (running/bicycle/something) and stretch before lifting, also stretch after.
3. Eat five meals a day, rich in protein, fruits, and carbohydrates. Simple things like rice and chicken are good.
4. Most supplements are total bullshiat. The only ones worthwhile are creatine, a good multivitamin (Animal Pak is the best), a good protein powder with amino acids (I like Optimum Nutrition), and if you gain sufficient experience and preparation, anabolic steroids (*do NOT try this until you have plateaued natural gains).
5. Do a five day rotation, splitting the major muscle groups (legs, chest, arms, back, shoulders), and working each one thoroughly. Some cardio is always good during the week, on the weekends I prefer to do some kind of extended cardio that is “fun” – running outside, swimming, hiking, mountain biking, etc.
6. Don’t weigh/measure yourself more than once a week – you want to keep motivated and progress, but not obsess on minor variations.

a decent five day rotation:

http://www.bodybuildingforyou.com/bodybuilding-supplements-guides/weight-lifting-workout-guide-1.htm

a great site for AAS info, once you are ready (you wont be able to get into the AAS parts until you are a registered user and a MOD approves you):

http://www.muscleandscience.com/forum/

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why the fuck do you want to get buff? girls don’t want some steroid looking meathead who looks like a guido. The only place that look works is in New Jersey.

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@39

I have noticed in the recent years that even in Montreal (with its european vibe) the girls are letting themself go. Its like if they dont have good genetics they dont even try to eat well or atleast cut the little belly. At the opposite the guys are in better shape than ever, probably because they cannot get laid at all and are trying harder. Fuck feminism…

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Can’t say I completely agree here. If you’re a fat bastard or completely skinny, then you may have issues here. But hooking up with a cute slutty carioca isn’t too difficult, *especially* if you’re from out of town, even more so if you’ve got the light hair going in your favor. So muscles may work for you, but being ‘different’, in a cool and confident way, can work just as well.

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Since just about everybody is throwing out training related advice I might as well chip in my .02 cents.

I highly recommend getting your hands on a copy of “Never Gymless” (find the torrent) by Ross Enamait.

It’s the perfect book for someone who does not have access to a gym or a ton of equipment but still wants to build strength and size.

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41 tommy

Welcome to the club of people making themselves look foolish on this comment section.

The world is not black and white.

Getting buff does not equal becoming an artificially tanned guido loser. Those morons on Jersey Shore also don’t know the first thing about a proper workout, and have a serious lack of proportionality and symmetry.

Becoming physically fit is an excellent part of an overall positive direction in lifestyle, which when coupled with other traits, like intelligence, self confidence, and a wide range of interests, naturally leads to increased success with women.

But hey, if you want to convince yourself that getting buff means being a “steroid looking meathead” just so you can protectively self rationalize your lack of dedication and your resulting Roosh like appearance, go for it. I’ll be busy laying the truly beautiful women, while you sit at the bar, nursing your drink, desperately searching for a drunk 6 who might throw you a sympathy lay.

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I always thought that the people who were “in shape” were the ones who did triathlons, etc. The guys who I think are most badass are the professional cyclists, the dudes in Europe who do those 6-hour races like Paris-Roubaix and the Tour of Flanders. Oh and of course the long 3-week races like the Tour de France. But the thing about those guys is that they have scrawny upper bodies. Is it possible to reconcile awesome cardiovascular strength like they have with having muscle, or are the two things always mutually exclusive?? For example, the scrawniest dudes ever are those world-class marathon runners from Kenya and Ethiopia, although they of course have fabulous heart and lungs. Is it possible to have it all??

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Question for CrateFW, how long do you spend in the gym for an average session?

I’m currently hitting the gym 3 times a week(mon, wed, fri). I also do martial arts and cycling. Problem is, I’ve plateaued both in size and strength. I know part of the problem is my diet. I don’t eat enough and I have digestion issues that leaves my stomach feeling full much longer than most people, so I can’t eat 5 meals a day. I knows there’s room for improvement in what I eat too. I usually spend 1.5 hours at the gym. That includes stretching out and all.

And one more question, I usually make my protein shake after the workout, but is it advisable to take a protein shake on your off days too?

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3x a week is plenty.

You can have a protein shake whenever you want. It’s just protein.

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“You can have a protein shake whenever you want. It’s just protein.”

Yeah, but that shit’s expensive so I only want to use it when it’s going to have maximum effect. I don’t know if using it on your off day is necessary.

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Yeah, I’m with you speakeasy….. protein shakes can get hella expensive. I don’t drink that shit on my off days either, but I probably should.

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