Long ago it was assumed that the same game could be used for both day and night. It was a foolhardy assumption that took many years to correct, creating two classes of gurus in the process: those good at night and those good during the day. Predictable arguments followed about which venues were better, what game to run, and so on. Some, like myself, advocated taking full advantage of both. Do a couple of day approaches to get your system primed for night, I advised. This is a great idea if you’re not experiencing a lot of success during the day, because once the prospects start rolling in, your night results will be harmed.
The first reason for this harm is that day and night game are like different languages. They require different skills and thinking. Day involves a more conversation game while night requires a more primal and diabolic game. Spending a period of time speaking one language will mean a rough changeover for the other, confusing your brain and causing you to make little mistakes that add up.
Secondly, the two games take a different level of commitment to succeed. Day game is a slow-burn of collecting numbers and then going on pleasant dates. You don’t have to fully invest upon any girl when approaching—ten minutes, in and out, and you can have her number. Night game is different because quick numbers rarely go anywhere. To reduce flaking from night approaches, you must stay in the interaction until some intimacy is achieved. This can take hours. Unless you dedicate at least four hours on a night out, you are not doing enough to succeed.
Now imagine doing both day and night simultaneously. Your day work is leading to numbers. Friday rolls around. You’re sitting on two day prospects, with a tentative date on Sunday. Will you put in a solid four hours in the loud club or will you get “tired” early? Will you get angry at girls who reject you or will your shrug it off? Will you complain about the venue being a sausage fest or will you outcompete other men? Most importantly, will you settle for a flakey number or will you stay up all night for a chance at the bang?
I found that having day prospects made me reluctant to do what it takes to get laid from night work. My one-night stands dried up partly because, with new numbers in my pocket, I was no longer willing to go the distance. In time this came to bother me, because a one-night stand is much more thrilling than a day bang that came after a predictable two dates where there was no real difficulty besides getting her to show up on the first date. Night bangs bring me more pleasure, but the only way to properly pursue them is to have no existing prospects. Therefore the obvious solution was to pare back day gaming. My mind had to know that it had no other option but to go hard on Friday and Saturday nights.
When I took a break from day game, my pipeline quickly went dry and I started to experience anxiety when entering the club. This drove me to work harder than before. The results spoke for themselves: I pulled girls back to my apartment from the club two nights in a row, whereas in the entire six months prior in Ukraine I had only brought one girl home. I didn’t get the one-night stand in either case, but I did eventually smash one of them, who turned out to be a dream girl of sorts.
It was obvious to me that success from day and night is zero-sum, and that doing well in one would simply take away from the other, but my ability to endure long nights has diminished. The days of persisting in the club past 4am is almost gone. I’m starting to dread at the thought of having to put up with hours of loud pop music. While I love the fast night score, my brain is quick to push me into day opportunities it sees, stubbornly refusing to go along with a night only strategy. It seems that I have to accept that my entire sex life will have to come from coffee shops, malls, and town squares instead of bars and clubs. And I’m not sure how I feel about that.
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