The Day To Day Roller Coaster

When someone tells me a great joke and I laugh so hard that I can’t breathe, I can safely conclude that the joke was funny. When someone close to me is in deep pain and I feel a dull ache rising up from my stomach, I know that something genuinely bad has happened. But unlike in the movies most of the things that happen to us in life occur not at the extremes but in the middle. How should we react to little experiences and events that are not obviously good or bad?

On Christmas Day in Rio I was eating a simple breakfast in my tiny, infested kitchen. It has lizards, critters I’ve never seen before in America, and tiny ants that were trying to get a piece of my sandwich. One of them already snuck into my sugar container and dug himself so deep in that it’s just a matter of time until I eat him. And the winged cockroaches that I’ve seen scampering when I turn on the lights are so big that I’m hesitant to kill them. I called my family in the afternoon and they already exchanged gifts, and were preparing the night’s feast.

All day I was alone, in a city where I only knew a couple people, trying to adjust to the heat and the challenging language. How do I feel?

I can say I’m depressed and homesick and wishing to return to the comfort of the place I was raised in.

I can say I’m lucky to be able to spend time in Rio and learn this new culture and language in a non-freezing climate.

I can say a lot of things, but a tiny spider got stuck in my arm hair and after I flicked it off I started thinking what I should do with the rest of my day.

I’m in a huge club working on the women, making progress only with the ones who aren’t my first choice. The music is unfamiliar and I can’t get into that right state where things click and I go on a tear. Like usual it’s so damn hot my belly and entire back is sweating, and I wonder how I’m going to make it through Brazil’s summer without air conditioning. How do I feel?

I can say that I wish I was back in some pseudo-hipster bar at home where getting laid was easy, meant nothing, and except for about three vigorous minutes, a mostly non-sweaty affair.

I can say that I’m going to be a better man if I can figure these Brazilian girls out in the subtropical heat.

I can say a lot of things, but my caipirinha is finished and I need to get another one before returning back to the hot girl from Porto Alegre who’s teasing me.

There really is no point to sit down and analyze my feelings in every little moment of doubt, difficulty, or even pleasure. There is no point to stop and think about these fleeting moments because my mind can trick itself either way. With just a little nudge I can abandon or embrace something that may very well go against my gut, against the direction my feet have gone for the past several months.

I ignore the day to day ups and downs of life and look back instead. What have I recently accomplished? Am I stronger because of it? Do I like what direction I’m going, and is it putting my closer to where I want to be? I ignore the voice in my head that tells me I need to feel one way or another, and I just keep going. I’m not going to let good or bad days distract me from what I set out to do, because one day has no meaning.


  1. Ed D. March 22, 2010 at 9:46 am

    Good post. This is pretty much how I feel about my current situation. Basically, ignore the distractive feelings and thoughts in your head and do what you set out to do.

  2. Big Snot March 22, 2010 at 10:45 am

    i respect roosh as a writer. good stuff.

  3. Culdcept March 22, 2010 at 11:25 am

    Excellent and well written post. I’ve also had these feelings, especially when living abroad. Most of my life I would let the little things get to me and ruin a day.

    Its weird, but just getting into game has helped me with that. That fact that good game doesn’t let you get frustrated affects all aspects of life. Roosh’s Bang book surprisingly helped me move out of frustration.

    Culdcept’s last blog post: Goals.

  4. The G Manifesto March 22, 2010 at 11:26 am

    “Most of my life I would let the little things get to me and ruin a day.”

    Never let your day be ruined. Keep fighting.

    Life is like a boxing match. Any moment (or punch) can completely change the fight.

    – MPM

    The G Manifesto’s last blog post: Player Myth #4080: The Need for a Dope Crib Part II.

  5. FAZ March 22, 2010 at 1:05 pm

    I can relate to this post on many levels. Going to a small college of less than 1200 students, which is located in a small farm town, has really fucked with my head and has made learning game slow and difficult.

    I may have a nice dorm and good food, but it feels as though I must put my dick in a box until I graduate. An unsatisfied libdo is tormenting. Pure hell.

    On top of all that, as a college student I rarely have enough money to leave this desolate compound called private college. It’s depressing.

    FAZ’s last blog post: The solution to my current sticking point.

  6. Evan March 22, 2010 at 1:30 pm

    This strikes me as one of the better prose posts I’ve read here.

  7. just another one March 22, 2010 at 1:46 pm

    Golden. A good post.

  8. Carl Sagan March 22, 2010 at 2:39 pm

    This is a good post.

    Good advice for men.

  9. Gabriel March 22, 2010 at 3:00 pm

    Great post. This hasn’t been the best school year for me thus far with what has been going on, but it’s funny how when I started to read your blog Roosh, I began to let things go. Keep your head up and keep grinding

  10. nathan March 22, 2010 at 6:15 pm

    you gotta keep at that personal growth, and you gotta suffer for it. No comfort till you’re ready to die. “A more miserable life is better, believe me”

  11. Papillon March 22, 2010 at 8:36 pm

    Have you read Steppenwolf or Sidhhartha, by Herman Hesse?
    Or The Razor’s Edge by Maugham?

  12. Travel bug March 23, 2010 at 1:29 am

    Roosh you’re so damn introspective!

  13. JR March 23, 2010 at 1:46 am

    Sounds like your depressed. Maybe you need a change and should go back to the US. Chasing girls is a waste of time. Men should live to accomplish things. Get married. Go back to school. Start a company. Make a million dollars. Run for office.

    1. Roosh March 23, 2010 at 9:04 am

      Yeah I’ve read Siddhartha. Very good book.

      JR: Fucking four girls at the same time is an accomplishment, but getting married is not.

  14. Quasi March 23, 2010 at 6:47 am

    Rio is harsh, any man surviving remotely sane the time you been there deserves my respect… your a human cockroach, a survivior, a go getter. Its a dilemma like any choice is… comfort or intensity, adventure or security… travel or real estate…

  15. Anonymous March 23, 2010 at 2:52 pm

    “One day has no meaning.” The sum is not greater than the whole of its parts.

  16. RJJ March 23, 2010 at 4:44 pm

    Another good post roosh, really hit home with me. It’s all too easy to get lost in the moment and lose perspective of the principles and values that led you to take the path you are on. I don’t mind being uncomfortable as long as i can envisage that reward – be that pussy or a fresh perspective on life.

  17. Anonymous March 23, 2010 at 6:38 pm

    So where exactly are you “going” in life? I don’t think getting laid was easy for you in the US and now I can see it’s even worse overseas.

  18. luvsic March 23, 2010 at 7:17 pm

    cool post.

    you gotta work on that poverty thing though

  19. Anonymous March 23, 2010 at 10:02 pm

    Sounds like your depressed. Maybe you need a change and should go back to the US. Chasing girls is a waste of time. Men should live to accomplish things…Go back to school. Start a company. Make a million dollars. Run for office.

    People do all that stuff to get laid, don’t kid yourself. If he can get laid easily without it, why not?

    Get married.

    That’s not an accomplishment, that’s a surrender.

  20. Anonymous March 23, 2010 at 10:03 pm

    Get married

    That’s not an accomplishment, that’s a surrender.

  21. speakeasy March 24, 2010 at 1:26 am

    Posts like this remind me of the flip-side of the Tim Ferris lifestyle. I wasn’t traveling around S. America nearly as long as Roosh, but I did run into my moments of alienation, loneliness, fatigue with struggling to understand and be understood in a different language, worrying about my safety, making new friends along the way but having them gone within a day or two. Having great highs and low lows. It’s definitely a way to have a more intense life, to create a life story and push yourself out of the zone.

    I think Roosh has the right attitude. 1 year from now, he’ll barely remember whatever it was that made him upset. Things seem worst when you’re in the moment. After time you look back and wonder what the fuss was all about.

  22. Krauser March 24, 2010 at 4:26 am

    Roosh puts his finger on some of the common feelings in living overseas. I used to have times like this when I was living in Japan. If you’re prepared to stick at it and keep driving forward then you come out the other side with alot of self belief.

    Krauser’s last blog post: We are giving dynamite to children.

  23. Anonymous March 26, 2010 at 11:58 am

    Why do you insist on posting such faggy shit?
    You are not a philosopher. You are just a dude who sticks his dick in ladies’ vaginas. Stop trying to be deep.

  24. zomgcookies March 29, 2010 at 12:58 pm

    ^^ Someone is a huge hater.

  25. bodhi July 5, 2010 at 7:02 pm

    it’s posts like these where your true talent, as a thinker and a writer, come forth.