Bang More Women By Rejecting Them

In the past couple of years the quantity of girls I sleep with has crept up. This is due to many reasons I’m sure, but during that same time period I notice that I’m “rejecting” a lot more girls. By that I mean I walk away when I find out that she isn’t close to what I want. I may be talking to her and the light from her cell phone screen reveals some acne. Or I realize she doesn’t have a fun vibe. Or she’s socially awkward. Or her black dress was hiding a pancake ass. Or she’s way too witty (at the expense of being sexy). When one of these things happen, I politely end the conversation. No hard feelings.

There was a time I used to keep these interactions going because, ultimately, the girl was bangable—or else I wouldn’t have approached her—and I was hungry for sex, since I didn’t get it as often. But I rarely did bang those girls. It would stall at the number or makeout stage. Why is that I’m going full court press on far fewer girls today, but getting a lot more bangs in shorter amounts of time? Two reasons:

1. I free up more time for the girls I better connect with. Talking to a girl you’re not crazy about means you won’t spit your best game. And without your best game the odds you’ll bang her, assuming she’s not throwing herself on you, is extremely low. It’s futile to force the attraction if you don’t feel it around the 5-10 minute mark. In these cases you’ll only get a number.

Time is crucial. I still run most of my game at night during the weekends and each night has, at most, four hours of prime game time. If I spend ninety minutes on these mediocre interactions, I’ve given up 38% of my night for nothing. Plus my energy will be lower for the better prospects I may encounter later. If you’re a game newbie then grinding it out can be valuable to getting your social skills up to speed, but it’s very possible that talking to the boring chick with the lame sense of humor will cost you for that entire night. It’s too risky to exchange an extra word with a girl that I know deep down is someone who won’t get me excited. That time is better spent maintaining your state with your boys instead.

2. It subconsciously increases your value. When you pass on enough girls, you start to believe you’re the man. Of course with my experiences I think I’m a pimp, and that shines through with my body language and tone, without me having to think about it.

Girls pick up on things that you cannot see, hear, or feel (think of them as a mutant species that can sense more than three dimensions of space). Luckily for us, we don’t have to consciously learn how to subcommunicate these positive traits—we pick up on them in time. This is how I can meet a guy and within about 15 seconds know if he’s good with women or not (a side effect of my heavy involvement with the game has given me the female ability to screen men). Now imagine what type of vibe a guy who tries to bang anything he talks to puts out. You better believe that girls can pick up on that.

For me there has to be something in those first 10 minutes that tells me there’s something special going on. There has to be humor and laughing, meaningful questions, flirty looks, and a magnetism simmering underneath the surface. My energy and time are the two most important things I have, and when I begin to value it yourself by passing on mediocre chicks, I get more. In the end it’s so much easier to bang a cool chick. Don’t waste your time on those who aren’t.

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raliv
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So this comes after a couple of years of being picky and rejecting women?

I’ve been doing this for a while and it definately increases your value in your own mind as well as in the minds of hotter honeys.

If you are a guy who rejects other girls and hotter girls see this, you are gold. If hotter girls see you make out with anything and everything, they will write you off.

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Are you sure the rejections aren’t just a side effect of your increasingly polished game? Better game means you can attract hotter women, and if you can attract hotter women you will naturally have less patience for the plainer ones.

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a lot of this change in mentality pretty much just comes naturally over time, i think

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I agree with # 2…. Improved game results in more options and the ability to reject women you once might have focused on.

Regardless, the ability to reject women definitely reinforces itself through the attitude it creates which leads to more and hotter women.

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@ #3

I’ve been wondering about that lately myself. I’m in my late 20’s now, and my game and results are continuing to improve constantly. I attribute much of this to game, but I can’t help but believe the natural maturity that comes with age is key to running proper male game.

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Maybe this is nitpicking, or maybe worth saying:
You say “My energy and time are the two most important things I have”. I know what you mean.

However, the crucial foundation beneath these two is your health. Without it, you’ve got nothing.
Long term, better health = more energy & time.
So it’s worth giving high priority to maintaining maximum health, even if it seems ‘uncool’ to do so. Especially worthwhile as you get older.

Seems like many guys in the game are in denial (or blissfully ignorant) about some of these humble human limitations. Being realistic (in this case) comes down to the difference between infinite and finite.
Best wishes to players of all ages out there.

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at first this totally sounds like run of the mill bad dating advice straight out of the clueless dudebros at Maxim, but it rings oh so true.

Go after girls you like.

We have conditioned ourselves to think that when a girl shows any kind of resentment or bad attitude, she is “shit testing” us and that is a good thing and we can test our game. sure, there are testers, but I would rather spend my time talking to nicer girls that i can more easily connect with and enjoy spectacular sex

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Great article!!

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great stuff! You have skills o great one, common sense that most of us miss.

Although you are spot on about making the most of your time, I still love to throw it away on a chance. I go with the semi-sure things but also occasionally take a chance on the oddball wild cards. Don’t be afraid of failure my friends.

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It’s SO important for long-term confidence that you become a buyer in a seller’s market. When you become the selector, you don’t worry about the women that come your way – that’s automatic. You shift your focus on selecting quality women.

Raise your standards when you’re looking for higher quality.

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You definitely become less tolerant of the things you don’t care for as the time goes on. Initially I just thought becoming more picky came with just getting older…until I took a look around at the people who are stuck with people they don’t care for. After reevaluating I agree that it correlates with game!

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i have to agree on cool girls
they’re sluts

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stole my post idea!! rofl nice

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It’s a damn shame that posts like this, the really really useful ones, only get 14 comments (as of now), while posts that just bash on hoes (nothing wrong with that, theyre entertaining as hell lol) get hundreds.

This post is REAL game being explained!

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Great post Roosh. Need to follow it more.

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Yea its great when you actually get to do what you want to do. You don’t want to grind it out opening everything, you want to go for a few interesting girls instead.

The more you do what you want to do the more rewarding life becomes.

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