Blue Dress

What happened to the dress on a first date? The last time a girl impressed me with one was years ago. It doesn’t matter much if she was pretty or not (she was), but she wore something which completely maximized her look. There is this art — I forget what it’s called — where you get into a person’s mind and detach them from reality. You create a powerful image in their head which makes them forget about reason and logical thought. Time becomes distorted and this person is ready to drop everything just for ten more minutes with you. But you’re not practicing this when you roll up in pantsuits or an unflattering pair of jeans.

When a girl looks standard issue on a first date, she just lost an opportunity for me to increase her value and decide to put in an unreasonable amount of work and time to get her naked on my bed. Girls analyze their failed dates with men and look for that one magic reason why he didn’t call again. But it’s never just one thing — it’s a dozen things. A girl has never completely lost me because I didn’t like her style, but getting that right means she can screw up on other things, like not having lips as soft as butter left out at room temperature for one hour.

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I have to agree…but then again I think the same with guys. I have been thoroughly unimpressed by guys on dates and their style (which in DC means lack thereof)…no you don’t need a suit on (I like more casual anyway) but a shower and a spray of cologne would be nice.

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Good lord, who is going on dates with guys that don’t shower and wear cologne?! Stop doing that, then they won’t get away with it anymore.

KassyK
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Sweatpants–I stopped dating altogether and now I just use men for sex. Just kidding. Sort of.

All the guys I have gone out with have showered but you’d be suprised at how many don’t wear cologne or really try with how they look.

I am not into metrosexuals or preps so maybe they DO try and its just not what I am attracted to.

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Dude -you are SO right. All the better for the few of us who think pants are for men. This and more can be found in the ancient wisdom called “The Rules.”

What should guys wear on the first date, Oh Wise One?

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And what is with the generic “black pants and white shirt” suit that so many women in DC wear to work? It’s often paired with a conservative matching jacket leading to a completely pseudo-masculine look. On SOME girls it looks cute, occasionally, but I think in general, it’s a big cop-out for young professional women who are afraid to show their femininity, or maybe more to the point, are AFRAID of their femininity.

When I quit working in DC a few years ago, this “look” was still big. I hope it was just a passing trend, but knowing the attitudes of DC women, it’s a mortal lock that this vapid, unfeminine style is still a major fixture there…

Oh well, just another reason to hate on bad ol’ DC!

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Kassy, I am reminded of Roosh’s recent choice to stop showering. I wonder if the cologne went out the window at the same time. I do agree that fashion sense is an opportunity to impress a date, but have a problem taking advice in this department from someone who has chosen to stop showering and is always wearing a striped buttoned-down shirt in every picture he posts.

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By the way, if any of you guys want to see a cool place where the working women dress well, go go London.

First of all, young British women are MASSIVELY underrated in the looks department. The stereotype of the homely spinster with a cardigan and snaggle-teeth is SO wrong. England has some of the most consistently lovely women across the board, and without all the aloof, arrogant frontin’ you encounter so often in DC.

Check it out, all the young (attractive) working women (professionals and office assistants alike) wear skirts and most of them wear high heels to work.

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So didn’t see this one coming.

R writes something to say a point, and at times he will throw in a “women only” caveat, and all the ladies come out of the woodwork with their “men too” comments.

No need to change the bait if it keeps on working I suppose.

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By the way, go to any major westernized Asian city (Hong Kong, Tokyo, Seoul, Yokohama, etc.) and you will see hotties, hotties, hotties.

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What are you telling these girls about where you’ll go on these first dates and what you’ll be doing? From what you’ve said about how little money and effort you want to invest in a first date (and grooming yourself for one), the ladies might be getting the impression that they’d be massively overdressed if they put on a dress for a first date with you.

I love getting girlie and dressed-up for a date, as do lots of other women I’ve observed. It takes the wind out of our sails a bit, though, when men take the date and their own appearance so casually. I frequently go out and see disappointed looking women who have gotten all dolled up only to be joined for dinner by a guy in jeans, sneakers, and a lame sweater.

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“I frequently go out and see disappointed looking women who have gotten all dolled up only to be joined for dinner by a guy in jeans, sneakers, and a lame sweater.”

I’ve seen that too.

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it’s important to always dress for sexess!

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You don’t wanna see a brawd wearing some tight ass jeans with her ass sticking out??????? Jeans so tight you can see her ass from the front???? Besides, semen stains come out much easier with jeans than dresses.

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I once had a date turn up in a brown and orange Varsity Letterman type jacket, complete with a huge embroidered patch on the back that said TOSTITO BOWL 2000.

I would have preferred that he wear a dress.

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Sometimes, a little communication can go a long way in encouraging women to dress up. I’ve been on dates where the gentleman involved didn’t offer me any insight into our destination; in those cases, I’ve erred on the side of caution and worn dress slacks, because I had nothing to go on. I didn’t always, but one time I had the experience of tramping out to a remote star-viewing area wearing nylons.

Most women will dress up if they know ahead of time its going to be appropriate. We’re not going to put on our killer dresses, though, when we’ll be in situations where we are the only ones wearing nice clothes. Since most of the world now works on “business casual” women typically dress to fit in.

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Perfume?

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i always dress up for a date.. smart, yet casual. always shower, nice cologne. But i have to agree.. I haven’t been on a date in some time where a girl wore a dress. Girls wear dresses out to town… I want a girl to wear a dress on a date. and where I take her is worthy of a dress.
Jeans, or a skirt, doesn’t exactly cut it anymore.