American Girls Are Using Negs Now

I remember when I’d never get approached by women, even when I went out four nights a week. I accepted that I was not a good-looking guy whose looks alone could propel a woman to start chasing. I didn’t cry about it since I was still able to get laid by approaching, but it did gnaw at me that other guys had to put far less effort than I had to.

Then slowly, as I optimized my look and improved my body language, posture, mannerisms, and so on, more girls approached me, or at least gave me steady eye contact. Unfortunately it wasn’t from the girls I wanted (their attractiveness was in the 4-6 range), but I welcomed the attention anyway. Their approaches were usually very simple, along the lines of asking a question about the bar or making a compliment about something I was wearing.

These days, the quality of girls who approach me has jumped up a bit to the 5-7 range, with the once-in-a-blue-moon 8, yet it’s still not frequent enough or at a consistent quality that I can stop approaching myself. In the past two years I’ve noticed another change: American women have started using negs on me. Of course no one knows how to really use negs, so they just come across as insults. Here are some recent examples:

“Did you just come from an ugly sweater party?” (I wasn’t wearing what I thought to be an ugly sweater.)

“I want the chair you’re sitting on.”

“Why are you wearing my dad’s tie clip?”

Sometimes the girl is not using the neg as an opener, but as a failed attempt at teasing early in the interaction. They make fun of my hairy arms or my retro flower shirt or whatever else I’m wearing without using a scrap of charm or humor. We’re talking straight-up insults.

When this happens, I look at the girl and say, “Does that pick-up line usually work? Because it sucks.”

“Uh, uh, it’s not a pick up line! You wish it was!”

Reverse the genders. That little dialogue sounds familiar, doesn’t it? We’ve come full circle my friends.

Now allow me to trace the history of girls using negs:

1. The Game was released, teaching guys to go around insulting girls. Negs were the main principle of the book mentioned in dozens of articles and television reports. Unfortunately they don’t work like newbies thought they would. Maybe it did work at some point on a certain type of girl that Mystery approached, but it doesn’t any more. Negs are like punching a girl in the face and saying “it works” just because you got a reaction. Truth is playful teasing remains king in building attraction at night.

2. American girls, who have become increasingly clueless on how to flirt, learned about the neg concept via the media and figured it would be suitable to use on guys. Girls are stupid in that they think there are no gender-specific rules or techniques. Believe it or not, they still think us guys judge them based on things like their career and stability.

The men have no idea how to act like men and the women have no idea how to act like women. They learn mistakes from each other, and neither get what they want as the culture slowly loses knowledge of how to efficiently mate with the opposite sex without copious amounts of alochol. It’s sad if it wasn’t so amusing.

It’s 2011 and everyone is trying to use negs. The neg is officially dead.


  1. Tim January 14, 2011 at 9:23 am

    It’s true that chicks still think guys judge them on many other things than looks. However, i do see assertiveness in females being repetively rewarded because many guys simply don’t have the balls and willpower to frequently approach themselves. Negs may be a way for females to display this assertiveness.

    Also, fortunately the neg is far from dead in my country (the netherlands, i love how a chick rejects or ignores tons of guystrying to be sweet, after which i can easily capture her attention with a quick neg.

  2. Snoeperd January 14, 2011 at 10:08 am

    Bullshit, the neg isnt dead, how else are you gonna show that you arent affected by her presumed higher value. You do however have to disguise them more effectively, not punch ‘m in the face with it.

    Like: “I like your golden earrings, they’re like the ones i saw in the fresh prince of bell air”.

    ps: btw tim, woon je in amsterdam? gr

    1. Roosh January 14, 2011 at 12:28 pm

      “Bullshit, the neg isnt dead, how else are you gonna show that you arent affected by her presumed higher value. ”

      If you can’t show value without insulting a girl then you’ve already lost.

  3. The G Manifesto January 14, 2011 at 11:07 am

    This is pretty funny stuff.

    “The Game was released, teaching guys to go around insulting girls.”

    I still think a lot of people overestimate the impact of The Game and pick up artists in general. Sure I have seen some of those characters out and about at night (the ones on the tv shows are the only ones I would recognize) asking girls a bunch of open-ended questions, but only in really weesh venues in West Hollywood or somewhere similar.

    Its not like you see guys with muliticolored spiky hair, leather wrist bands and shiny shirts neging people at Les Caves Du Roy Bar in St Tropez, The French Laundry or Cipriani Downtown etc.

    “slowly loses knowledge of how to efficiently mate with the opposite sex without copious amounts of alochol”

    Don’t forget drugs.

    “The neg is officially dead.”

    This is kind of like when Nas said, “Hip-Hop is Dead”


    “how else are you gonna show that you arent affected by her presumed higher value”

    By having true confidence in yourself. If you think she has “presumed higher value” than yourself you are already down on the score cards and cut before the fight begins.

  4. Roy Battie January 14, 2011 at 11:44 am

    I had a roommate several years ago who read and swore by “The Rules”. In hindsight i remember that she never gave compliments about your looks, and basically used “negs” (about looks/clothes) on a steady basis.

  5. The Rookie January 14, 2011 at 11:49 am

    I think most guys would be happy to be insulted, just for the interaction alone. That allows girls to full neg ahead.

  6. Tyler January 14, 2011 at 12:41 pm

    I quickly realized that negging never seemed to help any interaction. It’s a delicate thing anyways, and I see most guys flat out insulting girls. A little wit and charm got me much more than making fun of a girl’s earrings.

  7. T. AKA Ricky Raw January 14, 2011 at 12:45 pm

    I do agree that American women neg more than ever. I disagree as to the reason. I don’t think that many of them know about the Game or anything, I just think they’re becoming more obnoxious and narcissistic people in general, and that just happens to be one more side effect. i think the fact it resembles negs is just coincidental. They’re just being their naturally obnoxious selves because they’re brats. If you ever interact with bratty kids, they do the same thing.

  8. FretDancer January 14, 2011 at 12:48 pm

    I always welcome a neg (or neg attempt) from a girl. It’s always funny, wether they know how to apply one or not, which is going to vary on the response she gets.

    I don’t think I’ve had much problems using negs, it’s all about practice, timing and tone and a little of kino.

    I’ve been seing this Mystery guy mentioned alot these past days, who is he?

  9. Willy Wonka January 14, 2011 at 12:57 pm

    At least we still have the copious amounts of alcohol to get us by….

  10. Assanova January 14, 2011 at 1:02 pm

    As long as there are assholes and women who are complete bitches, the neg will exist. The only difference is that assholes and women who are complete bitches are able to execute it in a much more congruent fashion, and they don’t always usually use it as an opener.

  11. The G Manifesto January 14, 2011 at 1:09 pm

    T. AKA Ricky Raw,

    “I don’t think that many of them know about the Game or anything, I just think they’re becoming more obnoxious and narcissistic people in general, and that just happens to be one more side effect. i think the fact it resembles negs is just coincidental.”

    I think you are dead on. I think it is coincidence.

    “Negs” as people call them have been around forever.

    Girls don’t use negs because they read some semi-obscure book about a guy who shaved his head and another who wore fuzzy goggles.

    American Girls use them because they don’t know how to communicate (except by texting) and don’t have any parents or rolemodels (media or otherwise) that teach them poise and grace.

    – MPM

  12. Tuthmosis January 14, 2011 at 2:18 pm

    I’ve noticed an increase in girl negs myself. Just chalk it up as another masculine trait in the American woman. Women, by and large, are copycats that herd toward whatever trend they perceive 51% of the population doing. No surprise.

    But, I don’t think the neg is dead. I think the neg has changed. For one, women are rarely as good as a well-honed player at it. So our new neg is the skillful redirection of their lame insults. Instead of the old shitty Mystery negs (“your nose wrinkles when you smile”) we need to be more backhanded and subtle to be effective. Frankly, this also cuts out a lot of betas from the rolls.

  13. Anonymous44 January 14, 2011 at 2:57 pm

    I haven’t noticed the use of negs so much, but I have noticed that hot girls are out-right adopting Game. I watch them in action, and I’m amazed. They just take our PUA techniques, and feed them back to us. Coming from a woman, it just isn’t attractive.

    I think the girls are copying what worked on THEM, assuming it works in reverse too. A girl gets picked up enough times, say, more than 10 or 20, and she gets a feel for Game.

  14. Anonymous44 January 14, 2011 at 3:00 pm

    I agree to not punching the girls in the face with negs. I’m surprised by how many sensitive girls I’ve run into who avoid me after a neg. You think you are making a light joke; they take it to heart.

    I’ve also noticed, many girls are speaking in a way that makes it hard to get a neg in. They keep their bitch shields in stealth mode. It is like they are expecting the neg, and try to avoid or otherwise disqualify you gently, without leaving any opening for a neg. They try to be so nice, you feel gosh-darn bad about launching an n-bomb at them.

  15. Firepower January 14, 2011 at 3:06 pm

    I come not to praise The Neg, but to bury it.

    If the neg is indeed dead, then that means many, many years renewal for pua forums teaching ‘new’ pua counter-tactics at field sems..

  16. gringoed January 14, 2011 at 3:33 pm

    Good post Roosh. I’m starting to think that the only good thing that “The Game” did was get shy guys approaching.

    Negs aren’t necessary, and 90% of the time they do more harm than good. In the rare case that they do help, it’s probably a girl you wouldnt want to be with anyway.

  17. Schwanson January 14, 2011 at 3:34 pm


  18. Sam Spade January 14, 2011 at 3:49 pm

    The fact is, women were using negs long before men thought of them as part of game. Negs are a way for men to turn the tables on women and elevate status. By definition this means that women had already perfected the practice. Think about it – women inherently know they are in demand in most situations, and feel free to test men with teasing, even insulting, comments. This is nothing new, though I wouldn’t be surprised if women are now more conscious of it than in the past.

  19. Snoepers January 14, 2011 at 5:04 pm

    Well roosh has more exp than me with game and value your insight, but dont agree with you here. Negs arent about insulting, its about you judging her, thereby flipping around the standard script of her being the selector. You can use screening but also judging to do thiz.

  20. Squared January 14, 2011 at 5:47 pm


    I’m starting to agree based on my own experiences and what I see and hear around me, and I think this line of thought is slowly becoming more popular in the general game community as well. In that sense, success with women is akin to success in telemarketing. 90% of it is purely a numbers game. The rest is fluff.

  21. Paul January 14, 2011 at 5:56 pm

    Women using negs is simply a sign of the times my friends. Their false confidence is at a high level which means their use of negs is a false attempt of showing higher value…god this society is so dysfunctional…reverse gender mating is as gross as the huge black tranny’s that roam the french quarter…shit aint right.

    Regardless, a woman using a neg on me is laughable at best, but I still must reverse that role, and sometimes the shock value of reversing the roles as Roosh points out is the most appropriate cut down to their feminist ego. Showing the woman who the fuckin man is should be your mantra…not your words. Body language is most important in alpha representation. If she can’t grasp that she’s not a man she isn’t worthy of the ravishing. Period.

  22. Big Snot January 14, 2011 at 6:07 pm

    Ha- an 8 in DC. yeah right

  23. Big Snot January 14, 2011 at 6:10 pm

    And is there a whole beer commercial campaign centered on the female neg? Cue commercial… Hot bartender chick: You’re a pussy and your shirt sucks Dude: Looks sad… Music: DA NA NA da nanana NA NA!

  24. Acksiom January 14, 2011 at 8:18 pm

    IIRC, Snoepers is technically correct. What most folks here are labeling as “negs” actually aren’t. They’re just put-downs.

    Originally, the phrase was “neg hits”, meant in the sense of “inverse openers” — hitting on a girl in a way that communicated the confidence of inherently higher social value, and REGARDLESS of the woman involved, and usually as a replacement for the supplicative behavior of lower AFCness rather than just avoiding it (and thereby showing its NLP roots).

    But because of human nature, the attributed meaning quickly devolved to just put-downs, assisted by the fact that put-downs sometime can function as negative hits, by communicating that higher social value.

  25. sugartits January 14, 2011 at 10:35 pm

    The more attractive girls are less likely to approach men anyway, point being it’s something that men can’t control and so isn’t a good way to judge ones attractiveness to women. Attractive women are approached so often, any guy may as well give it a try, if you are worried about being like every other guy, than may as well never approach a hot girl at all, because plenty truly have heard it all.

    Negs are annoying and charmless. But I have seen many girls fooled into taking insults from men to heart, and it can make them self-conscious so the fellow gets an upper-hand in the interaction. It’s funny there are actually girls who fall for the red-herring that is a feigned lack of sexual interest. Girls who fall for that show that they are inclined to self-doubt, easily taking the opinion of others they barely know about themselves, instead of having a solid sense of self. A man doesn’t hear someone call him some insult and think “umm, maybe they have a point and I am X”, becoming inspired to some cognitive dissoonance regarding his look or character. This is why negs won’t work on men like it will on women.

    Playful teasing and flirting are synonymous, it’s classic boy-meets-girl. I think it’s more feminine to flirt other ways, with more flattery and genuine interest in another. Some girls have too much pride or something to just let a man know she is into him, it has to be so, because women have nothing at all to lose from hinting. Why have women driven men into having to fear approaching/rejection, to have to neg and break down walls.

  26. bored January 14, 2011 at 10:45 pm

    Roosh, you don’t get it, surprising, considering your blog that introduced me to all this shit.
    Neg is not an insult. Proper “neg” is exactly teasing. Same as guys shooting shit with each other. It’s playful status play (pardon) and that’s why it is attractive. And it’s completely unsurprising and telling that it was such an breakthrough concept for the “pickup community” nerdozoids )

  27. Snoeperd January 14, 2011 at 10:58 pm

    Just making 1 more post stating that game really does work: I dressed like a highclass nerd (really i look like shit) went to alternative bar where a friend was playing (crappy band, there were about 4 guys for every girl) and still i picked up a chick. It was hilarious to see really, the non-verbal cues; touching my knee, telling me that “i should really come to that couchsurfing party in amsterdam tomorrow”.
    She has a boyfriend though, wonder if that’s gonna matter. Gr

  28. Snoeperd January 14, 2011 at 10:59 pm

    Ps: i have to say she wasnt that hot though, about a 6-6.5

  29. Good Luck Chuck January 14, 2011 at 11:37 pm

    I’m surprised to see a guy who writes books about pickup calling the neg “dead”.

    I don’t make it a habit of slinging backhanded compliments at women, but I will give you two examples of negs that I used recently, one intentional and one inadvertant.

    The first one is a staple neg that I use on ALL women who are in their early 20’s. I’m almost 40, so it is imperative that you disarm a younger chick by re-framing the age difference. My nuke of choice in this situation is doubly effective because it not only reframes the situation but it also puts her in the position of having to qualify herself to you because it is technically a neg.

    chick- How old are you anyway?

    me- How old are YOU?

    chick- I’m twenty THREE!

    me- Oh my god! You’re just a BABY! I’m not going to get arrested for talking to you, am I?

    chick- Hey! I’m a grown ass woman!

    me- Hey check out it out! That girl has toilet paper hanging out of the back of her skirt! (change the subject)

    The inadvertent neg that I used a couple of weeks ago came out when a couple of girls that we were out with went to the bar to get us all drinks. My friend and his chick walk away as the other girl orders. Earlier my buddy’s girl was talking about how she has the hookup at that bar.

    chick- (to bartender) Can I get 2 Malibu and cokes and 2 vodka tonics?

    bartender- 13 dollars hun!

    me- (after bartender walks away) That’s quite a deal. I thought Cindy was the one who had the hookup?

    chick- (surprised look on her face as she hands me the drink) Uh, we BOTH have the hookup!

    me- Cheers!

    1. Roosh January 15, 2011 at 12:10 am

      Good Luck Chuck: Those aren’t negs. That’s just plain old fashioned teasing. That’s part of the problem: guys think they’re using negs when they’re just being playful.

  30. I Am The Prize January 14, 2011 at 11:48 pm

    “I definetly a potential gf by her education and money making abilities.”

    Means I definetly JUDGE a potential….

  31. Marco January 15, 2011 at 12:00 am

    Ya ya whatever, so how’s Iceland?

  32. Squared January 15, 2011 at 2:55 am

    Snoeperd:”Just making 1 more post stating that game really does work: I dressed like a highclass nerd (really i look like shit) went to alternative bar where a friend was playing (crappy band, there were about 4 guys for every girl) and still i picked up a chick. It was hilarious to see really, the non-verbal cues; touching my knee, telling me that “i should really come to that couchsurfing party in amsterdam tomorrow”.
    She has a boyfriend though, wonder if that’s gonna matter.”

    On that topic, in a way, your field report is a fine example of the massive exaggeration that’s always been present in the game community. For one, prior to learning about game, I didn’t know the word “chick” could be used to describe an average or even subpar female. I was always under the impression that the word implied that she had to be hot (8+). For two, I’ve never used the words “pickup” or “success” or what have you to describe an interaction with a chick/average female that DOESN’T end with my dick in at least one of her orifices. If a little kino or phone number exchange is all that is necessary for the “pickup” to be considered “successful”, I guess I must be an ultra pro master PUA. Maybe I should quit my job and write a book.

    Anyway, it’d be nice if we could all start speaking the same language. Because looking at it from this vantage point, the number of “chicks” some of these PUAs “pick up” doesn’t seem like that great of a feat afterall.

  33. Tim January 15, 2011 at 10:24 am

    Nah, snoeperd, groningen =(

  34. John January 15, 2011 at 10:26 am

    Girl: “I want the chair you’re sitting on.”
    Guy: “Hands off the merchandise!”

    Sorry, I just had to mention that. anyway, when I first heard about negs I tried it out for fun but it didn’t work. They just felt insulted.

    Regardless of the outcome I still think that a neg here and there may be good to cut down sky high egos a bit. Some people need to be taught a lesson once in a while.

  35. Donlak January 15, 2011 at 11:02 am

    I agree Roosh, I have noticed it for a lot longer though, a certain type of girl – attention whores, do it all the time. I didn’t realize it was an attempt at a neg, i just kept assuming girls were stupid and uncouth. Sadly it made me de-value all those hot chicks that were doing it.
    So i think you’re right, but negging was only a form of teasing, it’s only one part of being playfull – i think most noobs like you say or pua teaching don’t express this because if you’re a social retard how do explain how to flirt?

    These girls are a perfect example of social retardation. They assume we are attracted to the same thing. We aren’t. Using a neg on a guy will put him on the next hot babe in milaseconds.

  36. Workshy Joe January 15, 2011 at 2:13 pm

    Isn’t that a shit test? When a girl negs a guy?

    Girls have been shit-testing guys since Adam failed Eve’s shit-test with the apple haven’t they?

    Still, I agree with the idea that most people (including me) suck at humour, teasing and playfulness so badly that negs come across either as insults or simple disinterest.

  37. Good Luck Chuck January 15, 2011 at 2:27 pm

    I agree that most guys don’t understand the concept of a neg, but I disagree in what constitutes one. 98% of the time women are the ones qualifying men. Most guys are used to qualifying themselves to women. When you say something that snaps her out of this dynamic (You’re just a BABY!) or something that knocks her down a notch (I thought Cindy was the one who had the hookup?) it could be considered “teasing” but it is also a subtle put down that changes the dynamic to make her qualify herself to you.

    Teasing….neg…’s all semantics.

  38. Shaman January 15, 2011 at 3:11 pm

    Well, they’re not dead, it’s just that a neg isn’t what 99% of people think it is (a neg is NOT any kind of teasing) and 99% of the time someone uses what they think is a neg (it usually isn’t) they’re using it in a situation where they shouldn’t be using negs (actual negs). If she’s not at least an 8, don’t even think about it, and honestly negs were really only ever meant to be reserved for not just 9s and 10s, but DIFFICULT (i.e. cold, snotty, I’m-too-hot-for-you, super-high perceived self-value, super inflated ego) 9s and 10s. If she’s not at least an 8, don’t, if she’s nice/friendly even if she’s a 10, don’t, if you don’t know what a neg is and how to actually use it, don’t. Anyone who wants to really know what they are and how to properly use them need only go back to Mystery’s original stuff (Venutian Arts handbook, the Mystery Method videos he did, etc.) and look, he made it very clear.


  39. Anonymous January 15, 2011 at 3:33 pm

    MUHAHAHAHA… in your case, they were not negging you, they were just sincere. Anyway, feck off writing about American bitches, what’s up in Iceland???

  40. Snoeperd January 15, 2011 at 3:50 pm

    @Shaman True, i have to read through mystery’s book again some time.

    Anyway roosh I remember you making a post about what constitutes a real man, which includes that he must be able to attract women and defend his loved ones using physical strength.

    might be an interesting example where a guy has the 2nd part but not the 1st one right. Funny watch./

  41. Workshy Joe January 15, 2011 at 4:51 pm

    @Shaman: Good point.

    Negging is not the same thing as a tease or an insult. Its a negative or questionable compliment.

    Classic example: “I like your hair…is that your natural colour?”

  42. OhioStater January 15, 2011 at 5:50 pm

    I’ll propose this…women have always negged, but the average guy didn’t know this was going on. Women approached alpha males, negged them, and alpha males recognized this was an acceptable aspect of communication. Pickup artists studying naturals came to this realization thru the back door.

  43. anon January 15, 2011 at 9:02 pm

    alright so can someone clariy the difference between a neg and teasing for me? I know the teasing is meant in a playful way and meant to make the girl qualify herself/make herself feel the need to prove herself, and that the neg is a questionable compliment that IMPLIES something negative about the girl, but where does the line between them go. Is it in the tone of voice. I’ve been into game the last year or so but I’m still confused about this difference.

  44. mr t January 15, 2011 at 9:50 pm

    why is roosh writing about american women?

    why no update on his stay in iceland?

  45. T. AKA Ricky Raw January 16, 2011 at 5:06 am

    It’s not that attractive American chicks are looking at The Game and now trying to use pickup artists tools against them by negging. I think that it’s more like hot American chicks always negged and insulted guys they liked because they’re so spoiled and entitled and have a bad superiority complex, plus the average guy never checked them on their bullshit. I think pickup artists developed negs by studying the tools of hot chicks and turning it against them, not the other way around. You just never noticed it before because as you admit, you didn’t get approached by women often, and even when you did at first it was by lower-caliber chick. Now that you have higher-caliber chicks approaching you, you’re seeing the female negging in action that you didn’t before.

    Because you have game, you have no tolerance for it, but for the average guy who’s just happy to be approached they’ll gladly tolerate it and play along.

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  47. Workshy Joe January 16, 2011 at 9:39 am

    @anon: If you’re teasing, there has to be “tell”. Something about you that says “I’m not serious”.

    But with a neg, you should be deadpan about it. Poker face. Negs are ONLY for overconfident women with industrial-strength bitch shields.

    The idea is to draw her out, throw her off balance and keep the conversation going.

  48. Good Luck Chuck January 16, 2011 at 10:27 am

    Joe- That’s a pretty good distinction but I was absolutely serious with both of the two girls I mentioned earlier. I wanted the younger chick to understand that the 17 year age difference should make ME question HER suitability as a mate. Of course it was delivered in an upbeat tone, but nothing about what I said or the way I said it would lead her to believe that I wasn’t serious.

    This is absolutely nuclear with younger chicks, BTW. It disqualifies, reframes, and changes the status dynamic all in one short, sweet line.

  49. Good Luck Chuck January 16, 2011 at 10:28 am

    I meant to say “A couple of short sweet lines”.

  50. beta_plus January 16, 2011 at 11:45 am

    I’ve always thought of negs as banter (playful teasing) gone to the extreme – where one rides the line between playful and just cruel. I could see how they might be really important in status obsessed places like northwest LA, but in DC, they just come across as mean.

  51. anon January 16, 2011 at 12:10 pm

    so its negs are more serious with the intention of deflating the girls ego without necessarily making her feel attracted to me, while teasing isn’t necessarily geared towards grinding down the girls ego but more focused on getting her attracted. So I could neg a girl and walk away without gaming her, and she could feel much less attractive but not feel attracted to me, while if I tease a girl she could feel attracted to me without necessarily feeling like her ego has been ground down into dust.

  52. Workshy Joe January 16, 2011 at 3:06 pm

    @Good Luck Chuck: That’s good game. Very alpha. You’re the prize. Does she qualify for YOU?

    @anon: It all depends on the girl. How strong are her Bitch Shields? Does she really NEED to have the wind taken out of her sails?

    Even teasing can be counter-productive. Check out “Kezia on Bitch Shields” on youtube or my blog (plug plug).

  53. Frush January 16, 2011 at 6:01 pm

    A neg is not supposed to be an insult, it is supposed to be a framing technique to demonstrate that you are a high value male. It’s really a DHV. If you screw it up, that’s not a neg, it’s an insult.

    I had a girl neg me recently. She saw me talking to other girls and then when I approached she playfully said “those other girls will be jealous. Of you, not of me.” I just laughed, but I should have added Roosh’s line of “does that pickup line work?”, which would have been a beautiful way to steal the frame back and make her think she was pursuing me.

  54. Lupo January 16, 2011 at 9:25 pm

    Yeah, I’ve noticed this for the last few years. It’s particularly apparent in online crap. I keep a profile up to troll for foreigners. The Americans who write all lead with an insult. Idiots.

  55. Ubermind January 17, 2011 at 4:17 am

    I don’t know if in america even girls know game and use negs – I doubt it. I believe there are other phenomena explaining it:

    1.Attractive women get negged a lot and start repeating a behavior that they percieve as common and successful (on themselves)

    2.Women have shit-test-negged for the whole time but only now guys learn to recognise this.

    3.They are just afraid to show any weakness or feminity in a culture where women are pressured to be as masculine as they can be. So they do what they see a cool and fitting to their entitled asses.

    In my country negs work just fine. Of course they are to be used in special instances – when you are dealing with a huge princess ego mostly. No need to use negs on girls who look up to you already. If you just go around negging everybody that would be like a carpenter using a hammer for every task even those where a screwdriver or a saw are actually needed. Neg is just a tool that must be used at a right time. But probably some noobs just learn this one tactic and just repeat it all around – to later say that – neg is dead – or – game does not work.

    Players who have other techniques to their arsenal – start to feel that negs are less effective since girls already are looking up to them for other reasons and negging is overgaming.

  56. Anonymous January 17, 2011 at 8:49 am

    If you’re ‘famous’ enough to be Jizzabel’ed, perhaps you’re being actively trolled IRL.

  57. chic noir January 17, 2011 at 1:59 pm

    as I’ve said a million&1 times in these parts. Looks matter to women, a lot. maybe not as much as looks matter to men, but looks are very important when a man is chasing a woman.

  58. Rivelino January 17, 2011 at 3:04 pm

    Roosh in Europe. My admiration for him grows.

  59. mr t January 17, 2011 at 6:30 pm

    “as I’ve said a million&1 times in these parts. Looks matter to women, a lot. maybe not as much as looks matter to men, but looks are very important when a man is chasing a woman.”

    i don’t think anyone here saying looks don’t matter at all. nice strawman.

    on the other hand, the whole “looks don’t matter meme” is prevalent on a lot of other pick up blogs/forums.

    it is a bit of a lie, but hey…when your target audience is guys who are not the greatest looking guys in the world (check out a pick up conference), it is best not to focus too much on the negatives.

    plus, a man’s looks can be improved by working out, dressing better, trying new hairstyles, etc.

  60. chic noir January 17, 2011 at 7:44 pm

    mr. t when your target audience is guys who are not the greatest looking guys in the world (check out a pick up conference), it is best not to focus too much on the negatives.

    I believe some of these guys are just making money from the innocents without giving them the cold hard truth. Just like the university of phonex schools ripe people off who shouldn’t be there.

  61. chic noir January 17, 2011 at 7:45 pm

    *some of these pua guys*

    just another scam to take advantage of a “sucker”.

  62. The Bachelor Times January 17, 2011 at 10:10 pm

    Roosh hits the nail on the head. I have been the recipient of repeated negs over the past year. I noticed this began maybe a bit earlier but it wasn’t as frequent.

    Now I can tell when a 6 or a 5 is about to approach me…I can feel it. Then they come up to me and tell me in some way what I’m wearing doesn’t work.

    I feel sad for these girls. I’m a nice guy and I am willing to entertain them for a bit but I am not attracted to a girl who walks up to me and insults me. It reminds me of far too many girls I’ve gone out with who act like my guy friends and insult me as though they are “one of the boys”. It’s so un-lady-like.

    So my approaches do the opposite now. I am extremely polite and act as though I just want to be their friend. It’s contrary to what all the other guys who just read The Game do (and girls are on to). and it works more often than not.

    Contrary game is the way to go. I don’t see the point though if women continue to move away from their feminine side.

  63. Anonymous January 18, 2011 at 12:00 am

    you are lame roosh, i hate how your brand is built around putting down a gender. find something more constructive to do with your life. at least the people that work in offices contribute to creating products and building business. your core message feeds to your base and creates a generation of men who look down on women. you should think about your MOTHER who gave birth to you AND your sister who hopefully gets hit on by guys who read your material.

  64. sugartits January 18, 2011 at 4:53 am

    Does it ever occur to any men here that sometimes a girl might intentionally be repelling them?

  65. Lele December 3, 2011 at 4:31 pm

    Those are cluelessly used negs. If women really did read The Game, then they misunderstood it.

  66. Rocko November 6, 2012 at 5:48 am

    you pUA’s are extremely clueless. Girls have been using the neg system even before it was in PUA lingo.

  67. Anonymous May 13, 2013 at 5:08 am

    >> I wanted the younger chick to understand that the 17 year age difference should make ME question HER suitability as a mate

    Raise your hand if you think that an American 23 year old woman…. in the middle of being approached by a clearly older guy…. is worried that he might refuse to carry things on once he learns that she’s “only” 23.

  68. Me January 5, 2014 at 10:13 pm

    Straight out insulting a guy doesn’t sound very charming and probably won’t work if he’s ugly or insecure because he’s probably used to being rejected or hurt by women and will just be another nail in his egos coffin. Ill admit that after chatting with hits guys ill sometime use the line, “it’s refreshing to meet an attractive guy whose not boring as hell or really dumb”. I don’t know if that counts as a neg but it implies that I’ve been the one humouring him this whole time despite his looks and confidence but at the same time gives encouragement. I think you can be a lot harder on confident or attractive men because they are used to being chased and cornered by women and aren’t as sensitive to rejection.

  69. jan zizka November 20, 2014 at 1:38 am

    who needs alcohol to bang,except for sissy bitches like you…ha ha ha

  70. Rosie May 6, 2015 at 10:04 am

    Negs werent invented with game, its genetic, boys are doing it at 5.
    So when a boy negs a girl and it upsets her, and he says he is joking and she has no sense of humor. She learns a sense of humor. She develops the same jokes previous people who criticised her claimed were jokes. She does not learn that you are interested in her. If she learned that instead you wouldn’t need game. Its all carefully contructed to avoid the risk of overt rejection in favour of semi-successful situations now being described as date rape.

    Im glad the neg is dead. It was annoying. Tell your sons.

    The new thing appears to be conversations controlled as if the guy is a salesman trying to close a deal. You wonder if he is about to try and sell you a bible and are filled with dread. It turns out he only wants to talk about societies expectations, to see how open minded you are. It never takes another path, they dont want to philosophise, they want your reaction, they lean in and watch your response like a little socio. And the girl thinks, ‘this is the same old conversation again, how boring’.
    Its always god or sex. Boring.

    Also the ‘worrying’ about how I am sad or lonely for being in a cafe on my own. Thats was boring on the second time.

    New game boys, Im so bored.

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