Asking A Girl When Was The Last Time She Had Sex

In a neverending quest to optimize my fuck funnel, I’m always looking to correlate a girl’s answers to my questions with her sexual behavior. If girls who eventually fuck me give the same answers to a specific question, I will look for that answer in the future.

In Poland, I began asking girls when was the last time they had sex. I’m not sure why I first did it, but the information I got from asking has encouraged me to now always ask during night pickups.

When there’s a pause in the conversation at about the 30 minute mark or beyond, after there has been flirting, I look her in the eyes and say, “Can I ask you something…. when was the last time you had sex?” She will be taken aback and remark how personal your question is, maybe asking “Why?” Then say, “Because I have an answer in my head and I’m just curious. If it’s yesterday then that’s fine, I won’t judge you.”

Logic would tell you that the longer her answer, the more likely she will bang you that night, but your logic would be wrong. The optimum answer is 2-6 weeks. The answer is poor if after six weeks and godawful if after three months. Worse yet is if she refuses to answer at all, which likely means she has sexual issues. The most conservative girls answered me even if she wasn’t at all interested in having sex.

Before we analyze why shorter time frames are better, understand that girls will lie. Just like how when you get pulled over by the cops on a weekend night and automatically say you’ve only had “two drinks,” a girl’s default answer to seem normal is “two weeks.” In fact, I hear it about 50% of the time, which should be statistically unlikely. It’s a safe answer that insinuates she’s neither a prude nor a slut.

I’ve found that an answer of two weeks generally means she has an infrequent fuck buddy and will put him on the side burner for better. The good news is that the more likely she has a fuck buddy, the more likely she needs to fuck just to fuck, with no emotional connection required. These horny girls are a player’s bread and butter. They will not take much time to lay because they need sex. When a girl says two weeks, commit to the interaction and try to get her home.

Up to six weeks is also acceptable, but between six weeks and three months means she has the ability to go without sex and doesn’t find fucking as necessary. You are less likely to get more than a kiss on the same night, though she will probably fuck you within two or three dates. If you get such an answer on a Saturday night when the venue is packed with girls, you may want to eject early. If it’s an off night and there are few other options, stick to the interaction and see what you can get out of it.

If a girl says under two weeks, she has a semi-serious fuck buddy or boyfriend. Girls are constantly worried about what you think of them, so if she has no problems telling you that she just got her vagina demolished, she is less likely to view you as a future sex partner. You want her to be shy about saying she just got fucked—even though you told her you wouldn’t judge her for it—so that she doesn’t think you view her as a slut. If she doesn’t care how you view her, which comes from answers under two weeks, she’s not that interested in you. It has happened where girls I’ve suspected of having a boyfriend gave an answer such as “two days ago.” She doesn’t care what I think because she’s happy with her dude and is just using me for entertainment.

If you hear a longer answer over three months, you’re tempted to think that you hit the jackpot of a horny girl who needs the cock, but these girls actually don’t need sex at all. They’re sexual camels. Think of how many dudes have offered her cock during that dry spell and how she has refused all of them. It won’t matter if you happen to be better than the dozens of dudes that have tried during that time period because she places her sexual needs (or lack thereof) above your value as a man. When a girl tells me an answer of over three months, and she’s a pretty girl who is likely hit on every time she goes out, I get the hell out of there. Let some other guy try to crack her dusty vagina.

Asking a girl when was the last she had sex is like gathering intelligence for an upcoming covert operation. You need all the information possible to make a smart decision on not only what to do with your time but how to proceed with the seduction. I no longer “go with the flow.” I don’t hope that luck is on my side. I figure out what she wants and her level of horniess. If I consider her a good prospect, I act on that information in order to close the deal as expediently as possible. If I close then great, but if not then I think about the interaction and what can be learned to optimize my fuck funnel and increase my future close rate. Romantic, yes?

Every night I’m out, I either succeed or learn. I’m guided by experience and knowledge, not luck. All players reach a point where luck is no longer part of his vocabulary. All that matters is skill and work.

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masculineffort
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What you say is true in a country where men are not shy about approaching women and offering them sex. So in the U.S., yes! a pretty girl who has not got laid in 3 months is possibly asexual. But in countries like Japan, china and singapore, there are reasonable looking non-prudish women who have not had sex in months and sometimes years simply because no one has approached them and offered them dick. This is usually the demographic that is serviced by white expats in Japan.

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“You need all the information [to plan] how to proceed with the seduction.”

How does you procedure differ if the answer is two weeks versus three months? You push harder and faster if it is two weeks, but wait until the third date if it has been three months?

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It’s these discoveries that make the whole thing worth it. And Roosh is cool enough to share (even if he makes bank and feeds his ego, his insights are priceless).

Add to this my own minor contribution, why to never call a girl by her given name: http://two.cedonulli.com/2012/05/key-to-emotional-connection-girl-naming/

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What do you answer when she asks how long it’s been for you, which seems like a natural counter-question? 2 weeks?

[Roosh: I usually answer “10 days ago”, but 2 weeks should also be fine.]

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I would imagine you would have to pass quite a few shit tests to get an answer for a question like that. Am I wrong?

Matt H.
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Very interesting. This question never occurred to me. And “sexual camels”? I love it!

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if your sample size is large enough, i suppose you can draw conclusions , but its hard to ever trust what a woman says. An answer of 6 months could be slut defense, AND she is ready to fuck that night, she has no idea you will judge her as a sex camel and run. But again, if you have found a pattern with a large enough sample, your thesis is worth exploring further.

[Roosh: Whether the answers are truthful or not doesn’t matter. A girl doing slut defense with a ridiculously long answer won’t fuck same night.]

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“Down to a science” Is the first thing that came to mind. America, fuck yeah!

The Glee Manifesto
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Roosh is man of science above all.
He’s been known to take a girl’s blood pressure reading at the bar

Not a sex camel
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yes i suppose content follows form….. If she is a sex camel, the content of her answer whether a lie or not, will reflect her character and intent…women are not as good at building false personas as men are.

questions to girl…..so tell me when was the last time you …
-had degrading anal sex?
– swallowed a mans cum?
-you experimented with cunt?
– masturbated?

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“In a never ending quest to optimize my fuck funnel”

“These horny girls are a player’s bread and butter. They will not take much time to lay because they need sex.”

“Asking a girl when was the last she had sex is like gathering intelligence for an upcoming covert operation. You need all the information possible to make a smart decision on not only what to do with your time but how to proceed with the seduction.”

“Every night I’m out, I either succeed or learn. I’m guided by experience and knowledge, not luck. All players reach a point where luck is no longer part of his vocabulary. All that matters is skill and work.”

Haha. The Game Scientist!!!

Always on the cutting edge of seduction science!

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The question is a good gambit, with the full caveat that one EXPECTS the girl to lie.

Her telling the actual truth is just a bonus.

Naughty Nomad
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Ha, that’s gas. I often ask that question, too, but I never knew why I did it – “to get a feel for her” I guess.
Your logic is sound and your analysis joins up the dots for me. I will be using this line a lot more in future with this knowledge.
Good stuff.

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I am what you have labeled a “sexual camel”–not because I don’t like men or sex but because most men I meet in my college/drinking environment are not satisfying in bed and aren’t looking for the kind of relationship I want anyway–and I must confess, you are right in your assessment. Most of the time, though, if a guy is obviously hitting on me and making physical advances at a party I do try to make it clear that I am not looking for a casual hook up that night and that I don’t want to waste his time (though usually I don’t put it as bluntly/awkwardly). Interestingly, this usually ends in one of two ways (this is only in the case of men who are very obviously looking to hook up that night):

1. The guy only seems more eager to talk to me/hit on me, as if I’ve become some fantastic challenge that he thinks he can overcome. This is not preferred because then I just feel like a tease.

2. We talk a little bit more, part ways for the night, and usually become friendly acquaintances (assuming we socialize frequently in the same circles).

Needless to say, I don’t think most young men in college are as insightful as you are so few of them are cognizant of this phenomenon.

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“Asking A Girl When Was The Last Time She Had Sex”

It doesn’t get more sexual than this… early in the interaction. Good idea, if she has shown strong interest by flirting. Yes, why waste time when I can get right down to the core. Priming her subconscious…

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“Let some other guy try to crack her dusty vagina.”

I think you deserve to only go out with easy girls.

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Optimizing your fuck tunnel,

Reminds me of sales funnel optimization. Thats the first thing that came to mind….

Psychotic
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Great article Roosh. You’re the guy who inspired me to focus my time on self improvement.thanks alot

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Don’t you think the question is creepy and gives a really bad vibe?

Gingham
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A good girl would be offended and walk away. We all know you don’t want those.

around the world in 80 jobs
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brilliant. I like looking at luck as a statistic as well. MJ D Marco’s book Fastlane Millionaire (great book btw) highlights this point over and over in regard to business/life success.

My first gut at using your question is that it would be too forward, but when I think about it, at 30 minutes you would be pretty entrenched in the convo, and if sex isnt on her brain at the point, better to duck out for green pastures. I like the scienctific breakdown, I need get better at test and response vs the flow.

Neil Skywalker
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Damn, why didn’t i think of this ? genius !

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Roosh, I can offer you some consulting because I do purchase funnels at my job: brand awareness -> consideration -> preference -> purchase.
I can run your fuck funnel raw data thru my model and stat-test it for significance.

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I usually ask if they like sex. simply as that. In 30% of cases, this kind of questions could scare the cat away if too early.

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not a sexual camel wrote –

women are not as good at building false personas as men are

not only are you a pedantic bore and everything you write just screams keyboard jockey, but that single sentence is especially clueless.

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anon- please explain why that sentence is clueless?
and uhh, what does pedantic mean?

The Captain Power
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Why even ask? I would say the default is a couple months, or “with my ex” blah blah blah

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Im going to use this to open the corpulent fatties that hover around me in clubs. But we all know she made sweet sweet love to a Big Mac before she got there.

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I don’t think I ever asked a girl after 1/2 hour this. What is the chance you are scaring her off that you are just a player? If she doesn’t leave, then my guess is that she wants sex. Do you think you’ve lost girls because of this question too. I heard in the old days you could just ask them if they want to fuck and the ones that accepted did!

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I have a decent alternative, courtesy OKCupid…

Women who like the taste of beer also say they’d have sex on a first date, while those who don’t overwhelmingly say they wouldn’t…

I’ve validated this finding on my own personal sample. Although it’s for America, obviously. might not translate to beer-drinking countries like Germany/Poland…

Also, obviously the delivery, mood, and convo leading up to asking about sex matters. If you’re already making playful sexual banter, then it will seem more natural…

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Very good advice. Worked good as described. !

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Anonymous
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This is the type of question most women will lie about. The true value of this question is that it definitely gets the conversation onto the topic of sex. Good thing. But her answer is most likely a lie, anyway, so why bother?

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This is stupid. As a girl that last had sex 3 days ago and had a man ask me that very question yesterday, I basically told him to fuck off. Why would anyone ask that question? Who cares? He was hot…probably would have fucked him if he wasn’t a dumbass like you!

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based on what you wrote it did its purpose, thanks for saving our time

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Wow haha stumbled upon this when googling a question someone asked me at a bar tonight, just to see whether this was common or not. I’m frankly surprised and impressed by the accuracy of the article. Someone asked me at a bar today when the last time I had sex was and I was taken aback but responded with two weeks. Which isn’t quite true but I was shy to say a week and decided 2 weeks seemed like an appropriate amount of time. Had the guy asking me known to pursue me based on my answer I would most likely not be alone reading this article right now. Its also nice to see that there are guys using skill and intelligence to pursue sex rather than only drunken boys stumbling into me and dropping crude lines they will use on every girl at every bar until some poor girl is desperate enough

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That is the right blog for anyone who desires to search
out out about this topic. You realize a lot its nearly onerous to argue with you (not that I truly
would need…HaHa). You positively put a new
spin on a subject thats been written about for years.
Great stuff, just nice!

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After reading this, I used your line and I must say that I was surprised the girl still wanted to keep in contact despite her not answering my question. We danced all night long, and not once did she give off vibes.
Despite getting scolded by my flatmates that I shouldn’t ask that question when meeting someone for the first time, I think I agree with you. Why waste time? I remember it took me a year to ask a girl that question, and I genuinely liked her – in the end we didn’t even become an item.
And I love that line: You either succeed or you learn. Don

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So much effort just to have sex. It’s easier to just go to a brothel of the girlfriend doesn’t have sex with you.

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“Worse yet is if she refuses to answer at all, which likely means she has sexual issues.”

Since when did having self-respect equate to having “sexual issues”? I think there is something wrong with any girl who would answer that question when it’s coming from a stranger – and I’m guessing that the girls who answered were more likely to be the sluts who slept with you the same night. A girl has every right to keep that information to herself rather than furnishing it to some creep who is trying to bang her that very same night. It’s none of your business.

Jillianxenia
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“Meaning you are not worthy of her and never will be, so yes, move on to the slut sitting next to her for your dirty little one nighter. ”

Exactly, he deserves the type of women he attracts.

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Yeah dude, I think you made this stuff up out of thin air. I happen to be a pretty girl and can go MONTHS without sex because work and other life things distract me, that’s how the female mind works. It’s not because I don’t want it or have sexual issues, that’s silly. Maybe you have made all these things up because you get shot down a lot? Lol.

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this is so derogatory to women…im disgusted…sex is not a game..or a competition..its not a sport

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You manosphere guys deride women who ride the “cock carousel” and think good women should be virgins until marriage, yet you write in articles like this that girls who don’t want to tell personal sexual information to some random creepy dude (YOU) have “sexual issues.” If that’s what is considered sexual issues, I’ve got them – I would never consider telling a stranger about that sort of thing. I would probably tell you off for having the nerve to ask me that in the first place when we don’t even know each other. It’s none of your fucking business.

But I guess that’s a good thing – you would write me off as having “issues,” and then you would move on to the next girl. Meaning my unwillingness to tell you this information which is none of your damn business would spare me the misery of your company for longer than a couple of minutes. Awesome!

Oh yeah, and I would never have sex with anyone after two or three dates. It would take months at least – I would need to be in love with the guy, as many “issues” as that would show me to have. But bright side – dating a guy for months, he wouldn’t be able to put up a facade of being a great guy if he is really a douchecanoe like you. So I would never end up sleeping with a low-quality loser like you, and neither would any woman of quality. So have fun with your skanks who are willing to tell a stranger details about their sex lives for the rest of your life, because that’s the only kind of girl you’ll ever be able to get.

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“When a girl tells me an answer of over three months, and she’s a pretty girl who is likely hit on every time she goes out, I get the hell out of there. Let some other guy try to crack her dusty vagina.”

Are you joking? If you’re able to get a pretty girl who rejects guys all the time. THAT IS THE JACKPOT. It means she has high standards and principles. You should be more than happy to score a “high tier” girl

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Yeah, we can’t win. If we sleep with a lot of men we are sluts who “give it up” too easily. If we go months without sex we have dusty vaginas no guy wants to touch. I advise all women to just do what I do: use men for sex and money then dump their asses…lol

Jillianxenia
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gross. I respect my body, I don’t put unhealthy food or desperate sad pathetic men anywhere near it.

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Most guys aren’t worth the time. I’m a Sexual Camel because of that reason . The book “All Men Are Jerks Unless Proven Otherwise” hits a core here. Women looking for a Worthwhile Reationship usually don’t settle for one night statnds anyway. No matter what the age- “A Real Man” would Never ask a Disrespectful Question like that to “A Real. Woman”” Especially if both are looking for “A Real Relationship” Even if the answe was 6 Weeks or Y Years it wouldn’t matter- & would only be RESPECTED.

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i didn’t know you guys were this horny.
lol.
by the way….i’ve never cared what a guy thinks of me.
im too worried wondering what i think of the guy.
who wants a guy who is an easy lay.
i like a guy i have to work a bit…and then finally says yes…wow man…what a fuck!!!

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by the way…..we need more prostitutes that are male !!!
for women who just want a fuck and don’t have as easy access to sex as men do.
you can just call a 1-800 # ….i can’t.

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As a woman, this is intriguing.

1: you’re terminology is demeaning and completely misogynistic. A sexual camel. Are you kidding me? That girl is wifey and values herself too highly to play your games.
2: wow. You’re everything that is wrong with modern man.
3: annoyingly, through your ridiculous thesis, you may just have struck onto something which other men who aspire to your pathetic heights could use. Yes, is a girl says more than three months, she is not going to fuck you. Is she a ‘sexual camel’? Hell no. This girl wants it. However, she values herself too highly to give it away to any guy who’s looking for a bang in a bar. Basically, she’s out of your league. Concept still works though, so hey, go for it. However, if you want a meaningful relationship, forget the advice of this jerk.

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I find the opposite. The longer she hasn’t had sex, the more horny she will be and wants it! Due to lack of male attention (no date for a while).

If she got it from someone else 1-2 weeks ago, she is likely still fucking him hence won’t have much desire for you.

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What if a girl says she can’t remeber the last time she had sex?🤔🤔